I met this freshman, frat guy (I'm a sophomore) on Tinder over Labor Day weekend. We hooked up(only made out) basically right away. It had been a long time since I had been physical with a guy, and I saw it as a refresher. I didn't think he would contact me again, and I was okay with that. However he did, and we hooked up a few times eventually having sex. Again, I was okay if we were to never cross path after that, as I wasn't really looking for a boyfriend. Two days after the first time we had sex, he took me to ice cream, saying "he thought it would be nice to do something different than fool around in my room". He invited me to his frat party (because of other circumstances, I didn't go) and he kissed me goodnight. And then he disappeared for almost a month. We hardly text and we didn't see each other. At the beginning of October he text me saying he hoped I didn't think he didn't like me, that he had just been really busy, that I was beautiful, and he wanted to get to know me. From there we hung out a few times, watching movies, with no sex. Eventually, we did start having sex again. This guy, being in a frat, parties a lot. I never really do. Well, he invited me to his frat one night, and I got really drunk. He took really good care of me, and said he wouldn't try to have sex with me because he respected me and knew I wouldn't want that. He was drunk, but less than me, and he told me he cared about me and wanted it to be more than sex. The next night he came over and we watched a movie, no sex, and didn't talk about what had been said the night before. We hung out a few times after that, one being a night when we were both a little drunk, and it just felt...like we were closer than usual. However, it has now been almost a month since we have seen each other. I rarely text him first, because I don't want to seem clingy, but also because I don't really know if I actually like him or not. Anyway, tomorrow it will have been two weeks since he's texted me. I know he's been really busy, and possibly sick, but still, I find it odd, even though there was a time before when we went a while without talking. I should also add that I know he's lied to me before, when we first met, and his lifestyle makes it very hard for me to trust him.
My question is, do you think this guy, at some point, has genuinely liked me? What's going on here? Thanks!
So I have this guy that is older than me and we have been hooking up on and off for the past 4 years. I am working on my undergraduate degree and he is finishing up some intense graduate schooling. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesn't. We had a short period where we were essentially dating, but nothing official.
Why does he only reply to my texts sometimes? If he wasn't interested he would completely ignore me. What are his intentions with me?
I met this guy about a year ago through a campus group. We usually didn’t see each other outside group events and parties, but when we did we would talk and be friendly toward each other. I thought he was funny and cute, but I didn't think about him too much at the time because he is younger than me and I had a lot of things going on at the time that we met. For the record, he's really outgoing, and I'm a bit more shy and reserved when it comes to guys.
After one party, I offered to drive him home. We were both pretty drunk, and ending up making out in my car (he was the one who initiated it). He told me that he liked me, and that I was pretty, smart, funny, etc.
He then told me he wanted to have sex, but I he didn’t have a condom so I said no. I told him that I didn't want to have sex without birth control (even though I really, really wanted to). I thought that would piss him off, like it would a lot of guys, but he was really understanding about it, and we did a lot of other things instead like oral, touching, etc. He never pressured me to do anything I didn’t want to do, which was great.
We spent the rest of the night and most of the morning together. We both told each other some deeper personal stuff as well, and I felt like we really connected. I told him that I had a hard time opening up to people a lot of times, and he said that was okay.
We exchanged numbers and started texting. I usually was the one to text first (which is rare for me because I'm shy), but he seemed happy when I did, even though it was mostly small talk. He came right out and told me he was transferring, so I took that as him not wanting to be in a serious relationship. I would have been fine with friends with benefits or being just friends, but I didn't want to come out and say that because I'm a shy person. I also tried to give him some space so I wouldn't appear clingy, because I know a lot of guys hate that. So I kept my distance by not texting him every day or couple of days like an obsessive person. I also didn't try to get him to make definite plans with me, but occasionally I would ask if he was planning on going to a certain party or event or something. Mostly the text conversations we had were just saying hi and asking how are you, but they never went much beyond that. I was okay with that though, because some guys aren't big on texting.
But every time I tried to talk to him in person, he would walk away or appear uninterested. Sometimes he looked at me like I was an alien or something. I didn't know if this was just because he had other things on his mind, or just didn't want to be around me in person. He still answered my texts when I sent them, though. But again, I didn't want to pressure him with questions about why he was acting that way, so the conversations were pretty basic.
After a while I stopped texting him to see if he would text me first, but he never did. After a couple of weeks when I did try to text him again, I got error messages, so I thought he might have changed his number or blocked me (but we're still Facebook friends). Sometimes the error went away and I thought the message went through, though I was never sure if he actually got the message and was just choosing not to respond. When I saw him in person, I told him to text me if he wanted to hang out, and he said okay, but he never did.
Finally I asked him at a party if he was avoiding me and he said he wasn't. I told him I wasn't avoiding him either and I wasn't trying to be awkward, but he didn't say anything. I wanted to ask how he felt about me, but a friend interrupted so I didn’t get the chance.
Now he is in this relationship with a girl he has only known for a few months. I've never even seen this girl with him, not that I have been seeing him much lately as it is, since I'm pretty sure he is avoiding me even though he said he wasn't. I thought he didn't want anything serious or a long-distance relationship, and yet he is with this other girl.
I liked this guy and think about him a lot, but it seems any feelings he had for me disappeared. I want to know what I did wrong. Was I not assertive enough? I feel like I screwed up and missed my chance to be with him because I didn’t take enough initiative and told him how I felt.
I just want to know if there was more or less that I could have done to make things work. I thought things were going well, and then everything sort of fell apart. I'm sad he's with someone else, and I wish I could just ask him what was wrong with me, but I know I can't (if I did, it would be rude and embarrassing). I'm just really confused because he started it in the first place and dropped hints that he wasn't ready for something serious, yet this happened. I know that we were drunk when we almost hooked up, but if he woke up the next day and realized he made a huge mistake, then why did he text back all those times?
Normally these sort of things don't bother me, but since I don't know what I did wrong, I feel really stuck. I honestly wouldn't mind being friends like we were before if he gave me the chance, but now I can't tell if he wants anything to do with me at all.
So my bf and I have been together for almost 2 years. He is very nice to me. We met on tagged. Things are fine between us but I still have this feeling itching in my head about him and his "true self". I have no doubt about his loyalty towards me until I found out conversations of him with some people (including the girls he was meeting and involving with before we got together). I found out that he was seeing other girls while we were dating, I know we were not yet together at that time but it still bugs me that he met a lot of people and it appears to me that I was not even special to him. And I found out that, just before our 3rd date (which was when he kissed me for the 1st time) he was going out with this girl and tried to bring her home (you know what that means).
What is more is that I have this feel that I became his gf only because I was the easiest one for him to get along with and that it was easier with me than with those other girls, it didn't work out with them. I'm not sure if what i am talking about even makes sense at all but it's a very unpleasant feeling.
He told me he never slept around or had meaningless sex, but I also found out he randomly hooked up with some girl he met online (it was before we met). So I am having a trust issue.... I have talked with him about this and he said he had told me everything and that he had nothing to hide, that is why he was happy for me to know all his passwords and stuff... But still I didn't get the answer I wanted.
It still annoys me that all that time we were dating, he went out and considered other girls...
What should I do about this? Is he trustworthy?
This guy in my graduate program started texting me and asked me out on a date. I originally declined as I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship and thought it might be awkward to go on a date with someone in my program. He finally convinced me to give him a shot and over the course of two weeks we went on two dates while consistently texting on a daily basis. A few days after our second date I invited him over to watch a movie. He was more interested in hooking up than in watching the move, however I was hesitant to do anything because we had only been on two dates. He texted me first the next morning but then quickly started acting weird and taking hours to respond. I didn't respond to his last text because he no longer seemed interested in conversing. We haven't spoken since, through text or during class. Things seemed kind of awkward so two weeks after we hooked up I texted him to let him know that I didn't want things to be weird between us since we were in class together. He seemed completely confused as to why I thought things were weird.
Am I the one being crazy or is he acting weird? How do I make this situation non awkward?
I met this guy in college, and we hooked up a few days before I went off to grad school in France. It was difficult to just leave since he and I became really close before I left, but I had to go. A year later, he's graduated from college and found a job in the United States. I am almost 3/4 of the way through my grad school program, but this guy has miraculously managed to stay in touch with me. Every now and then he pops up all over my Facebook newsfeed, liking my photos and statuses and even leaving comments. I recently received a message from him saying: "hey ya, just thought i'd check in and see how's france?"
Every time I think he's gone, he shows up again and it drives me crazy. Why is he practically blowing up my newsfeed? Should I respond likewise by liking his photos and statuses? What is going through his mind? What does he want from me?
I am so confused and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
So I've been talking to this guy since college. We started off as friends but after a year and a half, our relationship became a sexual one. After that we would always meet to hook up, but it was nothing serious. We had our fights but we always came back to each other. I thought the relationship was only about sex..So I figured it would end. After I graduated from college I thought our fun time was over.. And I didn't hear from him again after some time. After six months he reached out to me saying we should be together and that I should move back and be with him for life. He has left me and came back into my life many times before.
Should I let him go ? Is this all a game?
I'm a senior in college and have been hooking up with a sophomore. This past weekend when we hooked up I was drunk and he was sober. He even came to pick me and my friends up from the bar. The next morning he drove me he and everything seemed fine. I felt bad and embarrassed for being such an annoying drunk the night before so texted him to apologize and never heard back.
Did I ruin things by being an annoying drunk?
I got a text from a dude I was hooking up with saying he may be entering a relationship and probably shouldn't see me "for the time being" and then went on to say he wants me to know that he really likes me and he's just confused about his relationship status and doesn't want to be disloyal or w.e.
Luckily we were not serious so I'm not upset or anything. Just a lost opportunity. Mostly I'm just wondering who says "I really like you" in a message intended to end things? What does this mean? I've sent and received my fair share of rejection, but I've never received anything like this l
I've been seeing this guy for over 6 months... He used to always come over on a weekly basis since April. We just hang out and have sex, nothing serious. Everything was great and chill between us. But lately I feel like we're playing games.
We tried to hang out twice since. First time he flopped at last min because "stuff came up". He said he felt really bad, and it was the first time he did. Second time, I made an excuse that I was already busy.
I invited him to a few Halloween events with me, but he either had work (he works 6 times a week), or he never got back to me on it..
Last Thursday he texted me asking how a halloween party the other night went. I replied nicely saying it was great but that it got really crowded. He replied: "Nice, sounds dope better too busy than too dead". I never replied. What was I supposed to say to that?
He hasn't texted me since last Thursday (October 30th) which is weird because he usually texts me at least 1, if not twice a week to see me. He complimented my smile in one of my new instagram last Saturday. I replied to his comment.
But I haven't heard from him since. He still views all my snapchat stories which doesn't mean much. I know I've been acting a little more distant too, but I'm thinking he should make an effort to keep me. So, I'm not sure if I should just move on, or if he's thinking I'm no longer interested in him?
The 3 screenshots above, I'm the green, he's they grey: the first one is from a month ago during thanksgiving. The second one was the time he was asking to see me that night, and then last minute he flopped saying "My bad for doing that to you :(". The third one were the lasts times I heard from him, 1-2 weeks ago. When he called me "loser" was when he asked to hang out at last min because he was in my area and I told him I was busy and didn't reply to him after that. Then of course around Halloween he asked me how the party went. I never responded after that.
What is going on through this guy's head?
I met this guy a few weeks ago. He came back to my place.and stayed most of the night. I knew then o reallly liked this guy.He Text me by noon the next morning and we have text never a phone call pretty much everyday since.
So he asks me if I lime him. I say a little and ask him if he likes me he says ur cool... what??
What does that mean should I keep up with the texting and ask him out
back story- in the beginning me and this guy were on the same page, we admitted to each other our insecurities, I met his family and even stood the night at his place once. Then he began pulling away little by little and so did I. we argue, I would say goodbye then he would send a reply and we began talking all over again this was back & forth, 9 months later we're still on and off talking and hooking up whenever we have free time. recently idk what the heck happened but I THINK he admitted something to me which blew my mind and now idk how to react towards him.
him: I spoke to you the way I did in the beginning because I wanted to see ya and be your friend and chill a lot. I was excited to talk to you and get out of depression talk to and see or meet anyone but you dragged it out way too long and I lost interest in speaking to you as often. All I want from you is sex that's it. If you emotional and want more please find someone else. I'll let you go and stay out of your life once you find that person. But I want to be the only one fuxking you until then.
what exactly is going on with him? and why would someone say things like that if its just strictly sexual?
this boy who is in my classes took me home from a bar one night and we watched netflix and had sex. it was fun i made him laugh and he gave me a lot of compliments. we agreed to be fuck buddies and started to consistently meet up for a casual bang sesh. But now we end up texting for hours and flirt a lot and joke around whenever we're together.
Is there any chance that he kinda likes me? It's hard to tell if we're strictly fuck buddies or if he secretly actually likes me a little.