so my one of my friend's housemate's apparently saw my on her facebook and thought i was really pretty. He kept asking her to introduce us and onetime I was supposed to be going to their house to hang out, and when he found out I was coming he freaked out and was "really excited". I ended up not going, but also matched with him on tinder, even though I didn't know any of this was going on. He gave me his number on tinder and we started texting a lot, but he cant talk that much because he works almost all day. He told my friend that he thinks its refreshing that I dont get mad at him when he doesnt text back immediately like some other girls, but I understand that hes at work. We made plans after about two weeks of talking to finally meet on my birthday, and my friend said that he couldnt stop talking about how excited he was. I ended up at a party on my birthday and he found me there and we talked the whole night. I went with him and my friends back to his friends house and we hung out for hours and it was a lot of fun. He seemed a little thrown off at the party though, because other guys kept hitting on me right in front of him and at one point he asked "does this happen to you a lot?". I was pretty drunk that night and he was too, but we mostly just talked and then eventually I left with my friends. We didnt' hook up or anything, but it seemed kinda weird that he didn't make a move at all? The next morning he texted me saying he really wanted to make plans again, but I've been busy and he's been busy so its hard for us to find time. We made plans for tuesday, but I feel like it's not gonna happen since he hasn't texted me in two days. My friend who lives with him says hes super busy with schoolwork and he works constantly, so maybe thats why, but I cant help but think he met me and thought I was less cool in person.
I'm kinda into him, but I feel like maybe he doesnt think I'm cool anymore? Am I just being unreasonable because he hasn't talked to me in a couple of days? He snapchats me constantly but I dont really know what to think.
Ive been seeing this guy for about a month. he's awesome, but we haven't established anything yet. after seeing him for a few weeks, we hooked up.. so it didn't start out as a sexual thing and we can hang out without sex. we've done it about 3 times now. the last time i came over to his place, we were laying in his bed, and i crawled on top, gave him a bj, and he wasnt getting hard. i got pretty upset, because he wasnt under anything.. and there i was naked... and he wasn't hard. he just went down on me... but even so i felt burned. then he told me i was adorable. and he also said, ' this has never happened to him before."
i literally felt like crying. did he find me unattractive?
or was he maybe tired?
A couple months ago my best guy friend and I had a bit of a "thing" where we both acknowledged that we were into each other and hooked up a couple times. It wasn't anything official. He broke it off because he decided he didn't want to mess up our friendship. But I have been in love with him for 2 years and it completely broke my heart because I thought things had finally worked out. Anyway, we've still been friends since but lately we've been talking more than usually. I've hinted to him a few times with some flirty comments, but he just doesn't seem to be getting it. He wants to hook up but he doesn't seem to understand that the reason id be alright with hooking up is because he means the world to me.
What can I say or do to try to get him to want to be with me because he cares about me? Not just because he's taking advantage of my feelings.
I've liked this guy for the past 4 months. We met at work. We hit it off immediately. Flirting and talking and he always went on break at the same time as me. After a while he still did not ask me out so I suggested to him that we should hang out. He said sure but neither of us initiated the hang out so it never happened. I distanced myself from him after that, cause I thought if he really liked me he would have done something. A couple weeks later he mentioned the fact that we never hang out outside of work and the day before we were supposed to hang out we had a talk. He walked me home from work. I told him I liked him and he told me he just wanted to have fun. Aka hook up. I told him I wasn't that kind of girl so we can hangout but just as friends. I texted him to go bowling and he said I'm going to have to pass. After that I distanced myself from him again and he overheard me and a coworker talking about this date I was going on. He looked extremely pissed and put his headphones in. I didn't understand why he looked so upset about me going on a date? He quite a month ago and one week ago we had a work dinner that I planned but I didn't invite him. His friend called him and asked him if he wanted to join us and he had plans but he came anyway. He knew I was going to be there. When we saw each other it felt like fire works all over again. The way he was looking at me was just like I was the most beautiful thing he's ever seen. I tried to ignore it but couldn't. He kept teasing me and making me laugh. He asked me if I wanted to come to his friends party it was close to my place so I said sure. I went it was fun. I had a great time with him. He told me a lot of things about his life and family. I got to know a lot about him that night. He walked me home and he told me there's something he wants to say to me but he's afraid to say it. I told him if okay and he told me. I pushed you away before because I didn't want a girlfriend at work but now that I'm not working there I want to date, I want to get to know you better. He said you're the first real girl that I've met since I've been single, you're a girl worth keeping around. He told me I think you're beautiful, smart and cool and I love the way you dress. He also said he felt bad about the way he treated me before and he wants me to see the better side of him. I told him we can get to know each other and see where it goes. We hugged goodbye that night he texted me. We texted the next day and a couple days after that and I haven't heard from him in a week. He intiated 2 out of the 3 conversations we had. I initiated one. The last one and the convo ended but he hasn't initiated in a week. We have had zero contact.
Should I text him or wait for him to text me. Maybe he just changed his mind about us and that's why I haven't heard from him.
So, met this guy in May at a club. We had amazing, unprecedented chemistry and ended up hooking up that night. This was an isolated incident, not something I make a habit of. This sex was great and we parted ways amicably. I live in Portland and he was visiting for a bachelor party but he lives in Seattle. We continued heavy texting after our hookup and I took a roadtrip a couple of weekends later to Seattle to see him. It's about a 3 and a half hour drive. I got a hotel room as he says he had a roommate who had just had a baby and he didn't want to be rude by inviting someone over to stay the night. He, however, did not offer to pay for my gas or go dutch on the hotel room, even though he stayed the night. Strike one.
Despite this, we continued texting. He was upfront and said that between his job and his training for MMA, that he had little time to dedicate to a relationship. I accepted the relationship for what it was..a fling. But as all females tend to do, I started developing feelings. I mentioned those feelings and again, he hit me with brutal honesty. He enjoyed me physically but did not know how he felt about me outside of that. Ouch! Strike two.
So, no surprise to anyone...the relationship just abruptly stops. I move on with my life and hold on to the erotic memories. Just another life lesson in what not to do in the world of dating.
A couple of Saturdays ago, he hits me up at 3 in the morning. It has been 5 months of NO CONTACT. I know what everyone is thinking...BOOTY CALL. BUT, we live 3 hours away...so what gives? I happened to have woken up shortly after he texted and thought wth? I'll see what this is about. He was apologetic about our losing contact and asked if I was still single. I had just stopped talking to someone and let him know that. He stated that had been crazy busy but he wanted to plan a visit to Portland to see me as I had driven out to see him last time. I've been hesitant but he has been persistent. Again, he talks a lot about our physical chemistry but has starting making comments about maybe "taking it to another level." When I made mention about the fact that he could probably get local ass much easier he stated "Yeah, but you are hard to give up." WTF????
The only reason he even stands a chance with me, is the insane chemistry we have between us. And we also have very witty and interesting conversations both via text and in person, so I do have some interest even though he has acted like a jerk in the past.
Why the sudden contact after 5 months of none? Is he just lonely? Why all the effort for someone who lives so far away? Is he now saying things just to ensure that we have sex again?
Okay so I met this guy during summer he goes to my school he had just gotten out of a relationship and we started hooking up just fuck buddies and been doing that for about 6 months still texting everyday got to know each other but purely sex he made it clear he didn't want anything and I wasn't looking for anything plus he was cheated on. Now he's complicated in that he wants me to go out and be with other people etc. here's the weird part though he took me out on a formal date recently dinner paid walked me to my door kiss goodbye the whole shabang but now I have no idea what is going on...
What does it mean when your fuck buddy takes you on a formal nice date?
On a night out i met Mat, and we had what i felt was an instant connection however i lost him during the night and met another guy. Me and this other guy hooked up and then at the end of the night i saw Mat, and i was gutted; I started seeing Bill but still thought about Mat i saw him again recently as his friend tired to hook us up i think and we hooked up we kissed again. Yet he's seen me with Bill and knows that theres something going on there then the day after Mat and i had a really good talk and he told me he remembered the first night that we met and we both had regrets that we didn't find each other as he told me he was looking for me the whole night. Mat and i exchanged numbers, and i started a conversation with however he stopped replying and hasn't bothered to start any form of conversation with me, but he's said stuff like 'i came to see you' and 'when I'm down i'll make you dinner'. When he's with me he shows a proper interest.
the question is does he like me? and if he doesn't, why does he show an interest?
I met this guy at a pub in 2010, I was behind the bar and he was fun, smart and flirty. Something clicked, I realised we were in the same University and be became friends on Facebook. We met a couple of times at random uni things during the year, he had a girlfriend at the time and nothing came of it. I finished my course and left the country. In the course of the last 4 years, he's messaged me whenever we were in the same part of the world and we never met(it's only happened twice though). Recently, I came back to the country and just dropped him a line letting him know that I was back and we got to talking regularly. He's still a lot of fun and he's really gotten better with age.
A friend of mine was sending me a parcel and I mentioned it to him in passing, he joked about how he travels a lot(work-related) and if he was in her part of the world he'd pick it up for me. I laughed about it and left it at that. A week later he tells me he's going to the exact city she's in and if she hadn't sent it already he'd pick it up. She hadn't gotten around to posting it and so he picked it up. At this point I was grateful, but didn't think anything else of it. He lives about a 4 hour drive away from me and I told him I'd drive down over the weekend to pick it up. He said he was busy for the next two weekends and said he'd let me know when he was free. However, on the second weekend(the one where he was supposedly busy) he called up and asked me if I minded him driving up, his calendar had just opened up, he needed a break, etc, etc. I usually have quiet weekends and this one was no different so I said I was free and he said he'd drive up on Saturday morning. He turned up mid-afternoon, that spark from all those years was still there and long story short we spent most of the weekend in bed.
I specified to him that I don't have time for a relationship, I'm simply too busy with my career and plan to stay that way for the next 10 or so years. He was fine with it, thrilled even, said that he wasn't looking for one either, his past ones had left him too scarred to trust in them again. It was an ideal situation, he's a nice, caring, smart, funny, slight wicked(in a good way) guy and we click very well together.
The problem with it is, I think I might be in a relationship and not realise that I'm in one. We're chatting on Skype, Snapchat, Facebook inbox, whatsapp, Hangouts through the course of the day, sometimes simultaneously on more than one of them. We're on call every second day, even if they're short 4-5 minute calls. We've hooked up 5 of the last 6 weekends. I've hung out with his friends, he's hung out with mine, I've even made tentative summer plans with one of his girl-friends. And as I'm listing all of this out I'm kind of realising that I might have answered the question I'm going to ask. But this all hit me last night when we were on call and he told me that he wanted to kiss me the very first time he saw me and how it sucks that we never managed to meet more often and how he wishes we'd hooked up sooner.
Am I in a relationship with the guy or is it all just a coincidence that I'm reading too much into? If I am, do I confront him about it or just slowly try to lessen the contact? I really like this guy, but I know my job will send me to a new land sooner rather than later and I really don't want to hurt him.
I've been on a few dates with this guy who I've met about a month ago. I'm 25 and he's almost 30. He's treated me really nicely and made me feel like the only girl in the world. He's told me he really likes me and "I'm worth it". On Friday night, we agree to meet at a bar with each of our friends. I was really drunk and want to go to his house instead. So we go to his house and hook up (things got pretty sexual but we did not have sex - this is the first time we've done more than make out). I hang out with him all morning and we cuddle. Before I leave, I break the news to him that I'd be moving away for 7 months. He is really disappointed and even offers to come visit me and he tells me that we need to see each other as many times as possible before I leave in a few weeks. As he drops me off at my house, he tells me to text him later so we could hang out at a bar hop for his friend's birthday.
I text him in a few hours and ask what he's doing. I know he's probably already drunk anyways. He text me back 7 hours later at 1:00am with "hey cutie what are you up to?" and I don't respond. So I just want to know, am I just a booty call now because I hooked up with him too soon /am moving soon? What should I do?
Last week, I was at a concert with my friend and we were a little drunk. In my mind, it seemed like a fun idea to snapchat this guy in the grade above me who I've thought is cute for the longest time. We talked a little bit and then I asked if he could give us a ride home, so next thing I knew, we were in his car. He dropped my friend off first, and when it was just us in his car we had some good conversation, which surprised me because guys who are into just hooking up (which he is) are usually made out to be pretty douchey. We talked about which colleges we're interested in, sports, our siblings, pets, and just pretty much covered all the basics. His older sister even called him while were driving and when she asked where he was he said "Driving my friend *my name* home, I'll be back in 10 minutes", which I thought was a good sign. When we got to my house, he insinuated that he wanted to hook up, which I was completely expecting. I was feeling unwell so I said no, but I made it clear that it was a temporary no and that I was definitely interested. For some reason I felt it was necessary to apologize for not hooking up with him, so I did, and he said "No what are you talking about? We're just getting to know each other, this was good". So he told me to friend him on Facebook and to text him when I wanted to hang out, we hugged, and I went inside. He texted me almost immediately after and said "Hang out tomorrow?" and I semi-jokingly replied "You're so persistent, we'll see", then he asked if my parents woke up when I came in, I asked him the same, and he said goodnight. This is where the problem begins: the next day, I friended him on Facebook, and he still hasn't responded to the request. Last night, I wanted to get together, so I snapchatted him. He opened it about 30 minutes after I sent it, but he didn't reply.
Am I over-thinking this or is something going on? I don't want to contact him again incase it looks too desperate or persistent. I didn't think it was possible to ruin a friends with benefits before it even really started happening...
I met this guy about a year ago through a campus group. We usually didn’t see each other outside group events and parties, but when we did we would talk and be friendly toward each other. I thought he was funny and cute, but I didn't think about him too much at the time because he is younger than me and I had a lot of things going on at the time that we met. For the record, he's really outgoing, and I'm a bit more shy and reserved when it comes to guys.
After one party, I offered to drive him home. We were both pretty drunk, and ending up making out in my car (he was the one who initiated it). He told me that he liked me, and that I was pretty, smart, funny, etc.
He then told me he wanted to have sex, but I he didn’t have a condom so I said no. I told him that I didn't want to have sex without birth control (even though I really, really wanted to). I thought that would piss him off, like it would a lot of guys, but he was really understanding about it, and we did a lot of other things instead like oral, touching, etc. He never pressured me to do anything I didn’t want to do, which was great.
We spent the rest of the night and most of the morning together. We both told each other some deeper personal stuff as well, and I felt like we really connected. I told him that I had a hard time opening up to people a lot of times, and he said that was okay.
We exchanged numbers and started texting. I usually was the one to text first (which is rare for me because I'm shy), but he seemed happy when I did, even though it was mostly small talk. He came right out and told me he was transferring, so I took that as him not wanting to be in a serious relationship. I would have been fine with friends with benefits or being just friends, but I didn't want to come out and say that because I'm a shy person. I also tried to give him some space so I wouldn't appear clingy, because I know a lot of guys hate that. So I kept my distance by not texting him every day or couple of days like an obsessive person. I also didn't try to get him to make definite plans with me, but occasionally I would ask if he was planning on going to a certain party or event or something. Mostly the text conversations we had were just saying hi and asking how are you, but they never went much beyond that. I was okay with that though, because some guys aren't big on texting.
But every time I tried to talk to him in person, he would walk away or appear uninterested. Sometimes he looked at me like I was an alien or something. I didn't know if this was just because he had other things on his mind, or just didn't want to be around me in person. He still answered my texts when I sent them, though. But again, I didn't want to pressure him with questions about why he was acting that way, so the conversations were pretty basic.
After a while I stopped texting him to see if he would text me first, but he never did. After a couple of weeks when I did try to text him again, I got error messages, so I thought he might have changed his number or blocked me (but we're still Facebook friends). Sometimes the error went away and I thought the message went through, though I was never sure if he actually got the message and was just choosing not to respond. When I saw him in person, I told him to text me if he wanted to hang out, and he said okay, but he never did.
Finally I asked him at a party if he was avoiding me and he said he wasn't. I told him I wasn't avoiding him either and I wasn't trying to be awkward, but he didn't say anything. I wanted to ask how he felt about me, but a friend interrupted so I didn’t get the chance.
Now he is in this relationship with a girl he has only known for a few months. I've never even seen this girl with him, not that I have been seeing him much lately as it is, since I'm pretty sure he is avoiding me even though he said he wasn't. I thought he didn't want anything serious or a long-distance relationship, and yet he is with this other girl.
I liked this guy and think about him a lot, but it seems any feelings he had for me disappeared. I want to know what I did wrong. Was I not assertive enough? I feel like I screwed up and missed my chance to be with him because I didn’t take enough initiative and told him how I felt.
I just want to know if there was more or less that I could have done to make things work. I thought things were going well, and then everything sort of fell apart. I'm sad he's with someone else, and I wish I could just ask him what was wrong with me, but I know I can't (if I did, it would be rude and embarrassing). I'm just really confused because he started it in the first place and dropped hints that he wasn't ready for something serious, yet this happened. I know that we were drunk when we almost hooked up, but if he woke up the next day and realized he made a huge mistake, then why did he text back all those times?
Normally these sort of things don't bother me, but since I don't know what I did wrong, I feel really stuck. I honestly wouldn't mind being friends like we were before if he gave me the chance, but now I can't tell if he wants anything to do with me at all.
So my bf and I have been together for almost 2 years. He is very nice to me. We met on tagged. Things are fine between us but I still have this feeling itching in my head about him and his "true self". I have no doubt about his loyalty towards me until I found out conversations of him with some people (including the girls he was meeting and involving with before we got together). I found out that he was seeing other girls while we were dating, I know we were not yet together at that time but it still bugs me that he met a lot of people and it appears to me that I was not even special to him. And I found out that, just before our 3rd date (which was when he kissed me for the 1st time) he was going out with this girl and tried to bring her home (you know what that means).
What is more is that I have this feel that I became his gf only because I was the easiest one for him to get along with and that it was easier with me than with those other girls, it didn't work out with them. I'm not sure if what i am talking about even makes sense at all but it's a very unpleasant feeling.
He told me he never slept around or had meaningless sex, but I also found out he randomly hooked up with some girl he met online (it was before we met). So I am having a trust issue.... I have talked with him about this and he said he had told me everything and that he had nothing to hide, that is why he was happy for me to know all his passwords and stuff... But still I didn't get the answer I wanted.
It still annoys me that all that time we were dating, he went out and considered other girls...
What should I do about this? Is he trustworthy?
This guy in my graduate program started texting me and asked me out on a date. I originally declined as I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship and thought it might be awkward to go on a date with someone in my program. He finally convinced me to give him a shot and over the course of two weeks we went on two dates while consistently texting on a daily basis. A few days after our second date I invited him over to watch a movie. He was more interested in hooking up than in watching the move, however I was hesitant to do anything because we had only been on two dates. He texted me first the next morning but then quickly started acting weird and taking hours to respond. I didn't respond to his last text because he no longer seemed interested in conversing. We haven't spoken since, through text or during class. Things seemed kind of awkward so two weeks after we hooked up I texted him to let him know that I didn't want things to be weird between us since we were in class together. He seemed completely confused as to why I thought things were weird.
Am I the one being crazy or is he acting weird? How do I make this situation non awkward?