So me and one of my guy friends, who I like, were hanging out and we were talking about our opinions on relationships (we're in high school) and what traits we'd want to be a relationship with somebody. He was talking about how he thinks that every time he could see himself in a relationship with someone and being happy that he somehow talks himself out of it and sabotages it. And then we were sitting on the couch and he said, "so do you have anybody in mind? like do you like anybody?"
And stupid me I got all caught up in the moment and I'm pretty sure I started blushing and softly like squeaked "no... not really." And then he was like, "are u sure?" and I was like "maybe not a single person but like... a stereotype." Then we switched subjects. Gahh I'm so frustrated at myself. I totally didn't hint at anything. Do you think I should've just been honest and said that I liked him? I feel like I missed my chance to tell him.
Also we have kind of formed our own friend group and we've known each other for 8 years. He's also the guy in my previous posts. Our families do a lot together so I feel like maybe it was better for me to say nothing, in case it made things awkward. I just didn't want our friendship to get "sabotaged" as he says he does whenever he could see himself in a relationship.
So I know this is all really confusing but do you think he was just asking who I liked as a friend or is he prying to see if I like him because he likes me? And how do you think I should handle this situation? Should I just let it pass and I'll eventually get over it or should I try and revisit the subject? Thanks in advance for your advice.
Okay, so a boy that I am in the same program with at my college and I have a mutual friendship. We have never hungout outside of our program, besides the activities we all do as a group, but there is a mutual hint of flirtation and that we mutually think each other is attractive. We are friends on all forms of social media and casually like each other's posts or pictures. In our program, he is a year younger than me and I am regarded as one of his superiors. There isn't much of a difference besides a respect level and understanding of different responsibilities.
-okay to get to the point...
I didn't know he partied and one night out in campus we drunkenly ran into each mother crossing the street, I hugged him and leaned in to kiss him and he said "no, I don't want our first kiss to be this way" we went separate ways and the night continued.
About an hour later I called him, he met me on the end of the street to walk to me home (it was pouring rain) we kissed, held hands, he even carried me over puddles. We got back to his dorm, and hooked up, talked about having sex.. And then did.
The next morning it was a little weird because the drunk heated night turned into a confusing awkward morning. I left and we briefly texted that night, not bringing up the hookup. I texted him the next night and he did not respond.
That week in classes he smiled and winked at me, it was not awkward.. It was like we had a hot secret inside joke, I was happy. But he has never texted me afterwards... Why?
If he was attracted to me, and seemed interested, why isn't he texting me or asking to hangout again? What is the deal, can we be hookup friends, or date?
So im in a fwb with a guy for the past month and its been fine we call each other up to meet up we don't talk unless we want to have sex. I call him up more than he does me. This week on Wednesday, I texted him that I wanted to meet up he texted me much later saying he had to go somewhere (he's in grad school) something school related I think and he said sorry in a really cutsie way. Then yesterday I texted him, he was sober and I told him lets meet up.. he didn't respond to the "lets meet up" part but replied to the part where I asked him if he was drinking tonight. Then I became EXTREMELY drunk and texted him 12 times, called him 3 times and snapchatted my bra over the course of the night. The next morning he texts me saying sorry he fell asleep early (which im pretty sure is true because he's studying) and I apologized for all the drunken stuff I did and he said its fine and the convo ended. I deleted his number because I was kind of embarrassed and I thought he didn't want fwb with me anymore. Then he snapchats me his face saying "sup girl" and I replied but he never responed. (we don't send dirty snaps or anything)
Does he still want to be fwb and why won't he respond if he starts a convo?
This guy told my friend I had "gotten cute" and "could get it" and got my number from my friend. I obviously assumed he was only looking for a hookup. But he texted me every day for over a week and was generally pretty polite, not like he was just trying to get laid. We did hook up last weekend (everything but sex) and then went MIA for four days. I decided not to text him and wait for him to get in contact with me. He finally texted me yesterday but made a sexual innuendo when I said I was going to take a shower so I never responded. He told my friend he doesn't know how he feels about me. I really don't want a hookup right now, so if that's all he's after, I need to tell him that.
Is he only looking for sex, or is that just a natural way boys act around a girl they're interested in?
I was invited to hang out with a bunch of people at one of my guy friend's parties. And I was over at his house the night before with our families and I fell asleep on their couch while watching the Olympics.
Him: u better not fall asleep during the movie tomorrow
Me: im not goin to guarantee anything
Him: ok, it probs wont help that it's gonna be a cuddlefest
Me: YAY I LOVE CUDDLEFEST, i just never get a spot on the couch cuz im always late haha
Him: just lay on top of everyone then
Him: dibs on middle btw ;)
Me: No I get the middle!
Him: Ill fight you for it
Me: fine imma just have to lay on top of you
Him: no ur fat
Him: jk I dont mean it
Him: im sorry
Him: that was so mean
Him: that was very rude of me
Him: u can have the middle
Him: i is sowwy
Me: im not offended don't wory, Ive got tough skin
Him: for some reason i doubt that. it's obvious that u joke around just to hid how you really feel. Isn't that you you write music, because you want someone to listen to how you feel?
(to clarify: the day before was the first time on of my songs had actually been produced and it's kind of a love song about wishing you could tell a guy how you felt...)
Me: oh shoot, you're onto me. thats exactly why I write music :p
Him: See. that right there. I feel like you are jokin, but you dont want people to be able to understand that that is the truth.
Then later in the conversation...
Him: It's all in my gut, I kinda feel like I understand people... but then again I could be totally wrong.
Me: Well you've got a good gut.
Him: I wish I knew more about psycology though, I understand how people feel. I just don't understand what those feelings mean.
Me: What do you mean?
Him: You know how you feel when you see the face of the guy you like?
Me: Well yah... why?
Him: the reason you feel that way is more complicated than just attraction and admiration, It has to do with your deepest insecurities and dreams. And even your parents. I want to know why that is.
Me: So it's a whole lot more than "i like you..." haha
Him: yup, it's the reason why when you're with them, things are special. It's the reason why they're one of the first people we talk to when we have something on our mind...
So, do you think he's only interested in being friends? Or do you see some sort of potential. I know that there's not that much info for you to go off of but I'm just very confused by our relationship. He's also the guy that I've mentioned in previous situations. Sorry for the long story...
Hooked up weeks ago with a guy I worked on a project with, on the night we celebrated its end. I don't ever hook up randomly (and he too seems like a shy/awkward type), but I had been interested and he told me all the reasons he liked me, and it just happened. It felt like it would be more than just a hook up. We no longer work on the same stuff so I have no reason to see him, but we talked normally afterwards. He texts me about mundane work stuff fairly often but never asks me out- or even to just hang out. When I see him around work we pretend we didn't see each other- me because I'm a bit shy about what happened and him...well it's kind of to be expected given how awkward/shy he is generally.
What to do?
I've known this guy since the end of last year. We've always gotten along really well and worked together on a project, and when we've hung out one-on-one (unplanned) the conversation is really easy and fun. He's always been someone I've seen as more of a friend first and I thought there was no interest beyond that. He's definitely cute of course, but there hadn't ever been any major signs… well, actually I take that back…. I once invited him to a party with a bunch of people he didn't know and he went out of his way to show up, and he's come to see me DJ a few times when crowds weren't very big. He's also defended me to people who have talked badly about me and been very supportive of me during some issues with a group of people, and he's wanted me to meet his best friend as well as asked if I would come hang out with him at parties, etc etc. However, this guy is friends with several girls, and I just took it to mean that he was nice and cared about me like he cared about his other girl friends. There was one thing he said to me about 3 weeks ago that struck me as odd… we were talking about hookups and hookup culture and he said he had some commitment issues but he'd kind of gotten them out of his system and wanted more of a relationship…..
Two weeks ago, I was out at a club and got this guy free entry into the club because I DJ there (I've given him free entry before because, again, he's my friend). Anyway, we are in the club together, and he's taking me around the club and making a point to introduce me to all his friends (even though I already knew most of them). I said I wanted to dance, so we started dancing in a big group of people (my friends and his friends), then split off on our own. The guy asked me if I was seeing someone and I said no, and he said "Oh, someone told me you were dating so-and-so"… this guy then proceeded to ask me about my perfume, which I thought was kind of weird since again our relationship had never gotten into this kind of flirty territory…. so our dancing quickly went to grinding, which I was super surprised by because I've never seen this guy try to grind on a girl or hook up with a girl ever in the year that I've known him. All his friends saw and were hooting and hollering because again, this guy never publicly makes any moves on someone… I ended up inviting this guy back to mine, and we hooked up but didn't have sex because we were both afraid it would "make things weird" and he said that "I couldn't just do a one time thing with you"… he didn't stay over because he said he "didn't trust himself" not to fuck me and had to leave or else he would. So, he left and I thought okay, I guess this is a one time thing? I don't know.
Flash forward to a week later, we see each other at an event, and his best friend comes up to me and says "so… do you like (boy)"? I was honestly so surprised by the question, seeing as he didn't text me the whole week, that I said, "well yeah… I mean… has he said anything about me?" to which she replied "he hasn't said much other than he got with you, and he never hooks up with ANYONE" and that "he likes you but he's a moron and you have to kind of coerce him into being with you", as well as "all of us (his friends) want you guys to be together… we approve"
so I'm like OH OKAY WELL NOW I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
So we are all hanging out at the event and we go outside to get some food (me, the boy, a fresher that wants to get with the boy, and his best friend)… I make a joke about my boobs and his eyes just kind of widen with an embarrassed 6th grade boy look like "NOW I'M THINKING ABOUT HER BOOBS"… his best friend actually laughs at his reaction because he got so flustered… he also gave me his jacket to wear outside although he was standing with 3 other girls…. anyway we go back inside and I'm running around and seeing people and getting tired so I tell him I'm leaving and he says "wait, no I want you to stay"…. we are dancing and he is doing his thing NEAR me but not WITH me… we start dancing together finally and he says "wait, I don't think we can do this again because if we do, then we'll start catching feelings… you know what I mean?"… to which I say okay sure whatever and then dip out because I'm now so damn confused… his best friend asked me what happened and I tell her and she says "I don't understand him… I'll talk to him"…. SOOOOO I am now home and in pajamas making food when the boy texts me asking me if I left the party, to which I said yes… basically he starts hinting at the fact that he wants to come by and eat the food I'm fixing, so I'm like "… okay"… he comes by and I feed him and we chat for an hour, then he's like "come over here, I'm so cold" and I'm like "YO WAIT WHAT ABOUT WHAT YOU SAID EARLIER" and he was like "I know, I know…" we snuggled in my bed (CLOTHES ON) and watched some TV and then he started kissing me and I brought up what he said at the event, to which he replied "I know, I even talked to my friends from back home and they told me it probably wasn't such a good idea to come over but I JUST COULDN'T STAY AWAY FROM YOU"
OKAY I'M SORRY WHO FUCKING SAYS THAT osdufosudf0u30r WHAT
so again we hook up (me sans makeup and in gross sweats, which he said I looked cute in… WHAT) and again we DID NOT have sex, although we both really wanted to he said he didn't want to do that to me… he said he wanted to stay over and slept in my bed until 8 am then had to leave to say goodbye to pals that were visiting him from home. The next day we texted a little bit but didn't talk about what had happened the night before. Now, he's being really awkward as in we have been at parties and meetings together several times in the past week and he's always hanging out NEAR me but not WITH me, and stealing glances at me and dancing NEAR me but not making any moves on me. Last week we were at a bar together and he kind of hung out with me, and he called me "babygirl (*cringe* but still)" and bought me a drink, and then when I gave him shit for avoiding me a bit he got kind of upset and insisted he wasn't avoiding me, just trying to act as normal as possible… I invited him to smoke at a friend's house after we were out and he said "as much as I'd like to I have a 10 am class tomorrow", and he also apologized for not texting me much… and then again we were at a party earlier this week and I was chatting with his friend for a while, and this boy's friend said to my galfriend "yeah, I was talking to (me) and (boy) just kept giving me kind of weird looks all night", to which my girlfriend said "maybe (boy) likes (me)", and the friend said "OOOOH THAT'S WHAT IT IS"… after that party the boy didn't say goodbye to me or anything but just dipped out….
Tonight we had a meeting and he came in and just kept staring at me until I would catch him, etc but seemed kind of uncomfortable… like a 6th grade boy who's seen someone's boobs and now doesn't know what to do. Basically, this guy isn't texting me much and isn't making any plans to see me, but every time we see each other he's acting like he's 12 and I just don't know what to do. All of my friends and a lot of his friends have commented on the fact that he keeps trying to be near me but he isn't interacting with me, and they alllll know we hooked up/tease him about the "new girl in his life". WHAT?
I like him but I don't want to scare him off with commitment etc. I really don't want much commitment to be honest - I just want to know what's up, and if I'm wasting my time by thinking this is a viable new dating interest.
WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON? does this boy like me still or did he just want to hook up with me? is he shy/afraid of feelings or am I being played yet again?
So I'm in a fwb and last night after we had sex, the guy told me he doesn't cuddle I said I didn't care so we just slept side by side. But while we were having a convo before falling asleep... He goes to me "you don't believe in love right?" And I said I didn't, even though I do. He the tells me that he believes in love and that he's actually a softie. And when I leave in the morning he tells me to stay a little longer, and says "Oh I don't even get a hug now, you're just going to leave" as if he likes physical affection.
If he really is a softie then why won't he cuddle?
I met this guy on POF we've texted for a few months, since before christmas. The last three weeks we've texted daily. I typically get a good morning text, and then a pic around noon when he's done at the gym. He is not big on talking on the phone but I have gotten him to call me recently, spending hours on the phone. Constantly tells me Im beautiful, sexy, etc. Tells me he cant believe I'm single. We were supposed to hang out weeks ago. I was out drinking Friday night slept all day saturday and kind of blew him off. He wasn't detered. He lives over an hour and a half away. He has never asked me to come down always plans to come up. Finally it happened. This past Tuesday. Not pre-planned. Flirtatious texting led to him offering to come up, and I said yes. It was a long drive, it was late, we both had to work the next morning. So there was no time wasted.We hooked up, not just once. It was great. He was as sweet and flattering in Person as in text. The next day obviously we were both tired and working but we texted on and off all day. Thursday I decided to pre-empt him with a good morning text and picture. No reply. Taking a page out of his book from a day I didnt respond to him I sent "What no love today?" around 2pm. He replied back within a half hour saying he was at the shooting range couldnt have his phone out. (Military Man) I Said text me later. Nothing since.
Was it simply a conquest situation? Or am I freaking out too soon? Typically I wouldnt care, but he grew on me.
I catch the bus to uni with a guy, who I find very attractive. We would secretly eye each other off during the journey, but he always struck me as a shyer guy which is why I expect he never attempted to speak to me on the bus (and because approaching people on the bus might come across as strange). However, beyond the bus rides I didn't give him a second thought. This was until we spotted each other clubbing on night (in Aus) and I knew I recognised him, but being uni break I hadn't seen him in a while. We hooked up, he got my name and number, we didn't chat and I DIDN'T EVEN THINK TO ASK HIS NAME (too dazzled or something)!! We parted, I remembered where I'd seen him; but I sadly haven't received a text since after that night :( and I haven't had the chance to see him on the bus again because we're both still on uni break...
Is there a chance that something could happen from here or does he just sound not interested? Would you text a girl who didn't know your name? How should I approach this from here? Need some insight!
So I have been texting a guy that I meet from OkCupid. We have been exchanging texts for a while and then decided that we should meet up. Sadly I have the most awful and hectic schedule that a few times I had to reschedule but last week I was finally able to say I'm free. So we decided that we would meet up for coffee around 7:30pm. So we meet at a local coffee shop and started to talk. I have to say that I was really happy that he looked like his profile picture and that he didn't over estimate on his height! (I'm rather tall for a girl so this is kind of a big deal.)
After we were finished with our coffee he asks me if I want to go to an art gallery. I say yes and we walk over to it and it was a bit of a walk but I didn't mind and neither did he. We talk about a few other things but there were some points where it was quiet. I'm very comfortable with silence and he figured that out quickly since I'm not much of a talker. Well we finally reached the art gallery and it was closed so we walked back (I'm going to guess that it was around 930pm at this time). He then asked if I wanted to see a movie and I was all for it but in the end we decided to rent a few movies. So we walk all the way back to the original meeting place and use my car to go get the movies. He told me about his place and how he only had a laptop at his apartment. So he suggested that we go back to my place, but I had to tell him that my roommate was home with guests.
So when we were at his apartment we started to watch the movies but soon got distracted because of his cat and to be honest I don't think him and I had the attention span to watch the movies. So we would talk on and off about movies and music. After a while he told me that he was developing his skills at messages. This is what really sent off my adrenaline, he led me to his room and things started to get heated and… well… we all know where this goes.
It lasted well into the night. I would doze off and he would wake me back up for another go… well more than a few times. At one point I got up to look for my phone to see if what time it was just out of curiosity and I was at the foot of the bed trying to find my clothes since my phone was in my pants pocket. He woke up at that point and asked me what up? I told him I was looking for my clothes and found my phone. I then turned it on silent and went back to bed. We started to talk again and we dozed back off only for him to wake me back up.
In the morning I had to leave to go to work and he was still a sleep. I wasn't sure what to do, so I got dressed in the room and lightly touched him to see if he was awake, which he was and I told him see you later.
So I guess the question is… Since this was my first time in this situation what do I do?
And what really stumps me is that he would hold my hand most of the time we were together in bed. Is this something that guys do in this situation? We also talked about a few of our past relationships but didn't really get into details… Well not on my part since I only slept with two other guys but I was fine listening to him and what he believed girls were turned on to..
We haven't really messaged one another other than the fact that I forgot the DVDs but he already returned them a few days afterwards.
Me: Thank you for turning in the movies! :)
Him: No problem.
In a weird twisted way I want to hook up with him again…. but not sure how to go about it… or if it is even worth it. I enjoyed it and I think he did but probably not so much since I haven't been with someone who was above average.
Okay. So I signed up for OkCupid about a week ago, and have been chatting it up with a few guys. I'm not looking for a relationship, just a basic FWB booty call thing. Most of the guys on there knew that, or where just looking for some ass, idk. So, I ended up hitting it off with this guy, and we decided to meet up. Through some confusing texting, we both basically mentioned we wanted to just hookup, so I was down.. He was hot!!! Mutual attraction, no strings attached, super sexy fun? SO DOWN.
So he picked me up in his car, in which I realized his pictures did him NO justice. Back at his place we basically got down to business, and he took me home sometime after. It wasn't awkward, we talked about stuff during the drive and post coitus, super comfortable. I was getting the vibe he enjoyed himself, as he mentioned I definitely lived up to his expectations, etc. Nothing really said he didn't enjoy it? He dropped me off, I texted him later saying thanks for a great night, and he replies with my pleasure. Though he took some time to actually leave the front of my apartment.... all seemed well!
So my question is, I'm so interested in doing this again. Its been about 3 days, and I'm just curious if I should wait and let him text me if he wants to have another booty call, or if I should ask? And when is too soon? (If I've had a rough day, I could so go for some mid week fun)
Or does anyone think he may have JUST been nice and interested in just a one time thing?
There is a guy I've been talking to and hanging out with a lot. This is also the guy who I've mentioned my previous questions. We were having a conversation on snapchat and then he said this:
Him: Ohmygosh I just sent a really weird pic to Kloe on accident! :(
Me: Ooops... ummm... weird??
Him: Yup... I was shirtless...
Me: Lol I did that to this guy once and it said ILY but I meant it for my sister
Me: Except I had a shirt on...
Him: OH!!! I was gonna say, you send those pics to your sister??
Me: Well... duh, who else would I send them to?
Me: Did she tell you?!?!
Him: yup sorry
Me: Did she show you...
Him: No. Sadly :(((
Me: that's a shame... now who was your pic meant for?
Me: Cici? Kaylie? Kyle?
Him: no, no, and nope ;)
Me: Then who would be honorable enough
Him: Sends me a pic of his face with a seductive smile lol
(the part about me sending pics to kalie was a joke by the way!)
Thoughts? Do you suppose he was trying to flirt? And do you think he's into me or not? Thanks in advance!
Sara is one of my friends. Her, her boyfriend, me and this guy have been hanging out a lot. So I was texting "this guy" and this conversation happened:
Him: This is off topic, but Sarah told me that she knows who likes me, do you know who it is????
Me: I have no clue actually
Him: ya u do
Me: Is she just making it up to try and get you to tell her something?
Him: Well she does want to know who I like, and i actually might tell her.
Me: I just texted her and asked her. She probably won't tell me though. In the mean time, why don't you just tell me?
Him: It's already so fwiken dramatic. I give up
Me: What do you mean? Is Sarah being dramatic?
Him: No it's just too big of a deal for her
Me: What's a big deal? You are confusing me
Him: It's been 2 years since I last knew who liked me and I forgot how seriously everybody takes it
Me: Right?! It gets pretty annoying how immature everyone gets about it.
Him: I just wish it would be easy.... like if a girl would give me some sort of sign
Me: Well the girl could just be nervous and doesn't want to mess things up and make it awkward.
Him: i get that and depending on who it is, it probably won't be awkward, at least not for me
Me: then why wouldn't you be the one to give the sign first if it wouldn't be awkward?
Him: just when I start to open up and show emotion, every wall of trust comes crumbling down! I don't like pressuring people into situations because it makes them make decisions that aren't always smart. I know I can handle the pressure, I just don't know if the girl I like can.
Me: Well whoever you like must be pretty chill so I'm sure she wouldn't mind, plus you really don't have anything to lose I guess
Him: I doubt she even wants to date me, I think she likes someone else anyways. I guess I don't really mind.
Me: shut up and tell me who you like already. jk i don't want to pressure you, just say what you're comfortable with saying
Him: All I'm saying is that u know her pretty well
(We're in different classes so the girls I know well and that he knows as well are limited to 2 people, who are all dating somebody)
Me:Well that narrows it dow to quite a few people......
Him: Haha, I'm sorry
And that's where I switched topics because I don't really know if I wanted to know more... that was the first time he said anything that "emotional" to me.
Right after that on his ask.fm he stated that he was looking for a good relationship with the right girl...
What exactly do you think he was trying to get across? Do you think he's looking for something more than friends? If so, how should I revisit the subject?