By bbbball | Oct 30 2014
I (f24) recently reconnected with an old friend (m25) from college, he had always flirted with me but been shy and I dated his best friend for a while. I never really looked at him all the way, of course he was cute but when we recconeccted it was like I was seeing him for the first time. We started talking in October 2013 and communicated off and on throughout the winter and spring slowly escalating into talking everyday. He is in a band for a living and often tours, when he was on tour he would text me non stop 24hrs a day. We started video chatting and sending selfies back and forth with out own little code, he would send me videos and music he was working on and all sorts of stuff. Problem was, he was slowly ending a long distance relationship and it wasn’t going well. I know this should have been a red flag but I just couldn’t help it. When he and his ex finally broke it off for good we hung out constantly for two weeks. He left for a few shows in LA, which is where she lives, and fell off the map. For two weeks he texted me maybe once every 3 days and always in the middle of the night. He never said when he was coming back but did say that he had decided to give up his apartment in the city and live in the country for a while. When he finally came back to the city he didn’t tell me he was back until 3 days later and then things resumed as normal. He explained that it had been tense in LA with lots of drama and he checked out from everybody. Apologies aside, I let it slide. He moved out of his apartment and moved to the country and then things started getting weird. Lately he has been all over the place sending me mixed signals.
By allyg08 | Oct 29 2014
We had a long distance relationship (only about an hours and a half apart), the relationship had a great start it was very natural, like we had been together for months even at first, but moved very quickly-as in he dropped the L word on the 2nd date, dropping hints and saying things like "I'd never thought about marriage or kids until I met you" or "I could wake up to you every morning and be really happy." We established we were exclusive and not seeing other people, but he didn't want to put the boyfriend girlfriend title on it. 2 months he starts being distant and holding things back, and hiding things. After a big fight I decided that although I deeply cared for him it was not a healthy relationship and broke it off. He reacted by calling and texting me for 3 1/2 hours, of him swearing, name calling, revealing that he had cheated and started seeing another girl, but he missed me and didn't want to say goodbye. It has now been 3 weeks since the break up, he continues to text and call me saying he misses me, and comparing me to his new girlfriend and asking for relationship advice, he insists that we can be friends; even though I have said I didn't think it was a good idea.