Do I stay with my long term boyfriend that I love, even though he has been text cheating on me the entire time and I didn't know it?

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just help lol...

By nilekid | Jun 02 2016

So a guy and I have been in a relationship for about 4 months. Everything is great and he is super into me, and we just recently had the most amazing time in new york together. This last weekend, we had plans together, but he had to cancel the morning of because his mom was really sick and he had to go be with her. While he was home he ran into someone he dated in high school and slept with her. He told me about it and I told him I was willing to forgive him and work it out and he said he wanted to work it out too. He said there was so much going on with his family and he was so stressed and confused about how he felt about everything but we agreed to meet up in a few days to work things out. The next day I decided I didnt' want to work things out and told him that if he isnt sure if he wants to be with me or her than he can just be with her. Since then hes been really aggressive and claiming that he "got over" me in 24 hours, which just doesnt seem possible. Is it possible that hes really over me or is he just going through a million emotions and is upset that I broke it off first?

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Please can you advise me what could be driving my behaviour If...

By runawaybride_2 | Mar 10 2016

Hi guys,

I am writing because I need advice for how to handle the predicament I am in. I am engaged, and have been in a relationship with my fiance for 3 years. We have a great time together, he is the sweetest and most considerate person in the world, he loves me and would do anything for me. Our families get along great and everything seems to be perfect. We have an exciting sex-life, albeit not as exciting as 2 years ago. We both have great careers and have the same future goals. The only area where we don't mesh is the fact that I'm a hopeless dreamer, someone who always wants to be fulfilled spiritually and who is always looking for inner peace, and can never find it. My fiance doesn't have that desire, and it's not something we talk about. After all, it's difficult to explain when I don't necessarily know what it is that I am searching for.

We are planning the last details for our wedding in a few months, and the closer the wedding date comes, the more terrified I am. I have found that talk of the wedding gives me knots in my stomach, makes me feel trapped and makes me lose attraction and devotion to my fiance. I have never cheated on him, but I have noticed that I've started noticing other guys more and I have a strong urge to be with someone else sexually and passionately, it's almost like I am planning how and with whom to do it. I can't get it out of my head, it consumes me and I have no idea how to bring it up to my fiance - or if I even should. He would be heartbroken. The idea of losing him and not being with him is equally as scary to me, if I ever saw him with another woman I would be heartbroken too.

I can easily imagine a life where we don't get married and where I am free to explore myself and what life has in store for me. I have a much harder time imaging myself as someone's wife, someone's mother and someone who has everything mapped out. But where we are currently; everything is planned and paid for, guests are invited to our destination wedding, and it seems like pulling it is impossible, and I don't even know if I want to.

I should say I am 29 years old, and this is the first really long relationship I've had. I've dated guys for longer periods, but never with the amount of commitment in my current relationship. I cry every day, and my fiance is noticing that I'm affected, but he thinks it's just wedding jitters and that everything will be fine. It might just be wedding jitters, I don't know. I used to be excited about our engagement, but I dread everything about it now. I don't want to be married, it feels like I'm walking voluntarily into a prison. But I also don't want to lose my fiance, whom I adore wholeheartedly.

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Over 4 years ago I went to another country for a big festival where I met a guy...

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What to think of boyfriend and friend's sexual text...

By girlgirl03 | Dec 17 2015

What to think of my friend and boyfriend's sexual text exchange?

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Would he mind if i went to hoco with another guy?

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I've know this guy for about 15 years. Our parents live near each other and we used to hang around together when we were younger.
We have "been together" a couple of times, the occasions were about 4 years apart but we haven't been intimate in almost 5 years.

He recently moved quite far away for work but he still texts me as with his job he travels so when he's in the area he asks me if I would like to meet up.
He always suggest meeting for a drink, or coffee or cinema and we agree to it but then the day arrives and he never texts.
Then he'll make an excuse and starts turning the conversation sexual saying "remember the last time when" etc. He will continue to text me for a while but then it will die off for a couple of weeks then it will start up again and the cycle repeats itself.
Why does he keep texting me if he has no intention of meeting up? Why does he even text me at all if he's not interested?

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By charlemagne64 | Sep 25 2015

After being with him for 14 years, 6 of which we were married, he has consistently been either caught on dating sites or engaged in inappropriate behavior with female clients. I just found out that he had texted a Yellow Pages rep in January and proclaimed, "I was thinking about you all last night"? I left him immediately. He's displaced all the criteria of a narcissist. I have been studying narcissism for the last 14 years because something was just not right. I know I did the right thing by leaving. I can't say I'm devestated because I always waited for the other shoe to drop. The only thing that's screwing with my mind is that I had to leave my dogs with him. The loss of their love and companionship is what's heartbreaking to me. My question is, why am I getting blamed by him for his conduct? Are people that calculated to carry on with no remorse just blaming their victims? I'm a rape survivor and I feel like I've been assaulted all over again. WHY live with someone, tell them you love them, etc., yet try to play both sides of the fence? This man has no boundaries, ZERO. I can't imagine what would have been if the woman he texted actually answered. What puzzles me is that I'm 15 years younger then him. I'm what many have called beautiful, inside and out. We were always intimate and I'm not a prude....I cooked, cleaned, took care of him. I just don't get it. Right now I've gone no contact because truthfully I can't stand to even look at him. I left, hits done and there hasn't been too much resistance by him. I still have to move my stuff out of his house but of course I'm having anxiety over that so I have delayed it. Any thoughts? Have I handled this well considering the circumstances? Thanks in advance for any feedback.

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He really doesn't say anything about it when we go to school...

By whatever2015 | Mar 27 2015

Everytime I call him he says sorry can't talk now

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Should I trust him?

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There's this guy in one of my classes that added me on snapchat a couple of months ago and we have snapped on a daily basis. He has a girlfriend and even though I like him, I know he isn't available and we are just friends. He gets really flirty though by teasing me, talking about hanging out, and sending flirty snaps of him shirtless in his bed. We weren't friends at all before we started snapping and I feel like it has gotten to the point where it's no longer okay. We also have only talked a couple times at school and when I talk to him about it he plays it off by saying he only talks to two people. Instead of snapping I wish we could just talk face to face and be friends because I feel like I'm being played.

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