By gules98 | Dec 19 2014
I met this guy through the same client we work for, not really noticed him as I am always busy. Basically we had a function and we sort of chatted about work and nothing else, never gave him any signals and I never saw any to be honest. Then later that night he sent me a message asking if we can message, I agreed thinking nothing about it and just a friend from work sort of thing. Then he began texting me which was extremely forward and full on asking me loads of questions (age thing came up as I am 8 years older than him and I am a single Mom with a 16 year old daughter) and then told me he really liked me and thought I was sexy (thought I was nice at work meeting we had back in April) and that I turned him on. I was extremely shy and said I don't do this sort of thing as I am a face to face person. But I spoke to a few of my more modern friends about this and they said this is the new way of dating and give it a go. Then he started with the sexting thing, and I said told him I don't do this especially with pictures etc. and that I prefer to meet up for a drink, but he kept putting me off however he wanted me to come stay at his house overnight and I said I can't do that. So we just can’t seem to get it together. Over the last month we have been chatting but every time I try to arrange something after work (he is literally 10 minutes away from my office) he keeps saying he is busy, but then later that night he wants to sext. The recent text I received from him was that he was falling for me. I said how is this possible when we have not met, and our only communication and sex is done through text. I must admit I have tried the sexting thing and sent some saucy pictures against what I thought was wrong, but I have to say it was liberating as it was really hot and I have never done anything like this before?, it was good and wow! But now I am getting bored as I want to meet and he seems to be busy. So I gave him three days’ notice to meet, he said he will let me know, I have not heard from since asking him, I too have not messaged him to ask what happened as the ball was in his court, and I think it was simply rude not to even reply. So I tried to justify his reasoning for not meeting, 1)maybe it’s Christmas and he is waiting for the new year? 2)he has a GF. 3) Is he obsessed with sexting and he is chatting to loads of other women, and it’s his buzz or 4) he just some sexting freak!!!
By lala760 | Nov 19 2014
Ok so I just ended a horrible relationship of 7 yrs, I have a 5 yr old with the man I ended things with, we are still living together becuz of financial reasons, it's sucks, he has been physically abusive in the past and he is still verbally abusive. Recently I created an online dating profile, just to get my mind off things, but I started talking to this guy and we hit it off right away, hes sweet, honest, and seems to be genuine..We've been texting and talking on the phone for a month and a half now, consistently, he's always the first and last to
call/text, he tells me how much he likes me, writes me poetry and tells me that he only wants me, we haven't met in person yet (my fault, I'm kinda hesitant, I don't trust men, obvious reasons) he asks me almost everyday if we can meet, finally I said yes, we r going out on Friday.. He's even paying $500 for my daughters daycare, I didn't ask him to, he just asked me why it was going to be difficult for me to kick out my baby's dad, and I told him becuz if I kick him out he won't pay the daycare, so he said, 'regardless of if you want me to or not, I'm paying' and he did...Anyways he tells me he wants to give me the life I deserve by taking care of me and my daughter, he wants to make me happy and spend the rest of his life with me, but the other day after only a month and a half talking, he told me he's in love with me, he said, 'I can't help it, I have to tell u, I love u'...
By healingtheheart | Nov 01 2014
23 year old female here and single mother to an adorable 2 year old boy.
First time doing this. From the very time, since I've met this guy. I've obsessed with googling for answers and advice on what to do next and how to behave. I wanted to do all the right things to keep him around. I can say, at first it was working. It was exciting. But now I need to start finding some real answers of my own. Because I really like this guy. But the situation has become so complex. I've walked away from him. Hoping to still see him again soon.
We started of as casual sex friends.
Yes. We slept together the first time we met. I'm a very love at first sight kinda girl, I know what I want. I know what I like. I don't beat around the bush. And at the time I was 50/50 on the whole you sleep with him straight away, he'll disappear thing. Risky. I know. But I could tell those kinda guys from a mile off.
And it just felt right with him because he was older. And his fine as hell. It's been 2 years. Why not have a bit of fun? No strings, no commitment. Sounded like were I needed to be. Just let go and let flow.
I created an online profile 4 months ago. It was site for socializing. Making new friends. This guy caught my attention.
35 years old. Didn't really check his whole profile. Just saw the profile pic. Nice. Physically. My type. The age. Wow. Never ever engaged with a guy that age. But age is nothing but a number to me. And always found guys my age very young minded. Especially in the mother hood department. I was looking for mature friendships. We got talking for a couple of days. I wasn't taking the whole online thing serious just wanted to meet people out of my parenting life. He asked for my number. I gave it. Just like I'd given other people my number on the site.
We still continued talking online.
Then one day he asked to meet me. He called. And broke down his situation. He works 2 jobs. Lives with flatmates. And has 3 kids, by 3 different women.
An added equation. He was french. And his accent was so irresistible.
I don't judge. I did hesitate. Like wow 3 women? Will I be the 4th? But I'm very understanding, that it's not always the man's fault. I started looking up people with multiple women and kids. Seems the world is filled with it.
My son was at my mum's and she was dropping him early morning before work. So I had some free time. He came over. We talked. He explained the whole 3 women situation. (And what his told me on other times we've met.)
His son is 12, his daughter is 14 his youngest is 3 months(:-0) He loved and was married to one of the women. And with his youngest. It wasn't planned. And he wasn't in a relationship. His a great father to all his kids. And works hard to provide for them. I have seen this for myself. On one occasion he sent me a picture of his daughter at his place. He would tell me his sons upset with him for not buying him a game. I could just tell he was there for his kids by what he was saying and doing. This also made him a very busy man. Which eventually showed.
I respected it. He wasn't my boyfriend. It wasn't serious.
We met once/twice a week. Other times we texted or he called.
I kept calm. I played it cool. Because I did understand he had important responsibilities. So did I. Hence, why things between us couldn't be too serious.
He would often confide in me about his work problems and how important his work is. He'd tell me about his relationship with his mum. And how his had a hard life. He would come from work to see me. I would be on the phone to him that whole time. Even when he was dropping his daughter to her mum's.
One time I cooked for him and his flatmates.
I've been to his flat enough times to know I was the only girl he was seeing.
I never indulged in him to him. Although, I could feel myself slowly faking it. The more I saw him, the more I wanted.
He started helping me out with my music passion. Introducing me to his flatmate who had music connections. And wanting to be my manager. I couldn't get a sitter one day and he insisted on babysitting my son, while I did music with his flatmate. We were going to start a business. I was trying to look to the future and hold on to business and pleasure friendship we had.
Until one day I couldn't hold back anymore. I couldn't stand hearing him say, that his been honest with me and how he couldn't be what I wanted him to be. What he was saying and what he was doing didn't match up. He was giving very mixed signals. I told him to f off and I called him a biatch. Emotions started to take over.
I apologised for.the rude words. I didn't want anything too serious, just wanted to know he felt the same. And we were on to something.
I did take my son with me that day. Will never do something like that again tho. My son cried the whole time and didn't want anyone else but mummy.
I told him I wouldn't do that again and he didn't really help that much. But then again he couldn't because my son wouldn't let go of my leg. He said he accepted my situation and did wish he could do more things with me, but understands its difficult for me to get sitter sometimes.
This week I text him saying I have to walk away. Even from the music thing. I started to expect him to b there on a Tuesday evening. (We have spent the day together as well. He would ask me over during the day.) Or waiting for him to surprise me in some way.
I haven't seen him since a week ago. Since meeting him. I've never gone a week without seeing him. I've never gone a weekend without talking to him. But I had to walk away for my sanity. But Since I text him saying it's over. He never text back. No call. Nothing. We talked that day and he knew I had a sitter and was flexible. It's been a week and nothing.
I'm so confused, obsessed, hurt. I feel in denial.
By redqueen48 | Oct 25 2014
Let's call him John. He was my student (in two different subjects) while I was teaching in the university several years ago; I was in my mid-20s that time. In our 5-6pm class (Anthropology), he always volunteered to carry my books for me or whatever stuff I was carrying back to the faculty room, and sometimes he would stay behind to ask some questions about the lectures I gave. More than a year later, John and I went out with two other close student friends of mine (a guy and a girl). They were graduating that summer. The others said that John had something to tell me, but couldn't. From the way they teased him, I felt I knew what it was about. We went to a karaoke bar and had a few beers, but he still couldn't muster the courage to tell me. They slept over at my place, I cooked them breakfast and they were off. By that time, I had my son with me (from my ex-husband), and I already had a boyfriend who wasn't living with us. Fast forward, about three years later, we meet again... John, myself and the other guy student who was with us earlier; the girl couldn't make it coz she was working in another city. There was a festival that time and we ended up going to a number of bars. John was already married. I knew about this because a mutual friend of ours was in touch with us both and she told me. John only knew the girl for about a month when he got her pregnant. She was from Chicago though her parents were the same nationality as us. We are Southeast Asians. Anyway, so they had to get married. Actually, I met John one time when he was with that girl (not yet married) and I was pregnant with my daughter (with my boyfriend). We were living in the same neighborhood when he went back to the city I was living in for further studies (grad school). Anyway, back to that night of the festival, John's wife was in Chicago and he was still finishing his master's and supposed to migrate to the US that year in July. We were quite drunk and were dancing. The other guy left us to talk to some former schoolmates he saw, so it was just John and me. He started asking me about my relationship, how I was and the kids. By that time, I had already broken up with my daughter's father for more than four months. So I told him. Then he asked me if I knew he named his daughter after me. I was stupefied. We danced and talked and drank some more. We went to a hotel and did it. It was very intense... built up after years of waiting on his side. From there, i embarked on a full-fledged love affair "with an expiration date" I always said. My friends knew, and his friends knew. He was leaving in July and I told him I wanted a clean breakup in May. He reluctantly agreed. We were very happy. But in my mind I was tortured by guilt and the thought that ours would have a definite ending. By mid-May, I broke up with him. He still continued to text me... and call, though I usually did not answer. He gave me a gift he bought when he went to one famous island with his friends. I gave it back through his bestfriend, including the letter that came with it... not because I wanted to be mean and hurt him. I couldn't bring myself to destroy them or to throw them away; I couldn't keep them either. He stopped trying to contact me after that. Two days before his flight, at dawn, he came to my place and we made love. That was the last time we saw each other. Through the years, however, he kept in touch... through occasional emails (on AOL - but I had since stopped checking when I forgot my password), on Friendster (remember? before Facebook and Twitter?), and by phone where John would call or text me out of the blue, asking about my life, the kids, etc. Now, more than ten years after we last saw each other, John told me he is divorcing his wife. He has two kids like me. He told me he will come to see me here in Dubai (where I now work - been here for 8 years) on his way to our home country where his parents are. This year he had been fairly regular in his communication with me, and he confessed about three months ago how he regrets not waiting for me to be free. He said he wasted so many years waiting because he himself was not free in between. I love him. I loved him before, in those few months we were together. I had boyfriends in between. When he came back into my life early this year, I had been without a relationship for over a year. I believe my mind is clear, and I know I love him. But our journey will not be an easy one. He has his divorce and I have my annulment (from my ex-husband from whom I have been separated from for more than 12 years) to take care of. He will only be in Dubai for 25 hours. Then for another 8 hours on his way back from home to Chicago.
By blackskye | Oct 17 2014
I have known this guy for a while. About five years.. four years ago we slept together twice then i got in a long term relationship and had a baby. We just reacently broke upafter almost 4 years. This guy and i kept in contact and hung out a time or two during my relationship. Now that its over for my ex and i this friend so to speak and i are sleeping woth one another regularly. He comes to see me at least once a week and of corse stays a couple nights. We text quite a bit and he is active on my fb account always leaving comments and stuff. He tells me he will be back nezt week i never ask. He comes over in the middle of the night sometimes after a talk on the phone. Its an hour drive to my house from his. i have met a few of his friends and family reacently... heres the bomb. He tells me about other girls he is sleeping with.. he tells me about plans to ask them on dates. He has told me he usually tells girls this to see if they get jelous.
By ellie515 | Sep 16 2014
I have a friend who I've known since childhood, but just reconnected with six months ago. Our children are friends. We have been "hanging out" when our boys hang out. He is nice, and we get along.
Recently he's started sending me funny texts, like a picture with a funny saying, or am inappropriate picture with a funny saying. The other day I texted back and told him thanks for making me laugh. He texted back and said he's here for me.
Today he randomly sends a picture text again. We've never hung out without the boys, because I am still going through a divorce and not ready for anything.
He does call and ask to get the kids together, every two weeks or so.
By sageandonion | Jul 22 2014
Player or just denying his feelings!?? Head fuck
By islandgirl214 | Jul 16 2014
So I met a guy on Tinder two and a half months ago. We chatted for about three weeks until he suggested we meet up. We went to lunch, he kissed me in the parking lot. Since then we've seen each other one or two times a week - we've done dinner and trivia (then back to his place), he asked me over while a lot of his friends were there, so I've met them...I'd say it was a week or so after out first lunch date when we first had sex, and it's been pretty frequent. We've texted everyday since our lunch date, when we exchanged numbers. He met a few of my friends last week on my birthday. He met us out, was holding my hand everywhere we went and just being super sweet to me and my friends all night. We have a date planned for Friday to go kayaking.
By confused_2_2 | Jul 12 2014
I ran into a guy from High School one night and we hit it off. We sat out on a boardwalk talking and reminiscing until 4 am. The next day he asked to see me, so we went out for a night on the town and later just hung out, again until after 4 am. We did kiss and the relentlessness of ending the night was mutual. We talked and texted over the next few days and then met for drinks, again an all nighter. A few days later I went to his house for a movie and some wine. We are both in our 40's, so we knew what we were getting into and our night together was great. (We had sex) The next day he tells me that he has been dating around and lately has been seeing a woman that he thought might go somewhere but now he's conflicted because we hit it off so well and he feels we could be great together. He said he hasn't spent time with anyone the way we have since he was a kid and it was kind of freaking him out, the same is true for me, so I suggested that he take time to get his head straight. He said in the past when he felt so strongly or conflicted he would just disappear on a girl but he doesn't want to do that with me and he doesn't want to stop hanging out because he really likes me, so I said we could be freinds but I would not pursue anything more. He said great and in the future if we decide to explore our connection further and it worked that would be perfect. Now, he still flirts, calls me pet names, let's me know he's picked up another bottle of the wine I like and has come around to help my son with stuff and fix a door at the house. He also makes comments about things we'll do together at a later date. I'm confused because I instantly gave him space without question and as far as I know he's still seeing the other woman... I don't ask him what he's doing, where he's at or who he's with. He always text me back and answers his phone on the first ring when I cal, even if he's at work. I'm stumpt.
By michellb3 | Jul 03 2014
I had been seeing this guy for a year and got pregnant(currently 27 weeks). The father just told me he is in love with a girl in Delaware that has a kid of her own (we live in Washington). He also said he doesn't want to talk to me or see me until the baby comes. He has only been to, two of my doctors appointments. This make me feel like shit. Would you tell him when you had the baby? What would you do?
By seekingmytruth | May 28 2014
I'm struggling with a relationship I've been in for over a year. A couple weeks ago out of frustration I said somethings I shouldn't have. But the thing is, it's issues I've presented to him before. The problem is, his biggest concern is throwing in the towel on the relationship. Sometimes out of frustration and repeated pleas nothing happens, even after he says he knows that's his shortcoming. Our communication is 90% text and even when I call in hopes he would see a difference... He still doesn't. He may call one day or put forth some effort but it immediately falls off. 6 months ago we spoke about and decided I would move in with him, but in those 6 months we have not communicated about plans to make this happen. I signed a 6 month lease, which is up the end of June. When I mentioned it in April that my lease would be up in June, he replied, I thought about it. But that was it. My issue is I have 2 children, 13 and 8, that I'm responsible for. I expressed to him 6+ months ago that my stability, structure, and security is a priority for myself and my kids. Reason being, during a 15 yr marriage, we didn't have that. Well in a bit of sobriety I said somethings on the eve of him planning a surprise graduation party for me. I apologized for my untimely actions, but they were my feelings. I didn't or hadn't felt like my kids and I have been a priority. I would like to include he had been without work for 8 months. And during that time I tried and was supportive in being there for him during his moments of frustration. Well now he's accepted a job and each day that he's told me he was to start the job, I find out that 'Oh I didn't stay today'. My anxiety is put the roof because I have to have a conversation with him because my kids and I have no where to go when my lease is up. There is more that I can share but I thought I'd start with the most recent issue of ours.
By toxxicsimplicity | May 21 2014
met this guy in highschool 6years ago. we've always had an on-off thing (id date someone he'd date someone but if we were single we'd date eachother) there has ALWAYS been intense attraction and something keeps pulling us back together although we have never had sex, kissed, or even held hands. the problem: after highschool I got adventurous and moved to Colorado for some guy and I was married for two years. when the divorce came up he helped me through it all and said his feelings for me were no different. a son came out of the marriage and my highschool sweetheart and I had talked about being together FINALLY. I asked how he would feel about a child being around and he said "I will have to get used to it because its a new experience. I don't know how I would handle it but that all comes in time" ...now he has a girlfriend with a daughter whom he posts pics of with all the time, always smiling and whatnot, so of course I was a little upset. what hurts worse is that even when he is around her he will text me "hey baby" and "I miss and love you" I asked him if he ever loved her and he said neither of them had those feelings for eachother...so why be with her? I told him it was now or never, its been six years now.
By gumbear | May 12 2014
I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now. At first we use to text all day and now its only 4-5 times a day. Significant decrease! He's telling me he is not sure what he wants and said he loves me and does not want to lose me. Every time we are together we enjoys each other company and have fun. Social media is not a problem either we have several pics together and he does not have an issue with it. I have a child from a previous relationship and he had meet her recently. He thought that would have made everything clear for him but it did not. I don't know what to do! It seems to me like he might have issues with commitment. I really like this guy
By graphicphotobug | Apr 28 2014
i have a guy i became friends with while i was going through my horrible divorce, 2011. we would talk all night, text all day, several thousand texts. i was married for 13 years and with that man for 18, so if he flirted i had no clue.
we stopped text/calling around the fall of 2012, that's when i started dating an ex bf from 20 years ago.... big mistake, huge!
we began speaking again this past february, he asked if i was seeing anyone and i said no. didn't think much of it. we text back and forth, talk sometimes, but nothing more. he asked for my help on a slideshow for his daughters dance team, i'm a designer, so i figured that was why he asked. he was at my house for three saturdays until 2 in the morning.
he has asked me and my kids to go to his cabin with him and his girls this summer. i'm not sure if i'm reading in too much or not.
the pic i'm attaching is of our conversation this past saturday. i'm green he's gray.
i have liked him for a long time, just not sure if he likes me.
By rlw | Apr 16 2014
My 13 year old daughters best friend and her have been wanting me and her dad to meet. We finally did and I became very interested. After we met he texted a few sweet texts and he invited my girls and I TT o go out to eat with him and his daughter. We all had a great time. I got excited about the possibilities of us dating. My daughter texted him joking with him about asking me out and he politely told her he would have to wait and see but that he was seeing someone right now that it wasn't serious yet. I was so disappointed that he was seeing someone. Its been about 2 weeks and we have been texting here and there just random stuff about our kids. Last night he called and we talked for 2 hours about our divorces and our kids. I'm starting to get my hopes up but I don't wanna get crushed.
By fergie | Apr 04 2014
I am a single mom, 46, living in the suburbs of NYC. The guy is 28 and lives in Europe.