well, my ex boy friend broke up with me, a month ago, after a couple of months together, i left my country to work in another country.
We have met a few times after that but only to have a coffee.Last week i texted him to tell him that i was going to go back home for goods and i wanted to have a drink, he told me yes, but he did not texted me during that weekend. yesterday night he texted me :
" oh hi! sorry we finally did not meet this weekend, but when you come back let´s have a dinner and have a chat.

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Should I let him go Is this all a game ...

By pinkcab56 | Nov 12 2014

So I've been talking to this guy since college. We started off as friends but after a year and a half, our relationship became a sexual one. After that we would always meet to hook up, but it was nothing serious. We had our fights but we always came back to each other. I thought the relationship was only about sex..So I figured it would end. After I graduated from college I thought our fun time was over.. And I didn't hear from him again after some time. After six months he reached out to me saying we should be together and that I should move back and be with him for life. He has left me and came back into my life many times before.

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Let's call him John. He was my student (in two different subjects) while I was teaching in the university several years ago; I was in my mid-20s that time. In our 5-6pm class (Anthropology), he always volunteered to carry my books for me or whatever stuff I was carrying back to the faculty room, and sometimes he would stay behind to ask some questions about the lectures I gave. More than a year later, John and I went out with two other close student friends of mine (a guy and a girl). They were graduating that summer. The others said that John had something to tell me, but couldn't. From the way they teased him, I felt I knew what it was about. We went to a karaoke bar and had a few beers, but he still couldn't muster the courage to tell me. They slept over at my place, I cooked them breakfast and they were off. By that time, I had my son with me (from my ex-husband), and I already had a boyfriend who wasn't living with us. Fast forward, about three years later, we meet again... John, myself and the other guy student who was with us earlier; the girl couldn't make it coz she was working in another city. There was a festival that time and we ended up going to a number of bars. John was already married. I knew about this because a mutual friend of ours was in touch with us both and she told me. John only knew the girl for about a month when he got her pregnant. She was from Chicago though her parents were the same nationality as us. We are Southeast Asians. Anyway, so they had to get married. Actually, I met John one time when he was with that girl (not yet married) and I was pregnant with my daughter (with my boyfriend). We were living in the same neighborhood when he went back to the city I was living in for further studies (grad school). Anyway, back to that night of the festival, John's wife was in Chicago and he was still finishing his master's and supposed to migrate to the US that year in July. We were quite drunk and were dancing. The other guy left us to talk to some former schoolmates he saw, so it was just John and me. He started asking me about my relationship, how I was and the kids. By that time, I had already broken up with my daughter's father for more than four months. So I told him. Then he asked me if I knew he named his daughter after me. I was stupefied. We danced and talked and drank some more. We went to a hotel and did it. It was very intense... built up after years of waiting on his side. From there, i embarked on a full-fledged love affair "with an expiration date" I always said. My friends knew, and his friends knew. He was leaving in July and I told him I wanted a clean breakup in May. He reluctantly agreed. We were very happy. But in my mind I was tortured by guilt and the thought that ours would have a definite ending. By mid-May, I broke up with him. He still continued to text me... and call, though I usually did not answer. He gave me a gift he bought when he went to one famous island with his friends. I gave it back through his bestfriend, including the letter that came with it... not because I wanted to be mean and hurt him. I couldn't bring myself to destroy them or to throw them away; I couldn't keep them either. He stopped trying to contact me after that. Two days before his flight, at dawn, he came to my place and we made love. That was the last time we saw each other. Through the years, however, he kept in touch... through occasional emails (on AOL - but I had since stopped checking when I forgot my password), on Friendster (remember? before Facebook and Twitter?), and by phone where John would call or text me out of the blue, asking about my life, the kids, etc. Now, more than ten years after we last saw each other, John told me he is divorcing his wife. He has two kids like me. He told me he will come to see me here in Dubai (where I now work - been here for 8 years) on his way to our home country where his parents are. This year he had been fairly regular in his communication with me, and he confessed about three months ago how he regrets not waiting for me to be free. He said he wasted so many years waiting because he himself was not free in between. I love him. I loved him before, in those few months we were together. I had boyfriends in between. When he came back into my life early this year, I had been without a relationship for over a year. I believe my mind is clear, and I know I love him. But our journey will not be an easy one. He has his divorce and I have my annulment (from my ex-husband from whom I have been separated from for more than 12 years) to take care of. He will only be in Dubai for 25 hours. Then for another 8 hours on his way back from home to Chicago.

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I've been seeing this guy for a while now on and off and for the past month or two things have been great we've had our ups and downs but we are good but the other night I stayed at his house on Friday night and we made plans to stay in on Saturday night together. He had work in morning and I left his house later with plans to come back later but in the afternoon he text me saying what time I was coming and I said 6 he told me his friend was going away for two weeks and there were grabbing a pint at the pub which I was cool with but at around 8 I text him saying what's the plan and he told me he was still with his mates having a good time and I asked if we should just cancel and he said no he wasn't staying there all night I told him I would wait and come over still if it wasn't to late which was alright. At 12 he texts me telling me he's still there and I was pissed I didn't reply I just don't get why he would make plans with me only to do that. The night day he texts me like everything is fine I was pissed which I told him and he ignored me I then went on to tell him I felt as though I wasn't a priority which he ignored aswell he then text me the following day saying what do I want him to say i apologised which he didn't he then apologised which I felt wasn't from the heart. He makes me feel as though it's my fault but he's in the wrong! I'm confused I know he loves me and everything but when he does stuff like this it really pisses me off! And I know he loves me because we have been together on and off for like a year and he's said it as well. He recently asked me to leave stuff and his house and make plans for New Years so if he didn't want to be with me we wouldn't make all these plans for the future.

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We have been dating 2 months, i moved to another country for a 3 months and he decided to break up because of the distance.
i went back to my country for a weekend and i texted him and we went to have a coke.everything was normal. today he texted me" it was nice to see you yesterday,good like the rest of the time in that country"

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My ex and I recently started communicating again and actually hung out this past Sunday. He broke up with me but has agreed to give things another chance. I told him straight out that I couldn't just be friends with him. Anyways, fast forward a few days...I've been reaching out to him and it's taken hours for him to get back to me but says hes been busy with work and apologizes. Last night I asked if he wanted to hang out tomorrow (meaning tonight) and he actually called me. Unfortunately, my house get's terrible reception and the call didnt come through so he texted me saying he just tried to call---I had already fallen asleep :( I texted him back this morning to let me know by 10am if he wanted to get together. He did text me before that time and here is the text:

"Hi sorry just got out of meetings. I'm super busy all week up until mu flight leaves...I'm available to meet up tonight but not until late (sad face)"

I responded telling him that I would still like to see him because we are both going to be out of town and cant see each other until the week of October 20th. I suggested we go to the beach, bring blankets and just relax. Now it's going on 6 hours and I haven't heard from him.

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Okay, so my ex has been calling me every night only to talk. He's "hanging out" with a friend of mine on Saturday. I could really careless what they do, but I don't want her to get hurt. He's asked me if I want to hook up twice since he asked her out. I just really want this guy to stop bothering me.

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This is not a text. It is e-mail. But I hope the same "rules" apply.

We dated four years ago and we are at a point where we can chat with each other just fine. We only talk maybe every couple of years though. He sent me an e-mail last week saying we should have a chat sometime. And now...

Me: What happened with that chat you mentioned in your last e-mail? :)
Him: I thought you were avoiding me! I asked you when you were available and you didn’t reply
Me: Did you? Oh sorry, I thought you had just say lest have a chat and I then nothing...haha. Phone or want to catch up and see if we have aged at all?
Him: I have certainly aged. :) Maybe a phone chat so my partner doesn’t have to rest uneasy.

Never mention of a girlfriend before and he has always been cagey about the topic.

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So I started dating this guy in my freshman year of highschool. I was 14 and he was 16. Anyway, we were bassically the group couple as one would put it. I broke up with him after 6 months because I wasn't sure I wanted the heartbreak after he graduated. I knew my mom wouldn't let me see him outside of school because she didn't like me going out alone? I knew once he graduated it would be over between us anyway. He asked me, not begged, to not do this, but I did anyway. I felt it would be best for me. I wasn't thinking of him at the time but I still really liked him. When we broke up it was awkward! I stopped hanging around with our group and we just stopped talking. I started dating a few guys in my sophomore year but it never really felt real y' know. I think, I'm not positive, that he started seeing a new girl. I'm not really the jealous or clingly type so I didn't really feel to pressured to find out. Anyway, I'm a junior now and he already graduated. I'm 17 now and he's 18 and a half. This one day out of the blue he texted me on facebook after I had a fight with my mom saying, "Are you ok?"

To say I was shocked was a BIG understatement. I never thought he would have ever texted me again after how much of a, shall I say, bitch, I was to him. It just felt so unreal because I thought he hated me all this time. Then out of the blue, "Are you ok?" pops up on my facebook. What does that mean? In a way I felt relieved because a few months prior, I started to develop or maybe wished he was my boyfriend again. I don't think I ever stopped liking him. I just did what I felt I had to do. I thought I was thinking about him but after I realized how heartbroken he was, I felt disgusted. The thing was I never meant to hurt him. I'm just a generally confused girl. I think he knew that. Otherwise, he wouldn't have reached out. Then he said, "I'm sorry it took so long since i said anything Lol"

Why did he use Lol. Was it funny or maybe just a nervous reaction. I told him how sorry i was and how much i didnt mean to hurt him. He replied back with, " It's ok. We were both a pain to each other. It's ok."

But i knew it wasnt ok. I was a bitch to him. How could he just say, "It's ok."

I know it was a few years back, but still. What i did wasnt ok. Now I don't know what to do. I think I still like him..or am I stuck in the past. We started texting again and he seems generally interested but i'm not sure I still like him. The last thing I want to do is hurt him again but I don't know if I like him. I might so I don't want to tell him that I only see him as a friend. That would give him mixed signals. He asked me if I wanted to "hang out", without the quotations but we all know what that means, especially from an ex. I can hang out now because I'm 17 but I told him, "Maybe." He gives me little smiles at every Text. I'm not kidding. Does that mean something?

Do you guys think I'm living in the past of what we used to have or I actually still like him. Does he like me or he just playing me. Does he want revenge. Ok..now I'm just rambling. Please give me your thoughts, answers and comments. I will be very thankful. Also, if you took the time to read all of this, thank you.

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I started seeing a ex again, his said nothing will ever happen between us again but it feels like we've started where we left off.

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Okay, So me and my ex dated for about 6 months, things got a little rough between us because we didn't have that much time for eachother he was constantly working (Weekends included) and I was busy with school and he lives pretty far from me, so we decided to break up. He then texted me the next day saying he can't stand being without me .. I felt the same way.. So of course we got back together ,stupid idea. I know. & ended up breaking up AGAIN about a month later. He texted me 2 days after the breakup and this time when we talked I was the one who wanted to talk things out and start fresh, but he just completely stopped talking to me for 2 weeks or so. No contact what so ever. Then he texted me today with a plain old, "Hey"? ..This cycle is aggravating.

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So I dated this guy Anthony for a year. We had an amazing relationship for the first 8 months, he was in a major car accident and we became so close during that time. He was my best friend, my sounding board, made me feel so beautiful and safe and just taken care of. The sex was MINDBLOWING and I have never felt that way with anyone else. The last four months we hit a wall. We've always been opposites in some ways (mostly political views and morals). It seems like the last four months we just argued all the time and fought over petty things. He broke up with me because we had been arguing a lot that month and we fought over how much time we were going to spend at each of our families houses for the Fourth of July. It's been two months, filled with late night conversations and a couple hookups between the two of us. He's been with other people but I haven't since we broke up. He took to a wild streak and partied and drank and got kinda reckless. I took up running and focusing on my career. After a few weeks of no contact (we would just text every now and then) Last Saturday he called me, while I was asleep. The next day I got ahold of him and we went to an ice cream place then a few parks. In that time we ended up kissing, he told me that I looked beautiful and he missed me. He played me a few songs he had found that reminded him of me. The whole time we hung out the sexual tension was insane, so I mentioned that and I asked him...what we were doing, why we were hanging out? I told him that I wanted him again but that I was enjoying me independence and he agreed. So then he suggested that we decide to start being friends with benefits...which neither of us has never done. Of course I was like hell no at first. But then I thought maybe...so long as we are only with eachother because that's just gross. And it wouldn't be adding to my number of partners. So after setting some conditions, we agreed to start casual sex with the intentions of getting back together. Sort of a trial run. So he came back to my house, we had sex, he basically just confessed his love to me and held me all night and we pinky swore that if things go right for us in the next few months that we will be together. I went to his house last night. We made pizzas and watched tv, cuddled, then had sex. I left because I had to work but he walked me to my car and for 10 min we tried to say goodbye for the night and he just kept kissing me and saying how much he loved me. Then I got home and he asked me if I missed him and said he missed me like crazy. We text all day. He tells me he misses me and he loves me, we're hanging out today and he texted me today saying after today e can't see me till Saturday because he's helping his uncle move. So we have plans for Saturday.

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So I recently became friends with my ex-boyfriend of 4 months. Prior to our relationship, we were very close friends. It was about 4 months (early June) after we broke up that we became close again. He was the one who ended the relationship because he felt that he wasn't ready for one and just couldn't handle it due to school and his social life outside of our relationship (we go to different schools and have different friends). When he broke up with me he called it a break. We never spent time together after the break up, but texted on a weekly basis. A few days ago he brought up the idea of getting back together, but the next day he changed his mind and decided he wasn't ready again, and said he just wanted to stay friends, although he still has feelings for me, and understood if I didn't want to wait for him to be ready. I was very upset and told him that we should stop talking.

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My ex broke up with me in March due to stress of everyday life getting to him. Recently, we've been texting and bonding a lot since he said he still wanted to be friends. He's been extra sweet and amazing to me. Feels like the old days. He invited me over to see his new place and we ended up cuddling and holding hands and that's all.

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