By meowie | Mar 09 2015
okay, so it goes like this. We met on okc. The exchanged messages on Okc's were long and we were always messaging each other on time. It felt like we were snail mailing each other, but this of course was on a online dating context. Sooooo, I gave him my number.
Here comes the problem which I am very annoyed. I don't know if he's playing the waiting game or being really manipulative but he goes offline when I reply back a message. His messages are long, but it probably takes like 15-2 hours to reply.
Am I overthinking things?
By sixeightshuffle | Mar 08 2015
we met on okcupid and talked a ton. agreed to meet one night and it was really great. for 3 days after....
By blackdiamonds | Feb 09 2015
How do I handle a situation where a guy is moving too fast?
By rieper | Jan 03 2015
Please excuse my grammar errors but English is not my first language.
I met this guy last month on OkCupid, since we're from different countries we can't meet up in person. But we kept talking for about 3 days nonstop, we just had so much in common. He also followed me on instagram.
After 3 days he stopped starting conversation, but we kept talking, sharing videos and photos with each other (not nudes). Then, last week he asked if we could skype, I said yes.
We talked for 2 hours about everything, he said how much he liked me and that I should visit him and when I said that my mom wanted to know who I was talking with, he said "Tell your mom that your boyfriend said hi".
The next day he didn't even talk to me, but as always I texted him about something trying to initiate conversation.
Yesterday I texted him asking if I did something wrong, I also said that why would he say that he likes me if he doesn't even talk to me, he said that he was a "bad texter", I said that a simple "Hi" would not hurt, he haven't replied since then.
Today I noticed that he deleted his account from OkCupid and changed his instagram username but I don't know if this has something to do with me.
By alwayswannanap | Dec 20 2014
This guy and I met on okc about a month ago. The first date was pretty low key. We talked at a bar for a while and went to a show together. We were both pretty tipsy by the time the show started and somehow we just started making out. Then on the way back, we made out again in his car. the chemistry was great - I don't think that I've ever had such great physical chemistry with someone right away. Anyways, sometime during the next week, he texted for another date. He ended up canceling it in the morning because he got sick. I didn't really care and sent him a text to see how he was doing a couple days later. He said he was much better and would like to see me. so we grabbed dinner and had a great conversation which surprisingly intellectual. I really appreciated his thoughts. Anyways, he drove me home and we made out again in the car with some touching. I texted him afterwards and thanked him for the ride and the good time. He texted me back right away and had since been in daily touch with me. I had a couple of finals during that week so I didn't have time to see him. He checked on me a few times and offered to bring me food the night before the exam. I really appreciated his sweet offer and told him that he should stop by to say hi since he was 10 min away from where I was. He came and we hung out a bit. a lot of kissing and making out, finally things got a little heated and he was about to turn off the light. I told him that I wasn't ready to sleep with him yet because I get emotionally attached easily with sex and I wasn't afraid of getting hurt. He was nice about it and said that he understands and I should always be honest with him. The night went on well and he kissed me goodbye a couple of times and told me to let him know if I wanted to hang out over the weekend. There was a party at my school on that weekend - so I texted him later and asked him if he wanted to come over. He sounded a little hesitant. Then I got a little worried because I realized that he could have mistakenly thought that I was asking him to hang out with people in my life. I just played along and canceled a few days later. We ended up going to a movie; he was just very affectionate as usual. lots of touching my hair, kissing my forehead and hand, and hand holding. Anyways, ever since that night, he started to cool down. I had a couple of exams after that weekend. he texted me on the Tuesday to check to see how things went and wished me good luck on the next few things that I had. I liked that he remembered what was going on in my life so I thanked him. I contacted him on Wed and told him that I was done with my test and I was happy. All I got was "woohoo". so I thought maybe he was busy with work. so I asked him how's work. he told me that he was having a very long day. I offered to visit him and bring him food/drink. He declined nicely and said that he just needed to go home and collapse. I just told him to not worry and get rested. That was 2 days ago; I still haven't heard anything from him, which pisses me off. He acted like he was into me for like the past two weeks; and this week I only got a couple of texts from him with minimal content. He's just been not responsive. I don't plan on contacting him unless he reaches out to me and show some genuine interest in seeing me.
By music0123 | Nov 19 2014
I met this guy on Okcupid, and after texting for a few days, we decided to meet up on the weekend for a meal. He seemed interested in me before the date, and during the date, we asked each other the right questions etc, so I thought it was going well. At the end of the date, we hugged, and he asked me what time of the day would be best for our next meal, I told him, and he said that he would text me. It's been 3 days since our date, and he hasn't made an attempt to contact me, even after I thanked him for the meal. I know some guys adhere to the 3 day rule, so do you think that's what he's doing?
By ninja15 | Nov 10 2014
So, I have been texting this guy I met on OKC for about 2 weeks. I loved our conversations and even when I would text short he would still ask questions to keep the conversation going. Well he asked to meet up and we did. He is 34 I'm 27. First date was great and at the end of the night he didn't kiss me, which is fine I'm guessing he was trying to be a gentlemen. The whole night he kept telling me how pretty I was and how we had a great conversation. Well when I left he told me to text him when I got home. I did and I said "thank you for tonight I had a really good time and would love to hang out again" he replied with"me too thanks for coming out. We shall plan something"the next day we texted and he asked how my day was going and I haven't heard back from him since.
By spielesammlung | Oct 28 2014
So I met this amazing guy on OkC a month ago and we have been texting on a daily basis ever since. He is really smart and sweet and he always initiates the conversations, which never turn dull or boring. The problem is he is currently very busy :( I've asked him if we're ever going to meet in person, but his answers are vague and so far I don't see him quite interested (he says things like "hey, now that you mention it, I do want to go out with you, but there are some details that need to be taken care of, since we don't live so close to each other" or "hey we could maybe go to this restaurant ... but I'm not sure if I'll be busy next weekend") He also told me he never checks his profile anymore, but I see him online quite often.
By espriii | Sep 17 2014
So me and this guy have been talking for a little while. Since August 23 and we text every single day, we call maybe once or twice a week and face time once a week. We met on OkCupid, I'm 18 he's 21. The thing is is that he lives in Chicago and I live in Tennessee. He got out of a relationship over the summer so I don't know to much. He told me that she broke up with him because she wanted to focus on school. And his friends told him to move on so that was why he was on the website? So AnyWho we've been talking every day and I think we like each other? He's extremely safe around me(choosing what to say) recently I told him that he could relax more around me so now he says more stuff. He's more open-minded to asking questions which I'm okay with because he askes me permission. I've told him I like him and he kinda blows it off idk but when we FaceTime he's always smiling and he's just amazing. I really like him but I don't want to bring out any feelings yet or at least a little later...
By emilydenton | Aug 10 2014
Okay so I met this guy on okc. He is so funny, has the same interests as me, same values, pretty much just everything personality wise. Last night we decided to move up our date because he didn't wanna wait until next week to see me. So we met at a local restaurant, spent 3 hours there talking and laughing, like literally I almost peed myself I laughed so hard, the we went to steak and shake and talked for another 2 hours and got milk shakes. He kept doing this thing where he would look at me like I was literally the cutest thing in the world and I couldn't even keep the eye contact with him I was blushing so hard!! We hugged goodbye and kept our date for next week. Then he texts me this morning with good morning beautiful and the smiley with hearts for eyes.
By rushmei11 | May 21 2014
ok here goes....was on okcupid one night around midnight and came across a profile that had been checking me out. So I took the initiative and wrote a nice intro...he responded and we chatted online for about 5 mins. I was out of town that Sunday but before I ended the chat he said KEEP IN TOUCH....huh?
So I did not check in, but on Tuesday he wrote and asked if I arrived home safely. I thought that was very nice.
So for the next few days we chatted and it was going well. I didn't crowd his space, I let him take the lead. He asked for some pix I sent a few discreet lingerie ones and he commented how beautiful they were.
Well I wanted to meet, so on Friday I invited him to the movies and was about to press SEND when he asked for a raincheck. Ok, he then stated maybe a later showing and he would get back in contact with me. He did I was ecstatic! Then just as he invited me he told me he had to go to the hospital his friend was in a motorcycle CRASH...wtf!
I believed him, he kept informed so I did not think he was lying.
He keeps saying I CANT WAIT TO MEET, but he never offers to me. He does not call, and his text are slowly becoming GHOST.
Conclusion, I 've decided to back off, not text anymore and it worked last week he had the audacity to ASK WHERE HAVE YOUBEEN? I guess he didn't like to sip his own medicine. If I had of asked that he would have found me CLINGY. He asked last week when could we meet and I hoped he would confirm a date and time....NOT! Seems like he keeps playing me along
By azazel | Mar 14 2014
I just got on OkCupid this past weekend after a couple of my friends asked me to give it a go. Within a day I came across a profile I liked and sent him a message thinking I wasn't gonna lose anything. He responded and we were messaging for 2 days back and forth (we have a lot in common) and after the last message (more like an email) where he had revealed his real first name, I replied back signing off with my real first name too and I was confident he was going to reply back as we ask a lot of questions in our messages.
By jackierose | Mar 05 2014
This guy just messaged me in okcupid, I'd been eyeing him for a while but didn't really know how to start a convo. I want to reply with more than "I'm alright, what about you?"
He's 35 and I'm only 19 so I want to reply with something semi-sophisticated.
By mela_knee | Feb 18 2014
So I recently joined OkCupid and within the first week I started talking to this guy. We quickly switched to text and were getting along almost too well. We have the same sense of humor, same compassion, same feelings about most things. We were really hitting it off. He expressed many times how excited he was to meet me, and I expressed my hesitation in that I had never met someone online and was scared it was too good to be true. He insisted that we were going to be a great match. He lives in Sacramento and I live in San Francisco. He drove down this past friday to spend the day with me (neither of us realized it was valentine's day... we didn't let it become awkward. We both just laughed about it and made little jokes throughout the night). We went out and grabbed a bite to eat, then some drinks. We came back to my place and talked for a long time. We cuddled and kissed and it turned into a really great night. Nothing more than kissing happened, I really liked him so I wanted to wait. We had already planned on him staying the night and he had offered to drive me to my early morning dentist appt, which he did and it was really nice of him ! We spent the rest of saturday together. We joked, watched a movie, cuddled on the couch, then we went to a skatepark to get out of the house (he skates). Anyway, he left that night to celebrate his friend's birthday and was going to meet me after. I got a text from him pretty early in the night saying he wasn't feeling well and that he was going to drive back to sacramento. He apologized and said he wanted to spend another weekend with me no plans style so we could just spend time together. Since then he has been pretty distant. He used to text me cute things every day before I would text him, now his responses are relatively short and not as nice as before.
By ghouls | Feb 14 2014
I met this guy on OkCupid at the very start of the year, we texted from the time we woke up to the time we went to sleep for over a week, getting to know each other but not really flirty. Our first meeting was on a sunday, we hung out at his apartment and watched movies and had sex. We texted lightly Monday and then it stopped. Thursday he texted me and asked me how my week was/what I was up to and Friday he did the same but invited me over, again that night we had sex. Up until now I have seen him every weekend, and monday-friday we text maybe once or twice to see whats up and when we can see each other again. When I'm with him we mostly hang out and watch movies, every time we have sex. He's pretty affectionate, always touching or rubbing my arm or shoulder when we're hanging out, sometimes I catch him just looking at me. I asked him if he was hanging out with other girls like he does with me and he told me there was one other girl when we first started hanging out but she stopped talking to him. I believe I'm the only girl he's seeing since he spends a lot of his weekend time with me. He's always online on okcupid still.
By cantankerouscoffee | Jan 22 2014
Met guy off OkCupid. Very similar interests. Hung out a several times, nothing romantic. (Accidentally made out with his hot brother once and briefly, which he said was a "secret safe with him.")
He's a bit quiet and awkward around me, honestly. Texts just about every day. Good rapport via text.