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Do you think he will eventually start acknowledging the things he did wrong?

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After becoming quite close over 3 month time period we had a misunderstanding, I behaved poorly and probably really freaked him out. He apologized and wanted to work it out but I was sleeping and never responded to his texts, I decided out of embarrassment and hurt to just do no contact for awhile. He responded by going on such an intense drinking binge he was hospitalized. Detoxing, acute pancreatitis, etc. He'd posted on fb that his phone was lost (that night of our altercation)....we texted minimally during his hospital stay, he said he needed peace and that he didn't know of anything I could do for him, I'd offered to come see him, make him laugh...but also indicated I was hesitant as he needs to get well. He was always updating me (instant messaging) regarding his prognosis. I was really tired of feeling confused! So I messaged him saying its best if he doesn't contact me anymore, and what response would he think I'd have when he said he was in hospital? I did the stupidest thing and forwarded him all of his own texts when he had profusely apologized for being a dick earlier in the week. For the most part I was all about NO CONTACT thdn requested that he stop contact as well .... My heart still hurts, its been 10 days or so, miss him but getting a little better everyday. Question is: WHY did he "like" my fb post less than a week after I said no more contact? Is he trying to reach out? Does he just like the picture? It indicates I'm in London, after 6 years of being fb friend this is one and only time he's ever "liked" one of my posts! What's with this guy? I thought it was bold. I wonder if I'm reaching for something behind it....please help.

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is it normal for a guy to go two weeks no texting after first date?

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Sometimes I wonder if I'm the problem. I meet a guy, we hit it off and then I start fantasizing about things. I let romantic notions and ideas get in my head and sometimes it really seems like the guy is responding.

Recently I met a guy online. We were emailing back and forth for about a month. He was quite into it, sending long messages to my shorter ones and it went along really well. We exchanged numbers and chatted. Things started going downhill from there. He would send me occasional non-sexual texts and I started getting the idea that he enjoyed our conversations and maybe wanted something more. When I started reciprocating he backed off a little and I got the idea he just wanted sex. Things started getting a little weird and he told me about having sex with someone else. I stopped texting him after that. I noticed he would log on and off Whatsapp every so often but only every few days. I thought maybe he only got Whatsapp for me and about a month later when I was feeling frisky and decided to text him and ask him how things were going. We met up, spent a few hours together getting along pretty well for a first date. I noticed he was fidgetted a lot like me and we laughed a lot. Then we had sex. I was tired and so was he. He was pretty good but he called me baby, said things like how tight my wet hole was, and asked me how having sex with him was like and how it felt to just stick my head into the bed for someone to fuck. He walked me back to my car but it was awkward and he wouldn't even look at me. I was confused and disappointed. Maybe I gave off the wrong signals. I noticed immediately when he deleted his whatsapp and didn't appear on my list anymore. I emailed him and he responded. I emailed him again and he responded. And this has been going on for a couple of weeks now. His responses have been brief and short. He has even mentioned things like "next time" and not to worry about the past. I know I should let him go but I'm feeling very sad because I thought we got along so well. He even told me he enjoyed himself. We were laughing and having fun. What happened? Should I just trust my instinct that said he just wanted sex and not feel too badly about it because at that moment when I messaged him that was what I wanted to? How do I save what little dignity I have left and just forget about him? Should I hook up with someone else?

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Why is a guy with a girlfreind flirting with me?

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I have been seeing this guy for nearly two months. I met him on Tinder and we get on very well. However he has been acting distant recently. We went with a week of no contact, even though we texted everyday constantly from the first day we started talking. I dropped him a text on Sunday asking if he wanted to meet up this week and he didn't reply, despite him being on WhatsApp so I know he got the text.

I assumed he ghosted me and accepted it as 'he's not interested' but he texted yesterday apologising for the lack of contact and said he was 'swept off his feet' and 'Hopes I am doing well'.

I really like him, however I have no idea what to reply or even if I should bother to reply.

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How do i deal with a situation like this?

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What does it mean if my ex changes profile pic to a pic I took of him when we were together after contacting me on Facebook?

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I was working in a distant city this summer where I met a guy. The rest of the summer we spent alot of time together, at the end we were furniture shopping for his new apartment that I visited everyday. I thought it just started as hooking up with a summer fling. Before I went back home, I told him that even though I thought this was just a hookup I had feelings for him now. He told me he never saw me as just a hookup but because I lived 12 hrs away theres no point. After I left we kept in touch (text and snapchat) even it seemed more from my side. Then two months later I went back to his city. I lied to him and said that I was there a day earlier (I know I shouldn't have but I didn't want to seem so despo to see him). He got really mad that I didn't see him as soon as I got to the city and only spent one night with me. The next day he was really mad and rude to me over text when I asked him when we were meeting up because he told me we were later. He said very rudely that we weren't seeing each other and have a nice flight. The next day, bc I knew he was acting out since he thought I didnt see him as soon as I came. I told him the truth. He didn't reply all day even though I texted him so many times. The next day I told him to just acknowledge what I said because I was trying to let him go. He finally texted back saying we should probably let everything go. After a few weeks of no contact, I texted him saying I liked his fb prof pic. we had a conversation and he was like "I don't want to say thanks until I talk to you for a bit." then we started snapchatting regularly (his are mostly shirtless) and have convos once in a while on text but I would be the one to text first even though replies within 2 minutes of the text sent. He currently is visiting family in another country. Yesterday he messaged me on fb (he still always calls me baby) and we had a constant conversation for 4 hours. and in it he was reminiscing about the times we were together and how we should do couples workouts but overall it was a fun convo. Its like he forgot the whole drama and "I think we should let go" thing didn't even happen.

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I met a guy at a party we exchanged numbers and I actually ended up staying the night with him in his dorm. even though he wanted to we didn't have sex because I didnt. we proceeded to text and hang out for the next two weeks and then I saw him at another party dancing and trying to make out with other girls and got mad and pretty much told him not to talk to me again. long story short I got very drunk and high and ended up going home with him again this time having sex with him. when I left that morning I knew I wouldn't see him again for about a week because we were both leaving to go home for thanksgiving break. I had little to no contact with him except for him texting me to tell me happy birthday. when I got back to school one of my friends asked me if I knew that he had a girlfriend I had no idea and texted him to confront him about it. I'll attatch our conversation. I texted him a couple times since but he read them and did not reply.

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What should I do!!! Help...

By pastel | Dec 12 2014

Been no contact with him for almost 3 months but the other day I pocket called him he text me back and sent nude pics I do miss him.

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So, met this guy in May at a club. We had amazing, unprecedented chemistry and ended up hooking up that night. This was an isolated incident, not something I make a habit of. This sex was great and we parted ways amicably. I live in Portland and he was visiting for a bachelor party but he lives in Seattle. We continued heavy texting after our hookup and I took a roadtrip a couple of weekends later to Seattle to see him. It's about a 3 and a half hour drive. I got a hotel room as he says he had a roommate who had just had a baby and he didn't want to be rude by inviting someone over to stay the night. He, however, did not offer to pay for my gas or go dutch on the hotel room, even though he stayed the night. Strike one.

Despite this, we continued texting. He was upfront and said that between his job and his training for MMA, that he had little time to dedicate to a relationship. I accepted the relationship for what it was..a fling. But as all females tend to do, I started developing feelings. I mentioned those feelings and again, he hit me with brutal honesty. He enjoyed me physically but did not know how he felt about me outside of that. Ouch! Strike two.

So, no surprise to anyone...the relationship just abruptly stops. I move on with my life and hold on to the erotic memories. Just another life lesson in what not to do in the world of dating.

A couple of Saturdays ago, he hits me up at 3 in the morning. It has been 5 months of NO CONTACT. I know what everyone is thinking...BOOTY CALL. BUT, we live 3 hours away...so what gives? I happened to have woken up shortly after he texted and thought wth? I'll see what this is about. He was apologetic about our losing contact and asked if I was still single. I had just stopped talking to someone and let him know that. He stated that had been crazy busy but he wanted to plan a visit to Portland to see me as I had driven out to see him last time. I've been hesitant but he has been persistent. Again, he talks a lot about our physical chemistry but has starting making comments about maybe "taking it to another level." When I made mention about the fact that he could probably get local ass much easier he stated "Yeah, but you are hard to give up." WTF????

The only reason he even stands a chance with me, is the insane chemistry we have between us. And we also have very witty and interesting conversations both via text and in person, so I do have some interest even though he has acted like a jerk in the past.

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Literally met the guy I wanted to be with forever when he was visiting a mutual friend on vacation. He lives in Canada right now for school but, plans on moving back when he's done with college. We decide it's worth giving a shot so we start dating. It's amazing albeit the distance. Yada yada two months in he breaks up with me because he can't handle the distance. It wasn't a 'bad' break up. There wasn't any fighting or name calling. I'm still hella torn up about it though.

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Here's the rest of the message: "but if we miss each other more than words can say and have this overwhelming feeling that we are losing what could be the most valuable person of our lives then we can put 100% into our relationship and see where we should go for our honeymoon, of course after talking to your parents :)"

I realize that the answer seems obvious, as Ive only seen this guy for two weeks, but maybe I'm wrong?? He's also divorced with a kid

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We had a seven month lasting relationship with 170 km between us. Everything was great for 4 months until he started to hang out with Mormons. I was okay with that but then things started to change, he started to change. We started to have lots of problems. He rather hung out with his church people than with me. We only saw each other like once a month. I gave him time when he asked that. We both made some mistakes. Now, the last time he was here was about a month ago and then everything was fine, he even said he wanted to move in with me. I was surprised. After that things started to really fall apart, he drifted away, I was trying so hard to do the right things - gave him time about two weeks with NC, talked calmly after that in the phone about our problems.. until a week ago last Sunday we officially broke up via phone. We both saw it coming long time ago and I think we were broken up already before, but last Sunday it happened officially.
We didn't talk for a week, and now on Friday night a drunk called him, not to get him back but to just talk. He wasn't very keen on talking and insisted that I'd go sleeping. Well, I did end the call but instead of going home I went to the train station and spent my last money to buy a train ticket to his city.
When I got to the place he was living at and called him he came out but was extremely angry. I tried to talk to him, I tried to make things right. Not to get back together. Just to end things on a good note. Maybe even be in contact sometimes.
What I didn't expect was this coldness. He was so.. numb. He didn't seem to care at all. So I ran out from his car.
I sat at a bus stop for hours, just.. thinking. Or something. Finally I called a former friend/fuck buddy who was living in the same city. I didn't know what else to do. I had stopped communication with him before I got together with my boyfriend. But we didn't end this fighting.
He came to pick me up and took me home. He stayed the night. I didn't really know if I wanted company or not.. I felt I would have prefer for him to leave but when I imagined being alone I thought this thought was much scarier.
I called my ex boyfriend the next day, I had written some questions on a paper and asked him could we talk and could I ask these questions. I said I just didn't want things to end like this. He agreed. We had a really calm and adult conversation until he asked how I got home and after hearing I got home with this friend he asked did I spend the night with him. I don't like to lie so I did say that yes.
He got furious. He said that it showed very well how much our relationship meant for me. He said that he thought I had come there really because I cared about him but now he saw it was all bullshit. I tried so much to explain him that I dealt with getting over him already during the last month of our relationship because I knew it was going to end.
He didn't listen to me, and finally ended the call though I pleaded him not to. He didn't pick up anymore.

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