By confizled | Apr 27 2016
What should I do? Why is he acting like this?
By lindasc | Jan 12 2016
Hi there! (Sorry my English is not so good, not American)
I dated this guy for about 4 months this summer, until he all of the sudden just decided it was best if we just stayed friends. This was after we had a huge fight, and I never blamed him for ending things.
I had trust issues from previous relationships and I think it got too intense for him too quickly. He also went trough a lot of personal issues with his uncle’s death and I guess he just needed some space to deal with everything.
During Christmas break, he started texting me again, saying he missed me and when I got back into the city I should come see his new apartment. He texted me on New Years, saying that he wanted a “New Years Kiss” when I got back, and it all seemed like we were finally able to hatch things out and I decided to give it a second chance.
I’ve been back for a week now.
First he said he would pick me up at the airport and I could stay at his apartment the first night in town, but of course I got a text when I arrived saying he couldn’t make it.
Then he texted me again, saying I should hit him up this weekend, I did, but he had to work, he always works weekends so I know this was a legitimate excuse.
He texted me again Sunday night, saying, “tomorrow you should come over, you would love the new place and waking up with my view everyday”, but of course he cancelled that too.
Now, I’m just so confused, why even bother texting me these things if your not going to follow trough with them?
I didn’t want to say anything to put him off and get angry, because I am still hoping I will meet him. Any advice on what to write him so he knows it’s not okay to make plans with me unless he is willing to actually meet me? I don’t want to sound to clingy and desperate, and I know if I get mad that’s exactly what I’m going to sound like.
I was thinking I should call him, and speak with him over the phone and just ask if he actually do want to meet me or not, because I feel like I need answers on why he is always canceling last minute, and quite frankly I’m walking around just waiting for him to text me again.
By luvli | Jul 12 2015
In a group chat of 5 , the friends tease me and my crush a lot , shipping us together and he doesn't deny or saying anything like "guys it's not like that, I only see her as a friend". Just recently I indirectly confessed so he knows I like him and something he said was "when (my name) confessed before you". He also does cheesy lines like "you're cute" "do you know what sounds good?...you do" He also texts me privately, but lately he just stop. He would say something random to start the conversation then ask me how my day was going or how I was doing. But he suddenly stopped yesterday and it's making me confused. Is he sending me mixed signals?
By officegirl | May 19 2015
I work with a guy who I have been spending more time with recently. We exchanged phone numbers while on a work trip (mostly for practical purposes), during which we went to a few pubs with a group of coworkers. On the work trip he came to my hotel room (nothing happened) and have been texting sporadically since. Texts aren't overtly flirty, and he says things like "I appreciate you" and "I trust you" - when we see each other, he looks me in the eye and is nice, but maybe I am reading too much into his niceness.
By emadmd | Apr 14 2015
I am in a sorta kinda friendship with a guy I work with, but I have a crush on him, and we text a lot, but I get mixed signals from him. Sometimes he gives one word answers to my texts and acts completely uninterested and some days he texts me first and sends long texts making sex jokes and flirting. What the hell?
By purplejet | Mar 26 2015
Should I message him first or should I wait for him to message me?
By cfriarsp | Feb 25 2015
How do i deal with a situation like this?
By perplexed31 | Feb 01 2015
He is ill and feels it's better we don't talk. This, when he barely maintained any contact over a month when we were both travelling.
By henrythoreau | Dec 13 2014
I've liked this guy for a while... we have known eachother for 2 years. we liked eachother in the beginning then I moved and he started to like other people. it got awkward, then we started talking normally again. He asked my advice on other girls. Now he says he's just going to wait for love to come to him. We're talking like best friends but idk. One night *halloween* he drank a little bit and texted me. *He never drinks his friends made him that day*. during the conversation he said "I miss you" and he asked if we could call eachother some day. *we never called eachother before* we ended up calling eachother. Then a while later we kind of just drifted apart and texted on an off. I got mad and texted him, "i don't need temporary people". He called back and said, wait what is this about...?" and i felt bad so I pretended it was meant for someone else. Then he said, "OMg thank god, you flipping scared me!"
By ashb | Dec 10 2014
I met this guy on Badoo and we agreed to have a friends with benefits relationship because I'm leaving in a month and he wasn't interested in committing to a relationship. We had sex for the first time yesterday which we both enjoyed a lot. We text each other every day saying "hi, how are you? What are you doing? And goodnight" we also use a lot of hearts, neither of us have started seeing another boy/girl but we both talk with others on Badoo.
By paula_2 | Nov 10 2014
I've been texting a guy back and forth for about 3 weeks. I finally decided to ask him if he wanted to hang out and he replied:
"Sorry I just got home and ate but yeah sure I might not be able to for a bit since I have layout for yearbook all week and work this weekend but yeah totally"
I told him to let me know when he was free so we could hang out- this was only last week, we continue to text but he hasn't said anything
By ninja15 | Nov 10 2014
So, I have been texting this guy I met on OKC for about 2 weeks. I loved our conversations and even when I would text short he would still ask questions to keep the conversation going. Well he asked to meet up and we did. He is 34 I'm 27. First date was great and at the end of the night he didn't kiss me, which is fine I'm guessing he was trying to be a gentlemen. The whole night he kept telling me how pretty I was and how we had a great conversation. Well when I left he told me to text him when I got home. I did and I said "thank you for tonight I had a really good time and would love to hang out again" he replied with"me too thanks for coming out. We shall plan something"the next day we texted and he asked how my day was going and I haven't heard back from him since.
By krackrock | Nov 09 2014
I got a text from a dude I was hooking up with saying he may be entering a relationship and probably shouldn't see me "for the time being" and then went on to say he wants me to know that he really likes me and he's just confused about his relationship status and doesn't want to be disloyal or w.e.
By ninamarieninamarie | Nov 07 2014
Long story short: Met a guy over the summer. After about 2 months, I ended up falling madly in love with him. I never expected it and I didn't want it to happen but it did. I ended up showing signs of my feelings towards him and he bailed. We weren't "official" or anything, but whatever we had together, he ended. I was really bummed but I tried to just move forward and let him go. A month went by and he texted me. He said he just wanted to say hello and wanted to see if I had hooked up my tv yet. (While we were still seeing each other, I bought a new TV that he said he'd set up, but we never got the chance.) I told him that I hadn't hooked it up yet and he offered to do it for me. I said no because I just couldn't see him at that time. I felt like it would be a tease. He ended up being honest with me and told me that he had to walk away because he knew that I had developed feelings for him and he didn't want to hurt me. After all that, we just kept texting for a while goofy, funny stuff back and forth. Then I didn't hear from him again for a few weeks. On halloween, I sent him a "happy halloween" text and never heard back from him. Then a week later (today) he texted me again, asking how I am and how everything is going. I'm really confused. I'm trying to get him out of my head and move on, but he is the one that always seems to text me. I never initiated anything once he ended it.
By healingtheheart | Nov 01 2014
23 year old female here and single mother to an adorable 2 year old boy.
First time doing this. From the very time, since I've met this guy. I've obsessed with googling for answers and advice on what to do next and how to behave. I wanted to do all the right things to keep him around. I can say, at first it was working. It was exciting. But now I need to start finding some real answers of my own. Because I really like this guy. But the situation has become so complex. I've walked away from him. Hoping to still see him again soon.
We started of as casual sex friends.
Yes. We slept together the first time we met. I'm a very love at first sight kinda girl, I know what I want. I know what I like. I don't beat around the bush. And at the time I was 50/50 on the whole you sleep with him straight away, he'll disappear thing. Risky. I know. But I could tell those kinda guys from a mile off.
And it just felt right with him because he was older. And his fine as hell. It's been 2 years. Why not have a bit of fun? No strings, no commitment. Sounded like were I needed to be. Just let go and let flow.
I created an online profile 4 months ago. It was site for socializing. Making new friends. This guy caught my attention.
35 years old. Didn't really check his whole profile. Just saw the profile pic. Nice. Physically. My type. The age. Wow. Never ever engaged with a guy that age. But age is nothing but a number to me. And always found guys my age very young minded. Especially in the mother hood department. I was looking for mature friendships. We got talking for a couple of days. I wasn't taking the whole online thing serious just wanted to meet people out of my parenting life. He asked for my number. I gave it. Just like I'd given other people my number on the site.
We still continued talking online.
Then one day he asked to meet me. He called. And broke down his situation. He works 2 jobs. Lives with flatmates. And has 3 kids, by 3 different women.
An added equation. He was french. And his accent was so irresistible.
I don't judge. I did hesitate. Like wow 3 women? Will I be the 4th? But I'm very understanding, that it's not always the man's fault. I started looking up people with multiple women and kids. Seems the world is filled with it.
My son was at my mum's and she was dropping him early morning before work. So I had some free time. He came over. We talked. He explained the whole 3 women situation. (And what his told me on other times we've met.)
His son is 12, his daughter is 14 his youngest is 3 months(:-0) He loved and was married to one of the women. And with his youngest. It wasn't planned. And he wasn't in a relationship. His a great father to all his kids. And works hard to provide for them. I have seen this for myself. On one occasion he sent me a picture of his daughter at his place. He would tell me his sons upset with him for not buying him a game. I could just tell he was there for his kids by what he was saying and doing. This also made him a very busy man. Which eventually showed.
I respected it. He wasn't my boyfriend. It wasn't serious.
We met once/twice a week. Other times we texted or he called.
I kept calm. I played it cool. Because I did understand he had important responsibilities. So did I. Hence, why things between us couldn't be too serious.
He would often confide in me about his work problems and how important his work is. He'd tell me about his relationship with his mum. And how his had a hard life. He would come from work to see me. I would be on the phone to him that whole time. Even when he was dropping his daughter to her mum's.
One time I cooked for him and his flatmates.
I've been to his flat enough times to know I was the only girl he was seeing.
I never indulged in him to him. Although, I could feel myself slowly faking it. The more I saw him, the more I wanted.
He started helping me out with my music passion. Introducing me to his flatmate who had music connections. And wanting to be my manager. I couldn't get a sitter one day and he insisted on babysitting my son, while I did music with his flatmate. We were going to start a business. I was trying to look to the future and hold on to business and pleasure friendship we had.
Until one day I couldn't hold back anymore. I couldn't stand hearing him say, that his been honest with me and how he couldn't be what I wanted him to be. What he was saying and what he was doing didn't match up. He was giving very mixed signals. I told him to f off and I called him a biatch. Emotions started to take over.
I apologised for.the rude words. I didn't want anything too serious, just wanted to know he felt the same. And we were on to something.
I did take my son with me that day. Will never do something like that again tho. My son cried the whole time and didn't want anyone else but mummy.
I told him I wouldn't do that again and he didn't really help that much. But then again he couldn't because my son wouldn't let go of my leg. He said he accepted my situation and did wish he could do more things with me, but understands its difficult for me to get sitter sometimes.
This week I text him saying I have to walk away. Even from the music thing. I started to expect him to b there on a Tuesday evening. (We have spent the day together as well. He would ask me over during the day.) Or waiting for him to surprise me in some way.
I haven't seen him since a week ago. Since meeting him. I've never gone a week without seeing him. I've never gone a weekend without talking to him. But I had to walk away for my sanity. But Since I text him saying it's over. He never text back. No call. Nothing. We talked that day and he knew I had a sitter and was flexible. It's been a week and nothing.
I'm so confused, obsessed, hurt. I feel in denial.