I'm not very active on the online dating scene but I met a guy on cougarlife.com and we hit it off right away. In fact, we were both totally caught off guard by how well we were getting along with similar interests, cultural background and personality traits. We met up within 2 days of connecting online. I was inititally hesitant since being a full-figured woman doesn't always translate into a successful first meeting. I made sure he knew what I looked like before we met so we shared pics (full length ones!) before meeting. Things went great on our 1st meeting and clearly we had a strong connection. He said multiple times that this is just casual, all fun and games...nothing serious etc. and I told him multiple times that I was on the same page! We had an intense makeout session before parting ways for the night. Later that night, we had a long sexually charged conversation and the same the next night. I suggested twice that he come over to my place so we can "hang out" . They were last minute but I felt that's the idea behind this...it's not a proper full-on dating -leading-to-commitment relationship.I knew what I wanted so a couple of days after this, I told him let's meet and have some ground rules for our little fling. Honestly, I was anxious to get things going or not...so we didn't waste our time....And here's the response I got:
" lol thats a long ass message. I felt bad after how we talked the first time we met. I might have gotten a bit drunk to say that stuff. Dont think Im a player :p I dont sleep around with a lot of women. Only some id actually click with . However I do find you a nice person. And I would lole to see you again. As for sex, lets not get into that for now. If it happens later, it happens.
hope you understand. And sorry if you feel I led you on. "

I responded to this saying glad we sorted this out now. He responded saying:
" yes. But dont take it the wrong way. Im not ignoring u or its not that i dont wanna see you at all. It would be nice to see you whenever we can."

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His actions are confusing me: he's so hot and so cold! Help!

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I met this guy on a dating app and we're supposed to meet up tonight

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I've recently joined Tinder, and I met a guy I really think I like. He's quite a bit older, which I like, and we've been texting quite a lot. My question is - if he's interested in me from the beginning would he make it obvious straight away, or would he spend time "sussing" me out? He has no problem flirting with me, or asking for pictures, but I hate that our conversation still feels superficial. He doesn't give any personal information, and he doesn't ask, and when I ask he gives me one word answers. Am I reading too much into this or is he 'just not that into me'?

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I met this amazing guy online about a month ago. We clicked pretty well, and soon exchanged numbers. We've been texting non stop since we met online, and even video chatted a few times. On each video chat, he asked when we would be able to meet and where. We decided on the museum and the date was yesterday (we both have a love for museums). We browsed through the museum for like an hour with little conversation (we are both a bit shy, and there's only so much you can talk about there lol). Before I was able to ask to go to lunch or get some coffee together, he got a call from his mom and asked if he could take it. I agreed and he left my side to talk to his mother. After, he returned to me apologizing. He said that his mom wants him home now since he didn't complete his chores (??? He's a 19 year old boy), but he seemed genuine in his apology. He said that he would text me later to set up another date, but he has to go. ---

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He sent a blunt reply to my message

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He always texts & never calls despite my expressed request that he do otherwise. Is he a degenerate, trying to get a rise out of me, and/or not interested?

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Exchanged a few messages on Tinder, which led to whatsapp and a first date. Now we both know we will be away for Easter...

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I have been dating a guy for about 1 month from Tinder. Once we got exclusive I asked him to not have dating sites on his phone. He said he deleted them off his phone, but while 'checking' on him after a few weeks it said he was on '15 minutes ago'. I confronted him about it by showing up the screen shot, after he denied it. I felt so hurt and sad that he said one thing and did the other. I have really deep feelings for him, but I told him if he wants to be lovers or friends, because both come with differnt rules. He says lovers, but I want to be friends, but I dont want to loose him. I told him everything and he got defensive so I am giving him time to think about what I said and process his feelings. Yet I am being rational right? It was wrong for him to say something and do the opposite. My girl friends think I am right, and my guy friends think it is not a big deal.

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Long story short, met this guy on tinder months ago and we've hung out a fair lot at his house now and a couple of times elsewhere. I'm always initiating but this weekend gone he actually asked me to come hang which was nice. He isn't a text communicator at all! He doesn't ignore me or take ages to reply but we never have proper conversations through text. Any who I went over last night to buy a tv off his housemate (I get along with everyone real well) he asked me to stay then kissed me goodbye as he normally does. Mind you he only just started being affectionate on the couch in front of his housemates after months of hanging. He mentioned last night he wants to cut on drinking which we always do together and I couldn't agree more with myself. I wanted to let him know that I'm keen on sober hangs to seeing as all we do is drink. I sent him this today and he replied with that?! I don't know why he would reply with that it's not like we're strangers... Am I overthinking or what is this?

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I met a guy on tinder about a month ago. We messaged each other and then exchanged numbers and talked for about a week before meeting. We went out on 2 pretty great dates and continued to text most days. I recently went on vacation with my family for spring break and towards the end of it, he texted me asking to go out when I got back on the weekend. However, when I texted him on Saturday, he never responded. It's been around 3-4 days, which has never happened with us before. I'm super confused especially since he initiated the date. Essentially, I don't know whether to text back or not, or what is even happening for that matter.
Additional info:
1. He's on spring break right now, while I'm in school, but we live in the same city.
2. (Admittedly) I've checked and he hasn't been active on tinder.

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I talked to this guy online and we decided to meet for a drink.
One week later he hadn't sent me any text (and I hasn't either) so I sent him a text saying: what should I think of such a silence? He answered: what do you mean? I said: weren't we supposed to have a drink a week ago? He answered: well yeah but we hadn't set a date, wuth pleasure, when would you be available?
We decided to meet a week later but the day before the first date he cancelled, apologizing, and asked me when I would be free for a new date. I suggested we could meet another week later.
On the day of the date, I sent him a text 1h30 before the date telling him I would be on time. He started answering something (I could see the small dots moving) but finally didn't send any answer. I sent him another text: tell me yes or no so that I don't wait for you. He finally answered me 30 minutes before the supposed date time: good evening, we have to postpone, I am sorry, I am sick, I will get back to you. I haven't answered and have had no news since.

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I went on tinder date, which turned into a tinder hookup and sleepover. He text me the next morning to check I was OK and stuff but I didn't reply to his last message. I really want to hookup again because the sex was good but I'm not really interested in a relationship and I know he's not a relationship kind of guy. He's not spoke to me since the morning after. Is it OK for me to make contact with him, or is he just not interested?

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By candybutsugarless | Mar 15 2015

So we met on Tinder and I asked him out for coffee. It eas a fun date and I did let him know . He hasn't been really verbal on tinder but was different iirl. His reply to my response that the date was fun was : yea it was a good chat anyways. What does he mean?

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I've met this guy on Tinder. At first we were talking continuously and then I stopped replying him. Then after 2 months, he texted me again saying that he is still interested in meeting me. So I gave him my number. I noticed that he's not really much of a texter at the beginning and that his Whatsapp last seen was not always active.

So on our first date, we clicked very easily and we had a very fun time talking about our future and jobs and about our interests. When he reached for the bill, I didn't offer for my half and he said that the next time will be my treat (?). then after the first date he texted saying how much he enjoyed meeting me. Then the next few days we texted more often (but not everyday) and I noticed that for someone who doesn't like to text he actually start to text a little bit more with me. And then we decided to meet the weekend after our first date but then I cancelled it and say to reschedule but he doesn't reply me. after 6 days of my unrespond text, I texted him again to see if he still interested. Immediately after I said "hi how are you" and he said "oh I've been really busy this past days". Note that I know he is quite busy because everytime I text him he will be at the library preparing for interview and his assignments. And then he said he wanted to see me again. So after 3 weeks of not seeing each other we finally meet on a Wednesday. I think we got more comfortable and we had a laugh. So I offer to pay for the dinner as he paid for the last one. But he insist on paying and said I should pay for the movies instead. But in the end I pay for my own ticket and he paid for his.

At the end of the second date, he asked me what is my plan for the weekend and saying that he might be free. And so I said to him if he is free, then let me know because most of the time he is busier than me. and the weekdays we texted almost everyday and we meet again on that Saturday. I can feel that he begin to touch me and kiss my cheeks (he never did this before) so I assume he started to like me. Oh and for the dinner I offer to pay for my half and he said okay. So after the third date, I texted him saying I had a great time and he said that he regretted not being close with me, which I assume he interested in me. So it's been a week after our 3rd date and u haven't heard from him! I noticed his Whatsapp is somewhat active for someone who doesn't really like to text. But he mentioned to me before that he doesn't like to text.

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