By harley | Mar 04 2016
I met a guy just over a month ago. Made plans to meet for drinks on a Friday. Thursday before my plans in the evening changed and since we were txting he asked if I wanted to meet him Thursday evening as he was suddenly free as well. It went great. He asked me that night if we were still going to get together the next day (date of our original plans to meet) So we did. Went out for dinner, drinks, bowling and a movie. He continued to txt me and then visited on the following Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday then I was out of town over the weekend where again he kept in constant contact. We both have shared custody of children from previous relationships and so that schedule doesn't allow us to see each other all the time. He invited me out to his place to spend the night a couple weeks after we met. Then a few nights later I ended up spending the night again. He made me dinner and breakfast the next day. We spent hours playing games, having drinks and listening to music. A really great time.
Now all of the sudden in the past week he hasn't been txting and I noticed that it was always me making the first contact. Once I noticed that I started txting later and later in the day - kind of waiting to see if he was going to say hi/good morning first. He wasn't. *Note I know he has a lot going on in his life as do I but the contact was great and now its basically non-existent unless I make the contact first (then he responds almost right away)
I feel he is pulling away. There has been no talking about getting together again. Last message was good morning how's it going - he responded asked how I was - I responded and then nothing...
What do I do? I have read it is completely normal for men to pull away after first getting to know you but does that mean I shouldn't txt him at all. What if he thinks I have completely lost interest when that isn't the case. Do I question anything? Just leave it?
By vat_ever | Apr 02 2015
Hi! So I've known this guy for 4 months already and we both have never failed of not chatting to each other everyday. We have both already confessed to have feelings for each other but decided to take things slowly and not to make it official yet. He usually sends lots emojis with his messages but lately, he doesnt do it anymore. Am i over-annalysing it or is he starting to lose interest in me?
By amaris91 | Mar 18 2015
We've been seeing each other for two weeks. Out of all those days he's usually texted me first (on two occasions, I started the conversation or responded to his text from the night before) and on three days (in the beginning), there were no texts at all.
We seem to get along really well- he's alluded to other things we should do together and there's been a tone of laughing and deep convos too!
We went on three amazing dates (all initiated by him) and, at the last one, we hooked up (made out heaavilyyyyy but nothing below the belt). He texted me when he got home right away- I responded and he replied with a sentence that I didn't need to reply to... so I went to sleep.
That was on Monday evening. It's now Wednesday morning and I haven't heard from him.
By caryd86 | Mar 09 2015
We both swiped right. We talked for three days straight and discovered that we share a love of tennis and acid jazz. He kept saying again and again that we should hang out right away. I kept saying again that I was going to my dad's cabin for the weekend and we'll hangout when I return but I didn't commit to a solid plan. We chatted a bit. Then he stopped replying. That was Wednesday and I haven't heard from him since. He has been online on Tinder since. It's Sunday evening and I'm heading back to my house tomorrow.
By dancer11 | Feb 09 2015
So I've been worth this guy for 6 weeks. I met him on tinder and we've been on 2 dates so far. We have so much in common and we truly understand each other. The only problem is right now he's a freshman in college and I'm a senior in high school... So communication has been limited these days. I understand he's busy with balancing school, a job, family, and friends. I'm worried that he's losing interest because he's so busy! I'm just not sure if it's a great time for a relationship right now :/
By breadsticksandbeans | Feb 08 2015
I met a guy online about two weeks ago and went on two dates with him last weekend. Both dates seemed to go very well: he bought me a few drinks (coffee and beer), we had strong chemistry, deep conversation, some flirty teasing and kissing but no sex.
We texted a ton leading up to the first date and it turned out we have very similar values and life goals, which made both of us pretty excited. He gave me quite a few compliments on my personality and there was a lot of anticipation leading up to our first in-person meeting, the most anticipation I've had over any guy in a long time. Since the dates though, the amount of texting has gone down significantly.
On Monday, he texted me asking for my honest opinion of him after the two dates. I told him I think he's handsome and fun and that we have strong chemistry, then I asked his opinion on me. He said he could tell I was very nervous in the beginning but he liked that I was much more relaxed later, then he asked why I was so nervous. I told him I didn't want to come off too awkward in person and I was worried about that disappointing him.
I haven't heard much from him since then, except for on Wednesday when I texted him just to say hi. He responded pretty quickly but no real conversation came of it. I know he has a super busy schedule during the week though and he mentioned during the dates that his 23rd birthday is this weekend and he has a lot of plans with his friends . When I said on Monday that I'd like to go out again, he just said he won't be available for about two weeks.
By startupwoman | Feb 07 2015
So basically I went on two dates with this guy. The first one was 6 hours long and the second 12. It was a great time we have a lot in common and we have been texting for a while now. Also, we met on coffee meets bagel, a dating application and coincidently he is like a friend of a family friend.
My question is this: he asked me out and now he has to let me know? Isn't that weird? Is this conversation weird? We haven't talked in days after texting everyday.
By brunettegal10 | Feb 06 2015
I met a guy online and we recently had our fourth date. The first three dates were great, and this past weekend we just met up for lunch because I had a big exam to study for so we kept it simple. I wanted him to see my place so he came over for a bit but nothing happened because I just had to grab my stuff to go and study. He did say in the end that it was fun and we kissed and all. We texted a bit afterwards and I said one of the texts he sent was a bit dorky. He said "Ouch" and I apologized and said I would make it up to him. He has not replied. He knew I had my exam today, so maybe he did not want to bother me. But instead I have just been wondering as to why he has not texted me back.
By krisrobinson | Jan 26 2015
Do I still have his attention?
By hey1206 | Dec 19 2014
Started talking to this guy I met online last year. We texted almost everyday. He was very nice and we had a lot in common. He always wanted to meet up but I would always blow him off. (Totally my fault, nerves got the best of me) We continued to text for months until he got fed up and stopped texting me, which I understand. I reopened my account this year in which he messaged me and we resumed texting. It seemed like he was still interested in me but this time around I have been initiating conversations and wanting to meet up but he doesn't seem to want to. Which I get because I never met up with him last year. We've had deep conversations and I always got the vibe that he was into me and I seem to like him. But now, he'll go days without texting me, not respond my text or when he does he says "hey babe" and I reply but then he doesn't reply back. Seems like all of a sudden he lost interest in me.
By lauyo | Dec 13 2014
Here is the deal. I met this guy in Tinder two months ago, we soon started to text, and we kept doing it for more than a month. After that we went on a date and had sex. We both were still on Tinder. He's amost 40yo and super busy guy, so another month passes and we had another date two days ago and we ended having sex again, still I thought we were good friends sharing experiences and texting each other in our loneliness times. But last night (yes after only one night that we had sex) he unmatched me in Tinder.
By chloe_4 | Dec 08 2014
I'm 17. I've been 'dating' a guy for roughly 3 weeks but because I didn't actually want to be in the relationship I've been really cold and distant to him. Consequentially (it's my fault I think) I have more conversational and general chemistry with every other guy I know than with him. He probably feels really weird about it, because it's quite noticeable. I'm feeling pretty guilty and want to invest a bit more in the relationship. Now he's just gone overseas but hasn't messaged me yet (it's been a two days since). I should mention every time I see him he wants to make out, I don't know if this is his way of trying to force intimacy because of the lack of connection or if he is really horny or something? Also, he never compliments me on physical attributes (even though every time I'm out other guys do?) or anything meaningful....
By veggiehugger | Nov 23 2014
Ok so met this guy through a mutual friend a month ago. We hit it off really well that night and stayed up talking and eventually fell asleep cuddling on my friends couch. It was very sweet. He didn't try to make a move on me or anything like that. So he got my number and texted me the very next day asking how I was and just a general conversation. We made more plans quickly for that weekend . We went out and had a great time, talked until the bar closed at 2am and then said goodnight and parted ways. We didn't make plans for the next weekend because we both had our children but he texted me just about every day. Then last weekend we went out to see a band at the bar with his friends but left early and went back to his house to watch a movie. We had an awkward run in with his mom but she was very nice and seemed to know who I was. We ended up making out through the movie, which was the first time we had even kissed. Things got pretty hot and I ended up giving him a handjob/he fingered me and we cuddled afterwards. In the car on the way home he mentioned that he thought things got pretty intense, and I'm not sure if he meant it in a good or bad way. Anyways we said bye and he gave me a kids and said he would text me the next day. Which he did. But then halfway through the week he just stopped texting me, which has been unusual for him. I texted him one time and the conversation didn't go much anywhere. And he just never tried to initiate another conversation. So this morning I just sent him a "hey...you still alive over there?" And he was like "yeah I'm at work I'll text you on my break." But that was 6 hours ago and he has yet to text. I'm obviously not texting him again, I'm just confused.
By sarahrepp | Nov 17 2014
I met this guy about 6 months when I was in a play and he was the stage manager. I became pretty good friends with him, but I was interested in this one guy in the play with me so I didn't think of being anything more than friends with him. 6 months later, I have just gotten over the complicated relationship I had with the actor guy, and my stage manager friend has really been one of the main reasons I have gotten over it. He's in my French class and he sits across from me, and he started playing footsie with me under the table and everybody in the class thinks that he's crazy about me. We're always either snapchatting each other pictures of our pets or joking around with each other. Our conversations have never gone in-depth, but I know that he had also liked a girl a few months ago and at first I was hesitant about liking him because I wasn't sure if she was in the picture, but I found out she's been dating someone else for a while now. We've just started doing crew for a new show together, and although he's still being flirty he has started to tone it down. We went from nonstop talking to him reading my texts and not responding half the time and him spending more time looking at his phone rather than talking to me, and I'm not sure if that means anything. I don't think anything has happened that would make him do that, but he isn't being excessive with this new behavior.
By cath_92 | Nov 14 2014
I met a guy on Tinder and began to talk to him on WhatsApp over the summer. For reasons on both our ends we ended up not talking for a bit. However, he got back in contact about a month ago. We've been talking a lot, sometimes just a bit of small talk but frequently more than this (hours at a time). I sent some (fully clothed) photos and he was very positive. After one of these long conversations he said good night and then did not reply for four days. I have seen him online but he had not looked at my message. He then replied that he was well, and asked how I was, but had been extremely busy.
By icegirl | Oct 26 2014
Theres this guy I met through Tinder and we started chatting and exchanged numbers and all that. He used to text me really often initially, like almost all day. We have been on 2 dates and he told me that he liked me and would like to date me. However, for the past 1 week plus, he has been totally MIA. Usually he would text me first, almost every day. After a period of about 4 days of silence from him, I texted him asking him hows his week going. He replied a few hours later, saying hes going on a business trip. He didnt elaborate on how long the trip was or when he was going to be back. I replied saying ok, have a safe trip! There was no response after that for about a week. So i texted him again, saying hello. There has been no response for 2 days now.