It was like a movie...now what?

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I met this guy at a wedding in July . We live in different countries. He got my number and texted me frequently. I wasn't interested, so I barely replied. In Feb, he told me he liked me and wanted to get to know me better. I wasn't sure how I felt, so I ignored him. About two weeks ago, I texted him saying I felt the same and we both agreed to get to know each other better. We've had great chats since then. A couple of days ago, we got into a tiny argument. He felt that I was trying to rush things rather than getting to know each other deeply before we get into a relationship. I apologized, and agreed with him that we should get to know each other more before diving into something quickly (we both had bad experiences in the past). This was Monday. I texted him on Tuesday checking to see if he were okay. He didn't reply. I messaged him the next day checking in again. He finally replied saying that I'm overreacting, he's busy with work, lacks sleep and that we don't need to chat daily to get to know each other.

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The question Signs or no signs What do you think...

By jadedlady | Mar 06 2016

I've got a long distance crush. Last fall we started flirting. It culminated last year with me visiting him, and us having a great PG 8-hour date (good conversation, flirting, chemistry).

He had recently broken up with someone when we went out, and had some tough family stuff going on.

Then he got busy, went sort of dark (family, work, holidays). And post date we barely connected.

Since then we haven't talked a ton. Some texts or Facebook notes every week or two.

He hasn't been to my town as far as I know. I told him I am headed his way in a few months. He wants to hang out, and is game to hang out with my friends during the visit.

Once in a while he'll send me a text. Or if I send one he responds fairly fast.

This weekend I shared something that made me think of him (neutral topic, music). We ended texting for most of the day. First time since before I visited we've had a long convo.

We caught up in detail on life stuff, and then chatted about our aspirations and hopes. Like old times. He's supportive and cheers me on, and this convo was evidence of that. One of the many reasons I like him. No signs he is dating anyone at the moment, he is in work mode at the moment and focused on his side business.

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I met this guy a little over a month ago when I was visiting friends in a state 2000 miles away. We hit it off almost immediately and got along so well that someone asked if we'd known each other before. Exchanged numbers, but then I had to return home before we could hang out again. At first the texting was somewhat frequent but sporadic, but for 2 weeks now we've texted basically every single day for hours on end, such that it's almost become routine.

The tone of our interaction has always been laid back because I initially thought he had a girlfriend and history with my friend. Turns out I was wrong on both counts (he *had* just broken up with his girlfriend when we met though). Somewhere along the line things escalated and nudes were exchanged… we've talked about our sexual preferences and such but not to the point of sexting.

He finds me incredibly sexy, which is kind of new for me because I've never seen myself in that light, not even with my previous partners. He even told me about a very vivid dream we had where we had sex, and how amazing it was. Undoubtedly the sexual attraction is there…. Even before the nudes, when we went out as a group he and I were pretty much all over each other on the dance floor. I know for a fact that we'll be having sex whenever we see each other again, and I'm perfectly fine with it.

But besides the palpable sexual attraction, we're still texting nonstop via whatsapp, except when he's swamped at work (and even then he gives me a heads up and responds to everything I say when he's more free). We talk about any and everything, and share links we find interesting with each other. When it felt like it was getting a bit much and he needed a bit of space, I gave him a breather and didn’t contact him till he reached out to me again 1 day later. We've gone back to the norm ever since.

I think he's awesome and I wouldn't mind getting into something more serious. I don't think it's something we can discuss until we see again… but then, he unequivocally blamed the distance for his recent breakup. Because of this I'm wary, but I can't help but like him.

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A guy ask me to be his girlfriend. But does not show enough interest. He would go 2 days without contact. Our conversation are usually boring bout the basics like how are u. He never ask about my hobbies or life. I told him once that he does not seem interested he quickly denied and aske to be his girlfriend. Question I'm I waisting my time. I'm talking to other guys who show greater interest but I'm only interested in him.

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Should I text him?! Does he feel the same or was it just a bit of fun?

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Why is he asking to visit me for the first time after months of "talking" long distance?

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Boyfriend is abroad and deleted every way I have to get in contact with him, without any prior warning. How should I react?

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So we live some 1,300 miles apart and met via a Facebook group in June 2014 and started talking in November 2014. He told me he liked me in January 2015 (still never having met) and I told him I liked him too.

We primarily texted each other with the ocassional phone call and became best friends over the next four months. We developed a very deep emotional connection and were serious enough to have discussed a timeline for a proposal, the type of wedding we'd each like to have, the type of life we'd have together, etc. Honestly, I fell in love with him. All the while, we had never met! (Okay, I'm totally aware of the insanity of that situation and how naive I sound for progressing to that level without ever actually meeting--or even FaceTiming--but we do have mutual friends whom I know well IRL who vouched that he was a great guy an not a psycho killer.)

At the end of April, we FINALLY met at a conference and, after the initial awkwardness wore off, acted like we'd known each other forever. It all seemed great...Until five days after the conference when he said that, even though his feelings for me had been solidified during the conference, that he just felt that the timing was off and wanted to be friends. He cancelled the trip he was going to make to visit me and meet my family and we attempted the whole "just friends" thing until I pushed a little too hard by calling him for a legitimate question that only he could answer. He told me that talking to me was just too hard and that, at most we could text every few days. In my hurt and anger, I told him that I wouldn't contact him again unless he messaged so it wouldn't be difficult for him (I caved after 8 days of no contact and complete misery).

At some point during this time, he had the idea to start a new online magazine and wanted my help with it. When we decided to break off contact he told me to run with it on my own. I told him I wouldn't do that because it was his baby but eventually was cornered into doing it by a few other friends. When I began to promote the magazine he messaged me asking to get involved and this eventually led to us having a solid working relationship.

Then came the "I miss you" message in July. So we decided to try to pick up where we'd left off. Just as we were ready to finally make things official and spend a whole week together (we would be in the same town again for another conference), he told me that he felt the timing was off still. I was sort of feeling the same way, plus things never really got back to the level of intimacy we were at before the break and I was beginning to feel confused about whether he was really someone I was romantically interested or just wanted as a very good friend.

That was three weeks ago. We kept talking to each other regularly though and helped each other through some really rough patches that came up all at once over this time. I also came to the realization that I am still crazy about him and that the wall I had put up after our initial split was what had kept us from connecting the way we had before and worked on some things that were making the timing feel off. He also worked out some issues on his end and on Saturday he suggested we try to give things a real go, dating for a year or two and intentionally not trying to rush into a super-serious commitment (i.e. marriage) too soon. I didn't give him a definitive yes but suggested I'd be open to it.

Today, he resumed his old super-sweet good morning text messages and it's felt like all is right with the world again.

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It's all so complicated and confusing. ...

By rachelclaire1 | May 09 2015

So I'm in a very confusing situation. Just under a year ago I had a pretty special intimate encounter with someone.

Unfortunately it was right before he was due to leave the country for visa reasons though he didn't want to leave at all. We began a relationship via texting and texted all.the.time. His feelings for me seemed so strong at first and eventually I started to feel the same. The texting started to taper off after a couple months. I wasn't happy about it because I loved how close we'd become but he said it was because he needed to focus on finding work and trying to find a bit of happiness in a place he doesn't want to be. He said regularly he was trying to come back to live where I live.

We still text about once or twice a week and have had many intense sexting and sometimes Skype sessions. He's said several times he loves me and tons of complimentary and affectionate language.But last week he said he's going travelling for potentially half a year. Upset, I said we need to talk about what's going on between us. We spoke for a couple hours so it's too much to rehash but he said he cares very deeply for me but there's no point coming here for a couple weeks and not being able to stay. He's traveling to put together a business deal and stay near the area the deal is happening so that he's close. I had said I was lonely and should I wait and he said he can't ask that of me. So then naturally I started to cry. But he also said he doesn't think things are any different regardless of what country he's in in terms of us communicating.

So I'm confused...he cares and wants to still communicate yet he can't ask me to wait...
What do I do?

There's obviously a years worth of communication I haven't touched on but I'd be writing for days if I try to relate it all. I'm also worried my emotions on the phone call has scared him off though after a year I don't want to have to worry about that.

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I don't know if I'm just filling a void for him since we had met and he was interested before his mom;s death or if he really does like me but is afraid of all the circumstances? What do you guys think? I'm so confused!

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I really like a guy who's friend with my male best friend, we saw each other multiple times and he was really physical, we also chatted a lot but it was mainly jokes, no deep talk or anything and I feel like I'm doing it wrong, beeing too harsh on him...
Anyway, what are the signs for you that a guy likes you ? And also, it takes two hours by train to go to his city, do you think this kind of "long" distance relationship would be worth it ?

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