When a guy casually makes a joke about sex, does that mean that he wants it? I got mad at my best guy friend because I wanted to go out tonight but he was feeling tired and didn't want to. These are some of his messages..."don't feel like I'm rejecting you haha." "I know you're thinking that I am." Then "if you want to sleep with me you're welcome haha." Is it just a joke?

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He is ill and feels it's better we don't talk. This, when he barely maintained any contact over a month when we were both travelling.

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knew this guy for a year..both going through divorces and respected each others space..he finally sent me the vibe and asked me out..the same day went on dated clicked well, we continued dating for 3 months getting along great, was even ready for us to introduce our kids into the mix..then he went cold having some personal issues..gave him plenty of space and he came back stronger, but it is alot of getting over our past damages..two years later we are still dating but still no commitment...

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So, this guy is someone who I have hung out with occasionally because we happened to have a mutual friend. We started talking to each other about a month and a half, two months ago and I can say that we do click. I openly flirt with him, he openly flirts with me, we have nicknames for each other and he did tell me about a dream he had in which he got me pregnant with his child, which was how the nicknames started (momma and daddy). He's a really sweet guy, he was strung around by our mutual friend for three years almost because he had feelings for her, so when I do try to flirt with him, he withdraws a few times but I'm patient and I get why. I don't know where it's going at the moment. I know where I want it to go and I really do like him (I myself liked our mutual friend's brother for some time) but I feel as if I get varying signals from him. He and I had a conversation a few days ago where I said I was frustrated, he got the hint that he was frustrating me, and he indeed acted concerned about it and asked me what was honestly bothering me. I didn't tell him that I like him/am developing feelings/feel a little on the fence about what we really are because I've had a guy get scared off before by me being honest about my feelings and thoughts after some time of talking. I dodged the question but now I felt like I should have been a little honest. We have an inside joke (our "child") and we can have some extremely interesting conversations but most of the time, I'm the one trying to fuel it and he's usually the one responding with one word and it makes me feel like giving up once in a while. He has let me in at some instances and I can safely say we're friends, but I recently realized I've formed perhaps a small emotional attachment. I will say, though, that we have gotten a little explicit with each other over the phone. No pictures but there has been some texting and both of us enjoy it. That wasn't the primary reason we even began talking, though, it was just because we found each other interesting. Neither of us have cars at the moment due to financially prioritizing other things but he is a measly half hour away (which is definitely a shorter distance compared to CT and CA) and he does text me a second time if I don't get back to him soon. I'm just wondering whether I'm reading things right or wrong or if his intentions with me are romantic, because he can be that type of guy. And also, I've had more relationships with women than I've had with men (he is aware of this) so I don't wanna get too hopeful about things because of any misinterpretation.

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My crush and I had a great time hanging out at an after school club. I think he likes me but is too shy to make a move. People were playing Just Dance and the only time he danced was when I did. We shared food we'd made and either sat in chairs next to each other or side by side on a table. He took pictures of just me with my camera and of just me and him with his phone and also of us with a friend. A couple of times he just snuck up on me to take a picture. We cleaned up afterward and I drove him home. It's only a five minute drive so I barely had time to get up the nerve to blurt out how I feel, so I just made small talk.

He says we are in a relationship and it's intimate, his words. He remembers everything I've ever said to him and acts hurt if I don't. Just today he mentioned the last time our club met he blew me off because we'd had a fight about his teasing me and pushing me away to test me and I made him cry. I didn't mean to. Then in my car he said the last time he was in my car I had hated him because he overslept one day this summer when he'd asked me to hang out. I got so frustrated because I love him and we've told each other I love you a lot. How can he not know? He also used to sneak up hug me every day and will hug me if I ask but doesn't offer anymore. He hugs lots of guys and girls I know he has zero interest in, so why not me? A guy friend asked me if it wasn't great to get hugs from my crush and I said i wouldn't know anymore and he said he wasn't sure I liked hugs. I told him I always do. A about a week ago we had a long tight hug and he rubbed his stubbly cheek on mine and I thought he was finally going to kiss me, but no and now I have to beg for hugs.

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So there is this guy I met like a year ago and we have texted on and off (he lives in Germany I lived in switzerland) I recently moved to Germany as well and now we are like a couple hours drive away and now we started texting again pretty regularly for like a month now and we have admitted that we both like each other but sometimes we text like 24/7 or he doesn't answer for a while and even multiple days and its whatsapp so you can tell when he has been online (which he has) and a lot (not always though) I have to text first.

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I have been dating a guy for about a month now. We went on a first date, sparks flew, we both texted each other after the date that we had a great time. Within the following week after texting non stop he introduced me to his oldest friends who said "she is a keeper don't mess it up." After that date the guy came down with a bad illness (nothing life threatening but somewhat chronic in that it isn't going away). I know he is actually sick because my mom works at the pharmacy he goes to. Anyway he is still working but just found out he is not getting his promotion, is sick and frustrated and at the same time I am younger, making more money, and doing really well. He asks me about my day everyday, he texts me first, and he seems interested. He also is nice to my parents (he has met them because he works in my town and runs into them). Whenever I bring up plans he used to say things like "when I am promoted and have a better pay check." Now he isn't making plans with me. I know he is still sick, working his butt off and exhausted. I have offered to make plans/just hang out at his place which ends up in us hooking up and cuddling. He then looks completely exhausted and like he is pushing himself to do anything.

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By cityslickergonewild | Aug 24 2014

I was sleeping with a guy for a little over two months. I'm not usually the kinda person to just sleep with someone before getting to know them but it just felt right at the time. Eventually he was spending every night at my place and sometimes we weren't even having sex when he stayed over. It got very real for me. After avoiding my feelings for as long as possible, I finally came clean and let him know that I can't keep this going the way it is or I'm going to get hurt. He gave me the typical "you're awesome and I enjoyed our time together but I just see us as friends who have really good sex" and "it's a shame it had to happen like this".

I'm a good person. I like to have fun and not take life too seriously. I'm a firm believer that a guy should be a happy addition to your life, not all of it. And I'll do just about anything for someone I care about.

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Long story short, dated this guy who's 36 yo for a couple of months then had the talk that he wasn't looking to rush into any relationship, so I completely backed off and barely message him.
Then after a week of not messaging (as I only reply when he messages) ... he just sent me "in Greece".

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I just want to know if he's interested or even cares....

By lirepourmoi | Jun 22 2014

From the first month that we've been textin I just know that I liked him. From the way he talked to me on the phone to the way he always made me laugh when we were textin each other. He's really kind and sweet but when I tell him how I feel he always says that I can't tell you or I don't know. And it's really frustrating. And it's even worse because now he has a girlfriend. He has asked me out before but I didn't know him that well enough for me to say yes. So yeah.

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I have this best friend, and we have liked each other on and off for about 4 years. Well we decided to give dating a try. After 6 months of flirting and talking he still hasn't asked me out. I got frustrated and we had a big fight, so we stopped talking. Outta the blue he texted me while he was at a party.

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I have known my crush since last year and I like him since the first time I saw him. We don't talk in real life. We are like stranger. But we always chat on fb since last march. We even exchange number. We have been chatting and texting together for about 3 months. When we were chatting he showed the sign that he like me and me too do showed him the sign that I like him. But we never confess to each other.We will chatting every day and it was always him who start the conversation first. But in the past few weeks we weren't chatting anymore.

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3 weeks ago I met this awesome guy. We spent a week and a half non-stop texting where we flirted and got to know each other. All day, every day, just ding, ding, ding, text after text. So I asked him when we were gonna hang out, so we made plans and he drove 2 hours to go out with me. We had an AMAZING time. We had dinner, got drinks, walked around, and stayed up talking till 2:30 in the morning. By that time he was too tired to drive home so he stayed over to sleep (nothing happened! Just hand holding and cuddling, nothing else!). In the morning we kissed goodbye and he left. That was on a wednesday. He texted me in the morning that he got home okay, then nothing. Friday he left on a trip with his friends, so I wasn't expecting to hear from him, and I didn't. By late sunday night, I had had enough of the silence (a HUGE shock to my system when I had become accustomed to talking to him 24/7), so I caved and texted him, asking how his weekend went. He replied with a photo of himself with his friends and we exchanged a few texts into the following day, but they didn't match the enthusiasm or the eagerness to ask follow-up questions as they had before the date-- so basically the tone changed. Instead of paragraphs, I got a few words, maybe a sentence. Then monday I told him i was heading to a bachelorette party and asked him to call me after he got off work- no response, no call. Then later that night on the drive home I texted and suggested we do something fun (I had a great date idea that I wanted to tell him about when he asked what it was- ya, I was fishing), no response till 3 days later. :-P

Now, I need to note here that this is the first guy I've been really interested in in a loooong time. The last guy I was this interested in was my ex fiance 10 years ago and we didn't HAVE texting back then, so I don't even know the rules for guys and texting (I just started reading the book). From what I've learned from friends/articles, I screwed up by asking him out first, by texting him first after his trip, and by using the word "bachelorette party" in a sentence bc it makes guys think of marriage and commitment and freaks them out apparently? (I'm hoping that isn't true, bc thats a ridiculous phobia). So now I'm completely FREAKED OUT even by the idea of texting at all since all I've done is screw things up. Steve Harvey says a real man doesn't text, he makes the effort and calls, so I don't want to deal with texting at all anymore. So I haven't responded to his last text yet (its been a day), which was a question he asked.

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I'm struggling with a relationship I've been in for over a year. A couple weeks ago out of frustration I said somethings I shouldn't have. But the thing is, it's issues I've presented to him before. The problem is, his biggest concern is throwing in the towel on the relationship. Sometimes out of frustration and repeated pleas nothing happens, even after he says he knows that's his shortcoming. Our communication is 90% text and even when I call in hopes he would see a difference... He still doesn't. He may call one day or put forth some effort but it immediately falls off. 6 months ago we spoke about and decided I would move in with him, but in those 6 months we have not communicated about plans to make this happen. I signed a 6 month lease, which is up the end of June. When I mentioned it in April that my lease would be up in June, he replied, I thought about it. But that was it. My issue is I have 2 children, 13 and 8, that I'm responsible for. I expressed to him 6+ months ago that my stability, structure, and security is a priority for myself and my kids. Reason being, during a 15 yr marriage, we didn't have that. Well in a bit of sobriety I said somethings on the eve of him planning a surprise graduation party for me. I apologized for my untimely actions, but they were my feelings. I didn't or hadn't felt like my kids and I have been a priority. I would like to include he had been without work for 8 months. And during that time I tried and was supportive in being there for him during his moments of frustration. Well now he's accepted a job and each day that he's told me he was to start the job, I find out that 'Oh I didn't stay today'. My anxiety is put the roof because I have to have a conversation with him because my kids and I have no where to go when my lease is up. There is more that I can share but I thought I'd start with the most recent issue of ours.

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I'm simply a nice guy looking for the right girl and I'm waiting for the right girl. I met this girl on tinder about 3 months ago and right away we hit it off and it felt like I've known her for a long time. We would text and I ask her a couple times over the first 3 weeks if we could hang out she said it's too soon we should wait. A couple weeks back I asked her again after just ignoring that and just texting her. She said eventually when I asked. She used the excuse of a long term relationship as an excuse and just being not ready and she claims she doesn't have any friends but I can tell just through Instagram that should does.

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