By flipphone1986 | Dec 24 2015
I'm a 29 yo female spending New Year's Eve with my boyfriend (he's also 29), at his place, after dinner out, etc., but how do I tell him I don't want to have sex with him yet? Do we talk about it after we've been out, when I get to his house, late at night? Before New Year's Eve? I'm out of town for a couple of days, so I just don't know how to handle this situation. I'm not a virgin but I like him a lot and don't think a month is enough time to know someone as a partner before I sleep with them (sex is strictly emotional for me). He's a great guy, and I'm sure he'd be fine, but I worry that he might think that's what's happening; I just don't want him to feel rejected. 🤔
By thanksfrthmmrs | Oct 25 2015
I met this guy online and we have been in a relationship for a month now. He's very kind, respectful, educated, and really cares about me. In the beginning I really enjoyed the attention and care he was giving me, but now I realized I kind of just liked the idea of him. This is my first relationship so I was floored that someone could just care about me in this way. After 3 dates and maybe 3 weeks of being with each other he told me he loved me. Recently I brought it up that I'm not sure if I love him because he said it too soon, but now I realize that I don't think I'll ever love him. We are two very different people and we have different outlooks on certain things. I also feel this relationship went too fast and I'm not ready to be with someone as of now. We've been hanging out once a week but I don't even know how to bring this up without blindsiding him. I don't want to be with him anymore.
By dew95 | Apr 22 2015
I'm not very active on the online dating scene but I met a guy on cougarlife.com and we hit it off right away. In fact, we were both totally caught off guard by how well we were getting along with similar interests, cultural background and personality traits. We met up within 2 days of connecting online. I was inititally hesitant since being a full-figured woman doesn't always translate into a successful first meeting. I made sure he knew what I looked like before we met so we shared pics (full length ones!) before meeting. Things went great on our 1st meeting and clearly we had a strong connection. He said multiple times that this is just casual, all fun and games...nothing serious etc. and I told him multiple times that I was on the same page! We had an intense makeout session before parting ways for the night. Later that night, we had a long sexually charged conversation and the same the next night. I suggested twice that he come over to my place so we can "hang out" . They were last minute but I felt that's the idea behind this...it's not a proper full-on dating -leading-to-commitment relationship.I knew what I wanted so a couple of days after this, I told him let's meet and have some ground rules for our little fling. Honestly, I was anxious to get things going or not...so we didn't waste our time....And here's the response I got:
" lol thats a long ass message. I felt bad after how we talked the first time we met. I might have gotten a bit drunk to say that stuff. Dont think Im a player :p I dont sleep around with a lot of women. Only some id actually click with . However I do find you a nice person. And I would lole to see you again. As for sex, lets not get into that for now. If it happens later, it happens.
hope you understand. And sorry if you feel I led you on. "
I responded to this saying glad we sorted this out now. He responded saying:
" yes. But dont take it the wrong way. Im not ignoring u or its not that i dont wanna see you at all. It would be nice to see you whenever we can."
By cdf | Feb 26 2015
Am I not allowed to tell my gf she's not funny in front of meeting her friends the first time?
By emdabliu | Feb 20 2015
So I met that guy a few months ago - in September. We haven't been on a real date, actually, but I'm really into him and I don't know if he likes me too or is he just kind. I'm getting really stressed when I talk to him, although I know it's very silly.
And my question is, should I tell him I'm attracted to him? Because it might be just fun for him and, given the fact that I say stupid things when he is next to me, he might think that I'm not really interested. And if I tell him that I like him, in what way should I do that? What should I tell him and when?
By curlyqsx | Dec 05 2014
We had been on a few dates and texted for weeks. He invited me over and all the sudden I was no longer a virgin. I had not expected to have sex with him for my first time! Once I had sex I wanted to try it more and more times so I stuck with the same guy. We continued or fun and agreed on the label of Fwd. Now six months later I find us talking all night. Laughing together about jokes. Spending the night and eating breakfast together. We even call each other cute names...
By brianaisabelhigareda | Nov 17 2014
Okay so I've been talking to this guy since March of this year. I met him through the family, we started going on dates in August. it was a problem of him not texting me or him not calling me. there would be times where I would text him he wouldn't text me back only thing was I never call him on the phone. We would go on a date and a whole two weeks passed and I wouldn't hear from him, I was the one always approaching him then he would approach me whenever I wouldn't text him..... Just last week I invited him over my house we cuddled watched movies and of course we had sex for the first time I wasn't looking forward to that but I really really like him I can see myself marrying him in the future and I can see myself with him.... I always tell myself he's the one.... Before we even had sex we had a conversation go on talking about where would we end up if this happened (sex) he told me he really likes me he's very attracted to me no he's not in love with me but he's not ready for a relationship right now.... He said I have a lot of my plate and you have a lot on yours I'm not saying I will never be able to Love you later on or you can also love me later from here.... He told me I don't want you to give me your heart right away cause I don't want to reject it..... He said he doesn't want to hurt me but it's weird I'm confused he told me in October he was going to commit to me that he was going to be loyal and faithful to me, why commit to me if he's not ready to be in a relationship? He said no I don't have a girlfriend no I'm not talking to my daughter's mother and no I'm not talking to anyone else you can look through my phone right now..... Anyways the day after we had sex I invited him to come with me to my family's house and he told me sorry I won't be able to I'm at the gym I have a racquetball tournament so I said okay.... Since parents wer on vacation I talked to him later that night saying what are you doing he said nothing resting how about you I said I'm here at home alone bored ALONE :( LOL he responded ( LOL good night)..... < this response. Made me feel like shit..... So I took that in the next morning I woke up called him I said do you want to come over I want to cook dinner today and It will be nice if you can come over and have dinner with me he said sorry I have plans with my family in Chicago tonight they're having dinner at their house i said oh okay. After that he never responded back I never texted him it took him two days to text me back all he said was "hey"
By itsmelydia | Oct 13 2014
Okay so here goes.
A few months ago on a quiet Saturday in the office, one of the guys asked me to come sit with him and a few others to play Scattagories (sad, I know, but it was very quiet). A few days later he caught me in the staff room and said he was impressed by my vocabulary and said we'd have to play again soon.
I had no idea he had taken a liking to me so I took no notice until a few weeks later when he added me on facebook (ah the good old fb) and immediately striked a conversation the second I accepted his request. We then spoke solidly for at least two weeks; with him starting the conversation each time. The first week was purely friendly and getting to know each other, and then there was a little bit of flirting (but nothing sexual, mind).
We also began emailing at work. I got flustered if he caught me in the kitchen and he noticed this, saying it was cute that he made me blush.
He was leaving work for uni and we all went for leaving drinks one Friday. He had to leave early for another leaving do elsewhere but called me an hour after he left saying he was going to catch a taxi back to our town because he just wanted to be with me. And when he arrived, he kissed me straight away and said 'Ive been waiting weeks to do that.'
I stayed at his that night and we got up to some things, but we didn't have sex and I didn't put out too much.
We continue to talk every day even though he has gone to Uni; a little less now (he's 3 hours away), and it's often quite sexual. I haven't slept with him yet.
Thing is, he's visitng this weekend and I'm thinking about finally giving it up... but seeing as he's in Uni 3 hours away, I'm not sure if he'll just hit and run??? He's a gorgeous, intelligent guy that I know girls will die for... do you think he's only got eyes for me or would I be putting myself at risk!?
By seventyseven | Oct 11 2014
So,Im currently dating this guy that ive knew for months. and we had sex,it was my first and and his first as well,it was occupied with shyness and we were inexperienced. but we did it again in the morning and he was getting better. but right after that,I become too shy around him like,I cant face him because I am too shy ><
By someonewhoneedshelp | Sep 24 2014
This guy and I met a year ago at uni, I wasn't feeling anything about him at first but after few parties and some drinks, turns out I was more and more attracted by him. He asked me to go to his house several times when parties were over, sometimes he is acting like a jealous guy when I'm talking with some lads. I know all he wanted was having sex with me but the fact is, I'm virgin. If I wasn't virgin I think I'd be probably having sex with him every week but I never wanted that to happen because of all the rumours...
The real problem is he's got a girlfriend, they broke up more than twice but still he must be in love with her as they are together for 2 years now.
I'm now thinking about him everyday, I completely felt in love while nothing concrete happened between us.
By gonegirl | Sep 15 2014
Been dating a guy for 2.5 months and we had a rocky start but we've gotten back on track. Our last date was drinks and then me going with him to his friend's dinner party (all ppl he grew up with). After the party i went back to his apartment and we slept together for the first time and then watched a movie. He asked me to stay the night multiple times but I chose to leave because I had work early the next day.
I didn't hear from him again until two days later at midnight in a text asking me to come over and watch a movie.(at midnight??) I told him I'm not leaving my house. Didn't hear from him for another day and half. He sends me a text at seven Sunday night asking to come over for a night cap and a cuddle? At this point i've decided not to respond because i'm starting to get a bad feeling. He text me again saying if i don't want to cuddle i should come play pool with him, his roomie, and roomie's gf.
My response: You should have opened the convo with that bit of info. I'm going to pass but have fun :)
Him: Why lady?
Me: Because its really last minute on a sunday night. Question for you though is daylight no longer in the cards for us?
He responds with a no no he really wanted to see me but he got really busy this weekend.
By caligirl103 | Sep 06 2014
I met this guy on Tinder after about a month using the app. Mostly everyone who messaged me was just interested in sex, but he just wrote some nice things and said he just talked to girls on it. He never brought up sex, I did. I told him I wanted to meet with him a couple of times and then lose my virginity and he said that sounded fine and he would never make a girl do anything that she didn't want to. We ended up sleeping together on the first meet up because my parents are strict and don't let me out a lot. Before we hooked up we talked for about a month over text and he would ask me about my life and stuff. He even offered to do my projects and homework for school because they were stressing me out. After we hooked up and I asked him to hook up again he would still text me and ask me about my life but not as often. We hooked up a total of 5 times over the summer and I found that we didn't text as much as we used to but it was still a few times. I also noticed that he would go on Tinder and snapchat girls. Of course he can have girls that are friends but I don't see why he can't also text me. Before we had our last hook up before he went back to college he asked if he could see me again during Christmas break and I said no and he said that was too bad. On our last hook up, there was a misunderstanding and we couldn't say good bye in person so we texted our good byes. He said, "I thought you would follow me in that parking lot so we could say goodbye but you kept going. We could still text and like I said whenever you come back we could still meet up if you want. If not it was good getting to know you and having fun with you this summer. It was nice hanging out with a girl like you." Then I told him that the only reason I didn't want to hang out with him again was because I didn't want to have sex with him after he had sex with randoms at college. He said, "Who knows what I'll do at college. You don't know if I will or not and I don't just have sex with people unless they are special. I mean you can have fun at school too, but if you want to that could be our last time if that's what you want to do." Then I said, "I also didn't turn around because it would upset me because I really like you which is why I wouldn't want to see you if you did stuff with other girls and I don't plan on having sex with anyone especially at school. But if you don't do anything with anyone then great, we can see each other again but that's doubtful because you're really attractive and cool." I also asked him how he knew a one stand was special because he told me about the one he had right before me. He said, "That was only once and it was before you. I won't have sex with a girl when I go back unless she is special like you and then I would want to be with. But if I don't meet anyone like that I probably won't do anything with anyone just like for the reasons you wouldn't with anyone else." So I asked him what reasons and he said, "Reasons that I think you're a really cool and awesome girl from your personality to your looks and you are just different then most girls. And like I said if I don't find a girl like that at college I'm not gonna have sex with them." We still don't text that much and he still talks to girls on Tinder. (The good bye was on August 11th). I did text him and he responded at first but then he didn't. My phone also has issues so sometimes I don't get his texts. I forgot to mention that after the second hook up I asked him what it was we were doing, thinking he would say we were, unfortunately, FWB but he said he didn't like labels but he would still see me like that by going out and stuff. I told him I didn't want to go out though because it was a waste of money. So ever ever since that time we would watch movies or TV, for a short while until we had sex.
By mpc14 | Jul 11 2014
So I've been talking to this guy for a good 7 months now. I'm a junior in college and he graduated first semester this past year from the same university. He would come back pretty frequently to see me and his fraternity brother. And we're still talking now during the summer but we haven't seen each other since April. He's invited me to go camping with his friends later in the summer. He's mentioned before that "relationships suck" and has talked about his ex's sucked, blah blah blah. Me personally I've never been in a relationship ever, and it would be nice for this "talking" actually got somewhere. The thing I'm really not comfortable with is that he wants me to send him "pictures"...we haven't even had sex, I haven't even had sex period and not comfortable with my body at all. Also, He doesn't know that I'm a virgin.
By pinkpineapple | Jul 08 2014
Been on 2 dates with this guy he told me he doesn't want a serious relationship and I said its fine, we had sex (he took my virginity) the last time, he won't come to my hometown until August so We've been texting everyday for the past weeks except for once when he took 5 days to answer a text but then he texted me back and everything was back to normal.
By andria1694 | Jun 19 2014
So basically I lost my virginity to a guy I hang out with at parties when I'm home from school and we usually just drink together. So during winter break we were drunk and the deed happened. So I went back to school and we would text every now and then and sometimes we would talk about our sex lives and he would give me advice and stuff. We share intimate details all the time and he has drunk called me many times and said some interesting things like how he wishes I would have stayed home for school and random drunken confessions. So now I'm home and we've hooked up a few times and when we hook up we usually hang out and talk too so it's not just hooking up. But when we aren't together we rarely text or talk the way we used to. We have both talked about the fact that I am going to be too busy when I leave for school to do something long distance plus I've never been super into relationships.
By stephb | Jun 18 2014
I was hoping to get some advice from you if you don't mind. So I just graduated from high school and there's this guy I've been flirting with lately. Since I'll be leaving for college soon we agreed that we wanted to just date for the fun of it and not get into an actual relationship.