I'm feeling calm and anxious. On one hand I want to be cynical, on the other I want to be hopeful. And I am both. A little bit of both. And also really chill. Like okay, I set my cards out, your turn. But what if they crumble around me. What do I do?

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I met this guy through work (we dont work together though) and recently over the past month we've been getting to know eachother.

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Sometimes I wonder if I'm the problem. I meet a guy, we hit it off and then I start fantasizing about things. I let romantic notions and ideas get in my head and sometimes it really seems like the guy is responding.

Recently I met a guy online. We were emailing back and forth for about a month. He was quite into it, sending long messages to my shorter ones and it went along really well. We exchanged numbers and chatted. Things started going downhill from there. He would send me occasional non-sexual texts and I started getting the idea that he enjoyed our conversations and maybe wanted something more. When I started reciprocating he backed off a little and I got the idea he just wanted sex. Things started getting a little weird and he told me about having sex with someone else. I stopped texting him after that. I noticed he would log on and off Whatsapp every so often but only every few days. I thought maybe he only got Whatsapp for me and about a month later when I was feeling frisky and decided to text him and ask him how things were going. We met up, spent a few hours together getting along pretty well for a first date. I noticed he was fidgetted a lot like me and we laughed a lot. Then we had sex. I was tired and so was he. He was pretty good but he called me baby, said things like how tight my wet hole was, and asked me how having sex with him was like and how it felt to just stick my head into the bed for someone to fuck. He walked me back to my car but it was awkward and he wouldn't even look at me. I was confused and disappointed. Maybe I gave off the wrong signals. I noticed immediately when he deleted his whatsapp and didn't appear on my list anymore. I emailed him and he responded. I emailed him again and he responded. And this has been going on for a couple of weeks now. His responses have been brief and short. He has even mentioned things like "next time" and not to worry about the past. I know I should let him go but I'm feeling very sad because I thought we got along so well. He even told me he enjoyed himself. We were laughing and having fun. What happened? Should I just trust my instinct that said he just wanted sex and not feel too badly about it because at that moment when I messaged him that was what I wanted to? How do I save what little dignity I have left and just forget about him? Should I hook up with someone else?

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D and I have been running into each other for years. We've acknowledged to each other that there's a connection (although we didn't specify that it's romantic). I asked him out 2 years ago but he was going through a break-up and wasn't ready. I saw him again recently at a party, we talked, and agreed to go for a walk. He mentioned it again before I left the party. I never heard from him. A few weeks after that, I emailed to invite him for a walk. Sometimes, I can come off as aloof, and I'm trying to be more direct with the people I'm interested in.

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Know this guy for about 5 + years and talk on and off throughout the years ,visited him twice in west coast and he visited me once here in east coast. I let him know last year via email not to pressure him around winter time that I was into him and cared for him , always have been since we meet one year while we both on vacation down south! He said thank you and long story short told me same thing when I visited a few years back that he has been hurt and doesn't give up his heart that easily but that he cares about me too

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I began talking to a guy online in early October. Because of a new job I accepted, I had to leave the state for training and did not return until early November. We maintained contact the whole time and I finally met him late November. We have had 3 dates in that time. The dilemma is this: he travels every other week for work and then the other week he has his kids from Wednesday-Sunday. That means realistically we are only able to meet every other weekend and maybe in the future as we get more serious during the week I would assume. Anyway, 3 dates thus far and I can sense he is pretty into me. He asked me earlier this week to see me this weekend when he returns from his most recent trip. I agreed. We planned to see each other Friday night after his flight lands and spend the day together Saturday. All day Tuesday he was telling me how much he missed me and couldn't wait to see me again. This was really a first for him to be THAT sweet as he normally isn't gushing about "missing me". So....yesterday at lunch I get an email stating I am REQUIRED to work this Saturday, I had no clue I would be required to do so. I get very upset because I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and now here I am having to cancel the Friday/Saturday plans on him. I text him : I just got an email saying I have to work Saturday. He responded : "Ok, no worries, we can catch up after the holidays. :) "
My problem is I got very upset. Why? Because I thought "Well, why didn't he ask to see me Saturday night or Sunday?" As we have hung out on Sunday before. I sent a somewhat pissy text back saying I'd see him next year then. He replied with, are you free Friday night? And I just simply told him "no". He said he would like to see my Saturday if I can fit him in but he is leaving Sunday to travel home for his vacation (I assume he means travel home for the holidays).

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A guy contacted me on a website and after a few emails asked me out on a date. We had a lovely time on the date and he asked if we could meet again and if it was alright that he called me after his gig that same evening. I said sure. The date ended with a kiss.

The rest of the evening he texted me, asking if he could come over later that night. I said that any other night but not this one because I had an early appointment for a job interview the day after. We agreed to get together a few days later. He writes he'll call after work the day after and we continue to text during the evening. He is really flirty and a lot of "kisses and hugs". I flirt back.

I send him a text the day after, when I haven't heard from him to ask if he got home alright as he had an one hour drive back to his place. He responded (translations from my native language):
"Yes I did! Sorry for not being in touch today. I was called in at work so I'm at work the whole evening. I also worked the whole day at my regular job."

I answer him: "I'm glad to hear you got home safely :) You get back to work and then you rest and we'll be in touch when you're able to. Hugs"

Late in the evening the day before our second planned date he texts me: "Hi, I totally forgot that we had a Christmas party at work tomorrow evening and I'm working the whole weekend. The week after I have my daughter. It is a lot going on right now so I talk to you another day. Kisses and hugs darling"

I answer: "Okay, I sort of got that feeling from you last text so I started to plan another thing for tonight. I truly hope you get a lovely evening! Hugs"

Then silence.

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I went on three dates with this guy after meeting six months earlier. When we first met, there was incredible chemistry between us. We met at a social event and nothing happened. And I had a boyfriend and we live far from each other.

Fast forward six months. I went to his city to visit my sister and asked if he wanted to meet up. He was super enthusiastic. He rearranged his whole schedule so he could see me before a flight. We kissed that night.

He visited me a month later and we had a great time. We exchanged emails and phone calls and had beautiful conversations. We both confessed that relationships are challenging and that the distance would be difficult. He told me that he has a really hard time being vulnerable.

He asked me if I wanted to go on vacation with him and I said yes. He came to visit me again and we had a great time together.

We texted monday and he was super sweet and we made plans to finalize our trip on Tuesday. but when I texted him on Tuesday, he didn't respond. I wrote him a thoughtful emailing saying it's okay if he feels like the trip would be too much too soon. I told him I could come to his city and stay with my sister and we could see each other or go on a short trip together. Still nothing.

I can see on WhatsApp that he has seen my text and he has been online since then.

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Let's call him John. He was my student (in two different subjects) while I was teaching in the university several years ago; I was in my mid-20s that time. In our 5-6pm class (Anthropology), he always volunteered to carry my books for me or whatever stuff I was carrying back to the faculty room, and sometimes he would stay behind to ask some questions about the lectures I gave. More than a year later, John and I went out with two other close student friends of mine (a guy and a girl). They were graduating that summer. The others said that John had something to tell me, but couldn't. From the way they teased him, I felt I knew what it was about. We went to a karaoke bar and had a few beers, but he still couldn't muster the courage to tell me. They slept over at my place, I cooked them breakfast and they were off. By that time, I had my son with me (from my ex-husband), and I already had a boyfriend who wasn't living with us. Fast forward, about three years later, we meet again... John, myself and the other guy student who was with us earlier; the girl couldn't make it coz she was working in another city. There was a festival that time and we ended up going to a number of bars. John was already married. I knew about this because a mutual friend of ours was in touch with us both and she told me. John only knew the girl for about a month when he got her pregnant. She was from Chicago though her parents were the same nationality as us. We are Southeast Asians. Anyway, so they had to get married. Actually, I met John one time when he was with that girl (not yet married) and I was pregnant with my daughter (with my boyfriend). We were living in the same neighborhood when he went back to the city I was living in for further studies (grad school). Anyway, back to that night of the festival, John's wife was in Chicago and he was still finishing his master's and supposed to migrate to the US that year in July. We were quite drunk and were dancing. The other guy left us to talk to some former schoolmates he saw, so it was just John and me. He started asking me about my relationship, how I was and the kids. By that time, I had already broken up with my daughter's father for more than four months. So I told him. Then he asked me if I knew he named his daughter after me. I was stupefied. We danced and talked and drank some more. We went to a hotel and did it. It was very intense... built up after years of waiting on his side. From there, i embarked on a full-fledged love affair "with an expiration date" I always said. My friends knew, and his friends knew. He was leaving in July and I told him I wanted a clean breakup in May. He reluctantly agreed. We were very happy. But in my mind I was tortured by guilt and the thought that ours would have a definite ending. By mid-May, I broke up with him. He still continued to text me... and call, though I usually did not answer. He gave me a gift he bought when he went to one famous island with his friends. I gave it back through his bestfriend, including the letter that came with it... not because I wanted to be mean and hurt him. I couldn't bring myself to destroy them or to throw them away; I couldn't keep them either. He stopped trying to contact me after that. Two days before his flight, at dawn, he came to my place and we made love. That was the last time we saw each other. Through the years, however, he kept in touch... through occasional emails (on AOL - but I had since stopped checking when I forgot my password), on Friendster (remember? before Facebook and Twitter?), and by phone where John would call or text me out of the blue, asking about my life, the kids, etc. Now, more than ten years after we last saw each other, John told me he is divorcing his wife. He has two kids like me. He told me he will come to see me here in Dubai (where I now work - been here for 8 years) on his way to our home country where his parents are. This year he had been fairly regular in his communication with me, and he confessed about three months ago how he regrets not waiting for me to be free. He said he wasted so many years waiting because he himself was not free in between. I love him. I loved him before, in those few months we were together. I had boyfriends in between. When he came back into my life early this year, I had been without a relationship for over a year. I believe my mind is clear, and I know I love him. But our journey will not be an easy one. He has his divorce and I have my annulment (from my ex-husband from whom I have been separated from for more than 12 years) to take care of. He will only be in Dubai for 25 hours. Then for another 8 hours on his way back from home to Chicago.

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So there was a conference in my college about a program of google and a guy from the school is the ambassador for that. I found myself interested on him and the program, of course. So I decided to contact him and ask for information.
When I got his e-mail from a teacher I contacted him and ask him if he could talk to me about the program. He answered me the next day and told me that of course he could, that we should do a videocall for that. So when that day came he presented himself to me and explained the program, always rubbing his chin and smiling to me. When he finished he asked about me and told me that he couldnt believe he has never seen me before. And then he invited me to form of his team of the google program and, obviously, i said yes.
We have been texting on whatsapp, with me almost always initiating the conversation.
We made another videocall last week and he looked for me one minute before the time we schedule, and since then he had initiated some texts.
We met in person for the first time this monday because he was going to make a conference with the group of marketing and i was going to help him. When he arrived and saw me, he smiled and waved at me giving me a kiss on the cheek. He teased me about being afraid of giving the presentation and joking about me being the one to gave it instead of him.
He brought some gifts from google to giveaway to those from the public who participated on the conference. When it was done, out of nowhere he grabbed a pretty bag where the gifts were and said smiling that it was for me, i smiled and said thank you.
When each of us went to our respective classes, he send me a message asking me what i thought about his presentation and i said it was pretty good, good job.
After that we schedule to see each other today for him to give me some pamphlets 3 days later but he didnt arrived on time and told me that he was sorry but that he got stuck on traffic, and that he forgot the pamphlets too. So i told him if we could see each other on monday and he said yes. Later that night i asked him if he could help me by giving me a course about google drive just to me because he is going to give one for a group of students but i cant make it on that time, and he said of course. I told him thank you so much, you are good; and he respond me with a winky face.
What does that mean?

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This is not a text. It is e-mail. But I hope the same "rules" apply.

We dated four years ago and we are at a point where we can chat with each other just fine. We only talk maybe every couple of years though. He sent me an e-mail last week saying we should have a chat sometime. And now...

Me: What happened with that chat you mentioned in your last e-mail? :)
Him: I thought you were avoiding me! I asked you when you were available and you didn’t reply
Me: Did you? Oh sorry, I thought you had just say lest have a chat and I then nothing...haha. Phone or want to catch up and see if we have aged at all?
Him: I have certainly aged. :) Maybe a phone chat so my partner doesn’t have to rest uneasy.

Never mention of a girlfriend before and he has always been cagey about the topic.

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This guy and I we met last year at work. And 2 weeks into it we started hanging out. We started hanging out at his place as well. I drive his car home, as well as his mum's car when his is at the workshop. We go everywhere together - we are always a pair. I've met his closest friends and his family members as well as his cousins. We went for our first vacation in May and that was when I told him that I have feelings for him. Ever since then he has been more dear to me and I guess slightly paying more attention to me as well. But not long after we had a talk about the feelings and he said he doesn't have any. But I didn't give up and we still hung out. We'll nap at his place after work usually with me hugging him from behind. And about 2 months ago we had a talk about it again and he hugged me. Later when I got home I emailed him expressing some things that I didn't say and thanked him for the hug as well as told him that I enjoy hugs. Since then, he has been hugging me a lot especially when we're sleeping. The confusing part is that I'm still unsure if this is leading to a relationship or am I being used. He has made plans to migrate and he involves me in the plan. He is sort of lifeless when I am away. Like when my sister came back for a short vacation and I told him I won't be hanging out at his place he actually asked "if you stay home and hang out with your sis then what am I going to do?" He'll also Whatsapp me randomly and he is really all nutty and crazy with me. He behaves totally different when he is with me. He becomes a very jolly and youthful person and we are always laughing. We have had several disagreements or serious discussions but we have never raised our voice and argue or fight. I really like him a lot and there is a possibility that I actually already love him very much too. Oh.. he is also 9 years older than me. He has changed a lot recently for me. Keeping his distance from flirty colleagues, staying in with me after work when I get off at 10pm (he'll actually nap in the car while waiting for me). Even the other day in front of our General Manager he placed his hand on my knee and our GM actually went "Aww.. look.. so sweet.." Everyone thinks we're a couple and everyone calls me his gf. He has never denied it. At the start of everything we tried telling people that we're not together. I will still deny even now but he doesn't at all. I'm getting very uncertain about the migration as he said see how things go once we have migrated. But for me, if we're going to migrate together as friends, then might as well we just go separately on our own considering the fact that we're migrating as friends and only deciding later whether we should be a couple. There's no doubt he wants me to go with him and I with him but I'm definitely not sure if he has serious feelings for me or he is just stringing me along as a comfort zone because things are gonna be really easy.

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By ladyinky | Aug 16 2014

I joined an online dating site on Sunday. Guy emailed me the next day. Since then he has emailed me 4 days. They are not your basic "hey, what's up" lazy emails. They are in depth, long, get to know me emails. Telling me about himself, asking me multiple questions about myself, very well thought out emails that show that he took the time to read my page and cater the emails to what I had listed on my profile. I like him based off of what I know and I am excited to get emails from him. However, I have noticed that he looks at my page frequently. He looked at my page twice before he ever emailed me. 3 times on Wednesday and again today. After all those views, why is he still looking at my page?

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Is he not coming back this time It sounds like he's happy with...

By lovesmelovesmenot_2 | Jul 20 2014

I lived with this guy for a year. He was always insanely jealous of other men and broke up with me almost every month for about a week. This time he said he didn't live me and although he was mad he's never said that before. He also met a girl and is with her now. Three weeks later I received an email saying how happy he was and how he was doing things to get his life together. I wrote him an email telling him to stay away this time and I wasn't taking him back and that we didn't love each other as it was always drama. He got in I got the second yesterday saying again how happy he was and that he did love me (past) and he wanted us to be friends or something (his words) in the future. I am concerned as he hasn't come back this time. I always try to be understanding and I want him happy but feel really sad.

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I was chatting with this guy from an online dating site last year. From there we began emailing each other back and forth on a weekly/monthly basis. I posted a pic of some of the highlighted comments from his various lengthy emails. Even though he lives in another country, I wanted to give it a chance of getting to know someone new, whether romantic or not. If there were any creepy/warning signs, I knew I can back out anytime. We would send each other pics in emails, but I still wanted to make sure he is real so I googled him and turns out his full name matches his pics so he seems legit. We continue exchanging emails up till april, the last email he sent me was that he has been busy and wants us to skype. So I replied telling him I barely know how to use skype but we can still do it and asked him if he wants to do it that week or next time he is available

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I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He has asked me to marry him numerous times but after a month he relapses into his old ways and takes off and I don't hear from him for a week and only be email. In his emails he always states how sorry he is for leaving like that and states how much his heart hurts when he thinks if us not being together. I know he's done this exact thing in every relationship and takes off on his friends and family. The last couple if times he has been staying with a woman who allows him to do what he wants and is sleeping with her. I know he has nowhere else to go which is part of the reason I take him back but it kills me every time. This last time I'm finding it hard to cope and could really use some insight into why he's doing this. He went away for a month and a bit and wrote to me daily and know he hasn't spoke to her. He claims he loves me and he gets physically ill when he thinks of us not being together but can't stop this need of going back to his old habits.

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