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What is his deal...

By eswain | Jan 22 2015

So two weeks ago, I ask my coworker if we could hang out. He asks me to lunch, and I said sure. We were still on, until I started talking about my husband, whom I'm divorcing.

He backs away fast and asks if it could a group thing...that same day, we admitted we like each other.

But then, he declines the other people I invited. His reason; he's busy with college this semester as he's suppose to graduate in May.

Okay. So, I'm working through my divorce, and in the midst of talking to him, I get caught by a manager last night. I'm not suppose to goof off and talk to anyone not doing work.

I'm quite upset at how I make effort to see him, possibly getting in trouble.

So, is he just playing me off because I'm getting a divorce? And in the picture, what does he mean by "If our situations were different, there wouldn't be a problem,"

Btw, he admitted to me never having a girlfriend at 22...and he never will!!

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I've been working with this guy for 5 months now... He knew I was single and didn't go out with anyone and hadn't in a long time.. A month ago he came up to me, like it was some kind of emergency & asked if I would go out with him... I've been attracted to him since day one... I got flushed & said ya, ok.... He said how do I get reach you... so I gave him my number & we set up a date for Tuesday... He picked me up, we stopped for a couple of drinks, then went to a movie, then my place to watch another movie... We kissed and touched, but nothing else... I told him I was not into making life decisions based on sex... So we set up a second date the following week... This time he asks "So, are we together, or what"? I said, I guess so... then he proceeded to the next step... I said no, but he couldn't control himself... It's not like we are kids, we are both between 48 and 52... So it wasn't that big of a deal... then we kept texting, we have to keep this a secret at work because dating co-workers is strictly prohibited.. One night he has late ops and wants me to come and hang out with him... but found out another co worker was going to be there.. so he asked if he could come over for a few... He just wanted a quicky really... He scooped me up into his arms and took me... We have great sex, it is amazing actually... He is so sweet, gentle and loving... He calls me sweetheart, says he can't wait to smell me and touch me again and just spend his time looking at me, because he can't do it at work for fear we will be found out... So he comes up to me on Sunday at work and asks me out again for Tuesday... we both have Tuesdays off... I said yes... He texted me he can't wait to be with me... Then the night before our date, he say by text...Something came up with my family that I can't get out of, so I can't make it, I'm sorry, I hope you understand... (No details of what's going on with his family or anything)... He is not married, never has been, no kids... It's just his mom and sister... so it didn't set well with me... I hadn't dated for 2 years because I am sick of games and crap like this... This is actually the 2nd date we've cancelled... the first one was he found out a fried of his was going to die... I gave him a pass... This second one, I may have over reacted... At first I said it was ok and I understood, but I don't want to be that girl that is so unimportant that he feels it is ok to cancel our plans at the last minute... So I sent another couple of texts, to which he did not reply... I said as long as you don't make a habit of this... no reply... I'm sure he has access to his cell phone... he can't reply??

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So I like this guy (former coworker) and on my last day, he texted me and said I looked very pretty. Before I left he told me he had my number and I said he could text me whenever. I texted him once but that was it. When I saw him again last week, we talked for a bit and when I said I didn't know when I would see him again, he told me to text him. Now the problem is that another former coworker told me he and someone else like each other, and she seemed serious so I decided to ask him about it. This was over text. He said it wasn't true, but when I asked him a completely unrelated question, he didn't reply. And it's been four days.

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So there's a guy at work, and we've been texting every day for weeks. Lately our conversations have been getting deeper. The other night we were talking and he asked me what kind of guys attracted my attention. I'm assuming he wanted to know if he's my type, but maybe he was just being conversational. He comes in a lot when we have different shifts and says he just wanted to see me. Once while we were working he was on break and was sitting across the lobby and he sent me a text that said "your so cute! :)" but i didn't see it right away and then he came back to work and I pulled my phone out and saw he texted and i asked "did you text just now?" And he said "Yea but don't read it in front of me, go over there and read it." He always finds ways to hug me too. I'm sure he likes me but he knows my dad is strict about boys and I think that's why he hasn't tried to ask me out or even asked if I wanna just hang out. I think hes intimidated by him.

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Soooo... I few months ago I walked away from this coworker I told you about. But last month we started to talk again just as friends and it was going pretty good (no flirting, no kissing) we even went to a concert together and nothing happened. Then a week ago on a festival I went with my sister we ran into each other but, since I just want to be with my sister I ditched him but he kept texting me all day to meet up but I ignored him.
Last week we went to see Birdman (because seems like we are the only two people that wanted to see it) and nothing happened until the end when I dropped him on his bustop and he tried to kiss me. I rejected him obviously and when he asked why I told him we are just friends without benefits and he said OK, kissed my hand and left.
Next day he texted me and I asked why he is coming back with that stuff when we agreed not to be anything but friends and also he is with another girl. And he replied he us not with the other girl anymore...

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Here’s the thing. I have a big crush on a guy fro, work and for the last few weeks I thought it was reciprocal. I literally stare at him every time he moves and I’ve noticed he was sometimes looking at me too. We don’t really work together but we sometimes meet in the kitchen, we don’t have much to talk about so we basically just ask “whats up, what are you gonna do this weekend, how was your weekend…”. I went to a concert few weeks ago and told him about it, and on the Monday the first thing he ask me about was the concert and I was glad he remembered stuff that I told him. My birthday was 10 days ago and I went back home for few days, not expecting him to wish me anything. When I get back to work he sent me a personal email wishing me a happy belated birthday etc. I was so surprised and so happy because he could have just done nothing, we’re not that close.

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Why the eff is he semi-ignoring me!...

By carmenphilomena | Oct 06 2014

Okay so a guy started working at my job about a few months ago, I knew he wasn't going to be there very long cause after he was hired he was also in the process of joining the airforce. He use to flirt with me all the time at work, lots of physical and eye contact, eventually we started hanging out and even went on a few dates. We both were not looking for anything serious since he's leaving soon so we hooked up two times and we both had an amazing time. Not only is the sex amazing but us just hanging out is pretty amazing too. Recently he's been ignoring me yet not ignoring me...for example I'll text him and he'll reply two or three times and then stop completely, or at work he'll say hi to me and stare at me the entire time yet not speak to me and go out of his way to avoid contact afterwords. Im really confused and I miss the good times we use to have. I just wish I knew what he was thinking, but he won't even give me the chance to ask...

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I met this guy in the summer while I was interning. We clicked immediately and constantly hung out (and obvi hooked up) but it wasn't only sex. We actually spent all our free time together. We acted like we were in a serious relationship even though we weren't. And he told me I was what he wanted in a wife. Before I left I realized that I fell for him. So I told him, he told me that since I was going back to my city... he wasn't sure when we'd see each other again. in other words, after summer our fling would end. After I left, when I texted him he always replies back in an instant. And says he misses me too and all. But it ended up I was always the one to hit him up and there never was a convo going or he didn't reply. We basically stopped talking except when he sends snapchat selfies which used to be like once a day but now its once a week. but one day I told him I was coming up to his city to visit and we should hangout, he told me he'd skip his classes those days to spend time with me. (I proceeded to go crazy the following day and told him I didn't want to see him when I visit because I still liked him, and the following day I told him id want to see him, etc) He's never been the first to text me but he texted me "Hi baby, miss ya" and then snapchatted me a few days later just saying "miss ya" I know I went crazy and texted/snapped him too much in the beginning. but is he just hitting me up so that he'll have someone for those days?

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I was hanging out with this guy whenever we caught each other at work and we have so many similarities, I'd always make him laugh and he said I was cute and really smart. It sounds silly too but little things like how his voice gave it away that he was really curious about other guys interested in me or like me maybe transferring away for work he'd be like oh you should just stay. i really felt like when we were together at work and lunch breaks etc he'd be fully invested in talking and not just like oh yeah as friends but like we'd talk about futures and ambitions and serious topics too. We would talk for hours if we could.

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So i met this guy like 2 months ago at work but now i am working in another company.. 3 weeks ago we met at a party and finally ended up kissing. Since then we text everyday, some days more than on others and he's always very cute and really seems to care about how my day was and what i'm doing next weekend and so on

today he sent me pictures of his family (his niece and nepgew) and later in the dialogue he mentioned that he was watching the 'friends with benefits' movie and that he likes the idea of the movie and that he wonders why not more people try this

at first i was like 'haha yeah, you know life's not a movie' and then he said 'but it would be cool' than i didn't really know what to reply so i changed the topic and we went on chatting like it normally was..

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I started working at a restaurant about 2 months ago and have been flirting with one of the hostess's. The first important thing that has to be understood is the relationship environment of the staff, everyone is either actively dating or in a relationship and whats more fun to talk about than that all shift? I'm not even being sarcastic here, I love hearing it, makes work way more fun and interesting. The partial downside is that I've reciprocated others telling me their current status and whatnot by revealing my intentions of talking to this (absolutely gorgeous) hostess. In reality it's not too bad since they've all seemed to take it as a personal mission to hook us up: writing my number on a napkin and giving it to her telling her to call me, telling her how interested I am, etc all that great stuff from HS. While I appreciate their help, I'm not one to be shy in letting a girl know I'm interested, I just favor a subtle approach. They all seem to think I'm moving too slow and should make more significant advances (even while at work!). I just find it odd to flirt too much while at work, specially when every time I go to talk to her I know the eyes of the waitstaff are upon us haha. This isn't to say I have stage fright but more along the lines of remaining professional when it's appropriate.

During one lunch break when we were all sitting around it seemed like she made sure to talk about an EX boyfriend and how she was single now, and also one of my friends who works at the host stand was telling me about how he overheard her and another hostess talking about "crushes" and mentioning my name so I'm pretty sure there is some level of attraction.

Eventually after their daily requests for progress reports became slightly annoying I decided to just text her and see what happens. I'd had her number already from group texts between coworkers discussing shift changes and she already knew I wanted to text her so I YOLO'd it (for lack of a better phrase). She seemed interested through texts but when I asked about possibly meeting up outside of work I got the "busy schedule" response. She did have a good reasoning, (3 jobs and online classes) told me the back story behind all of them, and still seemed interested and initiated conversation afterwards.

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About 2 months ago I worked for 4 weeks at a company in my town (i'm a student, did it in my summer vacation) and there i met this guy, we started talking to each other everyday at work and the conversations always were interesting and/or funny (most of the time other colleagues wer involved as well). I finished my 'summer work' and had not seen him for 3 weeks until last saturday:
i went to the bar with friends of mine and a little later he also made his way there.. he proceeded to talk to us the whole evening and somehow we ended up laughing, drinking and finally kissing.. (it was the alcohol, for sure)

the next day he texted me and we continued to chat for 5 days now.. but i don't really know if he is interested..
everyday we chat he ends the conversation or just replies the other day and we continue our conversation.. i initiated chatting twice now and i don't want to seem desperate or something
and i have to confess i don't have a lot of experience in these things (i'm 18, he's 19)

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Met this guy at a political work thing thought he was interested, I mean I could see I had a physical effect on him, he would get so nervous when I talked to him and he would fight words out to try and find a topic of convo with me. He hovered around me and sort of drifted to areas I would stand by. He was cute, I was interested even if I'm 25 and he's 21, I'm iffy about dating younger guys, it feels lame to me but regardless I was into the guy. That is Until he casually worked into a convo that he had a gf. I def distanced my self from him from then on -not into side chick sht. Have way too much respect from his relationship but most of all for myself. After that was curtious , did small talk, kinda shunned him. He's a genuine guy, super nice, a good guy. Doesn't party or drink. So I was like ok maybe he's not interested, prob just attracted to me - I'm pretty self assured confident so he prob just finds himself attracted to someone who's well put together and is older. It was weired when my friend asked him about his relationship and how long he had been with her and his reply "like for about 6 months but she's leaving for school soon". Was he sayin he would be single soon? Weired way to talk about a relationship. Anyway, ran into him the other day, hadn't seem him all summer long, we ended our catch up convo with a long tight hug ( the kind that sips into your bones) and said "see you around" . We didn't exchange social media account info, no contact info, by the way he's somewhat shy and I'm sure he's intimidated by me. Is there just nothing there? Am I imagining it all?

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This guy and I we met last year at work. And 2 weeks into it we started hanging out. We started hanging out at his place as well. I drive his car home, as well as his mum's car when his is at the workshop. We go everywhere together - we are always a pair. I've met his closest friends and his family members as well as his cousins. We went for our first vacation in May and that was when I told him that I have feelings for him. Ever since then he has been more dear to me and I guess slightly paying more attention to me as well. But not long after we had a talk about the feelings and he said he doesn't have any. But I didn't give up and we still hung out. We'll nap at his place after work usually with me hugging him from behind. And about 2 months ago we had a talk about it again and he hugged me. Later when I got home I emailed him expressing some things that I didn't say and thanked him for the hug as well as told him that I enjoy hugs. Since then, he has been hugging me a lot especially when we're sleeping. The confusing part is that I'm still unsure if this is leading to a relationship or am I being used. He has made plans to migrate and he involves me in the plan. He is sort of lifeless when I am away. Like when my sister came back for a short vacation and I told him I won't be hanging out at his place he actually asked "if you stay home and hang out with your sis then what am I going to do?" He'll also Whatsapp me randomly and he is really all nutty and crazy with me. He behaves totally different when he is with me. He becomes a very jolly and youthful person and we are always laughing. We have had several disagreements or serious discussions but we have never raised our voice and argue or fight. I really like him a lot and there is a possibility that I actually already love him very much too. Oh.. he is also 9 years older than me. He has changed a lot recently for me. Keeping his distance from flirty colleagues, staying in with me after work when I get off at 10pm (he'll actually nap in the car while waiting for me). Even the other day in front of our General Manager he placed his hand on my knee and our GM actually went "Aww.. look.. so sweet.." Everyone thinks we're a couple and everyone calls me his gf. He has never denied it. At the start of everything we tried telling people that we're not together. I will still deny even now but he doesn't at all. I'm getting very uncertain about the migration as he said see how things go once we have migrated. But for me, if we're going to migrate together as friends, then might as well we just go separately on our own considering the fact that we're migrating as friends and only deciding later whether we should be a couple. There's no doubt he wants me to go with him and I with him but I'm definitely not sure if he has serious feelings for me or he is just stringing me along as a comfort zone because things are gonna be really easy.

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****HEY GUYS! I uploaded this before but it was late. I don't think a lot of you got to see it!****
--I started working at a store. Only a handful of employees work there. There's a guy there that I find quite attractive (not to mention he initially interviewed me for the job). Some of the others that work there are all in a relationship but are closer to him than I am at this point, since I'm new. They joke around a lot and the jokes are kind of crude, but in good humor, and have to do with his crotch region (yeah, I know lol). Every time someone makes a joke he's always looking right at me. I don't say anything, I just smile and laugh. When we're alone he's usually asking questions about me and A LOT of the time standing really close to me. It's not uncomfortable though. When I have to pass by him, he doesn't move making me have to brush by him. Once I asked if he was trying to impress me and he responded, "is it working?" I just smiled.

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