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So, met this guy in May at a club. We had amazing, unprecedented chemistry and ended up hooking up that night. This was an isolated incident, not something I make a habit of. This sex was great and we parted ways amicably. I live in Portland and he was visiting for a bachelor party but he lives in Seattle. We continued heavy texting after our hookup and I took a roadtrip a couple of weekends later to Seattle to see him. It's about a 3 and a half hour drive. I got a hotel room as he says he had a roommate who had just had a baby and he didn't want to be rude by inviting someone over to stay the night. He, however, did not offer to pay for my gas or go dutch on the hotel room, even though he stayed the night. Strike one.

Despite this, we continued texting. He was upfront and said that between his job and his training for MMA, that he had little time to dedicate to a relationship. I accepted the relationship for what it was..a fling. But as all females tend to do, I started developing feelings. I mentioned those feelings and again, he hit me with brutal honesty. He enjoyed me physically but did not know how he felt about me outside of that. Ouch! Strike two.

So, no surprise to anyone...the relationship just abruptly stops. I move on with my life and hold on to the erotic memories. Just another life lesson in what not to do in the world of dating.

A couple of Saturdays ago, he hits me up at 3 in the morning. It has been 5 months of NO CONTACT. I know what everyone is thinking...BOOTY CALL. BUT, we live 3 hours away...so what gives? I happened to have woken up shortly after he texted and thought wth? I'll see what this is about. He was apologetic about our losing contact and asked if I was still single. I had just stopped talking to someone and let him know that. He stated that had been crazy busy but he wanted to plan a visit to Portland to see me as I had driven out to see him last time. I've been hesitant but he has been persistent. Again, he talks a lot about our physical chemistry but has starting making comments about maybe "taking it to another level." When I made mention about the fact that he could probably get local ass much easier he stated "Yeah, but you are hard to give up." WTF????

The only reason he even stands a chance with me, is the insane chemistry we have between us. And we also have very witty and interesting conversations both via text and in person, so I do have some interest even though he has acted like a jerk in the past.

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Met a guy on POF back in the summer and we lost touch. We reconnected and he was so excited, telling me how glad he was that he found me again, etc. etc. This lead to a couple weeks of many, many flirty texts, long phone calls, initiated by him a bulk of the time, and some really intense deep conversation getting to know each other. We agreed to meet and leading up to the date, there was a lot of mutual excitement expressed on both sides, him even saying on a couple times how he doesn’t want to scare me off and how much he likes how this is going etc. All and all, I felt I found a genuinely good guy that had a lot of potential. Date night was Saturday night and he took me on a fantastic date, dinner, comedy club. There were a couple passionate little kissing sessions after dinner, and then some fooling around at his place (He said no to the sex, not that I offered, but just the he did not want to move too fast with this with me). I left and sent him a message after I got home telling him I had a great time, and he responded likewise. I did tease him (Screenshot) a little but then he went a little dark. He knew that I was going to be busy Sunday and so I did not make a huge deal out of reaching out to him or vice versa. I also wanted to let a little dust settle from our date to allow some breathing space

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I met him when I was at a club with my friends and I'm not a club person at all. He wasn't a regular club guy. I'd lost my friends and I was stressing so he helped me find everyone since my phone was dying and his wasn't. We talked about things we're doing with our lives and had a good conversation. Then he asked me to dinner. I agreed and said I love food, good conversation and scotch.

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This guy in my college is from HongKong and he is a sophomore. I would say he is probably very Americanized (honestly I don't even know what that means) because he is on the tennis team, and all he hangs out with are the tennis guys, who are mostly American students.I knew him a year ago through a female mutual friend and we say hi to each other ever since but that's all. I don't know much about him. Last year there were people gossiping about him sleeping with the same female friend, but I did not care about gossips or other people's private lives so I don't know what happens or what that says about him.

Tonight I went to a party and saw him with his friends. He came up to me and we chatted a little bit then my friend and I went downtown. While we were smoking outside of the pizza place he and his friends came to get pizza. All his friends went in but he stayed to talk to me again. Later my friend and I went in to get pizza and he asked what I was gonna do afterwards. I told him we were gonna go clubbing and he asked for my number and told me to keep him updated what happens, so after clubbing I texted him saying we were coming back to campus. Then he texted:" What u up to now?wanna chill for a bit?" I wasn't sure what he meant by "chill" and so I decided to see if he was by himself by asking "What are you guys doing now?" and he told me his friends were smoking and he was just listening to music so he was not by himself I guess. I eventually decided not to go anyways so I told him I was tired and wanted to go to bed and said good night. He texted back "Alright hahaa. Good night" and that is the whole story.

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OK so I started graduate school a few months ago. I met this guy, he's a couple years older than me and also in my department. I went to one of his house parties (which are always pretty tame but really fun) and a group of us decided to go out to a bar/club. Before I knew it him and I were making out on the dance floor for almost 2 solid hours (so much fun, it felt like nobody else existed) and since then we've been texting/flirting/hooking up for about a month. When we are together he's really cute i.e. holds my hand, buys drinks, gives me all of his attention even when we are in a large group of our friends. However he does not seem to be a big texter. He always replies when I text him and will carry on a conversation but he rarely initiates them.
I decided I wanted to see if he wanted to take things a little further so I texted him and said that I'd like to do something (just us, no friends or parties involved), my reasons being that I had been having a lot of fun with him, that I liked him, and that I wanted to get to know him better. He responded with "Yea that sounds good to me. I will say that the next 3 weeks are going to be crazy for me so if I go MIA, only coming out on select nights, don't take it the wrong way!"

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My friends and I went to the club the other night where I met this really cute guy. He texted me earlier and I think my inner dumb blonde might've freaked him out.

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Met him in a club last week, first date yesterday, hung out for like 7 hours just chatting and getting a few drinks round Camden. I got the bus home and he said goodbye by saying "give me a shout if you want to meet up." I was expecting him to text to see if I got home ok but he didn't so I text, couldn't resist. He replied, signing off saying "give me a shout if you want to meet up" again. I replied today saying "yeah cool let me know when is good for you", but have not got an answer yet.

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Hi everyone !
Here's my story :
I went clubbing with some friends last friday night, got a bit drunk and met this guy. I don't remember why or how we started talking, but we made out at the end of the night and I went home with him. We slept together. I know that usually means the guy will immediately lose interest, but I didn't really care at the time I just wanted to have fun. When I woke up the next morning, I wanted to leave at once but he asked me to stay a bit longer. We started talking and we laughed a lot. I ended up having a lot of fun and left at 5pm (we went out to eat, hang out in his bedroom,etc.). When I left he gave me his number on a piece of paper and told me to do whatever I wanted with that (I hate it when guys give you their number instead of asking for yours).
I figured after the way we met he's seeing me as a potential hook up, not what I want so I didn't contact him.
Now here's the thing : we sort of already met before. He went to the same school as I did for an exchange (I'm french, he's american, and I just moved to the US), and even though I couldn't remember him, he said he had noticed me back then.
I gave him a fake name, but he must have known I was lying because he found me on fbook where I use my real name. He didn't add me but send me a message to see how I was doing. I replied with something like "haha I see you knew my real name all this time" and he said "I knew from the beginning :) ". Then he started asking me questions about work, my day, etc. I hate hate chatting online/text, I am so very bad at it, so I just stopped him and said "listen, I really like talking face to face better, why don't we go out for a drink this week ?" and he said yes, asked for my number, I gave it to him, and he send me a text to arrange the date.

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I met a chinese guy at a disco and he asked for my number. We started texting a week ago but he will be in china for 2 weeks before he comes back to my city. We even agreed to teach each other chinese and spanish. But in the last text he told me he was in an kntensive training and he needed to study a lot, so i texted him good luck and he said thanks. Sincw thwn we havent texted again.

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By arashunt | Jun 25 2014

I met the guy 2½ weeks ago in a club, was to shy to talk to him but after 1 hour my friends chatted him up, asking if he was single ect and then handed him over to me with a "Your welcome!" he told me his name and asked if it was him I wanted? I said yes a bit shy and he suggested to go have a drink in the quiter area of the bar so we could talk. He ended up buying me 8 drinks in total and told me after the first one that normally he never bought drinks for any girls but now he came back with 2 for each of us! We talked for 5 hours, completely blind to anything else in the club and he kept telling me he was supposed to go home 1 ago, 2 hours ago ect but that he stay for 1 more.... Eventually we both got drunk enough / worked up the nerve to talk about going home together. We left the club holding hands, he kissed me quite a lot while waiting for the train, we went home to my appartment he told me how nice it was and then we had sex 2 times. Next morning we lay in bed together, talked for a while and had sex again twice. He told me twice that his phone was out of battery if I could get his number then? I said yes, he had to go to work and kissed me goodbye on the mouth. Im a tourleader and work in foreign countries so he knew I was going to Scotland for 2 weeks, just 4 days after we met (Big problem) Therefore I texted him later same day and asked if he wanted to meet up again before I left? He replied the day after that it would be really nice, that he was very busy but what I was doing this afternoon? No plans, so he told me he come by after eating at his parents place. He came by at 20.30, kissed me after walking in, we sat down on the couch he took my hand and put another on my thigh, then we talked for a little while eventually ending up watching movies on the couch for 5 hours. Nustling together like a real couple, he asked about the stuff in my appartment ect. He told me "I'm just going to give you a kiss?" and did it. It became midnight and since I didn't suggest he stayed he asked to watch another movie? Which we did, a fun one and we were laughing and chatting, at 2 am I build up the nerve to ask if he was staying? He said yes if it was okay with me? We went into bed, kissed and had sex again. He then asked me if I normally came during sex?!? I told him yes (no lying) but added after some training though.... I thought it was a weird question but maybe just being considerate? He chatted on, while we lay in the dark after the sex and told me good night. Next morning we snuggled up for 5-6 hours, had sex one more time - where he did everything he could to make me come... we tried for 40 min but no luck.... I told him it was a really good try though and sexy! He asked how long I was in Scotland and for how long I would be home again and then that I should text when I got home. I went to Scotland with a good feeling of him, waited for 7 days and texted him a short greeting of which he didn't respond to. (It was designed to respond to though....) Due to different reasons I came back home 1 week earlier and therefore texted him (this Thursday 16th) to let him know I was home and if he wanted to hang out?. He texted back after 2 min responding "Oh that was quick :) I have exams tomorrow and am pretty booked for the next couple of days, maybe in beginning of next week. Hope Scotland was nice!"
I got happy and texted him right away "Beginning of next week is fine, I only have a jobinterview and not much else, Good luck with your exams of course :) Scotland was great". ................... After that, no response from him at all?!??!?!?!?! I wrote him late afternoon Monday then "Hey do you have plans for tonight? or then what about Tuesday :) Hope your exams went well" .................. no respond to that one either...... I don't know what went wrong or what is wrong so to say?

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About two weeks ago I went to the club. Made eye contact with a cute guy , who finally approached me and invited me to his section to have done drinks. Long story short, we spent the whole night dancing , drinking , and talking. We really connected, and on my way out we made out. He texted me that night saying that he had a great time with me, etc.

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Alright guys, this is going to be long... And I apologize.

Sometime in April, I met this guy at a club, on the dance floor, we locked eyes, made out and I decided to go home with. We had a great time, not just sexually but we ended up actually enjoying each other's company staying up til 6 am and falling asleep, cuddling. In the morning I wake up to tea that he made me, he drove me home and we exchanged numbers. We did the courtesy it was nice meeting you texts but that was it.

Every day I still think about that, fast forward to 3 days ago, I remembered he was leaving on the 29th to go back home to Europe. So I decided to text him and just see how he was. He told me that he did pass his big pilot test and will be celebrating in dtd. Ironically, I was going that night too. So we texted about keeping each other updated. I end up keeping my tab open while waiting cause I was nervous. He ends up getting there with a ton of guys and introduces me to each one. He buys drinks for my friends. We decide to leave together again. Right before we did, we went back to his friends and said our goodbyes.
It was another perfect behond perfect night. But we called it a little earlier cause of errands we had the next day... Well next day came and he decided to skip his beach party plans and spend the day with me to get "breakfast"-- as it was 1 pm. We pass by a Filipino restaurant and he offers to go there (sorry please understand he is British and has never had Filipino food before... The food of my people lol) I didn't know what to order and he asked me what I wanted and I said I was confused between a,b , c,...he then tells the server to get all three.

We finish "breakfast" and we just drove around listening to music, and he even serenaded me.

He drops me off at my apartment and say an almost difficult goodbye, he was leaving on Monday and today was Saturday night already... We kissed for a really longtime with this sad feeling that I wasn't going to see him again.

NeXt night, I was out at the bar we first met at, and he texted me saying he was there and to meet up....except I saw this text an hour after when I replied, he said he got kicked out of the bar but he still wanted to see me. I end up taking a cab to his appartment ,that he pays for. When I get there he refuses to have sex and just wants to kiss and make out... Eventually does of course.

I had a flight in the am and has to leave early, with a cab outside waiting for me at his appartment and he refused to let me go. He said that he didn't want me to leave and he didn't want to let' me go. We end up joking and I say "at Least I'm more than a one night stand " and he was like " will, my best friend said the same thing about you and me". right before I leave to get on the cab, i asked him do you want to build a snowman? ( which is a big frozen reference, which he has never seen just made him listen ) he responded yes I want to build a snowman.

Since I left his appartment , we haven't stopped texting.
Even now that he is back home in Europe.

He comes back in a month or two but will be moving 2 hrs away.

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Okay so was seeing this guy for a few months was pretty serious. He broke it off with the 'It's not u it's me' he said he wasn't ready for commitment, that I deserve better than him and hoped we would see each other again at some stage, just wrong timing. We had a brief fall out because 2 days after we finished I seen him out in a club with another girl and he ignored me by putting his hand up beside his face as if to hide himself even though we made eye contacted then continued to blank me the rest of the night. Also it was hard to avoid each other smallish club. I know he was in a difficult position to but I found it really hurtful to be treated like that and I don't know if that's what I should expect if I seen him out. After all he wanted to be friends with me. I didn't speak to him for a few weeks and he did a few things that was obviously to try make me jealous which I don't get cause he broke it off?
He sent me a happy birthday message few weeks back and I broke the ice by saying thank and we got talking again and we've remained friends since but I find that quite hard, and I know deep down I can't move on wile being his friend I care about him too much for that.
Were friends on all the standard social media sites so even when I distance myself am always seeing him and what he's up to so it's a constant reminder of him. I've been thinking of deleting him off everything.

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Hello to all of you :)
I don't really have a question, but just wanted to share my thoughts with all of you if that's okay.

I've been reading the posts on this website for a while and there is something that confuses/disturbs me a little. I keep reading that guys are "programmed" to lose interest in a girl if they sleep together on the first date. I disagree. I think it's a cultural thing, not a way guys are born.

I come from France and we seem to think very differently here. I have almost always slept on the first date and never regretted it. I've had two long term relationships so far, both lasted two years, and I slept with both guys on the first date. I am now seeing this new guy, we met leaving a club, he offered to walk me home, I thought he was cute and funny so decided to take him home with me. We slept together, it was amazing. He contacted me two days later and we've been sleeping together ever since. And I don't feel like I "gave it up too easily". A couple of days after our first night together, he invited me to have dinner with his friends, offered to go to the movies together, we've had picnics at the park, he send me flowers on my birthday, etc. He's a sweetheart. We are now talking about whether we would like to be more official (been sleeping together for 2 months now) but I am unsure, so he's agreed to give me time.

I keep wonderful memories from nearly (some were just not good in bed) all the guys I met and slept with. Even if it didn't turn into something serious, it was always fun. They always called/texted me a couple of days after, I have never felt used. I have asked around and 95 % of my girl friends have slept with their boyfriend on their first date. I feel like here in France the question is "How can I develop feelings for her/him if I haven't checked first that we are compatible in bed?" and I feel like in the US (just saying it's the way I feel after reading things on internet, not saying it's the truth) the question is "How can I develop feelings for her/him if we've already have slept together?".

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Martin is a boy, who I knew last saturday on a disco, that night I hooked up with him, and the following day we went to the beach.

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