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So I just got out of a bad relationship and went out of town for the weekend. Ended up meeting a guy and went back to his place and had to catch my flight early the next morning. But besides the sex, I honestly had a great time talking to him...he texted a bit today, but I just would like a distraction right now as I'm getting out of this relationship...is there a way to keep a conversation going without coming off as clingy?

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I'm wondering if that's abit clingy...

By ni12344 | Mar 30 2015

So , a this guy and I have been texting for about two days or more then he just stopped but he read the text I decided to text him a couple of hours later saying ' hey, what you doing ? Is that clingy?

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I got insecure when he started pulling away and became needy and clingy. He is giving me the silent treatment. I dont blame him and I'm using the time for myself. But I really like him and I just want to know if there is a possibility I can even get him to talk to me again.

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By beay | Feb 21 2015

Hi,I am a 47year old female,just divorced after years of separation,and I recently met a guy online..he's into the same music as me,which made me very happy,as it's hard to find guys in their 40s who like the stuff I like. We started texting,no strings attached was the initial idea. Then he was the one who said we get on so well, that no strings attached may not be enough. I was quite happy to hear that,so I agreed. He kept texting me at random times during the working day with little sweet things like ''get out of my head I need to work,lol'' or ''hey,are u ok'' Then we met up. On the second date we couldn't keep our hands off each other and had sex. On the third date I went to his house and we did it again. He texted the next day ''thanks for an amazing night''..and since then he only texts me sporadically, and now it has got to the stage where if I don't text first, I probably won't hear from him for days. A bit of background info, he is in the process of divorce,but gets on really well with his ex,which isn't a problem for me as I am the same with my ex. He also has two kids, who he spends almost every weekend with. I want to see him again, but I don't want to be appear needy or clingy. I do text him, and he always responds (eventually)..but I would like to know if it's worth wasting my feelings on this guy. I have asked him to let me know if I get on his nerves or text too much, and he keeps saying Stop worrying, but he doesn't seem to initiate any more dates. I have texted a couple of times ''fancy coming up'' or shall we grab a coffee at the weekend, but he's kinda vague and just says ''I'll have to wait and see what kids arrangements are''.and then he doesn't really mention it again..I am getting a bit too worried,and keep checking my phone, and wind up disappointed...but we are so compatible, or so I thought. What should I do? Does it sound as if he just wanted sex after all? Could it be that he just doesn't think about me that much, but when I text he's happy enough? Is it the old case of He's just not that into me?? I am just so confused, as it was him who said we get on so well..Thank you for your advice, be brutal please.

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Was it just a one night thing?

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I know he's into me and we text all the time. Why hasn't he asked me on a third date?

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Ex recently rejected me after he initiated flirting and implied a possible reunion. I took it badly, have been retreating ever since - this happened about 2 weeks ago. Just needed time to myself so haven't been answering his msgs. Ever since I broke contact off, and avoiding him - while I take time to get a handle of my feelings to be friends/accept that etc he's been acting super needy to get in touch. Like he'll use any excuse to get i touch. Tryin to get my attention to reply. I miss him an feel so connected to him but don't want to get hopes up. It seems like interest, or he needed to feel losing me for real to knw where he stands - who knows.

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is this message okay to send to him...

By tinklover635 | Jan 08 2015

i've been super clingy to this guy i started talking to and i realize it but i don't know if i've already started to push him away. i'm trying hard to not let that happen and want to let him know.

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I started talking to this guy on December 16. He lives in Canada and I live in Florida. He used to live in my exact town, however we have never met. But he reached out to me on Facebook and we just hit it off. For a while we skyped every night for at least 12 days or so. We are quite different. I'm more girly and he's basically a stoner. He's like on of those guys that aren't very good on paper. Has tattoos, smokes weed, career goal is to be a tattoo artist. However, he has the best heart. I love his personality. And he wants to come visit me for spring break which is nice. But anyway, on thursday we stopped talking. I've sent him a snapchat (which he viewed and didn't reply to) and a few messages on Skype and he never answered...at all. I don't understand what made him cut me off. So finally I confronted him about it after giving him space and he apologized and we worked it out but once again he has been distant. we used to Skype overnight now we haven't skyped in a week. He says he's busy but often times I'll ask what he's doing and he will say he is smoking and watching Netflix and will say we can't Skype tonight because he has work in the morning. When we used to Skype he always had work in the morning... I don't get it. Like he could just call for a minute.

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I have a strictly physical relationship with a guy (his choice).
He goes long periods of time without seeing me. We had sex 5 days ago and im dying. He hasnt asked to see and has turned me down twice. I thought strictly physical would mean we'd at least see each other more

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So I met this guy on a dating site who seemed to be quite over the top, romantic and a bit off. I am not the best with my choices so this is why I was attracted to him in the first place. When I say off I mean artistic, a poet, just a little bit over the top. I could tell he is the insecure, jealous, clingy guy. I am into all that kind of stuff. Fast forward, he was all over me from texts for 2-3 weeks and then finally we met. There was a lot of kissing talk from texts and he made it very clear he was looking for a relationship and he really liked me and I was beautiful and what on earth was I doing on a dating site. Real asnwer?-Fear of rejection! Anyway, up until we met I felt that he had dived right in, I enjoyed every moment of talking and flirting and I was curious to see if it would materialise. He seemed to really get me. Upon meeting I was utterly shocked to see how different he looked in real life and how timid and shy he was. The way he walked and carried himself he seemed so withdrawn. I was shocked at the fact that he did not smile when he saw me. Not a smirk not a half smile, nothing. From my experience I do feel that he might be depressed. Anyway, I was dissapointed and I am aware I came off as overpowering and quite cocky at times. I did not flirt at all or give him a compliment, quite the opposite. I felt that he was so shy I could not even understand what we were doing there and how he could have even been talking about kissing and all that from text. I could talk to him for hours and he did seem to have essence, I could imagine falling for him but usually guys are quite all over me so this came as a bit of a shock that he was so reserved so I assumed he was not interested. Because I am very insecure myself, I thought since he doesnt like me I should show disinterest aswell. Level of immaturity?100! Anyway. After the date he asked if I enjoyed myself to which I replied that I did but that he seemed bored. Within myself I know he was not bored but that h was extremely awkward and withdrawn. He reassured me he was not bored and that I was beautiful, chatty, lovely, charming and intelligent and do not need a dating site. When I thanked him for his words he told me that he knows he is unattractive and not interesting enough so he knows he will need to keep looking. I was baffled!!! You go on a date with a girl and on the same night tell her this?! He asked me again if I enjoyed it and I told him that I kind of did but I also did not because he seemed bored, and he was not really laughing with my jokes and then he said that he had enjoyed it and literally dissapeared. For 5 days he didnt initiate any contact, and he always texted every morning prior to our meeting. So I thought I should initiate contact and I told him that I had missed talking to him. He only said he is so sorry he has been quiet but he has the flu and he will be well soon. What nonsense?!

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By hunnyboo007 | Dec 23 2014

So me and this kid met off tinder and talked for a few days before actually meeting up. The first time we met we hooked up and then a week later we hooked up again but it was solely hooking up. A month went by and he didn't reply to my texts or contact me at all and then he randomly called me up completely sober and talking about how much he needed me and how I had to see him that night, like I didn't have an option. Obviously I didn't see him but I've seen him since then and we've hooked up a few more times and although it's solely hooking up, he seems more clingy now then when this all started

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A guy came into my work and gave me his business card. After a while (a little longer than I meant to) I texted him. We hung out and had a good time. The next day he texted me saying that he had fun and that we should hang out again. During the rest of the week he'd text me from time to time just to let me know that he hadn't forgotten about me and he still wanted to hang out but he works for a construction company so he's busy all the time, works 7 days a week. We hung out for the second time and had a lot of fun, found out more about each other. We went to a bar and I wasn't exactly drunk but feeling good. I have terrible anxiety and I over-think everything so the next day I texted him saying that I felt like I had made a fool of myself but I had a good time and thanks. He asked why I felt like I'd made a fool of myself and I said pretty much just by being me. He then said don't worry. We talk on a fairly daily basis, but it's short most of the time because of his work. He's usually the one to initiate the conversation, mostly because I feel like I'm being needy when I text.

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I matched with this guy in Tinder and we started talking. After one evening of talking he asked if I minded if we talked more the next day, I said I didn't mind so we talked more the next day still on tinder. The third day of talking he asked if we could text instead of talking on Tinder and I said yes. So we're still talking and he's nice and everything but he constantly wants to be talking to me. we're no where close to dating and I don't feel like we should have to constantly text especially when we get to the point where he asks me what I want to talk about next.

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So over the summer I created a tinder profile and matched with this incredibly handsome guy with similar interests. We started talking, but we had a moment of miscommunication and he sped off and deleted me everywhere. The worst part is, the issue for him was that I sent him an erotic picture and he wasn't looking for a girl who would do that so soon. Made me feel absolutely dumb because I would prefer not to, but from past experiences I thought that's what guys wanted. Anyways, I moved on. Last month he added me on Facebook and then sent me a message asking how I'm doing and to put the past behind us. HONESTLY, I didn't even remember why we stopped talking so I just went with it. We were texting back and forth for a month and finally went on a first date last night. He is extremely traditional, and also possibly the most gorgeous man I've ever been able to have a deep conversation with. The date was going well, we were being playful, he told me how pretty I am, and that he thinks I'm a really nice and sweet girl, he kept emphasizing this over and over. The thing is when we started talking he went off on this tangent about how he doesn't need a girl because he has a family, and that we both will find someone and not to take it seriously if we don't (we are both Italian and it came from discussing the pressures our families put on us to get married.) He made me feel self conscious because he kept saying "we will find someone" and when he saw my face when he said that he made it clear that he isn't saying we can't be that someone for each other. It was still rather strange to me. He was playfully touching me and giving me soft punches on the arm during our date, so it felt like he was really interested. When he was driving me home he went on another tangent about how his ex is blowing him up and he wants nothing to do with her anymore, but he kept talking about it, which led me to believe he still had feelings even though they broke up 3 years ago. I thought maybe he was informing me what he wants from a girl, I felt like that's what he was doing the entire time. He drove from Brooklyn to New Jersey to hang out with me, and he drove to the restaurant, naturally I felt bad and emphasized this to him and he snapped and said "never drive to a guy!" After that I asked if he wanted to go to another bar and he said he doesn't want to drink and drive which I completely agreed with. He also mentioned to me that he has never dated a girl that likes the same music as him, and talking about hanging out in the future. He also mentioned that he wasn't sure what I thought of him, and I told him I thought he was great and he didn't respond with anything. He dropped me off and went in for a kiss on the cheek, and I asked him to text me when he got home, which he did.

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