By amber8 | Mar 04 2017
If I give him space, will he come back?
By overthinker | Jul 30 2015
40 year old dating 21 year old... My question is could there be a future for us with such different lifestyles or should I just appreciate it for the short term happiness it brings me?
By linux12 | Jul 22 2015
I've been dating a guy for 6 months. Things have been great, great communication daily, time spent as much as possible with our schedules...up until recently. Lately, I've seen him once a week (usually Sunday afternoon) because of his commitment to his two sons from a prior marriage. I reiterated to him multiple times that my bday was coming up and I wanted to do something with him. Unfortunately, he had a pre-planned trip with his son and was gone the week of my birthday. Ok, cool. During the trip he contacted me very rarely. On my bday (Thursday), I got a text saying "happy birthday old lady", and didn't hear from him until 3 days later (Sunday). He arrived back in town Saturday. On Monday, I speak with him, he asks nothing about my week or how I've been, but informs me that his son is spending the night and he is busy. Maybe I was wrong for expecting something more than a text message from him. At this point, I feel like I am barely a priority. I understand he has commitments to his sons and that's great, we've been working around it this whole time, but now I feel as if something has changed. I certainly can't and won't complain about a man being a father, but I also feel like I barely matter. At this point, I haven't seen him in two and a half weeks. How do I proceed?
By glenn | Jun 07 2015
how do i find a woman who is ready to settle down and have kids?
By msnerdybirdy | Jan 28 2015
I dated this guy and we had amazing chemistry like truly amazing. However I learned that he really likes to party and that wasn't my thing so I stop texting him back. What a shame. Two weeks later, I was late and tested pregnant.
I waited until I had my first ultrasound to tell him. His reaction was no less than what I imagined! He told me to "fuck off" and that he wants nothing to do with it! And that's he's NEVER paying for child support because this is all my fault. So I left him alone but now 2 months later.. He won't text me at all and ignores all my calls. I just ask him to speak like adults. Let's figure this out.
The fact is, I don't want him to come to me years later asking for custody with his kid. It's not fair to my baby. Being in and out of his life like that. I know I can't change him! He needs to do that himself. But he needs to realize that for me? This is a very serious and permanent decision. Is it wrong for wanting him to realize that he's being a selfish bitch?
By ataxia_nyc | Jan 28 2015
What to do?? I'm so confused.
By trishdish | Dec 28 2014
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and we have had our problems but I found out I'm pregnant and it hasn't been brought up since I told him a month ago
By steph_143 | Dec 27 2014
My boyfriend dreamt that I was pregnant two days ago, and last night I had a dream that I was pregnant. I'm kinda paranoid about this since I'm supposed to get my period today but I didn't get it.
By ladyinky | Dec 27 2014
Just curious what other women expect when dating. 4 actual dates in 5 weeks. He has his kids 10 days a month (5 days every other week) and he travels out of state 3-5 days a week when he doesn't have his kids. He does NOT text every day. We had met online in October, first date late November (due to the fact we BOTH travel a lot) and so far he is really sweet, will actually CALL, tells me he is interested and likes me, compliments me, etc.
By mloebach83 | Dec 23 2014
Want opinions on gift giving..
Started talking online in early October. Had first date late November. Have had 3 dates total (we both travel frequently for work and he has kids so scheduling has been difficult). Really great guy, shows me he cares in so many ways: driving over an hour to see me, cooking for me, sweet texts, phone calls, etc. I saw him Sunday and we may or may not be able to see each other this week, but either way, he didn't give me a Christmas gift. I'm not totally freaked out because we haven't even had "the talk" yet (though I am pretty sure he's only seeing me) and it's only been 3 dates, but just curious..
By all_these_words | Dec 06 2014
A guy contacted me on a website and after a few emails asked me out on a date. We had a lovely time on the date and he asked if we could meet again and if it was alright that he called me after his gig that same evening. I said sure. The date ended with a kiss.
The rest of the evening he texted me, asking if he could come over later that night. I said that any other night but not this one because I had an early appointment for a job interview the day after. We agreed to get together a few days later. He writes he'll call after work the day after and we continue to text during the evening. He is really flirty and a lot of "kisses and hugs". I flirt back.
I send him a text the day after, when I haven't heard from him to ask if he got home alright as he had an one hour drive back to his place. He responded (translations from my native language):
"Yes I did! Sorry for not being in touch today. I was called in at work so I'm at work the whole evening. I also worked the whole day at my regular job."
I answer him: "I'm glad to hear you got home safely :) You get back to work and then you rest and we'll be in touch when you're able to. Hugs"
Late in the evening the day before our second planned date he texts me: "Hi, I totally forgot that we had a Christmas party at work tomorrow evening and I'm working the whole weekend. The week after I have my daughter. It is a lot going on right now so I talk to you another day. Kisses and hugs darling"
I answer: "Okay, I sort of got that feeling from you last text so I started to plan another thing for tonight. I truly hope you get a lovely evening! Hugs"
By casualathlete20 | Nov 20 2014
Alright this guy I've been on and off again for about a year and a half. We just had a son. This guy asks if were still dating. I say that i think so, if he wants to. well whenever i visit him with hiz kid, he visits us for a few minutes. He wants sex about a half hour into our visit. when I do agree to it and were done, he plays his videgames for the next 3 hours and only holds and pays attention to his baby when i pick him up and hand him to him.
By gryphondork7 | Jun 16 2014
So for the past to days I've been hooking up with this guy. This guy happens to be 25 with two kids and a fiancé... I'm 16... My best friend considers him her brother because they are so close...
By seekingmytruth | May 28 2014
I'm struggling with a relationship I've been in for over a year. A couple weeks ago out of frustration I said somethings I shouldn't have. But the thing is, it's issues I've presented to him before. The problem is, his biggest concern is throwing in the towel on the relationship. Sometimes out of frustration and repeated pleas nothing happens, even after he says he knows that's his shortcoming. Our communication is 90% text and even when I call in hopes he would see a difference... He still doesn't. He may call one day or put forth some effort but it immediately falls off. 6 months ago we spoke about and decided I would move in with him, but in those 6 months we have not communicated about plans to make this happen. I signed a 6 month lease, which is up the end of June. When I mentioned it in April that my lease would be up in June, he replied, I thought about it. But that was it. My issue is I have 2 children, 13 and 8, that I'm responsible for. I expressed to him 6+ months ago that my stability, structure, and security is a priority for myself and my kids. Reason being, during a 15 yr marriage, we didn't have that. Well in a bit of sobriety I said somethings on the eve of him planning a surprise graduation party for me. I apologized for my untimely actions, but they were my feelings. I didn't or hadn't felt like my kids and I have been a priority. I would like to include he had been without work for 8 months. And during that time I tried and was supportive in being there for him during his moments of frustration. Well now he's accepted a job and each day that he's told me he was to start the job, I find out that 'Oh I didn't stay today'. My anxiety is put the roof because I have to have a conversation with him because my kids and I have no where to go when my lease is up. There is more that I can share but I thought I'd start with the most recent issue of ours.
By pattifred | May 21 2014
By toxxicsimplicity | May 21 2014
met this guy in highschool 6years ago. we've always had an on-off thing (id date someone he'd date someone but if we were single we'd date eachother) there has ALWAYS been intense attraction and something keeps pulling us back together although we have never had sex, kissed, or even held hands. the problem: after highschool I got adventurous and moved to Colorado for some guy and I was married for two years. when the divorce came up he helped me through it all and said his feelings for me were no different. a son came out of the marriage and my highschool sweetheart and I had talked about being together FINALLY. I asked how he would feel about a child being around and he said "I will have to get used to it because its a new experience. I don't know how I would handle it but that all comes in time" ...now he has a girlfriend with a daughter whom he posts pics of with all the time, always smiling and whatnot, so of course I was a little upset. what hurts worse is that even when he is around her he will text me "hey baby" and "I miss and love you" I asked him if he ever loved her and he said neither of them had those feelings for eachother...so why be with her? I told him it was now or never, its been six years now.