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We haven't talked since yesterday and about five minutes ago he texted hey out of the blue. He's out of town so I don't think it's a booty call. We've been kinda friends for a while but he just recently has been asking me about my personal life and making efforts to talk to me. He also asked meif I had a boyfriend yesterday.

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So i met a guy on tinder and from the beginning he has been a jerk. He wanted to have sex before even meeting me. I let it slide and laughed it off. The first time we hung out he didnt even make a move. the second time we got more physical. he was straight up about not wanting a relationship and he is very private. he always would say disrepectful things degrading women and played it off as a joke but i still hated it. I stopped talking to him after he mocked me via snapchat vids saying how all of his roommates have seen me naked, because yes i did send him some. I gave him a second chance after he explained it was a mistake that they saw and he only was bragging about me. BUT STILL! Fast forward a couple more hangouts. We were messing around and he ended up pressuring/convincing me to have sex. the next day he didnt even talk about it with me and then shouted toodles from the front door to let me know he was leaving. I acted like everything was fine for two days but after having time to think i just realized i needed to end things before i became even more of a booty call. ( he never wants to hangout and the only times we did we ended up messing around) In response he said i was finding reasons to be mad at him and i was acting like a needy whiny dog. he said he couldnt believe i was acting so bi polar and called me dirt mcgirt. He said the reason i wasnt getting anywhere with him was because i was still in the mind set of when we met on tinder. Which Im not! and that i didnt know what he wanted. And now he isnt responding to my texts.

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I dated this guy on and off for quite some time. Over the summer we called it quotes. About a month ago I was thinking about him so I texted him. He responded a couple times then stopped responding. When I texted him again asking how he was doing he just didn't respond at all. So I took the hint and left him alone. A month later he texted me saying "Hey :)" but he sent me the text at 10:45pm and I was already asleep so I never answered. About 2 days passed, I never responded and he didn't try to talk to me again

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So, met this guy in May at a club. We had amazing, unprecedented chemistry and ended up hooking up that night. This was an isolated incident, not something I make a habit of. This sex was great and we parted ways amicably. I live in Portland and he was visiting for a bachelor party but he lives in Seattle. We continued heavy texting after our hookup and I took a roadtrip a couple of weekends later to Seattle to see him. It's about a 3 and a half hour drive. I got a hotel room as he says he had a roommate who had just had a baby and he didn't want to be rude by inviting someone over to stay the night. He, however, did not offer to pay for my gas or go dutch on the hotel room, even though he stayed the night. Strike one.

Despite this, we continued texting. He was upfront and said that between his job and his training for MMA, that he had little time to dedicate to a relationship. I accepted the relationship for what it was..a fling. But as all females tend to do, I started developing feelings. I mentioned those feelings and again, he hit me with brutal honesty. He enjoyed me physically but did not know how he felt about me outside of that. Ouch! Strike two.

So, no surprise to anyone...the relationship just abruptly stops. I move on with my life and hold on to the erotic memories. Just another life lesson in what not to do in the world of dating.

A couple of Saturdays ago, he hits me up at 3 in the morning. It has been 5 months of NO CONTACT. I know what everyone is thinking...BOOTY CALL. BUT, we live 3 hours away...so what gives? I happened to have woken up shortly after he texted and thought wth? I'll see what this is about. He was apologetic about our losing contact and asked if I was still single. I had just stopped talking to someone and let him know that. He stated that had been crazy busy but he wanted to plan a visit to Portland to see me as I had driven out to see him last time. I've been hesitant but he has been persistent. Again, he talks a lot about our physical chemistry but has starting making comments about maybe "taking it to another level." When I made mention about the fact that he could probably get local ass much easier he stated "Yeah, but you are hard to give up." WTF????

The only reason he even stands a chance with me, is the insane chemistry we have between us. And we also have very witty and interesting conversations both via text and in person, so I do have some interest even though he has acted like a jerk in the past.

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I wrote on here a couple of weeks ago about a guy I met on Tinder. I took your advice and ditched him as he obviously wasn't interested. I've now met a lovely guy and been on multiple dates etc.

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We met Freshman year in college and we hung out in my dorm like 2 times. We are now Seniors and about to graduate and recently started talking again. I went over to his place three days ago because I always wanted to know what it would be like to have sex with him and we did have sex but we had a really intimate conversation and I really got to see another side of him. He told me he's not usually like that and he felt really comfortable with me, he even said his favorite part was the cuddling.

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Okay so me and my friends were at a get together and got invited to go to this guys house and I always thought the guy was totally cute. So of course I went. We got there and to me we had a connection. We looked at each other in the eyes and kissed a couple times and right after that we started texting and then stopped suddenly and then he got a girlfriend? Well, that was almost a year ago and about a week ago me and the same friends were at a fall foliage festival and we saw him there. He was hanging out with one if his friends which was dating one of mine. We all hungout. I also knew he got a new girlfriend. So I kept my conversation minimal. I had a boyfriend at the time also and he came up and asked me about him. Also he kept talking about what he and his girlfriend do. Then he invited us to his house late at night so we snuck in. We were all talking and then suddenly we turned all the lights out to just walk around and see who we run into and I tried something. I secluded myself in a corner and wanted to see if he'd come over there and he did. He felt my face and I felt our lips close to touching once again. I decided to say "I'm just gonna lay down right here" and he said "no I am" and we both laid down at the same time and never moved, I've felt the connection all might just like before. About 10 minutes later I feel him putting his hand into my leggings. And he starts running my butt which was weird to me so I told him to stop. After that he said "physical attractions suck." Then resumed talking saying how much he loves his girlfriend so he should leave. And that's what happened. Btw I'm in highschool lol.

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Been dating a guy for 2.5 months and we had a rocky start but we've gotten back on track. Our last date was drinks and then me going with him to his friend's dinner party (all ppl he grew up with). After the party i went back to his apartment and we slept together for the first time and then watched a movie. He asked me to stay the night multiple times but I chose to leave because I had work early the next day.
I didn't hear from him again until two days later at midnight in a text asking me to come over and watch a movie.(at midnight??) I told him I'm not leaving my house. Didn't hear from him for another day and half. He sends me a text at seven Sunday night asking to come over for a night cap and a cuddle? At this point i've decided not to respond because i'm starting to get a bad feeling. He text me again saying if i don't want to cuddle i should come play pool with him, his roomie, and roomie's gf.
My response: You should have opened the convo with that bit of info. I'm going to pass but have fun :)
Him: Why lady?
Me: Because its really last minute on a sunday night. Question for you though is daylight no longer in the cards for us?
He responds with a no no he really wanted to see me but he got really busy this weekend.

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We met at a party 3 months ago and he ended up coming home with me (no sex, but not for lack of effort on his part). In the morning he asked for my number and I gave it to him even though I got the vibe that he was doing it just to be polite. He asked me to go on a walk that next week, but I was (incorrectly) informed that he had a gf by some of my coworkers. I confronted him about it and he said that she was an ex. (It has since been confirmed they are broken up but at that point it must have been very recent) Flash forward... he has texted me almost every single Friday and Saturday night since then (unless one of us has been out of town). Seems like a no brainer that he liked me but 90% of his texts were after 10 pm asking if I wanted to meet up downtown. I played it cool and brushed off all of these texts. I barely responded to texts and oddly enough there was no flirting going on in the texts just a constant barrage of "where are you? want to meet up" texts. A few weeks ago I was out with some coworkers and invited him to join us and he did. I was dancing with one of my (male) coworkers at one point and later in the night this guy tried to tell me that he thought my coworker was gay (he's definitely not), so it did seem that he was jealous. He came home with me again but I told him no sex and we literally just went to bed. I also confronted him about him only sending late night texts and he has made more of an effort to text earlier but still doesn't ask me out on a date.

This past weekend we texted non stop and actually had some flirtation going on. We did hang out at his pool where he said things like "I've been trying so hard to get you to like me" and when he told me his age he said "and a half" and I made fun of him for that and he admitted "I didn't want you to think I was too young for you". I responded with something like I have dated older guys who are not mature and younger guys who are more mature so age doesn't really matter. He responded with "O you think this is a date? (dirty look from me)... I'm j/k." After the pool, we went up to his place and fooled around but again I told him I didn't want to have sex but this time I told him I don't have sex outside of relationships.

I invited him to a sporting event this week but he said he couldn't go because he's going to be out of town (which he had told me before we hung out at the pool). He did respond right away, but kind of kept the answer short.

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By deatta | Jul 09 2014

I am MADLY in love with a younger man. "Kyle" and I have been friends for about 3yrs now, he had worked his dad on some construction on my home, however when I met him, I was married, and he was far too young for me. I went about 5mths without seeing Kyle, and we ended up running into each other at a mutual friend’s house one weekend (who happens to live next door to me). When I saw him, he gave me a great big hug, asked me how I was doing and I filled him in that I was now getting divorced. That evening he came over with our friends “Lisa & Ryan” to hang out. We laughed and joke and he made a comment about how he used to stare at me at the house when I ran around in my short shorts. I didn’t think anything of it except that he is young and horny!
Now, Kyle, back in December when we ran into each other again, was turning 18 at the end of the month…and I was 27. Now I don’t see this as much of a problem as most people do simply because my own parents are 24yrs apart! This is normal for me!
Kyle made some comments about maybe “hooking up” and at the time I was going threw a divorce and was looking for some fun! I thought “why not, he’s young and probably has stamina for DAYS!” So, we slept together, and continued to do so for a few weeks while he was in town. His dad had called me to check in and told me that he knew everything and he was happy for Kyle and I and actually hoped he would make something more of it than just sex. I was ecstatic for some reason.
Kyle went home for his birthday at the end of December and when he came back up in the middle of January, things were different right away. He sat me down and told me he had a girlfriend that he really liked and wanted to see how things were going to go. I agreed to back off, and we agreed no more sex. A few days before Valentine’s Day I hung out with our mutual friends and Kyle, I got completely drunk, made an ass out of myself and he took care of me. One thing led to another and we fooled around, never slept together but it was still him cheating. I told him that it was no different than us sleeping together and he needed to figure out what he was doing, he left the next day.
He came back the weekend of St. Patrick’s Day, he called me and told me to head on over. I put him off, I told him I was out with my ex (ex-husband, we have a great friendship) and that I had to make a few appearances and then I would make my way back to town. It was HOURS later by the time I made it to our friends house, and everyone was almost sleeping. They all got up, we had a few beers and we were all ready for bed. Kyle followed me to bed, I asked him if he still had a girlfriend and he said yes, I told him to stay on his own side or find a new room! That didn’t happen. We slept together…again, and it was like that for a week or so. Then he started feeling guilty. I told him he needed to figure out what he was doing, it wasn’t fair to me or to his girlfriend at home. Later that day he called her and told her he was moving here because there was someone else in his life and he was sorry. *yes I heard the whole conversation*
His dad had called me later on that evening and had informed me that he had talked to Kyle that day and he told him things were different with me, that the sex wasn’t just sex, it was us making love. I let it go, I figured when Kyle was ready to tell me that he would.
Standing on my porch just a few hours after he had broke up with his girlfriend he asked me to be his…I of course said yes! He had to leave a few days later for a funeral, he was gone 2days, and it seemed like the longest 2days of my life. When he came home, we were inseparable! We had talked about our futures, the house I was finishing, our jobs, and even talked about having kids (I already have 1, who Kyle adores and my son adores Kyle). Things were perfect, up until about 6wks ago. He called me and we talked for over an hour. I asked him if he would be around for the 4th of July and he said he didn’t know…I was obviously upset and then he proceeded to tell me we have no future together, but we can still stay friends. I have been heart broke every since! He still calls me every few days, we still talk about the same things we did before, and then he called one night in June and said he was coming up for a few hours and wanted to see me, NOTHING happened, he hugged me and that was it. We hung out with his brother for a few hours and he left. He called again and said he would be up July 3rd. I was happy, but had plans and I wasn’t ignoring my son for him…I did my own thing that night and when I was finally done, I pulled into our friends house and he was there. The little girl part of me wanted to jump up and down, but I played it cool. I didn’t imitate the hug or the conversation. We all hung out for a bit and I told him I was going home, I was beat. He asked if he could stay with me since he didn’t want to put Lisa and Ryan out and he had cut ties with everyone else in town, I said yes. I tried to play hard to get but in an hour, I caved! All weekend I caved…I asked him at the end of the weekend why he came, he said it was to get away from his roommates because he works with them all day, and it might be because he misses me a little. I don’t know what to do, he has told me he loved me, but then he took it back. Im LOST! I thought he would be a rebound, but it turned into so much more! Im in love and don’t know what to do! I want him in my life…I don’t NEED any man, but I WANT HIM! Ive had the chance to fix my marriage and get back with my ex husband and I chose Kyle and then he walked away. I talked to his dad who claims its because Kyle is young and scared and doesn’t know how to react to being in love. Apparently hes told his dad that hes in love with me but wont tell me! PLEASE HELP!

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I met a guy about 7 months ago. I didn't take it too seriously at first but then I actually started to get feelings for him. We were having sex, hanging out, doing things together. He acted smitten with me and I was really thinking that this could go somewhere. We never talked about titles or called eachother bf of gf. We were just having fun spending time together. About a month into it, I came over to his place late after being out at the bars (no I didn't drive I had someone drop me off) we went to sleep and the next morning he was acting distant. He remained that way for weeks. Eventually we started hanging out again but it was never the same. He stopped taking me out, he would only text late at night or make plans last minute or want to come over late at night. I told him I couldn't do it anymore and I wanted more than that, that I wanted to actually date. He told me he wasn't sure what he wanted. So he understands if I don't want to see him anymore. A few more months went by and I went out on other dates and rarely spoke to him. Just the other week he invited me out to a museum. I decided to go, he took me out, we had fun like we always do, he started texting me a lot again, then....back to nothing. Completely ignoring me. I'm not an idiot and I know I don't need to put up with this, and deep down I know I was probably always just a booty call, but I still have strong feelings for him and my heart is broken. I wish he would leave me alone if he's going to go from paying attention to ignoring me again.

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I was 'dating' a guy 3 months. It started off great, and then in the last month it seemed as though it was turning into a 'booty call' kind of relationship. He would often text me about meeting up, only for it to turn into me meeting him at his after a night out with the lads. I finally had enough so I sent him this message
'I don't want you to message me anymore. Find somebody else for when you're drunk or bored'.
I then blocked his number and deleted him off Facebook.
Three days later he sent me this message:

Ali,
It saddens me to know that I won't be seeing you any time soon. However I do not blame you for doing what you are doing. You put up with me longer than I thought you were going to.
Any way. I hope that in time things settle at home, I know you are a tough cookie and will see things right again. Just look after your bloody knee! Get on that foam roller too!
Any way enjoy your self, you and Hattie had better not cause too much mischief...
Night you!
X

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I met this guy on dating site. He's 8 years older than me. We've been basically in touch for about 6 months now. We went on 3 proper dates, before he even attempted to Kiss Me. He even kept in touch after the 3rd date surprisingly, as I left for a 3 week trip. It was only after the 7th date that we slept together. After sleeping together he told me via text that he likes me, finds me fascinating, and he hasn't met anyone like me before (but I think he was drunk). We went on another two dates after that, which also ended up back at his place. But then my friend arrived in town (she was in town for about a month and a half and staying with me) and we did meet for drinks, which again ended up at his place, but only this time he suggested that I go home since I told him I had to wake up early (even though it would have been preferable for me to stay since it was 2am). He is always the one that asked me out on dates, I have never asked him out once, just mainly coz I'm old-fashioned. The next two weeks were very important weeks for me - with regards to my work and these are the two weeks I felt that he was distancing himself. Less frequent texts, he wouldn't ask about my day or even wish me luck. He only messages me once or twice at most that week, with questions like "how was it?". So naturally, I distanced myself as well... not making much of an effort to reply quicker, but at least I still asked how he was. So this basically went on for about 4 weeks ( within those 4 weeks I went away on 2 weekends), he would message me about how pretty I looked in my profile picture on whatsapp and asked what i was doing during the week. I would reply and when I ask him about his week, he would always say busy so i just assumed he was really fading away. Then 2 weeks later he randomly sends me a message saying that he wondered why we haven't seen each other and that its been a month and he said that he thought that I would let him know when I would meet him as I had my friend over and he said that he doesn't think I even asked at all?' Then he said "Guess just wondering what the point is if your not that bothered. Its cool if ur not, just guess I'm not used to this so I have to ask the Q". I'm not sure how to interpret this because clearly, I felt that he was the one distancing himself and now apparently he's putting the blame on me. So then, after this i agreed to meet with him on the weekend and decided to ask him first this time. To which he agreed and he told me he was free on sunday and suggest we go for brunch then drinks after. However, he messaged me on sat evening at 11:30pm and asked me to come over his place and told me he really wanted to see me and wanted to wake up with me. I know it probably wasn't a good idea but I went over. When I got to his place he told me that he missed me, he asked again what happened as to why we didn't see each other for a month. I told him that I felt that he couldn't be bothered and he told me that he thought that I didn't like him. Then he mentioned that we were both "difficult". He also mentioned that "we should see each other", which he didn't clarify what that meant, and he just said that "he loves having me over". Which then he quickly says " I shouldn't have said that". The next day we have a conversation just random talks, and we go for a meal and a walk. I leave him in the afternoon as he said he was going to go to the gym. As we were parting we sort of agreed that " we would bother more" about whatever was going on between us.

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What do I do Should I give it to him or not...

By britbrit82913 | May 28 2014

I was texting this guy that I met while at a 9 month college and the topic of sex came up. We have cuddled that turned into making out once, and he has slept over twice. We have made plans for him to come over and sleep over again in a couple weeks and he said that he would love it if we could cuddle again and maybe this time naked. I said that I have no problem cuddling with him while watching Big Bang Theory or some Disney movies, because I do love him but I am a virgin and I just don't know if having sex will make it so that's all he wants from me. I don't want to be just a booty call. I want a loving, passionate, intimate, real relationship with him and I don't want to screw it up.

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So this guy and I had a thing a few years back. Recently we have been talking/hanging out again. Weve hung out 3 time two of which ended with some kissing and one of which ended with us staying up until 5 AM talking. But recently he has really only been texting me late at night on the weekends but the weird this is... he isnt (seemingly) booty calling me. The conversations just seem weird and not like any of the scenarios I can think of (a) booty call, (b) talking to a friend because youre bored and want to have a full conversation, or (c) talking to someone youre interested in to let them know youre interested..

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