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I'm nearing the end of highschool, I have a cynical view of...

By chaptonella | Dec 03 2015

Okay so I have had very strong feelings for one of my best friends (let's call him Idiot), and I have never been entirely sure of his feelings towards me due to his flirtatious nature and various exploits with other girls. I was finally ready to move on, and have entered into a developing potential relationship with another guy (let's call him Fez.) who I really like. 2 weeks ago, I was informed by Idiot's (male) best friend that I should not pursue Fez, and "wait for Idiot" as he had recently realized his feelings for me, and wanted a relationship. I held back on Fez because I wasn't sure and I was still deciding whether even after trying to moving on, I should try something with Idiot. After lots of deliberation I decided I couldn't do that to Fez and I also didn't want to risk mucking up my friendship with Idiot, and so I chose Fez. However, last night, I was hanging out with Idiot, as we usually do as friends, and he asked me if I wanted to try a relationship. It was horrible because I had to tell him no at this point, and so he cried, and we hugged for over an hour and I felt devastated over what needed to be done. Now I don't know how to act around him as we were always quite close physically and we had a very strong bond that I am terrified of losing. It's not as if I don't still have feelings for him, but I know it would be a bad idea, especially with Fez in the equation. How much space should give, and how should I initiate the 'rekindling' of our once very close friendship without it seeming forced or awkward?

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Do we have feelings for each other?

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I really like a guy who's friend with my male best friend, we saw each other multiple times and he was really physical, we also chatted a lot but it was mainly jokes, no deep talk or anything and I feel like I'm doing it wrong, beeing too harsh on him...
Anyway, what are the signs for you that a guy likes you ? And also, it takes two hours by train to go to his city, do you think this kind of "long" distance relationship would be worth it ?

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Crush on ex-BF's best friend, I think he likes me too, I told him how I felt and now we aren't talking.

So, I dated a guy 3 years ago, it was a pretty intense year-long relationship but he broke up with me and it was pretty messy for a while afterwards. Since then we've been able to patch things up enough to remain friends and hang out. Through hanging out I met and gradually became really good friends with his best friend. It got to the point where the best friend and I were texting or talking online almost every day for over a year and started hanging out every weekend. Everyone else noticed it and my ex even once told me, "I'm fine with you dating anyone. else, just don't fall for my best friend."

He's never made a clear move on me but it was really clear we were really close and cared a lot about each other (e.g. he left work early when I was having a bad day to cheer me up).

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My best friend is a guy

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My best friend is a guy whom I have known for the last 10 years; we met in high school, kept in touch in college, dated after college when we both wound up in the same city, broke up after a few weeks because he "didn't feel that way about me". Now we pretty much live together we spend so much time together...

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But of course fate has a twisted sense of...

By mermaid | Jan 24 2015

So I am this awkward shy/hopeless romantic person. Some time ago I fell hard for a guy (let's call him M) I knew from work. Nothing really happened, maybe we were too shy, I too awkward, or he wasn't sure what he felt. But I think, or at least like to believe, that he liked me too, because there was always some magnetism between us. Whenever I met him I was a nervous wreck, and he just stared and at me and smiled. If we had a conversation, I would always say something sarcastic and weird because I obviously turn into a crazy person when I'm nervous. It took me a while to realize I can't dwell on it forever. I just could't go on hoping and wishing anymore, it was too agonizing. I decided to forget M and it's been going well for the last couple of months.

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I have this guy best friend that I do everything with, holding hands when walking, cuddling in cinemas, exploring and adventuring together all that. We do love and care for each other, but he never wanted a relationship with me so I just gave up any romantic feelings I had for him, and we've been best of friends for 2 years now.

So recently I found a boyfriend that I really like, and my best friend started being very clingy and whiny, saying I would leave him all that. Doing couple-ly things with my best friend just feels automatic and right since we've been doing it for so long already, and I know my boyfriend wouldn't be happy even though he accepts the fact that I have a guy best friend and knows we do everything together but doesn't want to sabotage the friendship we have.

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I'm 23 and I dated this guy, Josh, on and off for 3 years. He would invite me to hang out with him and his best friend all the time. His best friend and I turned out to have a bunch of very close mutual friends and actually went to the same preschool back in the day and have baby pictures together. His best friend and I really hit it off and when josh and I would go on a break, we would hang out just as friends and I would go to him for advice. Once he was hanging out with Josh when we were on a break and asked Josh if it was okay if he invited me (awkward, i know). Then another time, I hung out with his best friend and my friends came along. We all went for drinks and had an amazing time. My friends pulled me to the side and said, "he likes you". I didn't believe them or even care if they were right because I was still in love with Josh. Over the summer, Josh met another girl and asked her to move in and that's when I realized we were officially over. Josh's best friend would like my stuff on social media every now and then, but I was too broken all of summer to spend time trying to keep in touch with people. Then I was at a Jason Aldean concert in October and his best friend was at the same concert, so we met up. He was never my type so we would just hang out as friends. Then 2 weeks ago, I texted him and said that I'm meeting up with some friends at a hockey game and wanted to know if he wanted to join us. He said he actually had tickets to go with his brother and friends, but he'd come sit with me. He then said he was driving separately from his brother and asked if I wanted him to pick me up, so I said yes. He picked me up and we talked about how Josh and I were officially over and just caught up. When we got to the game, he asked me if I wanted him to get me a beer or anything and he asked me more than once throughout the game. He even took a picture of us and posted it on his snapchat and mentioned how Josh might see it so he maybe shouldn't post it, but he did anyway. Then my friends left and he and I went to go meet up with his friend and his friend's girlfriend and sit with them. After the game, the 4 of us went to a bar. He and I sat on the same side of the booth and waited for his friends to get there. We had such a fun time and when the bill came, he paid for me. Then when we walked out, he put his hand on my back and said he had a great time and how glad he is that I got along with his friend's girlfriend and how the 4 of us need to hang out again. He held all the doors open and was the perfect gentleman. On the way to the game, he invited me to go to a country concert at the end of Jan. with him and his friends. He also texted me after he dropped me off saying he had a good time and mentioned something about the game. He's really outgoing, but not when it comes to girls. He's never even had a serious relationship and I honestly doubt he's ever had sex, so I always have to be the first one to ask him to hang out. I asked him if he wanted to go out for drinks one night, but he was out with his brother and friends. He texted me asking if it was okay if we went out another time and that margaritas are on him. I said of course and he did one of those smile emojis and we just went back and forth with the smiley faces. So then 2 days later, he texted me and invited me over for New Year's Eve. I was going to a hockey game, but I said I'd stop by with my 2 friends after. When I pulled my car into the driveway, he came out and walked up to the driver's side and opened up my door for me and closed it. He then introduced me to his parents and his mom said, "he told me you like the panthers" and then introduced me to all his friends. Even though all his friends were there, he sat by me the entire time to talk. While we were playing beer pong against each other, this pretty girl in this really tiny outfit walked in. He looked at her and started giggling with his friends. However, his eyes then went back on me and didn't leave my side unless he was talking to his guy friends. He went inside and a few minutes later, I got a text from him while I was there saying, "you left :/ " . He couldn't find me and assume I left but then found me outside. An hour later, I left to go home and watch the ball drop with my family. However, I went back two hours later, but this time without my friends. When I got there, he was going to walk down the block with his friend to his friend's car to get moonshine, so I went with them. It was muddy up ahead, so he picked me up and carried me to the car so i wouldn't ruin my heels and then carried me again going back. When we got back to his house, his friend told us not to come inside with him and to wait outside...which I found strange being that it wasn't even his friend's house. I felt like it was just weird guy code thing to get us alone since his friend kept on teasing us the whole walk back. Then for some strange reason, the guy I like said we should go on an adventure and walk through the grass and the dark around the side of his house to get to his backyard instead of just walking through the front door. So when we were alone back there, he kept on putting his arms around me and holding me. We then got to his backyard where his friends were and kept his arm around me in front of his dad and his friends. His friend then asked him to be teammates at beerpong but then he asked me if I wanted to play and then got mad at his friend and said how he wanted to play with me instead. After, we went inside and sat on the couch next to each other and it was literally like no one else was at the party because we were just talking and talking and he didn't leave my side and then asked me if I wanted any water and didn't ask anyone else sitting down. before I knew it, it was 3:30 in the morning, so I told him I was going home. He then walked me outside. We stayed in front of his house talkingn and he hugged me and then he said he'd walk me to my car door even though my car was literally right in front of us in his driveway. So we walked me to my car door, opened it up for me, and then stayed talking to me and we ended up talking for 20 minutes. He also said how he didn't like the way his friend who I dated treated me and also again mentioned how he'll take me out for margaritas on him. We then kept on teasing me because of how close I was to the steering wheel because I'm short. keep in mind, while we were outside talking that whole time, all his party guests were inside his house without him. I then left and he gave me another hug and told me to please text him to let him know I got home safely. I texted him when I got home and he thanked me for coming and how he's glad I came. The way he treats me just made me like him as more than just a friend. And when I graduated college, he texted me during the ceremony to congratulate me. Also, he takes a big interest in my job and also says how cool it is, unlike the guy I dated before who didn't take any interest in what I do or love.

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I dated this guy for around 4 months, we had both agreed it was casual, but then he broke things off with me saying he was looking for a relationship and he didn't see us going anywhere. I was pretty upset because I liked him and did no contact, although he consistently hit up my best friend asking about me for months after. Almost 10 months went by with me seeing him at mutual friend's parties once in a while, and me definitely not talking to him much. Eventually, he crashed my best friend's birthday party and kept trying to talk to me. He said he was going to give my book back and we had a long phone conversation where I said I didn't trust him because I knew he was probably looking for fwb. I had a party at my apartment that he went to and things escalated from there and I just ended up having sex with him again because I was lonely. We've been having sex for 6 months now and he is being confusing lately. At first he said shit like I should go out and have sex with other people, never says it anymore. He had two weird comments, one calling me "THE" woman besides his cat and the other asking me if I would like his last name (I dislike mine). Further, a friend asked him why he didn't see me as his girlfriend and apparently he said "because she doesn't see me as her boyfriend". We cuddle all the time and definitely don't have sex every time we hang out. However, we never kiss, very purposefully on my part but he's only tried twice. And recently he sent me a text saying he was sorry for lying to the 'other girl' he's sleeping with about sleeping with me. I got pissed and was rude and said it didn't have anything to do with me, but instead of addressing it he just texted me frequently for the next two days badgering me to hang out. He calls me to hang out every 2 or 3 days so I'm not sure when he would even have the time for another girl, but who knows? I unfortunately think I'm getting feelings for him again so I don't want to drag this on dealing with his mommy issues and lack of empathy unless he actually cares about me. I don't want to bring it up because he originally dumped me and I'm very prideful.

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OK so I met him last year in the beggining of middle school. I barley talked to him but he started likeing my best friend. She didn't really like him but they went out for 2 weeks. She was to scared to break up with him so I told him the bad news. I think because I told him so nicely he started likeing me. I barley paid attention. Know this new year most of my close friends are in different buildings in school. But he was in mine. He was in my homeroom and I sat with him couple times cause he was the only one I knew at that time. Later he got moved to different class whenever he see me in the hallway he would nudgeand kick me playfully ,he would also take my magnets and keep them then bring them back. Then one day he told me this one girl liked him I asked him " do you like her " and he didn't say anything but have to go. Later when I was in lunch line I saw them hugging so I supposed they started dating. I kinda got sad then I realized I had some feelings for him. Other day he asked for my Kik and we talked a lot but know he text me like kinda 3 times a day but he has a girlfreind .

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So I met this guy at my friend's halloween party. He had the guts to go up to me, pull up a chair, and have a conversation. He seemed very genuine and I felt like conversation wasn't forced. I had to go, he got my number, we texted for like 3 days but then he stopped. He didn't text me for a week so I decided to text him and he said he had "been busy with school". So we continued texting and he stopped texting, again. It has been about 2 weeks since then and his best friend told me that he did like me but that the reason he stopped texting me was because I'm going to school in Austin and he goes to school in Dallas so he didn't really see it going nowhere. So I messaged his friend today and I told him that I felt like texting him again but that I know I shouldn't because he obviously doesn't want to talk to me. Sooo...his best friend told him so he texted me saying he was sorry for not replying to me and if I wanted to hang out since I'm in the area (my family is from Dallas).

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By julie1218 | Nov 24 2014

ok so me and this boy have texted for like 8 months, except we met because I banged his best friend, and that's how we started talking. I recently just came out of a short term relationship and all of a sudden This boy has gone from a best friend to a bae except for my one problem, ok so I'm sure he likes me and all but he really wants his friend that I banged not to find out that me and him are together, but yet he still comes to my house often, we've never had sex or had a sleepover just been fun little hang outs but I don't know if it's worth getting attached to someone who doesn't even want their best friend to find out? Like I don't want to have to keep a big part of my life a secret, he has only told one of his friends about me and him seeing eachother

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My best friend was texting me and started sending me texts she was getting from a guy named Charles who goes to our school saw me with her the other day and thought I was "cute, gorgeous" so she asked me if she could give him my number and I said okay. Now be keeps texting me a whole bunch of compliments like "you're beautiful" "you don't know how beautiful you are" etc, I have never actually talked to him though.

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