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What the hell do I do! I came home from the date giddy, I really...

By inamesshelp | May 17 2015

This is a really weird, scary question- but here goes! I have been on one date with this guy who I met in on tinder. I am 20. His tinder profile says that he is 22 years old. Before meeting up I said to him randomly 'when's your birthday?' and he said he was born in 1994, making him 20. He apologised and said he didn't realise that his age was wrong on there.
However, on the date he accidentally said his birthday was 1998. I said 'excuse me?' and then he said that he was just thinking of his younger sister's birthday. I got very suspicious and did some cyber stalking- all of his friends look young. I googled him (I know, super creepy, I was just desperate to find out if I hooked up with too young for me) and I found a paper from his school, stating that he was in his second last year of school and it seems to be dated from this time LAST YEAR. I'm very confused.
The worst part is its possibly the best date I've ever been on and we kissed. The age of consent in my country is 16 and I'd hate to accuse someone of lying- it just all seems so suspicious.

Now I'm Wondering

What the hell do I do?! I came home from the date giddy, I really liked the guy (it takes a lot for me to like someone...) but obviously if he's lying about his age it is gross to me and a dealbreaker. Shall I request ID? I feel like if I did that and he wasn't lying he'd run a mile...

6 Comments

littlemissy994

18 May

That's a sticky situation. I think you should be honest and just ask him, if he says he's 20 and you still don't believe him then maybe you can suggest going to a bar or something where you have to be 21 to get in and see if he makes up an excuse. Even if his age isn't a problem it's still not okay for him to be lying to you especially if you've asked him a few times

rxbfan04

Top Commenter

18 May

Personally I think he's lying, who forgets their own birthday?! You have every right to be suspicious. You should talk to him, and ask him honestly, and if he continues to be evasive or answer strangely, you should tell him straight up that you don't appreciate being lied to. The lying is the bigger red flag than his age.

bluesdetoi

Top Commenter

18 May

It's not really your fault that you're suspicious, he caused it on himself by saying different things at different times. I would ask him for an ID to prove his actual age if you want to continue dating him and you shouldn't feel bad about it either, he's the one who seems to be suffering from memory loss at a very young age. I agree that I think he's lying.

2009

Top Commenter

18 May

I'd just forget about him, if he feels the need to lie about that there's probably more lies in there, some of which could even be contributing to the fact that you are swooning now.

inamesshelp

18 May

From a legal standpoint: the age of consent in my country is 16. I just confronted him about it and he's actually 18. Could have been worse, but still icky and weird. Thanks guys :)

bluesdetoi

Top Commenter

19 May

Just be cautious, if he is lying to you before even meeting you, honesty isn't exactly his strong suit.

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