Had a great time!
I went on a date with a guy and I thought it went really well, he even followed it up with this text, but it's been a week and I haven't heard back. Why would someone follow up after a date, and not pursue something after that?
A week isn't that long. Sometimes guys get caught up too! If it goes any longer than 10 days without him making a definitive plan with you, then sorry but dunzos. It's a sign he's not that interested. In that case "Had a great time" was just him being polite...
Omg. Are you in NYC? This same thing happens to my girlfriends in NY all the time. Guys just fall off the face of the earth, never to be heard of again. We think it's b/c they're dating so many different girls that they even lose track of ones they like sometimes! That's our theory anyway!
Meh. You just have to leave it for a while. I agree with you, it's weird he texted that and then nothing since. Because it's now ambiguous what's going on, I think you should wait for him to pursue you again, personally...
when he texted "Had a great time" did you respond to him? If you didn't maybe he takes your lack of a response as a lack of interest on your part?
1 week is not all that long, and also quite frankly it depends on whether it is 1 week in NYC time (where it's super easy to be so busy that you mean to make plans and then don't get around to it yet)... I say, resist the urge to text him and just wait a little bit longer.
Agreed. You respond? If not, you have to repsond and then it's his ball to bounce. If you didn't, he thinks you're not interested in him.
Yeah, as everyone below is asking, did you respond back to his text? Bc if not maybe he thinks you didn't have as great a time as he did. Y'know what I'm saying? I def think sending him another text, even something random is totally fine and should help push him to ask you out again.
He's waiting for YOUR text back...
Did you text him back after that? If not he's waiting for your reply and if you have replied he's not interested.
Um, wait, did you text him back after that though?
Pretty sure if he was interested and after a week YOU havent replied, then
hes not interested anymore.
If you haven't already, text him back and ask him how his week has been going. He might have just had a super hectic schedule that week. If he texts you back and seems cooled off, he's probably not interested in you. But if he seems like he wants to hang out again, go for it!
it's possible, he really did have a great time... but possibly a bit shy, and thinking of ways to follow up. give it another week, or a simple hello text. if nothing...then he's not into you.
eff, he texts you and you want more?? should he show up at your door with some huge, heartfelt confession too? he's putting the ball in your court, waiting to gauge your interest based on your response to "had a great time!". it's a classic move. HE EVEN USED AN EXCLAMATION POINT!!!
Because they are being cordial. He had a great time. You can believe that. Whether or not it was great enough for a repeat is still not evident.
If you must, you can hit him up with a few status update morsels. Perhaps letting him know if you'll be in the same place again. Don't invite him, let him ask.
A day to a girl is like eternity, a day to a guy is no big deal. The work week can get busy and fly by so 1 week isn't an issue 2 weeks and I would move on.
Why is it the guy that always has to be the one that send the reply? He is probably wondering why you haven't replied yet...
If you didn't reply to that first text, then he has moved on.
If he said that but didn't follow up by asking for another date he was probably just being nice.
BOOM. Nailed it.
Ball is in your court, babe. Your choice what happens next. Girls can initiate dates, too.
Maybe you should've replied sooner. He probably thought because you didnt reply he didnt want to chase.
He is insecure. He is waiting to see if you are into him. Touch base with him.
And you never texted him back!?!?!
So you went on a date, then he texted you afterward, and you ignore it. Then you wonder why he doesn't follow you around? text the guy, get another date, hold off on the drama until after you meet his parents and his mom hates you.
He either met someone else, or one of the other girls he was chasing turned into something more.
Maybe had a better offer elsewhere
Did you respond? If you didn't you should.
It sounds like he was trying to be nice and not hurt your feelings. He's probably hoping that you'll get the hint since he hasn't tried to talk to you, because he doesn't have the guts to tell you he isn't interested. If he wanted to see you again, he would have followed up that "Had a great time!" with something like "let's hang out again soon."
It's his way of letting you down nicely
Why don't you contact him and find out? One contact from you does not spell desperation.
I agree that the crucial question is whether you replied to his "Had a great time!" If you didn't, I think the ball is still in your court and you should text him.
Because he was only being polite and not actually interested in anything more.
Either he was being polite, or he's waiting for YOU to follow up.
Did you respond after he said "had a great time"? If you didn't, he thinks you didn't and are blowing him off.