By purplejet | Mar 26 2015
Should I message him first or should I wait for him to message me?
Now I'm Wondering
I was on vacation visiting my dad and he introduced me to this family who has a son who is 19, the same age as me. My dad was really hoping this guy and I would hit it off. We didn't talk to one another but we played games with our families all night. They all speak Spanish and understand very little English, while I speak mostly English and could definitely improve my Spanish. I added the guy on facebook a few days later and the same day I added him he posted "girls take some initiative, nothing will happen". At this point I didn't think anything about it. The next day he posted something about him not caring where someone was from, and his friends commented saying that first he needed to learn English. I'm pretty sure that was about me, because that night at his family's house it was so obvious that I was more comfortable speaking English. A week later when I came back home from visiting my dad, I messaged the guy wishing him good luck on his football game, he responded "thanks, I hope to see you there", so I explained to him that I was already back home but that I would've really liked to see him play. He responded "thanks, it was really nice meeting you". He didn't even try to start up a conversation, so I was pretty discouraged. The next day my dad calls and tells me that the guy's team won, and told me that I should message him and congratulate him, so I did. He responded "thank you, maybe one day you will get to see me play, take care''. And again he didn't try to start up conversation. I assumed he was just not into me. But it's been a few times now where I will log on and a few minutes after he will post something about liking someone, I'm not sure if he's talking about me or if he's talking about someone else and it's just a coincidence that I happen to log on right before. I also checked to see if he was posting things like that before he met me, and he had not posted about liking anyone until the day I added him on facebook. Either way I'm still crushing on him, but I promised myself I wouldn't message him anymore until he messages me. I can't help but think that if I wait for him to message me we will both lose interest and I will have missed my opportunity to get to know him, but if I message him I don't want to seem easy, I want him to work a little for my attention. Should I message him or should I wait it out