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I've been talking to this guy on Tinder and we've hung out a few...

By somerandomgirl_3 | May 06 2016

Is he still interested? Is there something more or is he just using me?

Now I'm Wondering

I've been talking to this guy on Tinder and we've hung out a few times. He is very charming, witty and we get along quite well. In the first few weeks, we used to text every day and he would always try to initiate the conversation, asking "how my day was?" etc... However, lately he has been texting less frequently and our last exchange was as follows:
Him: Hun, thanks for the other day. I can't stop thinking about it.
(We got a bit cheeky.. so I slightly paraphrased what he said).
Me: Hey handsome.. Hahah can't stop thinking about you. :3
It's been three days and he hasn't replied so I'm wondering, what is going on?

I also know that he may be potentially talking to some other girls as well so I guess he might be busy with them? He is also a singer and he is going to move overseas in the next month or so, to pursue his career.
He has told me that he's more physically attracted to me than emotionally because he doesn't want for both of us to end up hurt because we both know we can't enter a long distance relationship.
So we've just been hanging out and having fun. However, when I told him that I'm falling for him, he also responded that he's also falling for me as well... So I'm not sure where we stand and what should I do. Should I try to initiate the next conversation or just leave it until next time he texts, if he does decide to text? Is he still interested?

3 Comments

sarajacobs

Top Commenter

8 May

Did you have the "I'm falling for you" conversation via text? If yes, I would be skeptical about this. It's so easy to say stuff (and lie) via text. Honesty, it sounds like he's trying to set himself up for a hookup/casual situation with you. He said he's more physically attracted to you than emotionally...he's giving you a compliment by saying he's attracted to you while also reinforcing that he's moving away soon so nothing serious can come of the situation. I kind of get the impression that perhaps he told you he's falling for you as well so that he can attempt to make an emotional connection with you, which will then make it easier to sleep with you. Also, I wouldn't put too much weight into texting and using that as a way to determine if he's interested. The true test of his interest is measured by how often he's making plans to see you. If you do nothing but text (read as: never see each other), then you're simply a texting buddy. In the end, it sounds like you're wasting your time on this guy for several reasons: you know he's moving away, you've started to fall for him but nothing will come of it in the long run (because again, you know he's moving away). It seems pointless to pour your energy, effort, and attention into this guy knowing that he will soon leave and when you're not even positive that he's serious about you. If I were in your situation and had started to develop an emotional connection to someone like him, I would cut ties now to save myself the emotional turmoil in the long run. Whatever feelings you have for him now are only going to grow the more time, energy, and effort you put into this situation.

maryrolando12

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24 May

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maryrolando12

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24 May

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