By llirtcelc | Apr 21 2015
His actions are confusing me: he's so hot and so cold! Help!
Now I'm Wondering
I (20 y/o) met this amazing guy (24 y/o) on a social dating app about a month and a half ago and we hit it off great. He’s funny, cute and very charming. However, he told me something I considered red flag when I first met him: he told me he broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years only 5 months ago. When I asked if he still loved her, he also told me that he still did. Although I had as slight problem with it, I thought I was emotionally strong for a FWB-type of relationship with him but I was so wrong. We finally met about four weeks into getting to know each other. The chemistry between us was definitely there. We kissed all throughout the movie date and had an amazing dinner afterwards with much of the same, flirty talk and kissing that we both quickly grew accoustumed to. Soon after (like three days later), I ended up spending some time at his place and we had sex. This happened at the time because we were in the heat of the moment, so I happened to let my guard down. Now thinking back a week later, I’m starting to regret sleeping with him. I started off as a passive, cool and nonchalant girl when I first met him (defense mechanism to avoid getting hurt) and didn’t really expect much to grow between us but after that watershed moment, my feelings for him have grown for him tenfold! I grew too emotionally attached, too fast. I can’t get him out of my head since then; it was like a light switched and I started falling for him. I guess I expected much of the same for him but that doesn’t seem like the case. Some days, he’ll be so sweet and send me cute messages and invite me out to events with him but other times, his tone can be so cold and distant towards me. For instance, he told me to call him later on today “because I never take the initiative to call him”. Fast forward six hours later when I called and I can barely get out a “Hi” from him before he tells me in a cold/harsh way that he’ll call me later (even though I knew he wouldn’t). Like seriously, what gives???? Every time I think I’m over him, he just finds a way for me to fall back into liking him again! At this moment and time, I haven’t communicated these feelings I’m started to have for him because I’ve been playing it off cool like him. But in reality, I’m tired of feeling like some obsessed, overanalyzing, needy and desperate chick! I need your advice because this is seriously stressing me out as the days continue to pass. I want to go back to the way I was before I met him! Please help?
He's also still frequenting on Tinder and adding moments... Is this a sign?