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Guy I've been casually seeing hooking up with has been distant....

By mistletoe1 | Jan 01 2016

My Hook up got into a relationship?

Now I'm Wondering

Guy I've been casually seeing hooking up with has been distant. He says he's just been busy and "maybe" we can catch up next week. Never mentioned a specific day. I asked if he's seeing someone now. He said - sort of, im dating.

Does it sound like "sort of" means yes he got serious w someone and is letting me down easy? Or does "I'm dating" means he's still on the market dating diff people?

7 Comments

mistletoe1

1 Jan

I asked to clarify and no response ...

mistletoe1

2 Jan

earlier this month he wanted to hang out and I asked if he was seeing someone. He denied. I'd be so mad if he only said that to hook up one last time

sarajacobs

Top Commenter

2 Jan

From what I can tell, you don't like the situation you're in—sure, you may be enjoying the casual hookups, but you don't like the idea that he's seeing other women for whatever reason (seriously or casually dating them) or you don't like that he's been distant lately. So if you don't like the situation you're in, then get out of it. You have complete freedom to cut-off all contact with him and never see him again. I don't mean to sound harsh with you, but I'm trying to help you see your value and that you deserve better than this situation and this guy. It sounds like you're jealous of the attention he may be giving other women or you're feeling insecure about where you stand with him because he's been distant lately. Regardless of whether he's in a relationship now or seeing other women, his actions indicate that he doesn't think you're enough (notice how I said "he doesn't *think*" because his opinion of you and/or how he treats you is not a reflection of your true value and worth). Save your time and attention for someone who will value it more than this guy. Don't be the backup girl; don't be the hookup girl.

mistletoe1

4 Jan

Thanks everyone. So you think he thought I wanted to be exclusive and is just stating the fact that yes he's dating multiple ppl and still on the market (which I prefer). I was jst confused if that "sort of" means he got into a relationship. I asked to clarify and he didn't. I appreciate everyone's insight :) and for those who think I shouldn't lower myself it's because I'm getting over an ex boyfriend and this hook up's company is relocating him soon

mistletoe1

4 Jan

I just don't want to get in the way if he is growing closer to a potential girlfriend because I'm not that kind of person

mistletoe1

4 Jan

I do enjoy seeing him and didn't think it'd come to an end yet. I just hope he's not a coward and will disappear without saying anything. I'm still very confused. Also last week he said "maybe" we can hangout next week when I asked when he was free. Very vague, so I suggested sunday and he responded with another comment without mentioning Sunday or an alternative date. I also question that he deleted his dating profile. I asked him a few weeks ago if he's serious with someone and I'm really afraid he may have lied to get me over one more time. Haven't heard from him and all hai friends were out of town except him for New Years = he most likely spent it with an girl he's seeing which is ok (but that has serious written all over it)

mistletoe1

4 Jan

Does it sound like he's still single?? It's very weird how much fun he brings, had it not been for him I would've and prob now will go back to my abusive ex. He actually helped me get over him and focus my interests elsewhere

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