chloe_3

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hi everyone, the other day, I met a boy, Toby (friend with a friend of mine). We were a group of 8 girls and two boys. After one hour, it appears clearly to me he was closer to me than to the other girls. At the end of the day, my friend proposed to us to go to a nightclub the next day. We say yes, and when we arrived at the nightclub, my friend told me Toby was into me. We danced together, I have been drinking but not him. When he had to leave, I was going to catch up my friend but he held me back by the waist, and kissed me. After that, he disappeared...
Few days later, I added him on Facebook, and now we've just started to talk friendly about the nightclub and music (but not the kiss).

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Now I'm lost, I really want to see him again but I don't know if he just wanted to hook up with me... It seems bizarre to me because he wasn't drunk at all, so yay I'm wondering about what I should do ... I don't dare to ask him about the kiss because I would be very ashamed if it was nothing important for him...

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martinmosher

From a mans perspective, he is into you, but unsure if you are into him. Looking for affirmation

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Just keep doing wat ur doing...show interest and hopefully he should ask u out...good luck!!

roseymoon3

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I've just become friends with this guy who is a friend of my good friend. He's very sweet and fun to talk to. He's flirtatious with me as well but I don't know him that well. He sent me this one evening and I'm kind of concerned about 2 things: is this a joke or is he serious? And is this a bit too much to tell someone so soon?

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

Creepy? Nice? Too much? I'm reconsidering his sobriety while writing this but... Thoughts?

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camacae

It doesn't sound like a joke. Maybe it's just his way of trying to tell you he likes you? Or maybe he's just a bit weird and creepy! My advice would be to see how he makes you feel when you're together. If he gives you the creeps a bit then steer clear, but if you think he's just nice and a bit goofy then great. Trust your instincts.

giggleskdd

I think it's creepy and definitely too much. If you feel creeped out in a text do not hangout with him.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

If u hardly know him its too much....

fractalpatterns

I agree with the other commenters. Approach this one with caution...if I were you, I'd either not reply or I'd say something like "I'm flattered that you think so highly of me, but I honestly don't know you very well and you know me very well, either. This made me feel a little uncomfortable and I'd appreciate it if you gave me some space for a while so I can figure things out."

kattyz

I agree - that is creepy, and definitely too much to tell someone so soon.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Everything is relative, isn't it? If you fancied the guy, this would be massively sweet, if you don't, then this is creepy.

miserella4

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I got a job last September, and we opened a new, bigger store in April, which brought along plenty of new people. One of those people happened to be a guy who was pretty cute and also my new manager (ten years older than me, with a girlfriend). So as we got to know each other, we started being more.. flirtatious with each other. He made comments about me being on my knees, I made comments about him being a sadist yadda yadda yadda. Harmless stuff, it never went anywhere past work. Then he started brushing up against me and he would always stand really close to me. Like I had no personal space; move a fraction of an inch and we would be touching. It continued on like that for a while, and it started to be an on and off thing. He either flirted or he didn't. We'd have these little things like me owing him favors (I'm not entirely sure how to explain that, but it wasn't your normal "let me borrow five bucks" favors), him lending me his jacket and putting it on me, and him supposed to enlighten me on the true definition of the "f" word, since I apparently overuse it and it lost its true meaning. Eventually it led to us exchanging snap chat names. Lame, I know. And it kept being on and off. Up until recently, we didn't talk as much, his girlfriend started coming in to visit him a lot and I just lost interest. I also felt shitty for flirting with a taken guy. This brings us to last week. I got drunk with some friends and snap chatted him. I don't remember what was said, but we snapped each other all night. The next day we worked together and the flirtation fell back into place. That night he snapchatted me first, and this time he was drinking. He asked me to come pick him up from a bar, to which I declined. (Isn't that what his girlfriend is for?) He ended up giving me his number via snap chat, and I fell asleep texting him telling him to find a different ride. Work the next day was fine, and we snapped each other that night but nothing else came of it. Then for about two days he texted me (sober) like a normal person. We worked and flirted and then two nights ago he drunk texts me again and asks me to do shots with him and to come party with him and his friends. I again said no because I had work at 7 the next morning and I've done the whole coming in to work drunk/hungover thing and I'm not a big fan. And now I don't know what to do. I don't know if he's still with his girlfriend. I don't know if it's just a friendly thing. I don't know if he just wants some ass.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

So what are his motives?

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annastasia0207

It sounds like he's interested in you but honestly, it doesn't mean anything until his breaks up with his girlfriend. If he's broken up with his girlfriend, then go for it! But if he hasn't, it means that he's continuing to choose his girlfriend over you and just wants you around for what he thinks is harmless fun. If you have a guilty conscience about flirting with a taken guy then end it now and let him know you don't feel comfortable with the escalation in flirtation while his has a girlfriend.

anadventuretolove

It honestly seems like he's interested but in ass not a real relationship because he has that. He might just like attention

pluto

You have no idea what he wants because it's all been done over snapchat. See if he has a real life conversation with you, it could be he's just window shopping...

giggleskdd

Yeah he sounds like a great guy. Listen, I wouldn't waste a minute trying to figure out his motives. I think he's just flirting but either way he has a girlfriend and he's being disrespectful to her. If he does make a move I would think long and hard about going there with him.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Alterior motives. Def not good. U should stop the flirty thing cuz then life will make more sense, ya know? When we entertain theze type of things then we cant grow....

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If he brushes up against you at work, that's sexual harassment. Reasons for you not to pursue this: One, he is your manager whom you report to. Two, he has a gf. Three, invitation to hang out after 10pm usually means BOOTY CALL. Time to give this guy the boot.

miserella4

Lol so here's an update: I texted him last night just to see what the conversation would be like and he didn't respond for about three and a half hours. When he did respond though it was "What's up? Sorry I didn't see your text. I was watching a movie with my girl." Lol. Awesome. So he's still with this girl, yet he's texting me to come do shots and pick him up from bars. Eff this.

flyyingflamingos

HERE'S THE DEAL...

My ex broke up with me about a year ago after being friends since 6th grade, in an official relationship for 2yrs and engaged for one. His reasoning seemed something like he felt like the relationship has "run it's course" and that he didnt think things between us would change. Long story short, I asked him to reconsider which he said he would but he was really leading me on so he wouldn't hurt me. Instead of "working on the relationship" like he said he would do, he ended up leaving me for a girl who he was friends with while we were together. I was so hurt and it took me a while to get past because we were also engaged. He was still telling people he loved me and was awfully concerned about the guy I was talking to at the time. I was confused because I wanted to know why he would still be even mentioning me to other people if he was happily in a new relationship?... fast forward to now: he ended up proposing to the girl hes with -_-. Hes 19 by the way and when I found out, it made me question our previous relationship. He called me about 6months ago out of the blue, I suppose to see how I was doing and then recently he started following me on instagram. I accepted his request but didnt follow back. Then he started trying to communicate with me through ask.fm. he first, he brouvht up an inside joke that we used to laugh about in niddle school (even though ask.fm is anonymous I immediately knew it was him.) Then, I startrd getting questions like "are you in love" which im sure it was him because that's a pretty personal question to ask. Then he asked if "there will be reconciliation in our future." I played dumb just to see if he'd finally reveal himself. He said "would you reconcile with the 'ring holder' friendship wise" then he direct messaged me on instagram with a screenshot of the questions he'd ask and captioned it "friendly reconcile " I was quite shocked and confused.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Why on earth would he be trying to be friends after 1yr has passed. I could see if we didnt end on bad terms but this isnt the case. Also, if he is engaged, why would he think this is appropriate given his situation. Why is he even still thinking about having me in his life if hes truly happy with his so called "fiancé"? What do you think his intentions are? Could he be plotting?

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rxbfan04

this may be the most obvious statement i have ever made, but guys are weird. I would drop him like a moldy piece of bread if i were you but I totally understand that with history there it's not that easy. There are plenty of other men out there who won't treat you like an option. Don't waste your breath on this guy.

flyyingflamingos

I agree. I told him that I didn't want to be friends. Im over him but I think its ridiculous that he'd even have the audacity to think I'd accept a "friendship" with someone who is engaged to a girl he left me for. I just wanna know what his intentions could be.

reallynow43

He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and is just seeking options. Don't be an option for him, he had his chance.

giggleskdd

Sometimes it does no good to try to figure out what someone intentions are. Clearly his intentions are not good and he's hoping for a outcome to suit him not you. So there I solved it for you; his intentions are purely selfish and it doesn't sound like he cares about you or this new girl. It's good you've moved on. I wouldn't waste another brain cell thinking about him. Good luck!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He sounds like an immature mess. He is somebody else's problem now.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Who knows wat hes thinking, but he sounds flaky. I wouldnt reconsider, esp since he hurt u. Ur worth more...

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Once a cheater, always a cheater. He always thinks he can get a better girl. Play him at his own game. Block and delete him off everything - Instagram, FB, phone...You'll be the girl that got away. And he'll never know why. Don't let him have the satisfaction of your reply and knowing he got you hooked.

flyyingflamingos

He didnt cheat on me though.

emilyrose TOP COMMENTER

Sounds like you are hoping he wants you back. Im not sure that's his intention though. He mentions 'friends' and 'friendly reconciliation'. If he wanted you back wouldn't he be more upfront about it? Maybe he's feeling guilty and regrets losing your friendship. Sounds like you guys were friends for a long time before you were an item. Also men hate feeling bad about themselves. Anyway it doesn't sound like there's any future for you guys. And what is he playing at getting engaged twice before he's 20! He's too young and he doesn't know what he wants. I wouldn't keep in contact if I were you. It will make it harder to move on.

bigsliceoflemon

He's 19 and been engaged twice?? He is immature, young and definitely worth avoiding! It sounds like he needs to grow up a lot before he starts 'proposing' to girls! I would avoid him, don't reply, don't acknowledge his questions or messages, you don't want him in your life as he will just hurt you again.

flyyingflamingos

@emilyrose No. it doesn't sound like im "hoping" for anything. So that's where you are wrong:). I never specifically said anything about getting back together, so im curious to know where you got this bright idea from, seeming as though there are no feelings left on my end and if there were, this would have been said. LOL. Furthermore, that would run across the mind of ANY ex who gets a random message from an old flame. What substantial reason would he be reaching out to me if he is "committed" and why would he think I'd be okay will being friends while he is in a new relationship? Those ask.fm questions about whether I was "in love" were pretty suspect as well. Someone who just wants to be "friends" wouldn't aak all that. Im just saying thats common sense. Im not saying he's dying to get back with me, I just personally feel like he still has some sort of feelings.

itjustme

My ex does that. He broke up with me for his "friend girl" I knew there were something between them two but anyways, he does sound like he can't make up his mind. He want you there for back up plan and he also want current his gf. I know what's he thinking I been there with my ex. He's taking advantage of playing with your minds. So it's best to let him be and leave him alone. Don't have contact with him. AT ALL.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

LOL! You're that annoying girl who kept telling everyone off because they said a guy wasn't into you, and blamed them for not reading/analysing properly when you can't explain things properly. The illiterate one that @lilliekins said she will pantomime for!

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

So if you're not happy with other people comments/guesses on your question, why don't you ask him directly? Problems solved.

flyyingflamingos

Haha idk what you're talking about but clearly you're a little pest for even wasting time out of your life that you cant get back to comment on this post and I dont even known you. I didn't even waste my time reading the rest of your pathetic comment because clearly you're corny. Lol

flyyingflamingos

Its not that I'm "unsatisfied" with what is being said but I think its silly to assume that im dying for him to want me back, like seriously? Thats all you can come up with? LOL. What a travesty....

flyyingflamingos

And if you are bothered sooo much @jhops why would you even be looking at my question. Sounds like you should find an agenda to tend to seeming as though this website and the people on it are your only excuse for having a life. LOL. You shouldn't bother replying either, it would only make you look salty. Cheers!

annastasia0207

Your attitude is really unnecessary. Don't be so rude to people who are just trying to help.

flyyingflamingos

The extra commentary and insults are unnecessary. Period.

annastasia0207

In regards to the attitude, I was referring to all sour attitudes on this site. There's no need to make someone feel like shit about themselves, simply because they want open advice..and if you don't like the advice, stop asking for it.

lia TOP COMMENTER

Some people can't let go of past loves, especially in a relationship that lasted so long. This guy clearly doesn't know what he wants, and you're a "sure thing", in the sense that he knows what he gets and doesn't get with you, and whenever things go wrong for him with other girls, he'll be thinking of you. That's no "feelings", that's just selfishness and fear to be alone. If you really have moved on, as you say you have, don't put yourself in any position that might get in the way of that. And like someone said, engaged twice at 19 just proves he doesn't know what he's doing.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

@flyyingflamingos Me? I'm not real, darling. I'm a bot. My agenda is to help, which was what my first comment was. You however, your agenda to be nasty to everyone seems to rub off on the Internet. I remember a brat when I see one. You've used this nick on your other post to reply to someone/bash someone by mistake. That's how I noticed you have multiple accounts. I happen to have a very good memory, darling. Don't play dumb and don't tell lies. It's unbecoming. The way you lashed out at @emilyrose jogged my memory. How many accounts do you have, troll? Seems like you need to find time doing something constructive with your life, darling. My comment was not rude. You ARE annoying. They are girls with real problems, and have a better attitude than you. Maybe English isn't your first language, but your English is really hard to read. No one's fault if no one knows what you're blabbering on about. #sorrynotsorry

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Also, if you are rude, don't expect others to be nice. Respect goes both ways. If you were not mean to @emilyrose, I wouldn't have noticed your nick and remember who you are. Am I sorry I blew your cover? Hell no.

flyyingflamingos

LOL @jhops and yet you STILL reply with such great lengths! Save the essay for a dissertation because I refuse! Lol you're quite the entertainer in any event...

flyyingflamingos

@lia great advice. I definitely declined his "offer of friendship" I was just curious. As far as the selfishness, this definetely applies to him I am just confused at why he is anonymously asking personal questions like if im "in love" if he dosent have feelings. We had been through a lot which I havent mentioned on the site. I was his first longterm relationship so Im kinda not suprised he is still thinking of me

giggleskdd

I don't understand why people ask strangers for advice and get mad when said strangers (who don't know the whole back story) don't give them the response they want. Here's a novel idea.... wait for it.... wait for it... ask the flipping guy you have the issue with. That way you won't have a bitch fit because people didn't answer in the manner you wanted. You know why men get back in contact with certain women? Come closer sweetie and I'll enlighten you. They do it because they think they can and certain weak women will get all excited and think yay they came crawling back to me. When in reality he knows that he can always come back and treat you in whatever way he wants. It's as simple as that. Men get back in contact to test the waters. I wouldn't give anybody like that the time of day. Better off without them.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

@giggles Ignore him/her/it. This is a troll account. :)

flyyingflamingos

@giggles I dont understand why people get annoyed/confused yet STILL proceed to comment. And if you didnt know, im not interesred in your snoozefest novel! You're dismissed and @jhops damn you've done it again. Just CANT let go. Sweetie, if you had even a fragment of a life why would yoiu even be addressing a troll? Uggh what does that even make you like a dwarf. Bless your heart but remember you should consider getting your shit together seeming as though you commented on MY post, so I should be doing the ignoring! You're a joke, I can't even....

flyyingflamingos

And for the record the only thing I DISLIKED about the "advice" is that @emilyrose would assume that it "sounds like I want him back" like seriously? That had nothing to do with the question I asked and it also wasnt backed by any logical evidence because I never said anything that would allude to that. So I didn't like this assumption. Then, these meer cats decided to jump on my post and further assume I was dissatisfied with the advice, as if they know everything. LOL. Im not the only person this has been happened to on this site. So maybe it is you @jhops who is upset at the fact that im being honest about what im saying and you continue to respond insultingly.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

At least I only have ONE account. ;) Troll.

flyyingflamingos

I only have ONE account also. Ha! Seems like you have me confused for one of your imaginary friends you probably stalk on here. Delusional sponge brained dwarf. Why do you insist on replying anyway. Awe you must be bothered... little obsessed much. Gross.....you clearly take pleasure in arguing over the Internet. Im done. So long peasant. You can go back to your hut now;)

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He may be looking for a side piece, especially if he smells desperation.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Liar, liar, pants on fire. You know the truth. You deleted your other post. I know a liar when I see one. Which is why you reply when you say you don't read my replies. Lol.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Cupcake!

flyyingflamingos

If I deleted the post wouldnt that mean it's from the SAME account then? Fucking loser. Lol. What a waste of existence. (Sigh.) I really have you upset!

flyyingflamingos

And how am I desperate...but he REQUESTED to follow me and didnt get a follow back? If anything HE is desperate. In any event, I know for a fact that hes not the "sidepiece" kind of guy. YOU probably have been a sidepiece so you would know! Bitch you're dumb as fuck! Lmao. @lilliekins or whatever tf your name is. Girl bye, use your head for more than a hat rack!

flyyingflamingos

And I said I read the FIRST sentence of those long ass stories you wrote, NOT the whole thing. Dumbass. But I suppose you've never heard of skimming through something before. LOL. Still dosent change the fact that your feelings are hurt and you have nothing better to do but be on this site. Ok really bye now dwarves! Llf!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Ahahahaha!

jhops TOP COMMENTER

You posted that post using another handle about a guy insisting he likes you, but all the signs say NO. Then you went on like a dog on rampage on someone using this handle in the comments section to reply/scold someone for not reading properly. That's how you bitched slapped yourself. Then you deleted that post. You stupid or what? LIAR!

jhops TOP COMMENTER

You are so full of BS. Ever wonder why your ex dumped you and left you for another girl? Think about it. DRAMA QUEEN.

pluto

he's not ready to marry anybody

badidea

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hi and thanks for taking the time to read my problem.
I am 33 and am an alcoholic. The individual in this issue is also a user.
It directly relates to my story. I met him one night as he had no where to go as his girlfriend kicked him out as she doesn't allow him to use. We slept together and I allow him to do whatever he wants after all who am I to judge.
He continually talks about her and one day he just went back. This cycle keeps repeating itself. She kicks him out, I take him back, he leaves. I can't say no to him. I'm in live with him and having a drug problem does not make you a bad person. I recently found out while he was away he wrote to her everyday pages of letters. He says he hates her and she's crazy and he's using her so why write letters and keep going back when he can stay here. He left again and said he's not going back this time. He's also trying to get better.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I believe him or will he go back to her? Is he still in love with her?
Please no rude comments about our issues. Life is hard enough as it is.

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xerot1

Sorry to say, but you need to move on. Guy going to keep going back to her like a lost puppy. His only using you.

marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

Please find the strength to move on and focus on getting better for yourself. I have been in a relationship with an addict, and while he was not a bad person, he was a sick person who did bad things, and I didn’t deserve that. Neither do you, no matter what you are going through. There’s no way to have a healthy relationship while he and you are struggling with addiction - these cycles that he gets into will continue to repeat despite his best intentions. Even if he and you both get into recovery, it’s going to be very very hard to have a relationship while you are working on getting clean.

Make yourself the priority. You absolutely deserve it. I’m guessing you’ve had a tough life, but things will get better if you make the choice. Your question is much more complicated than others on this site because of the addiction aspect... so if you haven’t gone to AA or NA or Alanon yet, I strongly urge you to take that step. Even if for just one meeting, I think telling your story to the people there will be more beneficial than posting on this site. Things will get better.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

No, uve done way more than enuf for this guy. Hes using u plain and simple, like users do. U r worth more. Just because u profess to be an alcoholic doesnt mean u have to be doomed to people who use u. Id also say u have a codependency problem as well. U no, uve taking the biggest first step. U admitted u have a problem. U can get help! U have an abundant happy life awaiting u. Sure everyone has problems in life, but wen u get help, life gets easier and better. U can do it. Ive seen many people come out on top. Heck, look at Robert Downey Jr! !! If he can get clean, so can u. I believe u can have a better life. U should too. U can do it!!! :) ;)

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Who are you to judge? You are a person. You have values. Therefore you judge. Now, I don't want to sound critical, but this is for your own good. This relationship is toxic for you. He leaves you, comes back, leaves you, come back. Rinse, repeat, lather. Not everything good for you needs to be an addiction - be it a substance or a person. It seems like both of you are both guilty of that. It should not be like this. You need to be the source of your happiness. You have to be happy to be happy in a relationship. Not rely on someone/something to make you happy for a quick moment. It's not going to work. Try to focus on getting better and get help. Sober up. This is your life, you own it. No one else but you can straighten it up. Good luck, I hope you pull through, and will root for you.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

This is an unhealthy relationship for you. You are not responsible for his actions, but you are responsible for your decisions.

emilyrose TOP COMMENTER

It seems clear that he is just using you when he has no place to stay. As others have said you probably need to focus on yourself right now.

lostinlove_2

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I met this guy at a university in France where he was a student for one semester. He went back to his home in Germany once the semester was over but we still keep in touch through messaging. We communicate very well with each other and I have started to develop feelings for him. I'm not sure if he feels the same way, so I asked him if he was seeing anyone to get a better idea.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

By his reply, it seems as though he's friendzoning me and letting me down easy. Is that the case? The only other thing I can think of is that he may also like me back but isn't going to make a move unless he's sure. I just don't really know what to think with an answer like that. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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emilyrose TOP COMMENTER

I'm not sure if he likes you or not - but realistically where is this going to go? Since I'm assuming you live in different countries?

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Germans are extremely practical and romantic. He seems to be open and honest with you, that's a good start. How far is the distance between you?

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

If he were truly interested in dating you, he would've this question first. If Germans are practical, like lillikins says, I think that if he really wanted to date you, he would've asked. I think you are hoping and pushing for something that's not going to go anywhere. What about guys right here in your neck of the woods?

lostinlove_2

@emilyrose Realistically, I think it's probably not going to go anywhere. But at the moment, I'm in France and he's in Germany. I may or may not at some point over the next year be in Germany (for academic reasons).

lostinlove_2

@lilliekins I'm currently residing in France and he's in Germany, so not too far for now at least.

lostinlove_2

@preferphonecalls I agree. Here in my neck of the woods, I've found a few options, but they didn't feel the same way.

itjustme

In the end he never gave you the answer if he seeing anyone or not.

steph_143

I'm sorry but I honestly don't think he's interested if he is, he definitely doesn't know how to show it.

thisgirlnamedirenee

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I have the same boyfriend as last time still the one I had problems with... I sent him 5 paragraphs of how I feel about him & he gives me 3 words & when I tried to call him he texted me " don't call " ... Then I said Okayy.... And he hasn't answered me back... Is this normal ? Did I do these 5 paragraphs for nothing ?

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Help?

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confused_8

Sorry honey :( I don't think pouring your heart out really got his attention!!! Maybe he's just a little freaked out; give him some time to realize how wonderful you are :)

thisgirlnamedirenee

Okayy

ever42

Give him some time ... you poored your feelings and your heart, he has to think. Dont warry, he will answer if his feelings are the same. and about his reply ... many guys reply with VERY short sentences, or with one word ... they are like that. We write novels ... they just .. write two or three words. Men should be judged by actions but not the amount of words they write ;-)

thisgirlnamedirenee

We'll he never responded about it .. I asked him if he read it & he said " yeah yeah yeah.. I read it " as if he was annoyed or as if he was trying to shut me up

ever42

Meet him and don't read too much into it

jazzfishy

GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Dump him. He doesn't care how you feel. And ,"don't call"? Seriously???

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

"Dont call" ???? Wat a serious loser!!! Dump him! Please!!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

"Don't call" to me means he's not alone.

crashintome91

I wouldn't jump to conclusions about this one. If he only responded 3 words and said don't call that might mean that he is busy. Maybe he is helping someone out or working on something that requires his full attention. Men don't view texting the same way that women do. I would just let him get back to you when he can and there may be a perfectly logical explanation for this.

mabs

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Haven't spoken to him in a week or so then texted him asking if he was working, I went and saw him and spent about 20 mins with him after my movie talking. We were flirty and he didn't want to go back to work. The top 2 pics were before I saw him and the bottom is after.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Why did he call me 'dawg' and what does this sound like?

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candystraws

friend zoned

giggleskdd

Yeah it sounds like he's being flirty, but it doesn't appear like he wants to be more than friends.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

LJBF -- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=LJBF

lucie_2

He is not worth your time..life is short but you will meet someone who will love you with all their heart.If that guy really cared about you he would have given you a real response.He was being pretty rude about the whole situation when he told you not to call,you deserve better.I wish you the best :)

steph_143

I'm sorry but he kind of sounds like he's friend zoning you...

jojo007

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

what should I replay ?

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jhops TOP COMMENTER

Without much backstory and just from the screenshot, you kinda look like the psycho gf who's demanding too much. The poor boy has family commitments. He deserves a day off to be there for his cousin. Back off and grow up.

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

He's at his cousin wedding. You don't understand shit so stop pretending to be a rational gf.

giggleskdd

Yeah you look kind of crazy. I would say nothing for awhile. Back way off and put the phone down for a long while.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Agreed...plus, never have these types of convos via text...it never comes across good...

jazzfishy

He talks like a wanna be gangster :P but dont let him push you around... I agree youre being a bit overbearing, but he shouldnt be able to dismiss you like that. Hes not the boss of you.

jojo007

jazzfishy :))) a wanna be gangster.lol.. maybe maybe :)

jojo007

so how do u think I should act with him ? seems like u understand a bit more ...

jhops TOP COMMENTER

jojo007 we cannot understand because you never told us the history. We don't read minds. We are not your friends whom you have told this story to million of times. If you want better advice, then present your problem properly.

theyearofme

I think you should see what he wants--if its not you or what you want, then leave. Maybe the day of his cousins wedding wasn't the best time to bring up this conversation, but you have every right to have standards and to be able to tell the guy you are seeing what those standards are. If you are feeling neglected by your man (which I'm thinking he is your man, right?) then you have a right, as his partner, to stick up for yourself and tell him what you want. If he can't give that to you then it is your decision on what to do next.

jmizzle01

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I met this guy from Tinder two nights ago, it's been about three years since we both have been in serious relationships.

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

What does his recent admission to liking me a lot "already," and being "scared about what's to come" indicate about his personality? How should I proceed?

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rxbfan04

Did you meet him in person 2 nights ago or did you just connect on Tinder? Either way, personally I see it as a red flag. He was probably hurt in the past after falling for someone hard and fast and he might be afraid that he'll get burned again especially since after 2 days he's already talking about how much he likes you. As far as how to proceed, that's really up to you. If you like this guy enough then I don't see any harm in continuing to see him, but if you're having second thoughts about it then I would go with your gut.

jmizzle01

We met in person two nights ago, and he did admit to being severely hurt in his last relationship, which has prevented him from wanting to date. He's a nice guy, but I'm not sure I'm up for dealing with the emotional challenges that come with getting to know a guy who is already on the defense right off the bat.

josephwallacelonsdale

Fuck that, no guys are "severely hurt" after a relationship. That's such bullshit.

josephwallacelonsdale

Fuck that, no guys are "severely hurt" after a relationship. That's such bullshit.

g_love12

It means he's trying to sleep with you

truthgalxoxo

just ask him if he wanna bang girl

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

If he didn't want to date, he wouldnt be on Tinder, would he?

steph_143

He seems interested in you and scared of how you feel about him and scared of getting hurt. Yes, guys have feelings too. Guys CAN get hurt if they're the type that really cares. They're rare though so be careful.

lenny28

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I met this guy online, we hit it off since we start chatting, we met two weeks ago in person after he txt me if I want to hang out again when will I be available I told him that this upcoming weekend will be fine. He said that cool too but he will lets know for sure,. He txt me Friday night let me know that his friend came to visit him n is trying to figure out to see if he could find time to hang with me. He suggested that invite some friends of mine and we could hang out. I told him I have friend but not available (single) he said its cool so he said that we could hang out the 3 of us. I was kind ? It because I just met the guy ... I did wanted to hang out with him but then I will feel weird with his friend! So he had suggested to meet on saturday at this place @ 1 but I couldn't so I suggested for Sunday but he said that he can't Sunday because USA was playing n he wanted to watch the game. Below is texts that follow our conversation

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He has not txt me since I send him my response. Should I txt him or did he just didn't like my response that he lost interest?

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lia TOP COMMENTER

Usually I recommend waiting for him to text, but seeing as he suggested hanging out a couple of times and you couldn't, he might have been put off by it. At this point, I don't think you lose anything if you send him a text asking how he's been. Worst case he won't answer and you'll know he's lost interest for sure.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Why would it be weird to hang out with his friends? You could make new friends. It's not like he asked you to meet his family. And I think it's nice to see the company he hangs out with as well. Like lia said, the ball is in your court now. And if you text with a dismissive, "That's cool." Can you blame the guy for not texting back? It's a conversation killer.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Jhop, she didnt want to b a third wheel, it was just one other dude and him....I think since he tried so hard to see u, nothing wrong with texting him to see if he wants to hang, but try to start the convo first, dont open with that suggestion...if he responds, then ask if he want to hang...

steph_143

If I was the guy, I would think you weren't interested in me. So I say text first and then try to make time for him as soon as you're both available. You shouldn't have said "that's cool" he totally thought you didn't care. Well anyway, good luck with everything :)

mabs

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???? What does this sound like

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lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Not much.

undercoverww

I think he tried to be cute and flirty and you're just being paranoid.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

I think that was in English, but I'm not too sure.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

He was trying to flirt, and u kinda goofed it up....

truthgalxoxo

sounds like u guys are goina bang

steph_143

Sounds like he's a little weird and open minded. I don't see how that's really flirty, just kind of weird and random of him..

tanon

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Been crushing on this guy at work for about 4 months and in that time we became really good work buddies. Around month 3 we finally hung out outside of work and it was amazing (we have kicked it several times since both alone and with co-workers)! He opens doors, pays for drinks, and we just laugh and talk about anything until the sun comes up.

He invited me to a family function where I ended up spending the night (nothing happened). We spent most of the next day together and even made breakfast with his family.

He invited me to another family family function where I got super hammered and even threw up...basically in front of him (gross I know). After I went to rinse my mouth out with every cleaning product possible. He got me some water, gave me a big hug and said he really liked holding me. We cuddled on the couch away from the party, he started kissing my forehead, I looked up at him and we kissed for the first time. He said I was beautiful and we made out for the rest of the night.

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We connect on so many levels but his communication is not good at all. We have made concrete plans to hang out and he has cancelled about 3 times (all happened before we ever kissed). The caveat, every time he has cancelled it was because he had to do something with his family. The question is, will we hang out again even though we don't work together anymore, or is he just playing?

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jhops TOP COMMENTER

You should take a chill pill. He seems interested, and he bothered to explain why he can't spend time with you -- he is spending time with his family whom I am presuming is here to visit. They come first. You're not his gf, don't demand that he puts you at number 1 now. It's a good sign he invited you to the family function, btw.

josephwallacelonsdale

Hell yeah, chill bitch.

truthgalxoxo

u don't need to chill!!! it's ok!!! i think u have every right to be worried but nope i think hes into uuuu

deatta

Sounds like he's into you to me! Just play it cool like you have been! Make him chase you!

cowgirl98

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Part one.. Sorry there's like five parts 😭

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

Does he like me? Is he interested or just flirting?? I'm not good at this stuff..

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itjustme

I like how to put the fish emoji next to his name.

cowgirl98

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Part 2

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

Doe he like me? Is he just flirting?

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