jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Does he not seem interested

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Am I being friend zoned or what?? I'm in the blue. I'm trying to be short and keep cool.

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soconfused_3 TOP COMMENTER

I think you might seem a bit too uninterested/indifferent/nonchalant, neither of those are very good when dealing with a guy who seems like he might be into you. Guys look for signs - be more obvious and honest. Not desperate or needy, just be genuine.

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

If you had to post this twice and he hasn't replied to you by now, he might not be that interested.

angelinaw

Two things. Sounds like a bunch of baloney about his phone being dead. But why do you say, "what's up" at the end? You were talking about meeting up then it all got lost as it sounded like he did want to meet up with you.

floralprincess

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So we're flirty everytime we see each other out but have never got together before. He's only recently moved close enough to hang and is a really nice guy. I had a small thing with his friend a while back but nothing happened there either. He never seems overly interested.. so im not sure if hes just a nice guy or if he just hasnt made a move earlier because of his friend.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is he interested or just being a nice guy? Like is this normal for guy friends to just do?

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sarsoora

Could just be talk. If he actually does go buy you sushi and then show up to your work with it, then I would say he is definitely interested. But to say WAS gonna bring you sushi, eh... He could just be trying to make himself look good without actually putting in any effort.

paulsolorzano

IF he knows about the thing with the friend and is still talking to you, he's probably sorted it with the friend, so thats good. Since he lived far away, he probably wasn't too invested in anything so maybe he was just being nice. Now that he lives close he needs to realize 'oh, we can actually go out and do stuff together now.' He needs to flip the script from being pleasant to actually going out with you in real life. And if he doesn't get the hint, then you have to make something happen. Guys who don't put in the effort to get a woman out completely baffle me. If you're talking to him, he should just assume you're interested, and therefore make moves to get you out. Unfortunately this is normal behavior for most guys these days. They are afraid to fail, so they 'let the woman come to them.' There are so many missed connections because the guy is lazy and the girl wants the guy to step up and be old school, so she does nothing either. Stop the chit chat over text and make plans. Save the conversation for in person. Go for it!

floralprincess

yeah the only thing is i work like an hour away from the sushi place he was talking about so he wouldn't have been able to bring it anyways. He asks casually to go get sushi or that because we live close that we can watch movies together now, but i cant tell if its just lets hang like mates or more?

corriewill

If he was into you he would still bring you sushi at work.

jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I'm in the blue he's in the yellow.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

This was after we had sex again. After I said the last what's up he never responded does it seem like he's just using me for sex

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lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He sounds like he's trying to arrange something. Go with that instead of starting over with a general "what's up". Extra points for spelling. :)

puckerupeesh

He sounds like he's not that interested in anything further besides sex

anonymousf

Did you go for friday? Your one or two word answers are making it sound like ur not interested or even trying to understand if he is interested

maddlibbz

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Was he hinting that he wants to hang out?

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gitreel TOP COMMENTER

U can never tell if they ask that cuz they are trying to c if ur free or if they r making small talk. But if he was fishing around he would've followed up with asking u out.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Nope. Guys usually don't hint. Sounds like small talk to me.

paradoxical

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Met this dude on twitter a week ago

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is this for real?

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justme_4

I guess we need more info, as to why he was telling you this. if it was just out of the blue, i'd be wary.

gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

Seems a little intense.... How well do you know him?

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He's very opinionated.

paradoxical

I only know him for a week but we have been talking a lot. At first I assumed it was going to be a texting kind of thing so I didn't really care how fast everything was goin lol but he wanted to meet -.-

paradoxical

We just happened to be discussing the dynamics of relationships cos I said that I had a friend who said I was being too uptight regarding sex lol and that it was a human need but I disagree

versace5

Are you interested in this guy?

dance17

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I've had a crush in this guy for the longest time, he's a year younger but really smart and in my math class. I messages him over fb asking him if he could help me with a question, and he told me to text him about it, giving me his number.
I've never talked to him before; we haven't had a reason to talk or a class together before.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I don't think that just by these texts you can tell if he is interested or not, it is the first time we have talked.
I would like to get to know him more, but definitely don't want to come off as clingy, and what not.
How do I go about getting to know him better, and starting to talk without giving him wrong ideas, or annoying him?
I am always afraid of putting myself out there because of the embarrassment of rejection.
Also, we sit at opposite sides of the room, and don't really have many mutual friends.
Thanks! :)

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nicole_2014

I have the same problem at the moment! keep me updated

paradoxical

same but i think just text from time to time and not think too much bout it if it happens it will happen

bigsliceoflemon

He seems pretty chatty and jokey with these texts which is a good sign! Maybe just see if an opportunity comes up to chat to him again and try and gauge his interest levels then.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He sounds friendly and open - keep talking to him, ask a question once in a while, keep it light - and see if anything develops over time.

gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

You could invite him and his friends out with you and your friends, to a party or a dinner or something. Something like "Hey as a thank you for your help you should stop by this event at this time - it'll be fun! bring some friends if you'd like"

youloveeit

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We've been dating .. I only seen him like three times, we had sex on the second date. I spent a night then we went to church the next morning but we was with his bestfriend who he picked up and gave a ride to church with us. and I went to his football game with him. But I did confronted him About it over text message because I found that disrespectful. Haven't seen him since and that was last week. He texts me almost everday. It was a one time he asked me for $80 to help him with bills I told him yes, then I said no because I thought he was trying to use me for money. Then he said that's not all be wanted from me and to not assume anything about him. He also said I that I was being mean. He called me Friday night to see what I was doing Saturday then he canceled our date because he got hit in his mouth with a baseball (his mouth was busted and teeth were loose) is what I was told that Saturday . So now we text and I asked to see him again then he said that he needs to check his schedule and is I can help him out again.. I got defensive because I'm used to getting hurt. What should I do now.. I like him. I just don't want to get hurt again.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Am I overreacting ? Sometimes you can be blinded when you really like someone. I wanted a casual relAtionship but I'm it I'm not sure if that's whT he wants,& got my feelings involved tooo fast.

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candystraws

what a jerk. yes he's using you for money, run!

katie_3

Delete his number and don't look back.

behonest

Agree with the two above. Run, and run fast. He is not worth your time.

emilyrose TOP COMMENTER

He wants to borrow money after 3 dates?! Do you really need help with this one?!

gerrad

Helping a boyfriends of few months, definately yes. Helping a bf of 3 dates, no.

chuggygirl

Uggh that is such a turn off #1 and you better believe he will continue to ask to borrow money and use you for all you got if you continue to see this loser! Run and don't look back!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

I can't see what you confronted him about in the beginning, but asking you for money after 3 dates? No. And you don't have another date scheduled? No. This guy seems like a major jerk and not even a very good con man.

whalebeastpellybird

No, no, no, no, don't do it!

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

This guy has no shame. Ughh. Drop him!

tatted_strange

Garbage

carolihauma

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We have met for 3 times in person and texting each other everyday for nearly a month. Just cheek kiss as manner... nothing more....

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

R we just friend n won't go further?

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followtherules

Don't hang out with him before he leaves. He might just use that as an excuse to hit it and quit it. Wait till he gets back to see if he still wants to hang out. In the meantime, refocus on yourself.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He could be legit busy, or this could all be reasons why he can't see you. Wish him a safe journey and tell him you'll see him when he gets back.

paradoxical

I don't know man he seems kinda sincere bout it

youloveeit

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Ok I've been dating this guys for about a year now . We broke up for 3 months because I assume that he was trying to flirt with this girl and I found out that he grow up with her and they were childhood friends (miss communication ).so we got back together since then. He gives me time he used to come over a lot and I cooked for him because he lost his job. When he had a job he used to take me out around friends and family and dinner. Everytime we was around each other we were best friends. Except valentines day when we didn't spend time together because it was his daughters bday and I had to work. We didn't see each the day after. But before vday he wanted to see me but I had to work again. So I got mad and I told him I was leaving to Texas on an emergency move to help out my family. And I told him I didn't want to waist my time with him because I was leaving and I wasn't sure if he was genuinely interested like I thought. A week after I left he texted and asked if I left I told him yes, that's when he explained to me that we went by the whole situation wrong that we should of resolved the issues before I left. I asked him was it too late to fix this he said yes. But then we decided to talk because I told him that I was coming back to visit. So we decided to have a long distance relationship and to make effort to keep our relationship. I told him I was going to Sacramento to visit again after I left which was 2 months prior to today. And if he was willing to come to Texas he said yes.

So know I'm thinking if I should wait it out. We haven't has sex yet throughout the whole relationship. It's clear that he cares about me I just dont want to make all the effort. My mom said that I should wait and that he might just want one thing. I do want to get Away and I really want to see him.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I wait to for him to get hisself together first& give him time to see if he really into me? Or should I keep my promise and go now.? (Btw my parents is living out there too lol) I know its a lot.

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guysside TOP COMMENTER

I'm not sure how well he'll be able to commit to you if he's got so much of his own stuff going on. It seems like you two genuinely do care about each other, but it's hard to say if this will go well long distance. I think your mom is right to say just wait it out for now, give it some more time for him to figure out what he really wants

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

It wasn't really going well when you were in the same place, long distance is much harder, especially with communication. You both need to work on your communication - and you need to work on your jealousy and making assumptions.

youloveeit

Ok yes we have a lot to work on and I'm bold off on sex so I know what he wants.So should I make him come fly to see me first or should I go see him I'm have to extend my flight?

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Don't see him. What's the point?

urbannerd

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is "well, who says I'm avoiding advances when I'm initiating them" an appropriately way to tell him I'm interested, even if it doesn't go anywhere?

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lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

I wouldn't do that argumentative thing. I'd just say something like "so when did you want to get those beers?"

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

No, ull come off sounding easy, not interested. Jus follow lilliekins advice.

jiggy

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I met this actor a few months ago at an audition -- important to know because actors are all flirty "people" people. Well, we've worked together twice now on other projects and each time we talk a bit more but he always ends up talking about how he doesn't believe in relationships because the best connections happen when they are accidents. We text, he's kind, and today he came and hung out with me for three hours at work. Is that normal guy friend stuff ? I really only have close girl friends so I'm unsure of how to react to him.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is he into more though he says he's not? Is this just about getting me in bed ? What do I do next ?

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nicole_2014

let him keep visiting you but dont give him anything. if he just wants sex he will give up or become more obvious

eatsomecandy

If he's serious he'll ask you out, but stopping by sounds promising.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Let him keep looking for you. If he's interested, he will continue to seek you out.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Agree with all comm

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

*comments

amour888

HERE'S THE DEAL...

He didn't tell me he was going out of town and he didn't ask to see me before he left. I texted him on Sunday, he texted me with this more than a day later.
I don't think I'm important to him at all

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I let this go?

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blondedbylove

Yes! That's a jerk move.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Yes, how rude. Dont respond back.

amour888

He just texted me again...he said "I'll take that as a yes" I don't understand him

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

How long you been dating or together?

amour888

I've known him for almost a year...been seeing each other for 2 months....nothing serious but we have an arrangement to see each other sexually (exclusively). He didn't contact me at all on Friday, Saturday he texts me, but doesnt ask me out, then I sent this on Sunday he gets back to me a day later. My issues are I haven't seen him since last Wednesday, he didn't ask to see me before he left to say goodbye, and he didn't even tell me he was leaving or for how long. This is supposed to be mutually beneficial. I don't think I'm valuable or important to him at all...I dont think he even thinks about me. His behavior is like this a lot. It's my fault.

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

You don't sound casual at all. You're describing a relationship. Friends with benefits don't owe each other explanations or to check in.

alb9284

You aren't seeing eye to eye. He sees you as a hook up whenever he wants; nothing else expected of him. You sound like you entered it with that same mindset, but maybe have gotten too attached.

amour888

That's the thing....we're more than casual or fwb (his words). I told him exactly how I wanted things to be and told him if he can't do that, and if he doesn't want to meet my expectations (be on the same page) we can go our separate ways and still be friends. But he tells me he will do things my way and that it's more than just sex to him. This was the final straw, he is lying to me and I am done. I just texted him "you said you're in Cali, I'm giving you your space". If he approaches me about anything when he gets back I'll tell him we're done, otherwise I'll just leave it alone. He doesbt care anyway.

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

I agree. Be done with him. He will only keep disappointing you. Says one thing, then does what he wants. This just happened to me too.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

You are not a big part of his life. It sounds pretty casual - and if that's what you want, no big deal. If you want more, I don't think you're going to get it with this guy. And it's not your fault. It just isn't happening. Maybe it will, but not yet.

gemini

He's not into you. And for him to say "hope that didn't screw up your day" what a dick

amour888

Girl27, how did it turn out?

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

We ended things a month ago but, he still msgs me. He knew what I wanted (more) and that I wasn't interested in anything less. I tried ignoring his msgs. Finally, 2 weeks ago, I told him I was willing to talk to him. Thought he was on board with that. Then, he let another week go by b4 I heard from him. Point is, he wasn't initiating a meet up. So, this past Monday when he msgd, I ignored him and have done so the last 4 days. Just tonight, he msgd "guess ur not talking" I am tured of giving him chances and going nowhere. Don't understand why we need to keep in touch for.

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

Don't want to be his in between girl until he meets that other girl. If we couldn't work on an us. Why should I put effort in empty meaningless msgs. Move on girl! Not worth your time. I gave this guy 3-4 chancs in 3 years. I am so done with this boy!

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

Don't get why a guy who doesn't want more, msgs a girl who does?

girl27 TOP COMMENTER

They don't care!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

As long as you keep answering, they know you are interested. They like having girls on the string, just in case. Cut the string.

tatted_strange

Wow. He seems sweet ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ‘Ž

redsummit

HERE'S THE DEAL...

It was our 4th date. At the end of the date he asked me if I wanted to go out again on Sunday (2 days later) I said yes, just send me a message. I didn't hear from him. -We aren't exclusive ...

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I ask what happened to Sunday? Or should I just leave it alone? Should I just wait to see what happens? Because he has a lot going on, I don't want to add to the stress. He just got let go unexpectedly. I do really like him.

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girl27 TOP COMMENTER

Give him some time to process what happened to him. You guys will go out again. In time. Be patient and supportive.

alb9284

Maybe you should try talking to him & being there for him through this stuff he's talking about! If he wants to go on a date, he will ask. If not, you'll have a good friend.

gerrad

If you're going to be bf and gf then i guess you should visit him and talk to him about it. Or text him after a few days and see whats up.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Next time you hear from him mention that you missed hearing from him on Sunday. Do not text him, do not yell at him, do not freak out. See what he says.

mirij

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Been talking for a few weeks, not an official bf, yet, I called him sweet a few messages before....and says he needs "some sugar" too and then says to be more affectionate

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

How do I do that? Since he's not actually my bf and I don't wanna creep him out lol

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confusedone_3

Just keep being sweet and flirty without crossing any lines. YOu don't want him to put you in the "hookup only" category.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Dont play the dumb game, very unattractive. And dont put out there about "afraid to smother u", cuz guess wat? Now hes gonna be on guard about u smothering him!!!!! Never volunteer crappy behavior. Id say ur low self esteem is to blame. Confident ppl dont suggest negative behavior....

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Sugar goes both ways.

victoriaishaque

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Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I don't know what to put.... Wow ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฎ or idk I just don't want to sound wired.

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mirij

How about....."looks like u put a lot of hard work to that, good for u!" Lmao i totally get u, but if u don't wanna lead him on then don't say wow! Lol

natalie11

Keep on moving... unless you just want a hookup, I can tell you right now that is all he wants.

confusedone_3

Ditto to natalie's comment. Next thing you know he will be asking for pictures of you.

nicole_2014

exactly! he just wants an ego boots and pics of you. id say something like " nice wristband"

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Lol! Love nicole2014's comment!!! Yes, tell him that!!!! Love it!!!!

marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

this guy is lame

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He's fishing for compliments - and he's showing you the most he has to offer. Notice how his brain is not in the picture.

sidneykusje

I think... He is just so into his self๐Ÿ˜…

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