I Went on a first date with a guy I met off okc. I felt it went really well and honestly enjoyed talking to him. It lasted about 2.5 hours and he walked me home. He's a resident doc so our date the previous night got cancled / rescheduled. He kept thanking me for being so amazing, understanding etc. He admitted its been hard to date bc of his hours. We also ran into his old female friend ( also a resident) at te bar with her bf, he again thanked me for being so amazing that I didn't get mad when all four of us talked for a bit.

Finally a bar spot opened up and we got some drinks. He asked if I wanted another round and some appetizers and I said that sounded good. He asked me a lot of questions about my self and was really funny and making physical contact a lot ( nothing gross just arm/ leg touching to emphasize a point Etc). I was receptive but didn't touch him back. I asked him some questions about him self and we found out we have quite a bit in common in terms of work/ interest, hobbies, and where our family lives / culturally.

He sent me this tezt after the date. I also play the same instrument as the performer in the link and he thought id really enjoy it. On the date he told me he'd send it and he sent it while he was walking me home. I replied a bit after I got back inside.

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So I started talking to this guy on tinder and we pretty much hit it off. We got to know each other, talked for a few days but then suddenly one day in the middle of our conversation he stopped messaging me. During that time he was active on tinder, but he just wasn’t talking to me. I was a little hurt but I decided to let it go and assumed that he lost interest; it was the normal thing to do. But then after two days of not talking I get a message from him, continuing our conversation where he left off. I was super confused and just decided to ignore his message. I’m pretty sure he noticed that I had ignored his message because half an hour later, he messaged me again. At this time I thought, ok maybe this guy is interested. So I decided to message him back. We talked for a few more days but one day I woke up to a message that said “So can I eat Nutella off your butt or what.” Honestly I wasn’t really taken aback by this because we had always been pretty joky and flirty with each other but I wasn’t really expecting this out of him. I messaged him back saying that “I thought you were different but I guess I was wrong”. To which he replied with a few snarky comments: “Classic line. Now it’s my turn. It’s not me its u. Oh wait, No that’s right.” After that, I decided that I was spending too much time thinking about this guy and that I should focus on studying for midterms so I unmatched him. During the time that we talked I searched him up on Facebook and Instagram (which is private, I got a friend to follow him for me so that he wouldn’t know it was me) but I never added him because I thought it would be too creepy. Through his Instagram I found a link to his blog, and that night after I had unmatched him I decided check it out. There was one blog post that he had written the day I unmatched him. It went:
uhg
goddammit why do these types of things all happen at once
perverted for beautiful women, modern hopeless romantic
The possibility that it may have been written about me made me happy, I don’t know why. I started to feel better and better about unmatching this guy. So I decided to do some more digging around on his Instagram and I think it was then that for some reason I started to regret unmatching him. He was a good guy, he had pictures of him with dogs and little kids (which is a winner in my books). He was a good guy who was just joking around and I took his advance too seriously.

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Am I not allowed to tell my gf she's not funny in front of meeting her friends the first time?

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I have been seeing this guy for nearly two months. I met him on Tinder and we get on very well. However he has been acting distant recently. We went with a week of no contact, even though we texted everyday constantly from the first day we started talking. I dropped him a text on Sunday asking if he wanted to meet up this week and he didn't reply, despite him being on WhatsApp so I know he got the text.

I assumed he ghosted me and accepted it as 'he's not interested' but he texted yesterday apologising for the lack of contact and said he was 'swept off his feet' and 'Hopes I am doing well'.

I really like him, however I have no idea what to reply or even if I should bother to reply.

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How do i deal with a situation like this?

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When do I tell him I'm bipolar?

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I like this guy. I just got off the phone to him actually. We were talking about a show i was watching which lead him to ask if I've been with many guys. I asked him back and he says he's been with a few girls, i already guessed he had been with a lot of girls and it doesnt really bother me, he just said he wasn't going to give me a number which is okay. Then he said it was important for him to experience being with different women and being intimate, so he knows what he likes and doesn't like. We've never really talked about sex, on the first date he asked if i was a virgin because i was very shy and quiet that evening. He's never tried to initiate anything other than kissing . We didn't even kiss until we'd been on a handful of dates. My friend thinks there's a possibility he just wants to have fun (sex) whereas i want a relationship.

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I've posted before a guy I've been speaking to for months who lives in miles away in another city. He couldn't come to visit because of finances. He asked me to come visit but left if too short. Eventually I agreed. So I went down on Friday. That night we went to the pub with his flat mates and everything was fine. The next day we spent the day exploring with his flat mates and he kept saying I was really quiet. But I was in a new town and out exploring I was over whelmed. I tried to explain this and he said he understood. We went for dinner and got on great. But he was never affectionate. Although we did have sex. The next day I left and he texted to see if I got on the train I texted and apologised for being so quiet and thanked him and left some sweets as a thank you. He replied but was quite blunt. There was so manag mixed signals I had to ask if it was friendship or if he wanted to keep things going. This is long distance and I couldn't wait another month before knowing.

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Is he really just too busy with his kids...

By beay | Feb 21 2015

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Hi,I am a 47year old female,just divorced after years of separation,and I recently met a guy online..he's into the same music as me,which made me very happy,as it's hard to find guys in their 40s who like the stuff I like. We started texting,no strings attached was the initial idea. Then he was the one who said we get on so well, that no strings attached may not be enough. I was quite happy to hear that,so I agreed. He kept texting me at random times during the working day with little sweet things like ''get out of my head I need to work,lol'' or ''hey,are u ok'' Then we met up. On the second date we couldn't keep our hands off each other and had sex. On the third date I went to his house and we did it again. He texted the next day ''thanks for an amazing night''..and since then he only texts me sporadically, and now it has got to the stage where if I don't text first, I probably won't hear from him for days. A bit of background info, he is in the process of divorce,but gets on really well with his ex,which isn't a problem for me as I am the same with my ex. He also has two kids, who he spends almost every weekend with. I want to see him again, but I don't want to be appear needy or clingy. I do text him, and he always responds (eventually)..but I would like to know if it's worth wasting my feelings on this guy. I have asked him to let me know if I get on his nerves or text too much, and he keeps saying Stop worrying, but he doesn't seem to initiate any more dates. I have texted a couple of times ''fancy coming up'' or shall we grab a coffee at the weekend, but he's kinda vague and just says ''I'll have to wait and see what kids arrangements are''.and then he doesn't really mention it again..I am getting a bit too worried,and keep checking my phone, and wind up disappointed...but we are so compatible, or so I thought. What should I do? Does it sound as if he just wanted sex after all? Could it be that he just doesn't think about me that much, but when I text he's happy enough? Is it the old case of He's just not that into me?? I am just so confused, as it was him who said we get on so well..Thank you for your advice, be brutal please.

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Do you think sex on the second date has made him think of me as just a booty call? And is this an issue I should bring up with him especially since we've met all of 3 times.

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My boyfriend's dad has been pumping me for information about my boyfriend's job and school status. I was really direct with his dad that I didn't want to get in the middle and that his questions should be directed to my boyfriend instead. He kept subtly pushing and I let slip that my boyfriend had been fired by our former boss. I later asked my boyfriend if there was anything he really didn't want his dad to know and, of course, he didn't want his dad to know he'd been fired. I'm not sure why my BF doesn't want his family to know he was fired, but I do know it wasn't my information to share, and I feel pretty guilty now. I'm almost positive that his dad isn't going to mention anything to him, but I'm wondering: should I bite the bullet and let my BF know I spilled the beans, or hope it gets swept under the rug and move on?

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I've been dating a guy for almost 2 months who met met on Tinder while I'm abroad in Europe. He texts me good morning and good night every day and we talk every day. We see each other twice a week during his busy schedule. I really like him and I know he really likes me. Yesterday I asked him a few questions about us because I'm not sure where we stand. He told me he's interested in a relationship (so am I). Also, he told me he deleted his tinder profile because there was no point anymore for it. He told me he's not dating anyone else. Then he told me he has doubts about our situation. I'm an American living abroad and he's scared of a long distance relationship whenever I decide to move back. He had one before me and things ended badly. I'm okay with a long distance relationship. He says it's too hard for him to get an American visa. He told me he just wants to continue to just take it slow-- and that he prefers not to think about what could happen in the future about us.

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Is he interested or giving me a soft blow off?

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Was it just a one night thing?

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Hi! Broke up with my ex in December and we were hooking up for a little while after we broke up. I decided it wasn't a good idea and pulled away without telling him anything. It had been a month since we talked. He called me one day randomly and I missed his call. I called him back the next day and he never responded so I left it alone. Another few weeks went by and then I received this text from him and we talked a little. I'm really missing him and wanting to get back together just not sure what he's thinking and why he would just text me saying that and nothing else. What do I do?

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