By elleoelle | Jul 01 2015
I've been seeing this guy for almost two months, we've been on a couple dates and text everyday/every other day. He has said and done all the right things including driving an hour at the end of a long work day to come see me in hospital when I was sick even though by then we'd only been on 1 or 2 dates at the time. That being said, I haven't let myself get all swept up in it because I've come to realise that nothing's ever promised in dating and things can change at the drop of a hat. I started to notice a change when he didn't text as much anymore and when we did he would suddenly drop off mid-texting. Just POOF!Gone. This I wasnt too worried about because i just figured we'd reached the point in dating where we didn't need to be up each others asses all day everyday. But then he completely disappeared. The most we'd gone without talking had been 2 days but the two day mark came and went and still nothing. I didn't know if I'd been ghosted on or if he needed space but since he had never given me any reason to believe he was the type of guy to do that I decided that maybe he just needed space which I decided i would give him even though it was killing me not knowing whether or not something was wrong.
I gave it till a week before swallowing my pride and reaching out not knowing if I was gonna get a response or not. I just said hey and asked if everything was alright since I hadnt heard from him in a while. He responded fairly soon saying he was good and asking how I was. I told him I was fine and at softball game at the moment but needed to speak to him later that evening when I got home. (I did need to speak to him because in the event that his feelings had changed and his recent behaviour was as a result of that, i wanted to let him know that it was alright and that we could end things, no hurt feelings. Instead of him going AWOL for days on end which is what that kind of behavior has usually signalled in my past dating experience) He texted back immediately sounding a little freaked out "hey its not like that. my friend was in town this week and I worked a shit ton and shouldve said something". I appreciated him realizing that he'd dropped the ball but I still needed to speak to him because things hadn't been feeling quite right even before him going AWOL. I got home after midnight that night and knew he'd be asleep so I texted apologizing for not calling and told him to let me know when he had a moment that evening after work. He never did and that was two days ago and I feel like he's just playing games at this point or he assumes I wanna end things and wants to have the upper hand or whatever.
By olivia29 | Jun 29 2015
So, I met this guy at work a few months ago and we really hit it off and got on well. I had a quick transfer to another department, before moving building, so never really got the chance for either of us just to bite the bullet and ask for one another's number. On Monday, we matched on tinder. So I sent a casual message saying 'never thought i'd see you on this!' as we had joked about it before. 2 days later, no reply. He has been active on tinder (albeit, not that often), and we are still matched. What should I do, re-message, wait a bit, leave it altogether? Would really like to date him tbh.
By sara_421 | Jun 28 2015
Does this mean we are exclusive? Or can we still talk to other people?
By bri111 | Jun 28 2015
My boyfriend died a few days ago and he had just moved to another state so we were long distance...It really hurts I was the LAST one to find out about his death. I was freaking out that I wasn't able to get a hold of him and I didn't have any of his family's contact information so I asked this girl that hated my guts because she was in love with him too (but she was also his sisters friend, and I only had her number because of all the times she called me a slut) and I found out he died from HER which he rally sucked! To make it even worse I couldn't even go to his funeral because none of my family or friends knew about him because of our age difference bit of course she went and apparently he wrote something for me before he died and his family gave it to her to give to me -.- and she told me that buuut now I haven't heard from her and im not even totally sure she's going to give me it. But i feel like the worst person ever I never got to say goodbye and I couldn't go to his funeral..
By purpletabou | Jun 27 2015
We've been together for seven months and he still calls me his friend? should i give up or give him more time?
By togirl | Jun 27 2015
Is texting 'have a good day' a closure after sleeping with someone on the first date.
By funny689_2 | Jun 26 2015
How do I nicely break up with a FWB?
By yourpaceormine | Jun 26 2015
Is it weird to friend him on Facebook?
By katysaurus | Jun 27 2015
Why does he flirt at work but not in real life?
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By kpx55 | Jun 24 2015
So I was at a music festival last weekend with a few of my friends. My friend's boyfriend had brought up several times that he wanted to set me up with his housemate, but not until after the festival just in case things didn't work out and then we would have to spend four days at a festival together. I brushed off the suggestion numerous times thinking it might get complicated and not wanting to take a chance on someone I had never met until last weekend.
Well, turns out he is a pretty great, nice guy and we spent a lot of our time together because my friend and her boyfriend were off doing their couple thing. The problem is that I can't read this guy at all, he is quiet and I couldn't tell if he was just bored and stuck with me or just not know what to say some of the time. But he did't try to ditch me, always waited for me, offered me water when it was hot. We got evacuated one night and he grabbed my hand so we wouldn't lose each other, but in my head all these things just add up to nice guy and not necessarily anything romantically inclined.
I do know from my friend's boyfriend that he doesn't put himself out there too much and can be reticent about overtly flirting.
By alwayswannanap | Jun 23 2015
Should I break up with him? I'm so conflicted and confused.
By secret_crush | Jun 23 2015
I was dating a guy briefly who I was starting falling for. He has two young kids with him at least 50% and he works. Also, he just moved apartments last week. So granted he is really busy. Still it didn't seem he was putting out enough. So, I decided that I could not continue with the status quo. I decided to open up my POF profile and shop around. Although I still like this guy and may want more of a relationship with him.
I told the guy that I would like to see him again, but that the whole thing would need to be redefined and that in the meantime I was going to date other guys. We were texting quite a bit. His last big text read
"Hi. Let's just put things on hold for now and you date other men. I think that is a good idea for now. I simply do not have time I think to give to a person and I actually don't think I have time to date now that we have talked. I think you are correct. I really don't give the time needed and need to focus on the kids and work before I seriously start to date anyone. We can stay in touch though. Hopefully you'll find someone who fits what you need and I will too at some point :). Sound good? Let's stay in tough."
My question is this guy just being polite, or is he sincere? Should I stay in touch? Is there any hope with this guy in the future? Or is it over for good? Obviously, right now he cannot give me what I want, and I am active on POF. However, so far, I still prefer this guy. Please help me decipher his text. Any insight and advice is appreciated.
By tj_2 | Jun 19 2015
What do I do??
By chrysalids | Jun 20 2015
Is he lying? We met on tinder and went on a few dates. It has been almost two months since we met. We talk almost everday but sometimes he will not message me for a few days. He took me to his coworker's wedding and showed me some of his friends. However, he does not remember a lot of the stuff I told him. Also he asked me when I am planning to visit city so and so, but I am not from so and so, like totally not related at all. Today I asked him how many other girls is he seeing casually and he said he has been busy and he hasn't been on tinder much. I was the only girl he is seeing.
But, recently, my best friend found that this guy was on a meetup group and he indicated he is going to an event with a plus one... but he never asked me to go to that with him. (although later he did cancel that event rsvp)
By callie_2 | Jun 20 2015
Can a friend you have known for a long time fall in love with you?
I have known this guy for around 5 years. During this time he has had some relationships that have not lasted long. Same here.
I have recently realised that I like him, but I do not want to tell him in case he does not feel the same way and it ruins our friendship.
We are close friends and we often go out for meals, just the two of us. He also visits me and we have good fun together. We know each other's family and friends and occassionally people have asked us whether we are just friends or something else. One of my friends is convinced he does like me too, since he often comes to see me and is very thoughtful. However, I think that if he were interested in something else, he would have let me know (I don't think he is the type of boy who is shy).