rkleigh

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So this guy and I have been friends since the first day of classes. We hooked up on my birthday and then continuously after that. We eventually dated – and broke up because he "wasn't ready for a relationship". We didn't talk for a while and then we decided we can be friends with benefits. He took me out for dinner a couple nights ago, and now wants to have an overnight trip with me to somewhere.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is he still considering me an fwb or is he thinking that we're back to seeing each other? I don't know what to think.

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marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

99.999999% of the time, once you go friends with benefits, there's no going back and things will never be more than that.

rkleigh

@marionemelia that's what I thought! he's the kind of guy that is super indecisive though and did want to date, that's why I'm confused as to why he's now taking me on things that fwbs aren't supposed to be doing together.

happygurl

Ask him directly. But consider this: if the answer is he doesn't think you are a couple, then what will you do? If you want a r/s with him, fwb won't help. If you continue, it's you who will get hurt in the end.

followyourheart

no u guys will always be friends with benefits because guys have a hard time controlling respect for a girl and most of it is because of the girl. if u become friends with benefits with guy an date him ... he's still gonna think of u as the friend with benefit and probably wont treat u right because respect was lost :/ I'm not saying u don't have respect for yourself I'm just saying its easy to lose respect for someone els and the relationship isnt worth it if u dont have that

bluesdetoi TOP COMMENTER

Dont agree to friends with benefits just to keep a guy around. Yeah you get to see him, but only so he can sleep with you. He didnt like you enough for a relationship but you're good enough for sex? Please respect yourself and dont enter into something youre not okay with.

bluesdetoi TOP COMMENTER

Also, friends with benefits includes friendship. Dont mistake it for romantic interest and dont excuse his behaviour, he does know exactly what he wants, hes not confused.

lucyinthesky_2

HERE'S THE DEAL...

UPDATE. Had my 3th date with this guy I really liked on friday evening. At one stage we were making out and had the feeling he was getting too exited so let him know I didn't want to have sex YET. He seemed upset and 15 minutes later said he was tired and left. I was wondering all weekend what I had done wrong and thinking I had made a mistake and I should have given him 'something' to keep him. Well, 3 days have passed and no contact, yesterday I was feeling rejected and awful all day.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Don't have any question. Just wanted to let you all know that thank to your advice girls I'm feeling suprisingly well!!
The main important is I got rid of a guy who just wanted to have sex and was not at all interested on me as a person.
I'm feeling much stronger and allready looking for next guy to test.
Girls, let's don't let them treat us likean object. Love yourself and don't settle for guys like this.
This one is allready blocked in my phone. If he tries to contact me again, sorry, not good enought after 3 days.

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happygurl

Glad to read your update, Lucy! You go girl! Never give up until you find a really good man. Now you know how to separate the weed from the green grass. LoL

bluesdetoi TOP COMMENTER

Glad to hear you made the right decision and respected your body. Next time you'll recognize the red flags early on and save yourself the trouble! Happy for you!

torirule TOP COMMENTER

go girl :)

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Good for you! Happy to know this wasn't a story with a miserable ending. Don't give up, the right guy is out there somewhere.

nattybumpo

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What to think if he has time to upload a pic on Instagram but not text all day??

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asmalltowngirl

It depends on the last time you guys talked?

nattybumpo

We have been texting/talking for about a week and even if it was just a short hello late in then day he usually made the effort. Late last night he was cool, I sent a good night and haven't heard from him today

nattybumpo

We've been talking/texting for about a week and even if it was a end of the day check in, if things had been busy, he would make an effort. He was cool last night and I sent him a good night and that's the last I've heard.

nattybumpo

We've been talking/texting for about a week and even if it was a end of the day check in, if things had been busy, he would make an effort. He was cool last night and I sent him a good night and that's the last I've heard.

nattybumpo

We've been talking/texting for about a week and even if it was a end of the day check in, if things had been busy, he would make an effort. He was cool last night and I sent him a good night and that's the last I've heard.

nattybumpo

We've been talking/texting for about a week and even if it was a end of the day check in, if things had been busy, he would make an effort. He was cool last night and I sent him a good night and that's the last I've heard.

nattybumpo

Sorry it sent that so many times!

1234jvm

Sometimes guys need a break... the best way to handle this is not let yourself be needy. Value yourself... your worrying doesn't change anything.. you didn't do anything wrong.... the ball is just in his court so you feel vulnerable (for lack of a better word) but if you stay strong and focus on your life and yourself and let it go. Your confidence will be attractive. Have fun! (its all over the place but hope that makes some sense!)

asmalltowngirl

Well then I think that he is jerk

1234jvm

Sometimes guys need a break... because they don't want to screw it up! or they want to take it to the next level... and they want to think about that. Or simply they are hardwired differently in general and their mind is just on other stuff and being human. Don't take it personally!

nattybumpo

Is it dumb that I liked the pic?! He had on something we had been talking about all week. Does that show weakness by liking the pic or that things are cool and I'm dying inside because I haven't heard from him!!

ashleygebetsberger

Maybe he has not too much time to dedicate to u because he thinks that when he talks to you he must have all his attention on what u are saying

torirule TOP COMMENTER

if he hasn't replied to your last text then don't "like" or comment on any of his social media pages because then it will be really obvious that you are cyberstalking him.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If someone has the have time to be on IG and not text you, it means he does not have time to text you. It is what it is. You said it yourself. In any case, if you guys have not met (not sure, no background info given), he must not have been that keen anyway since he did not ask you out. Even if you have met, no follow up to another meetup shows no interest. You should stop texting him or liking his stuff on IG. Don't need to remind a guy you exist.

bluesdetoi

Saying hello is not an effort, he didn't make an effort. A text takes 5 seconds to write, a "hello" takes 2 seconds. He's not interested.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

If he has time to go on IG but he is not texting you then he simply doesn't want to, for whatever reason. It doesn't even matter. He is being extremely rude so stop liking his photos and stop texting him. He doesn't deserve your attention. Go out and meet some other guys, face to face. And the next time you meet someone online or on social media don't spend a week talking. If someone wants to get to know you, they should take you out on a real date and talk to you face to face. Guys are smart. If you don't communicate online, that is if you do to respond to their messages online and if they really are interested in you, they will ask for your number and take the conversation offline. They will realize your the type of girl they have to take out on dates. If they don't take you out then they were never going to do it anyway and you saved yourself some very precious time. A lot of girls don't realize that they are not getting asked out on dates because they are way too available online.

boyyougotitallwrong

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I have a boyfriend I have been dating him for about 7 months. But another person came along and I really like him. I've been hanging out with him for a few days now and he really likes me too. He makes me really happy and so does my boyfriend. But he leaned in for a kiss. So we did. Now it's gone way to far. I have to choose between him or my boyfriend.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I don't know who to choose!? I like them both! What am I gonna do?

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nataliejolie

If you managed to fall for someone new whilst still with your bf, you might as well go for the new guy. As hard as that is. You'll remain wondering if you don't. Just make sure this new guy is for real & actually wants to be with you.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

The guy who kissed you knows you have a bf and leaned in for a kiss. He could be doing this if you guys get together. He has no moral values. A r/s starting with a wrong hardly comes out right. As for you, you let yourself fall for another person and even cheated on your bf. I don't think your bf deserves this happening to him. You should be alone if you cannot be loyal in a r/s. Sorry, has to be said. Sort it out, girl.

bluesdetoi

It sounds like you're easily swayed if you really like this boy after hanging out a few times. You probably don't like your boyfriend that much. The other guy is trouble if he knows you're in a relationship, and still goes for it. I wouldn't trust him, but then again I wouldn't trust you either since you're kissing someone who isn't your boyfriend. None of this will work out in the end.

whit87

You might only be appealing to him because you are taken your a challenge who's to say once he gets you hes not interested anymore just saying something to think about people want what they can't have BTW be honest with your bf nobody deserves to be cheated on.

ashleygebetsberger

I wouldnt left my boyfriend if i were u, u dont know if this new guy is just being nice now and then he will turn to be horrible

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

Does the new guy actually want a relationship with you? Don't jump the gun like that. If he does, I think you should choose him becauseyou guys deserve each other.

heytheredelilah

HERE'S THE DEAL...

ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now..
i was clearly interested in his personality by the first couple months
and after that.. Booom!
sudden changes; he started putting me over his friends, he'd cancel a plan with his friends to see me for 5 minutes, excessive texting (wanting to know where am with whom i and what am i doing), good with anything i say, he'd invite himself to go out with me and MY friends and he is clearly going out of his comfort zone for me. He was totally different at first but everything he does shows he cant do it without me

NOW I'M WONDERING...

WHAT TO DO? "i really dont wanna be hurting him" he has always been gd to me

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northeastchick

He sounds obsessive. I recently read an article on how to read an obsessive/dangerous guy and everything you say was on the list. Please be careful guys like this can be a problem and even dangerous.

sunshine_love

He is entirely TOO into you...it's borderline scary. Please be safe and escape as quick and as safe as you can.

bleuly1

If you've been dating 7 months and this only happened after the first couple of months, I honestly feel this guy has just become really into you. Tell him in a round-about way you need more space. In other words, that it's great he loves spending time with you, and you love spending time with him too, but he shouldn't put his own priorities on hold to do so: like dropping his friends, because that will negatively affect them. Say you're glad to be with him, but girls' nights out are sacred, that kind of thing. And as for the texting, you can just take a longer time to reply, which will slow down the pace and the pressure of texting without directly calling him out and embarrassing him for overdoing it. Since you say it was never in his personality to be clingy, I feel if you handle this gently, the previous balance can be restored without any big fuss. Got to admit though, from an outsider's perspective the asking where you are, with whom, doing what is too much. I guess you're the one who really knows him though. Only stay in this situation if you are certain it is safe.

idkcatsorboys

Be careful! I dated a guy like that and I thought it was cute and all for a while until I moved back to school at the end of the summer and two weeks later he showed up at my door! I couldn't get him to leave and he decided to move in and became extremely obsessive and eventually abusive. Be very careful

brytni

I have been hurt like this for over a year. I know how you feel. My bf and I have been arguing non stop. He made me get rid of my friends and only have his cause he knows them. It's tough to say, but if you want the relationship, talk to him about it in a calm tone. And if he starts to get upset about it then tell him to talk to you calmly when he is ready. Just keep sober and everything should work out. :)

gymnast21600

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Now a day after he says "I think we need to take a step back and I don't mean end things" if I wanted to end it I would say. He was saying he hasn't been happy lately and not because of me. We work together and now things are weird well just say hello.

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Advice?

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mrsbillygil

Sounds like a bunch of excuses

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If someone wants to be with you, they wouldn't be making all sorts of excuses not to be with you. And again, he works with you. It's unprofessional to date someone you're paid to work with.

bluesdetoi

He is turning things around to make you feel guilty for him not wanting to date you. It's very clever and guys know that the confused approach will usually give him sympathy instead of anger for fading off, but its still what it is. Hes not interested enough, or hes testing the waters with someone else and wants to keep you around in case that doesnt work out.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Agree with bluesdetoi. When I was dating, whenever some guy to blame me for his behavior with me, like not calling me or not taking me out, it was just a way to pretend that I'm the one who wasn't interested when in reality he was the one who isn't interested. He is talking a lot if BS. He just isn't interested in dating you and this is a sneaky way if not admitting it.

jessicaterry

Hello,
Am Jessica by name My ex-boyfriend dumped me 6 months ago after I
accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I want him back in
my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and
don't know what to do,
a friend of mine introduce me to Dr Ayelala by giving me his email, i never believed until
I contact him and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me after 3days that my ex will return
to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my
door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not
only that,we got MARRIED.all thanks to Dr Ayelala. If you have a
similar problem please contact him on doctorspellsolution@hotmail.com

torirule TOP COMMENTER

All the others are right, he's making excuses "you don't seem like you want to" and "I've been in a bad place" and "I'm just not sure" BLAH BLAH F***ING BLAH. When guys start rambling this crap with me I tell them "no worries, we want different things, that's cool, we don't need to discuss it". Then they either leave me alone or after a period of silence they come back with "Actually I have realised I want to be with you".

bettalookwhoyoutalkintowhite

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I've been friends with my Bestfriend for 4 years and I've recently came out and said I was bisexual. She said it was fine and she didn't care. However, ever since then I have been falling madly in love with her. When I first met her I thought she was either bisexual or a lesbian, but Idk what she is.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I can't hold my feelings in much longer and I don't want to ruin our friend ship. What do I do. Should I tell her how I feel?

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bluesdetoi

You can tell her what you feel I guess, and if you can both live with being friends after, no harm done. But you should be aware that chances are pretty high she won't return your feelings and that it might ruin your friendship because she might want some distance to avoid misleading you. You might be hurt as well because you will have to be just friends with someone you're in love with.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If she is your best friend, doesn't she ever tell you about her crushes and people she goes on dates with? You can't assess her sexual orientation from that? I would say you might not be as good a friend you think you are then. You could tell her like blues suggested, but it might break the friendship since she might need time off from you.

ashleygebetsberger

You need to tell her that u kind of like her and expect the best of her response to that

sxyslm

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Me and my ex broke up on October 9 and we have had zero communication with each other until I received that text. This is our second time breaking up and the reason we broke up this time is because he became distant, started dating other people, and I started accusing him of cheating. He basically accused me of cheating and his last text message to me was "Lets just drop this and you go do whatever you got going on" to end the relationship. 

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

I guess Im confused as to why he texted me and still have my number. Is he going to try and text me every holiday? Is it an ego thing to see if I would reply? Is he trying to ease back into my life? Should I have replied back?

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marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

Ego thing, or curious to see if you'll still respond, etc. Don't give it too much thought because it seems like he's not a great guy and you broke up for good reason.

bluesdetoi

He doesn't care about you. He dated other people while you were in a relationship? Thats called cheating and a complete lack of respect. He's texting you to see if he still's got it, and if you're still hung up on him. It's a classic male thing. Just stay away and help yourself get over him by blocking him on all those apps, he's so not worth your time.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

The holidays make people weak and lonely. Don't be there for him when his loneliness kicks in. He cheated and accused you of cheating. Why do you even give him the time of the day? Block and delete.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Agree with all the above. Block him so that you don't even see his messages. You are in a position that even seeing his name may make your heart jump, so block him and delete his name and number from your contacts. If he had any intentions of seeing you again, he would say so. He could've just been bored or just curious to see if you were still into him. You gave him an ego boost. Don't let him use you for his entertainment . You deserve better. Block him. Or a trick I did with an ex, a long time ago, is that I changed his first name and last name in my contacts to "Assholecalling Don'tAnswer". This is what why would see when my ex would text or call me. It helped me to not reply back. But it's even better to block them all together. See what works for you, but don't let him get a rise out of you.

bonitadiva

How long did y'all date? He probably found out the grass is not as green on the other side and is trying to keep in some type of contact with you. Holidays are perfect time to send a text to an ex and he was probably hoping for more convo from you. Dont contact him but don't be surprised if he tries and contact you again.

sxyslm

Wow! Well certainly not the responses I expected. @Bonitadiva We dated about 8 months and I was very good to him. I broke up with him for about 2 weeks but then asked for another chance and we got back together. Im sure he is shocked that he hasn't heard from me and I thought about not responding to the text. If felt like if I didnt respond, it would seem like I was still hurting or upset but if I did respond, it would look like Im not bitter about the break up and have moved on, which I have. So thats why I did respond and kept it light and simple. I didnt initiate any small talk or ask how he is doing and I have not and will not initiate contact with him.

sxyslm

Thanks all for the responses

upandup143

My ex also texted me on thanksgiving and send a weird turkey pic. I did not reply... i agree he was prob just lonely and reaching out to see if you'd respond. I deleted my ex's phone number and I suggest you do the same.

upandup143

I just saw my ex's text as sad and weird. I have no interest in him anymore. If this happened closer to the breakup I'd be tempted to respond but not now...

sxyslm

Oh I deleted it but of course I still remember it and since its a long distance number so I would recognize it. Ill just not reply in the future.

julie1218

HERE'S THE DEAL...

ok so me and this boy have texted for like 8 months, except we met because I banged his best friend, and that's how we started talking. I recently just came out of a short term relationship and all of a sudden This boy has gone from a best friend to a bae except for my one problem, ok so I'm sure he likes me and all but he really wants his friend that I banged not to find out that me and him are together, but yet he still comes to my house often, we've never had sex or had a sleepover just been fun little hang outs but I don't know if it's worth getting attached to someone who doesn't even want their best friend to find out? Like I don't want to have to keep a big part of my life a secret, he has only told one of his friends about me and him seeing eachother

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what should I do?

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happygurl

How long have you been together? You just came out from a relationship. And maybe he doesn't have the guts to tell his best friend yet because he's worried that he will lose him. Just give time for the r/s to grow further. If it lasts for a short term, it's not worth it for him to lose his best friend. Just enjoy and see where it goes.

sarahy91

He's probably just making sure that y'all being together is serious and not a short-term thing. I didn't start telling my friends about my relationship with my bf until about a month or two into seriously dating. My bf told his family and friends once we made it official, but that's because he knew he was serious about me from the start. We both went into the relationship serious from the start. I just wasn't ready to tell everyone. There's no set amount of time. It's whenever he feels comfortable. But if it's taking too long, you might wanna reconsider.

bluesdetoi

Agree with happygurl. If this is new, he might nit be sure youre worth losing a best friend for, that is is his friend would even care, since it sounds like there were no feelings between you and him. Give it a while, if hes into you, he'll want everyone to know about you.

chynamariebach

my boyfriend took the longest time to tell anyone we were together... give it time hun

sophisticated

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I asked him this question thinking that we'd just hangout and hookup like we normally do but his response kind of made me do a double take...

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

Does he actually want to go out and do something or just hookup?

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torirule TOP COMMENTER

just ask him....

bluesdetoi

Its a little hard to determine from those texts what kind of thing he wants to do, but you should ask him yourself.

northeastchick

Ask him ....his response could go either way....

sophisticated

I didn't respond and the next day he took me out on an actual date... It's so confusing because he says he doesn't want a relationship but yet he does things like this and will text me every day.... I guess we're dating but not dating???

torirule TOP COMMENTER

that's good! where did he take you?

sophisticated

We went out to dinner and then to a movie :) It was nice but added to the confusion lol

torirule TOP COMMENTER

you're dating and hooking up, but you're not boyfriend and girlfriend. At least it's not just hooking up.

niki_bubble94

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We met about 4 months back on tinder. Well we started talking two days before I had to leave the country. Now I'm in another country for my studies and I'm returning back this decemeber. We couldn't meet up even though he wanted to. We have been talking every single day about everything about our lives. He is pretty honest with me and he does tell me that if he met a girl. But he always tells me its never serious. And if I met someone and went on a date I'll tell him ( which happened once ). He knows I like him a lot. And he did admit that he does think about us dating. But since we have never met what ever is there isn't real and he needs to see the real life compatibility. We used to have smoking hot sexting and it was all fun, he used to tease and flirt. He cares a lot about me and even my family. And we cannot exactly stay without texting for a day. One day I avoided him and he was like, why are you mad at me ?.
He knows eveything about my life and he too. We thought about skyping but decided not to because we wanted to hear the voice for the first time. He is a very busy person but manages to find time for me. We text in an average of one and half hours everyday inspite of the 10 hour time difference. He is investing a lot of time on someone who is thirteen thousand. Km away. We are on eachothers social media, like facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram etc and keep updating about our lives, family etc.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Now the thing is, I just have around 17 days left to meet him. And I'm really nervous. And we always had this amazing online chemistry on. Even sexual flirting was perfect. Past one and half weeks he has been not flirting anymore. We talk a lot, he still cares. He scolds me when I don't take care of my health, he told about our meet. and try to make a conversation when I'm not replying. I know for a fact that there isn't any woman . last time he has been with someone was like a month back. He has been sick for a while. Plus he is doing his engineering so he is busy too. But there is not even a line of flirting. It makes me wonder whether he doesn't find me attractive or like me anymore.

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niki_bubble94

We have been talking non stop for 4 months everyday.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

It's not even a real r/s, it's just an online r/s. Everything is not real until you meet the guy. He's not perfect like you imagine him to be, and he's a human being with flaws. You let him become more than you think. So stop, and just pull yourself back into that space of logic. You might not even find him attractive in person. My friend did something like this and when she met the guy, the guy was balding and was much shorter than he said he was on his dating profile. Be realistic about it, until you meet him, stop obsessing.

bluesdetoi

I do understand finding the online chemistry, and it can seem so real and perfect. I have been in your shoes, texting and IM'ing with someone for a while before meeting them, but when we met we had no sexual or romantic chemistry, it was a complete bust, and it was a horrible realisation knowing that we had both invested feelings and time into each other. I know its a little late for that, but see this as a meeting with friend you're close with, and not a possible romantic encounter, and see how it goes from there. Try to convey that same idea to him so that you both can relax on your first meeting, instead of being anxious.

deerandomgee

Ya should really try to Skype Or FaceTime. It sounds kinda Catfish to Me...

niki_bubble94

Yeah he does say that, I might not even like him in real. And honestly its not the look which attracts me. I like him for what he is. He doesn't explain his good nature. I infer it from what he tells on how his day was. He explained what he did with his Lil cousins and those things touched me. I know I have to meet him to be sure . but I really like this guy. And I feel so happy around him. And I'm scared that it will be a hoax.

marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

I agree with bluesdetoi, it's going to feel very different in person, so don't get your hopes up too much.

girl444

sounds to me like he may have tried to make himself into way more than he actually is or does, and now he is afraid to meet you. its not that he isn't attracted to you, its more likely that he is, and now is worried if you will like him. just keep the date to meet and see if he shows up. in the meantime, downplay the meeting a little but so he isn't as nervous to do it.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Niki you talk about him like you have been in physical

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Niki, you talk about him like you have been in physical contact. You said you like how you feel "around him" but you've never been around him. What's done is done so take the advice from the posters above and treat this like meeting a friend. You really know nothing about this guy, not until you meet him in person and meet his friends and family and little cousins. You don't really know this guy. People can set up fake Facebook profiles. It happens all the time on the show catfish. I hope the meeting goes as you expect. But if it doesn't , in the future, as. Rule if thumb don't establish relationships online. Talk little to the people you meet online and arrange to meet in person ASAP. The conversations you had with him every day were supposed to happen face to face on dates. I met my fiancée online, but he asked me for my number and a date after out third email and that's because I don't divulge a ton of personal info to strangers online. He knew that to get to know me he would have to make the time to see me face to face. Any guys online that didn't ask me for my phone number by the 4th or 5th exchange, I would just ignore. I didn't want a pen pal. I wanted flesh and blood man. Right now what you have is a pen pal who may or may not be exactly who he said he was. Pretend you are meeting a friend, just like one of the posters a I've mentioned. so that you don't get completely disappointed. I hope things go as you hope.

niki_bubble94

Thanks to all! Well we have been what sapping. We have each others number. And I have checked out about the credibility and its real. And what you telling is true, I haven't met this guy and I should treat this as meeting a friend. Honestly we would have met if we could. But since I'm in another country, sadly we can't!

niki_bubble94

He has send me videos of him boxing and me playing drums and all, he is a nice person, he has never ever misbehaved or stepped over the line. He has always respected me and cared for me ! Anyways 15 days to go! Let's see :)

vult

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I was seeing someone for 3 months. At first it went well but I'm not the type to fall in love quickly. Fortunately, I found out gradually that he was playing around and also kept seeing other women while seeing me. I decided to dump him because first, I don't want to waste my time and second, after finding out his habit of lying (saying I was the only one for him but also texts other women the same thing) I was emotionally done with him. I wished him luck while walking away voluntarily because without me, he's still happy with other girls. But this guy just keeps texting me out of the blue asking: "Is everything ok with you?"

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

He is definitely seeking for attention. What would be your best action if you were in my position dealing with this jerk?

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sarahy91

Ignore him but that doesn't seem to be working so unfriend him on Facebook and block him (if things get really bad). It's mean but if he keeps bothering you, that's the best you can do.

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

Block him

esserebelle

Well. There's tons of options here. But I would do one of two.
1. I would continue to ignore him and he will probably stop and realize you don't want to talk to him.

OR

2. I would text him saying "please stop texting me. I don't want to talk to you and I don't want anything to do with you." And I would just hope he would catch on and stop. Good luck!

torirule TOP COMMENTER

reply 'everything's great :)' then block him

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Block and not text anything back. The silence will kill him more than any words could. Plus, if he texts back and you text back something angry, then you will just look emotional.

vult

Thank you guys for the feedbacks

deerandomgee

Ignore Ignore Ignore!!!!

everyhappy21

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So this guy I met him on tinder we were fwb until I left for college. Then all of sudden he started to text me that he wants to have sex. I meant I expect that because we were fwb. But then last Saturday was 3am in the morning, he texted me saying what's up blah blah blah then I asked him to come up to visit me in school (half joking) and he said he will then he drove 3 and half hours to visit me. We cuddled but no sex. In the morning he left saying his parents will worry about him. I kept saying that we were fb whenever he compliments on my look or my body. But he said just a memory. He's 26 and I'm 22. We've been known each other about an year.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

While we were texting he said im a smart and cute sexy girl. But I told him that I don't believe it. And the fact that he drove 3 hours to just to cuddle with me at 3am in the morning... Idk. He texted me saying "thank you for having me :)" what is he doing? He said he doesn't think us as fwb just a memory. Is he trying to be nice? Or just to get in my pants? He could find another girl to have sex easily ... I don't understand.

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northeastchick

This is strange..he drove 3 hours at 3AM but didn't have sex with you? In a way that is a good sign that he is interested in you as more than a sex buddy...but he contradicts himself with his text "I want sex". If he wanted to just get into your pants he would visit you in school and have sex whenever convenient. I do think he is trying to be nice which is not a bad thing.

everyhappy21

So he's just being nice? But isn't it over the top? Drove 3 hrs to just to cuddle with me? I don't mind him being nice but I just don't understand it.

everyhappy21

Isn't it over the top? That he drove 3 hrs to just to cuddle? I meant I don't mind him being nice but I think this is beyond nice.. I just don't understand.

everyhappy21

Isn't it over the top? That he drove 3 hrs to just to cuddle? I meant I don't mind him being nice but I think this is beyond nice.. I just don't understand. He doesn't consider us as sex buddy anymore.

everyhappy21

Oops sorry for the crazy comments... It says error :(

northeastchick

How has his behaviour been since that incident? Sometimes it is hard to decipher a persons actions and you just need to see how things progress between you two...I would stop saying to him that your only FWB especially if you want more.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

It doesn't say much. He could be lonely and wanted to cuddle. If he's not meeting you to spend more time with you without it being sexual, don't assume anything. And, he's 26 and still lives at home?

everyhappy21

He texted me that he got home well and thank me for having him other than that no. And he moved out and he moved back in cuz he works for his dad. So idk! I don't care but just still don't understand lol he must've been lonely.. I guess

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

He was lonely and you were available

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

He probably intended to sleep with you but was too tired after the drive lol

esserebelle

HERE'S THE DEAL...

My boyfriend said he wasn't feeling well and I was just kinda trying to make him feel better and said I would give him a hug and he said he was a germaphobe. It kinda hurt my feelings.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Does this seem rude or mean? Or am I just over reacting? Thanks.

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2009 TOP COMMENTER

He may be a germaphobe and he's also a jerk. Maybe he was just in a funky mood but if he's like this all the time then I'd say he's not overly keen on you

bluesdetoi

Is this really your boyfriend or just someone random you are talking to and youre assuming its a relationship?

deerandomgee

That's fucked up , leave his Germafobe Ass Alone since he don't want to be touched... & ur not over reacting that was really rude & inconsiderate

ashleygebetsberger

Maybe he was just joking 😯

lucyinthesky_2

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I met this guy at Tinder a week ago. He's english I'm spanish. Arranged a date on saturday after texting back and forth for a few days. We met at 9,30 pm and extended untill 4,30 am.
During the last hour he kissed me and hold my hand. Asked me to his place which I rejected.
Then I heard nothing from him till this morning (monday) and we've texted again back and forth all day joking around.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

My doubt is I've seen he's been in Tinder yesterday and today so keeps talking to other girls. Don't have much experience on online dating and never met an english guy. So..Is it normal and acceptable? Do you think he is interested?
He's such a handsome and well educated guy and never thought he would like me.
Thanks girls!

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torirule TOP COMMENTER

yes it is normal for people who use Tinder to a) be looking for casual sex, and b) keep looking on Tinder after one date with someone.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

You shouldn't be fixated on one guy after just one date. Yes it's common. You guys are not in a relationship. It was just a date, which means you should be dating too. And I don me sleeping with anyone, just dating and getting to know guys. Let someone ask to for exclusivity before you get all hung up on them. The way to not get too attached to one guy too soon is to date others. And ironically you appear more attractive because guys can sense that you Are not desperate. Keep dating. Enjoy yourself. Mr. Right will come along when you least expect it.

lucyinthesky_2

You're totally right my dear. I will follow your advice and let you know. Many many thanks!

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