So my boyfriend told me that he loved me only a couple weeks after we started dating and I wasn't sure if I felt the same, but I went a long with it and soon after I really did fall in love with him too. We said it to each other all the time. Now we have been dating for three months and just recently he told me that maybe love isn't the right word with what we are feeling. He feel is like we said it too much with maybe no meaning behind it but he still says that he likes me A LOT just love isn't the right word. He also told me that he could see him eventually falling in love, but it is just gonna take time. The problem is I feel like I love him, just not unconditionally. I feel like there is such thing as big and little love and what I feel for him is just little love... But it's still love.
How can I get him closer to loving me? I feel like he may think that love has to be one big idea even though I feel like it can be a small thing and then grow from there. Either way please help! I need ideas and advice! What are some things I can do to make him fall in love with me eventually?
So this isn't really about someone who texted me or about me at all but i'm seeking advice for a loved one. My sister is in a relationship with a guy who me and family are pretty sure abuses her in the past months she has changed. He screams at her and demands things from her. He's always angry and putting her down in many ways. She always has bruises and never talks back to him. She just lets him control her. Everything she says or does goes through him. And when she gets screamed at she just sits there with no emotion im seriously worried.
I really don't know what to do or how to get her to oped up to me. I'm scared for her and her 9 month old child. What shoud I do? How do I go about this how do I find out what's really going on behind closed doors? I just know it's happening, I can feel it in my gut and see it o her face.
Do you think its possible for someone who is used to being in abusive relationships to ever have a healthy, normal one?
After so long your mind is trained to act and react certain ways that no normal person will deal with.
How do you retrain your mind to think normally?
Friends from high school haven't seen each other more than a year and we were Sexting yesterday and I asked him to have sex with me or do me? Then he said not right now and it could be change if we hung out
I wanna know does he want to have sex or just Sexting?
So I met this guy online a week ago. We met on the weekend, and the attraction was instant. He is 26, and I am 20. The date lasted 4 hrs! At the end he dropped me at my place and went for a kiss bit I turned my cheek and he laughed and didn't insist. The next day I had a Xmas part from work and we were texting back and forth, he told me "dont let guys hit on you." I said " why not in the end, I m a single lady afterall. He replied " yeah, I m gonna have to do smth about that."
We met later after I was done, and just stayed in his car. We talked about relationships, and I told him I have never been in one and he was surprised how a girl like me had never been involved with a guy, but pleased. Anyways, he even told me that he wants kids before 30. I said I want kids after I am accomplished professionally, but we agreed is early to do that talk... We hugged and he kept rubbing my back and kissed me in the neck, I kissed him in the cheek and then stoped him and asked to take me home. He laughed and agreed. After I get homes he texts me and asks if I want to be his girlfriend, I replied that I need to know him more and then decide. He said " take all the time you need, I am not going anywhere."
He texts me everyday, using nice words. I met him again last night, we just chilled at a McDonald's, talking about stuff and I told him again that I want a relationship that will work that's why I am not in a rush to get into one without making sure that he is what I want. He said I m right and agreed to take things slowly. When we departed we hugged and he kissed me 3 times on the cheeks and I saw he wanted to go further but he didn't. I m glad he didn't.
Since I have never been involved with a guy, I am scared he doesn't have clear intentions. He looks very nice, has a Muslim background but not religious. Forgot to mention we met on a dating website. And yesterday I deleted my account in front of him, he was pleased and said he'll do the same.
How will I know he is serious about this?
I met this boy downtown.. And we instantly clicked... By the end of the night he was my fb friend and then two nights later we went out again and he got my number and snapchats me all the time... My problem he's been hurt before he's always telling me how much of a screwup he is and how he gives up on everything.. Well yesterday it was a complete 360 we talked from noon till about 6 then. We stopped for a bit and then started about 730 and went till 2 am we literally talked about everything and anything I learned a lot about why the way he is.. But now today he's back to feeling down.. My question is what can I do to make him feel better? Is this going anywhere? We clearly like each other but idk what's going on with him. Am I wasting my time or is this worth my time helping him out and potentially going somewhere
Am I wasting my time with this boy? Is he not ready? What can I do to help make him feel better about himself? Cuz he is an amazing guy
I don't know if this posted, my internet cut out. Sorry if this is a repeat :/
So this is still the same guy I mentioned in previous posts - he's sweet and shy, and we've been good friends for a year. We hold hands occasionally, and we hug each other goodbye, but it's always playful. I really like him, and I think he might like me, too.
He gave me a present today, and I was so happy with him that I kissed him on the cheek afterwards. We were getting ready to leave the lecture hall, so I guess that might have made it even more awkward, but I tried my best. I think he blushed, but when we left it was like nothing happened. He hugged me goodbye like he normally does and we went on our way.
Does the fact that he didn't do anything mean he doesn't like me back, or was he just shy? Comments would be nice :)
So there is this guy from south American and I invited him over for dinner he lived it and was smitten with me for a week after that, but when I saw him at a meeting I didn't want to talk to him because I didn't want to serm desperate, so he came up to me and some friends he struck up a convo and I asked him what is his type, he tried to evade the question so I said what have your previous gf looked like he said two girls from europ and one girl from spain, but he said some of his closest friends are asian, but whenvthis European lokking girl walked by his whole body turned toward her, but he said it doesn't matter the race it depends on personality
So my question is since I'm not European but asian should I just give up on the guy since he already has a type?
So I have kinda been seeing this guy. He got me to kiss him on the first date (which I never do) and he got me back to his apartment...we just fooled around and I left before clothes came off. We have only met up twice bc we live an hour from each other (but still, I'm in his area frequently so we could have met more often). We have been texting back and fourth for a few months. It's usually him who keeps the convo going by asking questions. But I like him so I reply. BUT HE NEVER INITIATES HANGING OUT. he always asks if i'm around in his area. And whenever I say I am, he doesn't reply until the next day and asks if I'm back in my area. I am not even sure why we are still texting cuz we never meet up.
I didnt reply to one of his texts and he texted me again the next day apologizing for sucking at texting.
so i am so confused if he is into me or not. What do i do with a guy like this? I do like him. I just cant gauge his interest. I'm dating other guys, but for some reason I still like him best.
A close friend of mine (He lives two hours away and it's hard if I get a chance to actually see him) started texting me out of nowhere.
I started noticing some good signs:
-His replies would be really fast.
-He would use some emoticons. (smileys, winky faces, ect)
-He told me some personal things.
-He would write: "Lol" if he found something funny.
-He'd text me from 9 AM to 12 PM (with "Good morning" and "Good night)
Also some "bad" signs(?):
-He something a says: "Whatever".
-He hasn't talked about dating or love (unless I ask)
We used to date through 7th and 8th grade until he moved.
How do I tell him that I like him without making it awkward?
I recently moved to a new high school, and there was this boy who wanted to get to know me. He first messaged me on Facebook. Later, he subtly asked for my number. He's mostly the one who initiates online/texting contact. However, in school we both equally start the conversation. We have been texting or chatting everyday for the past three months. Whenever the conversation begins to die out, he either asks me how my day was, or what i would do in a particular situation. He's naturally a very friendly guy. He nicknamed me; sometimes he likes to annoy me, but he's mostly cool.
Do you think he likes me? How can i tell without personally asking him?
I have known this guy since the end of last year, but actually got to be better friends with him this year. He has never asked me out and doesn't text me first, but he always pays extra attention to me. He answers all my texts immediately and picks up all my phone calls. We have a really great connection and chemistry...we always laugh a lot and have interesting conversations about personal topics(family, ethics, feelings). Almost every weekend some of his close friends (who I'm friends with too) text me to come over and hang out or come to their party. One night we hooked up, but only made out...he wanted to have sex, but I said no and he respected that. He kept saying how he thought I was a really awesome/chill person and complimenting me on my eyes, smile, ect. He asked me if I wanted to go out, but we were both drunk and I just laughed it off/didn't respond. He slept over that night and we talked a lot in the morning before he left. Now I feel like he is uncomfortable around me because finds excuses to leave the room almost every time I come to hang out and he seems nervous around me.
I'm wondering if he feels rejected because I wouldn't "go out" with him? I thought he might just being trying to get me to have sex. I'm not sure if he actually likes me or just wants sex. What can I do to show interest, but not seem too aggressive and scare him away?
I texted and chatted with this man for about 6 months. He is:
-very handsome, charming, sweet
-when you two chat online – always says right things – misses, thinks about you all the time
-calls you sweet names, never your own
-gives lots of compliments
-get your attention, then is hot and cold, but always assures you everything is fine
-sends sexy pics of him and asks for yours
-talks about kissing, cuddling with you, later on more and more
-says that he will marry you one day or that he wants to try to date you
-if you are in relationship – he says he will wait for you and is sorry that you are no single but keeps talking and wanting to meet you anyway
-not really deep conversation, you don’t really know him
-texts a lot, many of them start with “Hey or morning” only
-when you two meet (he is from another state)
-he is still very charming, sweet, funny
-looks into your eyes most of the time
-compliments you, has lots of stories that sound too good
-is dressed nicely – later on points out how expensive clothes he wears
-talks about other people as if they did not know much but he knows a lot
-kiss you deep after very short time and then is all over you
-calls his hand “groping”
-when you put his hands away from your crotch, chest, he apologizes and than does it again
-wants you to feel him all the time
-pulls his junk out on first date
-is kinda aggressive and pressures for more
-then gentle, kissing your face, hair, hands, cuddles a lot
-holds your hand in car, when you two walk
-wants to send flowers but never does
-all of his exes did something to him
-tell you his salary after few dates
-points out expensive stuff he owns
-talks about watching his weight
-sends text with “ I think I am falling for you babe” after 3rd date
-when kissing you – prefers lie on your and hold your hands behind your head
-keeps saying how much he wants to be with you, how he wants to take you home with him.
-makes you feel special, only one and that he cares
-talks about future all the time
-you say you can’t sleep with him and he is ok, but tries to get more anyway
-tells you he won’t hurt you, that sex is not only thing he wants and can prove it
-when he gets what he wants – he is done
- sends text or two a week
-ignores some of yours but keeps saying how much he misses you and wants to see you again
Is he a player or am I misreading him somehow? I believed his words but I guess nothing was real to him.
So I've been seeing this guy for almost a month now, but over the last two weeks we haven't been able to see one another because of Thanksgiving break and now the ramp up to finals. Next week it will be finals, so again we will probably not get to see each other. We work together, so I do see him Saturdays, but this is work and we have kept our relationship a secret. Over Thanksgiving break we texted constantly, but it seems that when he does have free time he is either too tired, has school work, or has to be up early for work (our shifts start at 7:30).
I could tell this week he was starting to get really stressed by school work, so I have taken a break from texting him this week. I figure he will text me when he's feeling less pressure.
So I guess my question is if I am making the right move by backing off a bit? I figure I only need to worry if this behavior continues after finals when he has less on his plate.
He and I are in the same group of friends and have a flirtatious relationship. He lost a bet to me, so I texted him reminding him and telling him that he could pay me with a beer. His answer was that in relation with the bet, it should be more than one beer, and then he said that, anyway, the important thing was that his team won that day.
I'm like 90% sure that this was a rejection, but i'd still like to check. This guy is so not shy when it comes to women, and i'm pretty sure that he tried his best to let me down easy, and the best thing he could come up with was changing the subject.