Been dating this guy for 3 months. He's super negative & treats me like I'm a big whatever sometimes. BUT he wants to make me his girlfriend & already introduced me to his family.
I'm utterly confused because sometimes he's very caring and attentive to me. I liked him a lot at first, but idk if he's too whatever with me or if I'm just being too sensitive?..
Hi - I met a guy towards the end of March, we clicked right away, had a few intense dates and he was very keen with the texts. His life is chaotic, 2 children by 2 different women in 2 different parts of the country, a manic job that he travels the length and breadth of the country with. I saw him about 2 weeks later and then the texts have gradually slowed down. A friend of mine said I needed to not give too much away in texts and I need to keep it short and sweet which I think translated into me being rude. I therefore text the following as I was confused as to what was happening:
Hi there, sorry if my text appeared abrupt yesterday, I was dashing from the gym when I sent it and I was doing stuff with my son. Hope you OK. Do you fancy meeting up again or would you like to be texting buddies? Feeling a bit confused
His reply to me:
Morning Mel, always nice to hear from you from you (inserted a smiley face). Im up in Newcastle this weekend (about 4 hours from me) as I am seeing my son and as always I have been running around like a nutter the rest of the time (inserted 3 faces with gritted teeth) Hope you're ok? I'm not around much at the moment, so cant plan much. I will keep in touch and hopefully we can plan something soon. Enjoy the rest of your weekend x
I did hear from him yesterday and he asked if I was free, I already had plans, so declined his offer! I am feeling quite proud that I didn't just drop everything to go and see him.
We have been texting a bit today, but would like to know peoples views please. Do you think another date will be in the pipeline? thank you
Met a guy (with a few common friends) about 4 months ago, we were both single, things went too fast and too far, it quickly became a fds with benefits kind of thing without any foundation. We both were probably not too sure about where we stand after all these, so we just kept it going and avoided to have 'the talk'. It didn't get better or worse after 4 months, we hanged out 1-2 times a week just like how we used to be, it just didn't go anywhere but we didn't want it to die out.
So something happened last week:
He suddenly texted me that he was not in the mood to be intimate with me, and asked if I could just hang out as a platonic friend when we meet on the next day. I agreed and hanged out to see what's happening. He said he has to be honest with me. We never talked about our past relationships in details as we were just FWB anyway. Just realized he got out of a 3.5 years relationship half a year ago, it was a domestic relationship, his ex was 7 years older than him (he's 29, I'm 27) and she has a 13 years old kid with her ex-husband. "My guy's" family was totally against his ex since she was older, divorced and has a kid so he said they def wouldn't have a chance to go any further. His ex betrayed him and went for an older man and broke up with him since she was looking for someone to get married and looking for someone mature. She's recently broken up with the older man and got back in touch with "my guy", begging him to get back into a relationship with her and said things like she was regretful and stuffs - That was what he told me.
He said he was 100% sure that he's not gonna be with her again, but he just felt bad when his ex was consistantly cried and begged him every one or two days. He looked quite depressed, and I felt like I had to leave him alone and let him be on his own for some time after this meeting. He said sorry to me about not being able to treat me as a date (more than friends) when we met as "he was not in the mood" and hope he could get back into good mood and date me like how we used to be soon. I asked him to take his time and figure things out. (Deep inside, I felt very upset and tried to act nice and caring)
So I texted him after the meeting (like 4am), telling him I got home, and also how I thought about our "relationship". I told him that I actually liked him a lot, but things started off awkwardlly as a friends with benefits, I didn't want to ruin things or give up the chances to keep seeing him, so I avoided to have "the talk" with him to clarify where we stand. I also wrote him that I couldn't just be a plantonic friend when he wasn't in the mood to hold my hands or make out, and I couldn't just switch back to his FWB when his mood is back. Lastly I wrote I felt upset when he talked to me as a platonic friend and asked for my advice about his ex. So maybe it was time to write these, and maybe we should figure things out and see if we are really ok to keep on being FWB.
There was no reply until now - it's been 4 whole days.
I think I've put a full stop to the whole relationship with this text.
I knew I could write a better text but I wrote this while I was kind of drunk (we grabbed some drinks and chatted that night, like PLATONIC FRIENDS)
I knew it was just the worst text ever and I ended things lol
ME:Your actions are confusing. Do you want to stop seeing me?
HIM:Yeah I think am going to because my actions and me not making enough time for you it's a problem for you so I think the answer to your question would be yes and whenever I get settled if you're still around and available and if you would like then we can sit and have a conversation that may lead to something
For the past month he just suddenly stop calling and texting. So I asked him this question
Your actions are confusing. Do you want to stop seeing me?
Yeah I think am going to because my actions and me not making enough time for you it's a problem for you so I think the answer to your question would be yes and whenever I get settled if you're still around and available and if you would like then we can sit and have a conversation that may lead to something
He said he's been busy... He stop initiating calls and text. So I asked him this
So me and this guy I haven't seen in forever started talking like a week ago and have been planning to meet up soon. He's been so sweet and is wanting to take me out but I've been busy but I told him this Thursday I want to. Well he last texted me on Monday and haven't heard back from him. It is now Wednesday and I have made it very clear in my texts I'm interested. What's going on?? He's the yellow I'm the blue.
Do you think he's still interested in me if I have t heard fro. Him in 2 days?
My boyfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up. We are college seniors getting ready to graduate. I'm a nursing student and he's a history major. 2 weeks before the breakup, he told me that he was a little unsure about how he felt about our relationship. He has never been in a relationship longer than 6 months, and according to his high school friends, they ultimately ended because he wasn't getting his way. They were surprised him and I lasted as long as we did. Anyways, 2 weeks goes by and he holds me really tight before we go to bed. I ask "do you think things have been getting better?" And he says "no". Long story short, I ended the relationship because his answer to everything was I don't know. I couldn't deal with that sort of ambiguity, especially when the uncertainty of the situation was making him incredibly distraught. He tried to hold into me but I made him let go and I said "I'm sorry, but I'm done. Call me of you want this relationship to work out (work things out) until then, goodbye". I wasn't ready to let go, I still love him. 2 weeks prior I told him to please try and open up to me the best he could. Most people I've talked to think he is experiencing a "quarter-life crisis". Especially since he is his brother’s best man for his brother’s wedding in July. His brother is two years older. I'm giving him all the time and space he needs. But there are certain things I am beginning to question related to his attitudes and behaviors. I have also heard form one of his teammates that no one really seems to know about the breakup, but he’s been extremely quiet and withdrawn from everyone around him. And when people ask him about things, he says he doesn’t want to talk about it and that he’s fine.
Is this relationship completely over or do you think it's temporary? Do you think a compromise is necessary if things were to work out in the future?
There is a very sweet guy we text regularly and he sends the sweetest texts with kisses, roses etc and we flirt a bit. He has asked me out twice. Today out of the blue, he sent me a text saying that I mean a lot to him and enjoys our conversations and having me as his friend and in his life is very important to him, called me his beautiful lady and thanked me for not deleting him and ended text with a rose. So am just wondering what this all means?
Well, I became friends with this guy who felt sorry for me at one point for being rather an anti-social person and having no-one to sit with in our classes together. Once we were buddies, I would always find him staring at me and wanting to talk to me, bringing up things he asked from the other day. But I didn't have a thing for him until later when the school year ended, when we interacted over skype. When I started School again and he didn't stare at me anymore or at least I didn't notice. His friends joked about him liking me saying "He likes her, but he won't admit it." This was my fuel to actually confront him. After a few months I asked my guy of interest if he liked anyone he said no, he didn't. I told him I liked him and he felt sorry that he didn't feel the same way. In my false hopeish way I just figured he was into video games and not in the phase of interest in girls yet. We're still friends and stuff, he's still nice to me and all, it didn't seem to put him off in any way. We've gotten closer despite the confession, we're very playful in our classes together. He doesn't talk to any other girl 'cause he's tells me they're "Sluts" or just annoying. His mates still joke around about him liking me, and he gets quite defensive or just ignores it often saying they're crazy or "bullies". Now I'm just rather... I guess confused on his behavior.
The question is have I been friendzoned? I think I have been, but like I said, I kind of hope he's just not in the phase where he's interested in relationships yet. Maybe I'm just generating false hope for myself. Opinions would be fabulous :)
We have been sending each other messages on whatsapp for a few weeks and we had a date last week. Afterwards I sent him a message that I had fun and he responded that he was sorry he did not send me a message first, and said he had fun as well. Last week we continued to send each other whatsapp messages and he also asked me all kinds of questions and told me what he was doing (without me asking it).
But then after he asked me a question that I answered, he did not message me for four days. I eventually sent him a message about something he had said earlier. He then immediately responded again..
So my question is, does it seem he is losing interest, since he is texting me less than before? I do not want to come across as desperate and make things worse..
So this guy and I met in a bar recently and we chatted for a few days before he asked me out on a date. I said yes and we met the other week for drinks. The date was really amazing and he was talking about seeing me again during the date. I was really attracted to him and he kissed me at the end of it so I'm thinking he felt the same.
I left it four days without hearing from him after our date then I sent him a funny text. He answered me a couple of hours later asking me questions about my weekend, what I'd been up to, if I was working the next day etc.. We chatted back and forth then I asked him a question a couple of days ago and suddenly he's stopped texting and I haven't heard from him since. Basically I'm just wondering if he wants to see me again or if he's just not that bothered? Is it worth holding out for an answer or do you think that's the last I'll hear from him?
So I really like this guy, and well we've become close the last monthish or less I want to make our relationship into more of a close friends but know eachother like eachother bassically have a 'thing' with him
How do I subtly tell him I like him but well still so he gets the point I like him? And what are some positive signs that he's into me??