pinlyn___

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Been dating this guy for 3 months. He's super negative & treats me like I'm a big whatever sometimes. BUT he wants to make me his girlfriend & already introduced me to his family.

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

I'm utterly confused because sometimes he's very caring and attentive to me. I liked him a lot at first, but idk if he's too whatever with me or if I'm just being too sensitive?..

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guysarecomplicated

in the same position. try ignoring him - it works like magic

chuggygirl

3 months is long enough that you can see how a relationship is developing and unfortunately because it is still fresh in the newlywed stage sometimes we choose to ignore obvious signs. You stated he is super negative and treats you like whatever but because he wants to make you his girlfriend you will choose to ignore his negatives? I think you really need to take a step back and say to yourself is he worth it and do u want to continue feeling less than appreciated from him just to have "girlfriend status".

pinlyn___

:,( I actually don't wanna be his girlfriend anymore. I think it's all fun and games until it got serious like that, & I realized he kinda sucked. Now I'm just weirdly attached:/

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Drop him! He'll only shape up long enuf to keep u interested and then retreat to his pathetic ways. Negativity destroys...cut him off like the cancer he is. Be treated how ur worth constantly, not wen someone feels like it.

honeypiesugar TOP COMMENTER

He's giving just the amount of attention to keep you hanging ("sometimes he's caring and attentive"), and as long as you're hanging he'll treat you in a way he shouldn't, and the moment you react to his I-don't-care-attitude, he'll shower you with attention till you keep on hanging, and BAM you'll see yourself in a circle.

honeypiesugar TOP COMMENTER

*he'll give you just

southernflower_2

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hi - I met a guy towards the end of March, we clicked right away, had a few intense dates and he was very keen with the texts. His life is chaotic, 2 children by 2 different women in 2 different parts of the country, a manic job that he travels the length and breadth of the country with. I saw him about 2 weeks later and then the texts have gradually slowed down. A friend of mine said I needed to not give too much away in texts and I need to keep it short and sweet which I think translated into me being rude. I therefore text the following as I was confused as to what was happening:

Hi there, sorry if my text appeared abrupt yesterday, I was dashing from the gym when I sent it and I was doing stuff with my son. Hope you OK. Do you fancy meeting up again or would you like to be texting buddies? Feeling a bit confused

His reply to me:

Morning Mel, always nice to hear from you from you (inserted a smiley face). Im up in Newcastle this weekend (about 4 hours from me) as I am seeing my son and as always I have been running around like a nutter the rest of the time (inserted 3 faces with gritted teeth) Hope you're ok? I'm not around much at the moment, so cant plan much. I will keep in touch and hopefully we can plan something soon. Enjoy the rest of your weekend x
I did hear from him yesterday and he asked if I was free, I already had plans, so declined his offer! I am feeling quite proud that I didn't just drop everything to go and see him.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

We have been texting a bit today, but would like to know peoples views please. Do you think another date will be in the pipeline? thank you

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chuggygirl

Thats great that u didn't drop your plans for him.....you should have suggested another day "sorry can't make it tonight how about tomorrow?"....this way the date is already planned and your not left wondering when he is going to ask again. Suggesting another day will let you know from his response if he is anxious to see you! I understand people are busy but if you really want to see someone you confirm it in your calendar rather than saying OK we'll see!

southernflower_2

Thanks for the info chuggygirl, I did say maybe next week,but his job does permit him to make commitments at the drop of a hat, he travels the length and breadth of the country trying to sell computer systems to companies ! He didn't say we'll see, he wished me a lovely time and we'd see eachother soon

chuggygirl

It seems like you really like this guy yet from your post he is extremely busy...do you want this type of relationship? I don't know your situation but don't settle for someone else's chaotic life if it makes things harder for you...go for what u really want if its a steady relationship then look for someone more available.

southernflower_2

Yeah I do like him but I am a single parent & only have 2 nights to myself a week, a busy job & a really good social life that I'm not going to give up either. I cant give 100% myself either, my son comes first. Its about balance for me!

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

If hes interested seems like there would be, and from ur comments on ur previous post regarding this situation I would think so. A man leaves a client with million dollar deal at stake to go out on a date with u? That should tell u something...

emily416

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Met a guy (with a few common friends) about 4 months ago, we were both single, things went too fast and too far, it quickly became a fds with benefits kind of thing without any foundation. We both were probably not too sure about where we stand after all these, so we just kept it going and avoided to have 'the talk'. It didn't get better or worse after 4 months, we hanged out 1-2 times a week just like how we used to be, it just didn't go anywhere but we didn't want it to die out.

So something happened last week:
He suddenly texted me that he was not in the mood to be intimate with me, and asked if I could just hang out as a platonic friend when we meet on the next day. I agreed and hanged out to see what's happening. He said he has to be honest with me. We never talked about our past relationships in details as we were just FWB anyway. Just realized he got out of a 3.5 years relationship half a year ago, it was a domestic relationship, his ex was 7 years older than him (he's 29, I'm 27) and she has a 13 years old kid with her ex-husband. "My guy's" family was totally against his ex since she was older, divorced and has a kid so he said they def wouldn't have a chance to go any further. His ex betrayed him and went for an older man and broke up with him since she was looking for someone to get married and looking for someone mature. She's recently broken up with the older man and got back in touch with "my guy", begging him to get back into a relationship with her and said things like she was regretful and stuffs - That was what he told me.

He said he was 100% sure that he's not gonna be with her again, but he just felt bad when his ex was consistantly cried and begged him every one or two days. He looked quite depressed, and I felt like I had to leave him alone and let him be on his own for some time after this meeting. He said sorry to me about not being able to treat me as a date (more than friends) when we met as "he was not in the mood" and hope he could get back into good mood and date me like how we used to be soon. I asked him to take his time and figure things out. (Deep inside, I felt very upset and tried to act nice and caring)

NOW I'M WONDERING...

So I texted him after the meeting (like 4am), telling him I got home, and also how I thought about our "relationship". I told him that I actually liked him a lot, but things started off awkwardlly as a friends with benefits, I didn't want to ruin things or give up the chances to keep seeing him, so I avoided to have "the talk" with him to clarify where we stand. I also wrote him that I couldn't just be a plantonic friend when he wasn't in the mood to hold my hands or make out, and I couldn't just switch back to his FWB when his mood is back. Lastly I wrote I felt upset when he talked to me as a platonic friend and asked for my advice about his ex. So maybe it was time to write these, and maybe we should figure things out and see if we are really ok to keep on being FWB.

There was no reply until now - it's been 4 whole days.
I think I've put a full stop to the whole relationship with this text.

I knew I could write a better text but I wrote this while I was kind of drunk (we grabbed some drinks and chatted that night, like PLATONIC FRIENDS)
I knew it was just the worst text ever and I ended things lol

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angelinaw

Sorry this happened to you. Sounds like it is best to move on. Be platonic only if possible but other than that I wouldn't go back to him and be physical as it sounds like it will shred your self esteem.

chuggygirl

So did he respond to your text? You said there was no reply until now? What was his response? In my opinion from the info you provided he is not interested in a relationship with you and I would steer clear of the FWB with him ... sounds like he is not over his previous relationship. Now he could just be using that as an excuse who knows...however you don't need this type of aggravation in your life "your young" find someone without so much drama and instability!

emily416

Thanks for the advice! No he didn't reply and I bet he won't. I totally lost interest to continue with the FWB thing since he was emotionally attached to his ex. Guess I should just forget about hin ....

preferphonecalls

Yes Emily, good idea. Jut let it go. It's for the best. You really don't need all the drama.

jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

What does he mean something "simple"?

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

DoE's it seem like he's trying to get laid or what? I'm just so used to guys being that way it's sad :( I'm so tired of being used. Maybe I just should not go with him.

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nessabessa34

I'm pretty sure he just means he's tired. but he still wants to hang out with you. Cut him some slack, he's working hard!

nessabessa34

I'm pretty sure he just means he's tired. but he still wants to hang out with you. Cut him some slack, he's working hard!

foreveralone_jk

He seems pretty booked with all the things he's doing. Maybe he doesn't want to go elaborate because he'll be tired and won't be fully engaged in the activity,because it wouldn't be fair to you. But go out with him.! Sounds like he just wants to watch a film with ya (:

anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

Ehh idk this guy isn't putting a lot of effort into a "date". He sounds lazy to me. If I like a guy I would want to spend more than being silent for 2 hrs. But hey, that's just me. Move onto someone else, he's too busy anyways

jessicaparks14

Anniebanks75 no offense but don't commet on my posts. You just seem like a Debbie downer.

jessicaparks14

And I'm going to do the exact opposite.of everything you say :)

anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

Ok see where it goes

marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

I think "simple" means casual/laid back since he's going to be doing so much physical work all weekend and will be tired. There are lots of guys that are just out for one thing, but many are not. Unfortunately a lot of us end up having to weed through a lot of bad guys to find the good ones. I'd give this guy the benefit of the doubt and see how the dates goes.

jessicaparks14

Anniebanks75 I sure will ;)

jessicaparks14

You say he's lazy and then you say he's too busy. Anniebanks75 get out of here. Bye felicia :)

chuggygirl

His long explanation appears sincere he is being honest that he will be busy and most likely tired "but" still wants to meet up (thats a +) and a movie is great u sit and relax. Does not sound like a booty call....at all!

preferphonecalls

jessicaparks14. You posted on this forum, so people give you some advice. You just posted you are tired of being used. Anniebanks75 was just trying to give you some useful advice. To protect yourself from being used, I suggest you turn down this invite, nicely and tell him you'll see him when he's a little less busy. If he really likes you, he'll make time for you and take you out on an actual date and not just "hang out". If he's not that into you, he won't do this. Actions speak louder than words with guys. See what he does, not what he says. I think he's interested in you, but if you think beign at his place watching a movie would lead to something else, just postpone the date.

southernflower_2

Good for you Jessica!

clairebear84

I agree with preferphonecalls just because you had feedback you didn't like the sound of you were actually quite mean.Everyone has a tight to express a view it's up to you ultimately what you do

jessicaparks14

Southernflower_2

jessicaparks14

Thank you!

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

I love love love when preferphonecalls post. Its always so professional, polite, and profound!!!

jessicaparks14

Isn't being asked out to the movies a date? Idk

mzcurious

HERE'S THE DEAL...

ME:Your actions are confusing. Do you want to stop seeing me?

HIM:Yeah I think am going to because my actions and me not making enough time for you it's a problem for you so I think the answer to your question would be yes and whenever I get settled if you're still around and available and if you would like then we can sit and have a conversation that may lead to something

NOW I'M WONDERING...

For the past month he just suddenly stop calling and texting. So I asked him this question

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anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

What? How strange, he didn't even explain. Girl, drop him like it's hot. Don't waste time on someone who can't even tell you why. BS!

mzcurious

Well he got this new building contract and says he was getting off too late (hmm) yea right only takes a second. I truly believe he was blowing me off in a nice way. But all he had to say was yes I think we should stop seeing each other to avoid conflict . Why add all that of you are available we could see where it goes after

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Well after a month of not hearing from himwat did u expect? Its lame how he tacks on the bit about if ur around wen I get settled...sooo wimpy...

mzcurious

Lol.. I laughed at that. It's like he's out there doing what with who and trying to hold onto me until he's ready to settle down. I was very emotional that night. I regret saying I will wait.

anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

Yeah the whole thing sounds weak to me. You're brave, this situation happened to me also. To a tee exactly. I never asked and I'm still kicking myself bc I never asked and he never told me. No time? Yeah right.

mzcurious

You being busy with work is not a problem for me. I understand. It's the thought of loosing you what makes me uneasy. I was wrong to come to the conclusion you was dating because you didn't call. I don't want to be with anyone else. So I will be right here waiting for you. **After he sent that text I sent that and he never responded **

anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

When I read what you just posted I said outloud: no no no! That was the wrong thing to say to him. Sure it was very sweet and I would love to hear that from someone but he's not even communicating with you right now so that was alittle too deep. Don't be so easy to "fall" for a guy.. even if you really like him. Don't be so "at his disposal" at every "beckon call"... make him wait. Make him wonder what you are doing this weekend without him. make him wonder why you didn't want to run over to his house every single time he asked you to. Don't answer the phone all the time. Don't be home all the time he expects you to be home. Stop being so PREDICTABLE. make his head spin a while.. and he won't want to walk away. He'll want more of you. don't communicate anymore with him. Let him chase you.

marionemelia TOP COMMENTER

Well, you can't take back that last text... but it doesn't matter too much because honestly it doesn't sound like he's going to come around whether or not you said you'd wait. Like others have said, it was a really wimpy way to end things with you, and now he will now just disappear. Move on - you are too good to just sit around waiting for some guy who doesn't know if he has time for you.

angelinaw

Glad you called him out on what was going on instead of it dragging on and you kept wondering. I think this one is over for good. Maybe friends zone it if he is good company? The more I read here I think guys have this chase, be excited, then move on thing unless they want a long-term relationship and set that as a goal.

chuggygirl

One thing I have realized is if your "dating" someone and they become distant the best thing is to leave them alone & give space don't question it. There are obvious signs and at that point if your trying to get an honest response from them its probably not what u want to hear. Now that is in a dating situation where your not exclusive and haven't known each other that long! If you have been committed long term relat. then that is different you deserve a response....but if it's not what you want to hear don't keep questioning it ...move on!

preferphonecalls

He's putting you on a shelf while he is having his fun and then maybe, IF he feels like it, he'll see you again. Don't be the back up girl. Let him go, date other people. Go to parties, get dressed up and go out and meet other guys.

mzcurious

Hi all!!! I read all the comments. Thanks everyone I will take all actions into consideration. I feel the same way with the "putting me on a shelf" I won't bother to call or text him anymore. If he does I will respond but won't be available to see him anytime soon. For him to get my full attention again it's going to take a whole lot of work.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

And mzcurious, dont worry about telling him ull wait. Jus cuz u sed that doesnt mean u have to keep ur word, or even explain anything to him. These r jus life lessons...at least uve grown from this situation!! :)

mzcurious

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Your actions are confusing. Do you want to stop seeing me?

Yeah I think am going to because my actions and me not making enough time for you it's a problem for you so I think the answer to your question would be yes and whenever I get settled if you're still around and available and if you would like then we can sit and have a conversation that may lead to something

NOW I'M WONDERING...

He said he's been busy... He stop initiating calls and text. So I asked him this

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kjaybryant

NOW I'M WONDERING...

How to get someone with trust issues to trust you again?

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versace5

Just be honest with them. It may take a while and they may never trust you fully again but you never know. Be positive!

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

They have to allow u to earn ur their trust again...it takes time of being honest and forthright and a person of integ

chuggygirl

U say trust u again....did you do something to make them lose trust? If it is from his/her past relationships there may not be much you can do.

southernflower_2

He has to learn to trust you, there is nothing that you can do to "make" him trust you, this is something he has to deal with in his own way and time.

jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So me and this guy I haven't seen in forever started talking like a week ago and have been planning to meet up soon. He's been so sweet and is wanting to take me out but I've been busy but I told him this Thursday I want to. Well he last texted me on Monday and haven't heard back from him. It is now Wednesday and I have made it very clear in my texts I'm interested. What's going on?? He's the yellow I'm the blue.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Do you think he's still interested in me if I have t heard fro. Him in 2 days?

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anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

He sounds like he knows how to play the game. That sucks bc he's not interested bc if he was he would want to talk to everyday. Sorry!

versace5

Try texting him. He might be waiting for you

lalalani

I agree with versace5, try texting him first. He may just want to see if you initiate conversation. If he doesn't reply or your the one who always has to start the convo, then he's probably not that interested.

chuggygirl

Anniebanks 75 Do u really think if a guy is interested he will text everyday that seems a bit extreme especially in the beginning stages. I would think maybe a day in between but no longer than 2 days until u really get use to each other. This texting thing really should be 2 way !

anniebanks75 TOP COMMENTER

Chuggygirl: yes I had a guy text me and call me everyday from day one and it's still going strong. Guys who are interested will text. Yes, it's a two way street.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

If he asked u out for thursday and u made def plans wait to c if u hear from him. Ur in a perfect place to c if hes really interested....

jessicaparks14

Anniebanks75 you sound very ignorant.

jessicaparks14

Chuggygirl you're totally right. It's only the beginning stage. If we've been dating for awhile and he goes a day or two without texting me then I should worry. But it's just the beginning. Thank you for your advice.

preferphonecalls

No, stop texting him so much. Let him make a move and actually ask you out. Don't use text messaging like conversations. These are convos you should be having on a face to face date. If you stop responding to all these text messages and stop texting him, he may actually realize he should call you and ask you out to actually get to know you. Try it. It works. If he doesn't ask you out, he wasn't really that interested.

southernflower_2

Everybody is different and in the early stages, guys are different and will do different things. Just because a bloke doesn't text every single day, does not mean that he is not into you, every guy is different and what works for one doesn't for another and don't be put off by people saying if he likes you he will text everyday, everyones story is different

ase123

HERE'S THE DEAL...

My boyfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up. We are college seniors getting ready to graduate. I'm a nursing student and he's a history major. 2 weeks before the breakup, he told me that he was a little unsure about how he felt about our relationship. He has never been in a relationship longer than 6 months, and according to his high school friends, they ultimately ended because he wasn't getting his way. They were surprised him and I lasted as long as we did. Anyways, 2 weeks goes by and he holds me really tight before we go to bed. I ask "do you think things have been getting better?" And he says "no". Long story short, I ended the relationship because his answer to everything was I don't know. I couldn't deal with that sort of ambiguity, especially when the uncertainty of the situation was making him incredibly distraught. He tried to hold into me but I made him let go and I said "I'm sorry, but I'm done. Call me of you want this relationship to work out (work things out) until then, goodbye". I wasn't ready to let go, I still love him. 2 weeks prior I told him to please try and open up to me the best he could. Most people I've talked to think he is experiencing a "quarter-life crisis". Especially since he is his brother’s best man for his brother’s wedding in July. His brother is two years older. I'm giving him all the time and space he needs. But there are certain things I am beginning to question related to his attitudes and behaviors. I have also heard form one of his teammates that no one really seems to know about the breakup, but he’s been extremely quiet and withdrawn from everyone around him. And when people ask him about things, he says he doesn’t want to talk about it and that he’s fine.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is this relationship completely over or do you think it's temporary? Do you think a compromise is necessary if things were to work out in the future?

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guysside TOP COMMENTER

It's really hard to say, but you deserve someone who's 100% invested in the relationship, not constantly unsure. And what kind of compromise are you thinking about here? There are certain things everyone has to compromise on when it comes to successful relationships but being interested in the person shouldn't be one of them

amandashollenberger

Compromise may not be the best word. I would like if he was more willing to be open to communicating with me when he is upset/mad/etc.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Its over. Besides, u cant stand his ambiguity.

courty

All that I can say is that graduating from college can be a very tricky time for relationships. The stress and uncertainty can make any pre-existing problem areas in a relationship seem 10x worse than they really are. I've experienced this first-hand and can tell you that in the same situation my boyfriend(of 3+ years) and I very nearly didn't make it through the transition. I don't know the details of your relationship but I would advise waiting maybe 2 months and then re-evaluating whether you both are still invested in making the relationship work.

preferphonecalls

Agree with Courty. It's probably a combination of making the transition out of college to the real world + old relationship problems. Take some time for yourself and give yourself some space from him. You did tell him is over. So keep it that way and focus on you. Go out with girlfriends and maybe even go out on a few dates. If you pull back he might realize what he will be missing or he might let you go. Either way, if you pull back you'll get your answer.

jasmine_3

NOW I'M WONDERING...

There is a very sweet guy we text regularly and he sends the sweetest texts with kisses, roses etc and we flirt a bit. He has asked me out twice. Today out of the blue, he sent me a text saying that I mean a lot to him and enjoys our conversations and having me as his friend and in his life is very important to him, called me his beautiful lady and thanked me for not deleting him and ended text with a rose. So am just wondering what this all means?

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guysside TOP COMMENTER

He's really into you and you should tell him how you feel (either you like him or you don't, but he deserves a yes or no for those times he asked you out)

versace5

Hmm it sounds like he likes you. But why would you delete him? Is there a background story??

jasmine_3

Quite funny actually, we have been texting for 6 months now, I usually send him texts (maybe twice a week) in which he sends back very sweet replies, he texts out of his own every three weeks, so I think thats where that comment is coming from.

angelinaw

From what you say it sounds like he likes you and wants to date you and see where it goes or maybe even be your boyfriend. He has asked you on a date twice. Do you like him? Are you going to go out with him on a date?

preferphonecalls

If he asked you out, he likes you. Is there a reason you haven't accepted any of his invitations?

livelaughlove333

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I want to do something Radom for my boyfriend that's super sweet and just spontaneous:) he is always up for anything but I'm thinking more of like a cute little fir for something:) any suggestions?

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guysside TOP COMMENTER

What about cooking him his favorite dinner? Or something like that, that's still personal but shows you care about him

versace5

Yeah cooking is good. Or take him to a cool vacation for a day.

questionsquestions

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Well, I became friends with this guy who felt sorry for me at one point for being rather an anti-social person and having no-one to sit with in our classes together. Once we were buddies, I would always find him staring at me and wanting to talk to me, bringing up things he asked from the other day. But I didn't have a thing for him until later when the school year ended, when we interacted over skype. When I started School again and he didn't stare at me anymore or at least I didn't notice. His friends joked about him liking me saying "He likes her, but he won't admit it." This was my fuel to actually confront him. After a few months I asked my guy of interest if he liked anyone he said no, he didn't. I told him I liked him and he felt sorry that he didn't feel the same way. In my false hopeish way I just figured he was into video games and not in the phase of interest in girls yet. We're still friends and stuff, he's still nice to me and all, it didn't seem to put him off in any way. We've gotten closer despite the confession, we're very playful in our classes together. He doesn't talk to any other girl 'cause he's tells me they're "Sluts" or just annoying. His mates still joke around about him liking me, and he gets quite defensive or just ignores it often saying they're crazy or "bullies". Now I'm just rather... I guess confused on his behavior.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

The question is have I been friendzoned? I think I have been, but like I said, I kind of hope he's just not in the phase where he's interested in relationships yet. Maybe I'm just generating false hope for myself. Opinions would be fabulous :)

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lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

You're friendzoned. Enjoy your friend.

guysside TOP COMMENTER

If he says he's not interested, unfortunately he's not interested right now. It's good that the two of you are staying friends and get along so well. Maybe eventually it could grow into something, but I don't think you should waste anymore energy in liking him as anything more than a friend

versace5

He didn't say he liked you so unfortunately you're friendzoned.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

The 4th vote for frinedzoned...

honeypiesugar TOP COMMENTER

"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them" - Maya Angelou.

followtherules

Yes you've been friendzoned--if a guy likes you, he'll tell you--and be weary of men who refer to women as "sluts".

girlinneedofadvice

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We have been sending each other messages on whatsapp for a few weeks and we had a date last week. Afterwards I sent him a message that I had fun and he responded that he was sorry he did not send me a message first, and said he had fun as well. Last week we continued to send each other whatsapp messages and he also asked me all kinds of questions and told me what he was doing (without me asking it).
But then after he asked me a question that I answered, he did not message me for four days. I eventually sent him a message about something he had said earlier. He then immediately responded again..

NOW I'M WONDERING...

So my question is, does it seem he is losing interest, since he is texting me less than before? I do not want to come across as desperate and make things worse..

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guysside TOP COMMENTER

If it happened once I don't think you should read too much into it, but if he avoids making plans again with you then he might be losing interest

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He may be losing interest. See how it goes. Watch what he does, and don't overanalyze.

versace5

Sounds like he's losing interst. Why don't you ask him out. The worse thing that can happen is that you'll find out he's not interested. If that's the case, at least you dont have to worry anymore.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Agree with guysside...

preferphonecalls

Stop texting and contacting him so much, that's part of the reason guys lose interest so quickly now adays. He has no time to even miss you or think about you. Pull back on the whatsapp messaging and see what happens. I think he likes you, but the messaging is killing the romance. Be busy, go out, focus on you life and not so much on him and let him make the next move.

meg90

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So this guy and I met in a bar recently and we chatted for a few days before he asked me out on a date. I said yes and we met the other week for drinks. The date was really amazing and he was talking about seeing me again during the date. I was really attracted to him and he kissed me at the end of it so I'm thinking he felt the same.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I left it four days without hearing from him after our date then I sent him a funny text. He answered me a couple of hours later asking me questions about my weekend, what I'd been up to, if I was working the next day etc.. We chatted back and forth then I asked him a question a couple of days ago and suddenly he's stopped texting and I haven't heard from him since. Basically I'm just wondering if he wants to see me again or if he's just not that bothered? Is it worth holding out for an answer or do you think that's the last I'll hear from him?

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chuggygirl

I think you should just wait and see if he reaches out..you have already initiated contact with him several times don't do it anymore. Basically he is pulling back to see if he really wants to continue anything with you...he may feel something but is not rushing it. He may contact you or he may not its a hit a miss when your dating. That is what the first few dates are all about to see if there is a connection unfortunately someone always feels more for one than the other! I believe it happens to men as well!

angelinaw

Chuggy has good advice... if he isn't in comms after a week and he isn't hinting about plans... then it sounds like he had fun but doesn't want to take things further.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He's fading. Let him fade.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Agree with lilliekins...let him go, hes not interested like u should want him to b.

rahni_lee

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I really like this guy, and well we've become close the last monthish or less I want to make our relationship into more of a close friends but know eachother like eachother bassically have a 'thing' with him

NOW I'M WONDERING...

How do I subtly tell him I like him but well still so he gets the point I like him? And what are some positive signs that he's into me??

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angelinaw

Just be direct or you won't get to the point. Say something like, look, I like you. Do you want to go out and do something (like dinner, a movie, coffee, museum, walk in the park, etc) and see how it goes? I did this with a guy "friend" once and it worked out. He said, fantastic, I like you too. We went out as girlfriend and boyfriend for four months. Our personalities were too different in the long run but it was pleasant and we are still friends.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

What angelinlaw said. No need to be subtle. Guys don't do subtle well.

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