So my fwb has been a little distant the past week. We normally talk all the time because we have a close friendship even though we are fwb's. We communicate through snap chat most of the time. This week he hasn't been really responsive to me. He looks at the picture message and either doesn't respond or he sends a chat message, normally with just a few words.
Should I ask him about it?
I posted a few weeks ago about this guy I liked. 2 weeks ago we started dating on a Wednesday, (he said he liked me too an said we'd date sooner or later) so we dated for a week and during that whole week we didn't talk. I thought he was mad at me so I asked him after a week if he wanted to break up. He replied. I really liked/like him. I miss talking to him and wish we where still friends
He just texted/kiked me after school and said 'hey' I replied with 'hey'. He looked at it but didn't reply. On Fridays I know he's busy with soccer so I'm not expecting anything back. I doubt he even wanted to talk to me but what's this mean?
I have this guy friend who I met in 1st year of college. He was in a relationship at that time, and he is a good looking guy. I started liking him since day 1, and I became really good friends with him. I usually did things for him, and he often took me for granted but at the end of the day he was a very good guy, he was there when I needed something, mostly, at least. His girlfriend, I got acquainted with her, and we became friends too and I usually had 1-2 occasions of being the third wheel, which I made clear to him I did not want to be, and he respected my judgments. We became closer as we did college events together, and he made it a point to delve into my talents and appreciate, compliment them and encourage me. We made a common friend and and we are called the 'trio' in our college for our friendship. In between, he stopped talking to me ( or for that matter, anyone) in college because his girlfriend wanted more time of his, which he tried giving. Then the second semester of college started and his visits to his girlfriend lessened. We had our usual friendship going on. In between I told him I liked him, but he told me that he has a girlfriend already. I told him I do not want a relationship or something, I was just letting him know, and he appreciated it and took it in the positive stride. It made it easy for me that he was okay with it. Meanwhile, I used to flirt with guys and he used to make fun of me with their names. His making fun was often mocking at me, and it was weird, because others teased me but when he teased, it felt weird. As if he were saying I know you like ME so why put the garb of liking someone else? But this might be me just overthinking.
Anyways, so our friendship grew deeper and I took a trip to his hometown, and we had long walks and long chats together. Before going to his hometown, he had broken up with his girlfriend. More like, she had broken up with him, because he was not giving her time, plus they had come to a decision that they wanted different things in their lives. Their relationship had been physical, and it was a long time one, 4 years strong.
I told him how beautiful my friendship was for him and he also reciprocated the same. We held hands and walked together.
During the trip I got a message from his ex saying I should not come in between them and destroy what they have for each other. Here is where he acted very weird. When I told him this, he told me to ignore her. While on the same day, he went and dropped her off to some station as she was leaving somewhere. He easily managed to keep both the parties happy. Pretty clever of him, is not it? I was pretty angry, that he did not take my side, did not advocate for me, because she was being pretty rude.
Then she said Sorry, and I acquiesced.
Coming back to college, everything was normal and he and one more friend of mine got close to my mum too. My mum has a habit of being friends with my friends, and she is not one of those nagging mothers, but she is often the cooler of the lot. She is actually a 18 year old at heart. So one day when my mum came to college, he and the other friend of mine welcomed her with really beautiful surprises. It was really sweet of both of them. This intensified my feelings for the guy.
Both of my friends decided to come to my house . Which they did.
Here is where a weird thing happened- This guy became very close to me. In college even hugging was problematic to him ( plus I myself am not a person who hugs easily). I had a habit of pulling his cheeks which he detests, and often scolded me for it. But at home, he became really free and different. He touched me by my waist, held me in his arms, once I sat on the bed and pulled me towards him.
He became emotional while seeing my childhood photos, so much so that he clicked photos of my childhood photos for keeping with him.
And, the clincher of all- one fine day at my home when my parents were sleeping, my friend, he and I were watching a movie. Both of us were in a separate sheet, and my friend was in the other. This guy hugged me, put his legs on mine, clenched me, and dug his face on my neck.
Then he felt me up. All over. ALL OVER. And I did not stop him, because well I was emotionally inclined towards him and I felt that he has feelings too.
But coming back to college, he became normal, again. Very stand-offish. When I confronted him, ( via text), he told me that he did it without analysing or weighing, something he wanted to do once. I told him I did it because I had feelings, he said regardless of feelings one could have stopped, and if I had stopped he would have stopped. And he told me not to think of him as desperate. And also, he told me to get over him. He said it is high time to get over him, to do good to both him and I.
Then, he has lessened conversations with me. He is in his formal best, as if he and I dont know each other. he does not give me good vibes at all.
WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH THIS GUY? And what am I supposed to feel and do?
im a Filipina and had a relationship with a guy online He is American from Kentucky we have been friends since 2012 tru some online dating site. last March 2014 we started to get serious telling each other how we feel we skype and chat we did have plans already that he would come visit me and the we get marry..but then lately he just unfriend me on facebook and never replied to any of my messages already without any idea what i did wrong. its been difficult because after all the i love you and plans it seems to boil down that it was only superficial..my heart is broken i don't know if i am doing this right telling the whole world my heartaches online and i don't know some of you can relate to this. but i need advice badly :(
I posted yesterday about my boss being flirtatious with me.
Today, some of the other girls and I were talking about cuddling our boyfriends and he came over and said, "I'm good at cuddling, I'm very cuddly and will be very touchy feely at the Christmas party" - which is next month. I said to him, "that is harassment" and all he did was laugh and walk away. Later in the day, he asked where it was and I said that its about 5 minutes from where I live, and he said "I know where I'm staying!" I told him no, obviously.
It's making me feel as though he is going to try and get close to me at the party, which would make me feel incredibly uncomfortable.
Am I reading this wrong and he is just joking, or is he implying that he wants to get closer to me?
Is he trying to make a move on me?
i met one guy im my school and then he added me to facebook and we started to talk also on whatsapp. we talked for one week only and the first day we started talking he asked me if im single and if i want a boyfried. after a week that he told me he like me very much he suddently wrote me that he dont want to be in a seriuse relationship and we stopped talking. after one week he wrote me that he got in to something that we talked about then and we talked a little. now at school he always says hi to me and smile and once i talked to a teacher and he passed there so he touched me arm and smiled to me so i will noticed him.
i dont know what to do because he told me he is not intrested and now he act like he wanna talk to me. i dont want him to think that if i talk to him so it means that i still want something seriuse from him. should i text him something? i dont know if to write him something or what to write
A month ago I hooked up with this guy I've known since march at a club. About a week ago I told him to keep friday free (wanted to invite him clubbing). But I found out I had to go to a wedding instead:
him: perfect i got nothin on tell your mum you'll be bringing a friend
me: LOL a friend?
me: go on well what
him: you tell me
what am i to you?
me: i don't know
what about you?
him: hahaha lol
i think this is a conversation we should probably save for in person
me: haha yeah
but when will that happen
him: hahah when i'm free i guess
how's the wedding?
send me photos :)
I ignored him because I was upset/confused it sounded like he didn't want to have the conversation. then i wanted to ask him something so I texted him 2 days later. He never replied and it's been more than a week. Sometimes in the past he would stop replying till he bumps into me at uni.
Did he want to have the conversation or not? I'm really confused because he suggested it, then tried to avoid it.
I met this guy on tinder. He messaged me first and used a lot of exclamation points when he replied. He lives 30 miles away. He owns his own business too.He seemed interested. Asking me a lot of questions. He said we should grab coffee or go on a hike sometime which I thought nothing would happen because he lived so far away. About an hour drive. But I said we could go out to dinner and he agreed. We added each other on fb during the mean time. Anyway, the day before our date he messaged me in tinder saying that he was terrible at remembering dates and that he had to take his parents to the airport which would probably be about 2 hours from where he lives and he said he would see if he could make it back in time. I said it was okay we could reschedule. Well I waited that day and all of the next day and he never responded. He wasn't even showing active on tinder any so I decided to message him on fb and he says I'm so sorry! That he had a big order come up and the last 2 days have been terrible.blah blah. Well we talk like normal for the next few days and he doesn't try to reschedule so I finally just ask him and he said that it sounded great! We went hiking and out to eat and I felt like both of us had a good time. I got home and messaged him saying I had a great time. He messaged back that he did too and he had a lot of fun. I waited a couple of days and have messaged him again and he's been active on fb but hasn't opened my message. I think he's avoiding me all together.
What the crap happened? I don't know if he looked at my fb profile and was turned off by something or if he was turned off by online dating because he never did it before. We were both a lil awkward but that's natural. He was acting shady before so I have no idea what happened.
This guy and I had a class together this past spring semester. We got to know each other after the semester ended, and I had a pretty big crush on him. We hung out a few times, (smoked, drank, chilled out) and one day in July I decided to tell him how I felt...over text. It turned out that he said that it would be better if we stayed friends, so I agreed. Then when I asked the next morning to hang out he never replied. This was in July, and it's now October. Since then I've gotten back together with my boyfriend who I was with before I started hanging out with this guy. We've been happy, and now all of a sudden, at midnight he texts me asking to hang out and that he's pretty high right now. I said I have to work early in the morning which I do, and that's it for now. I want to know what that means...
This guy that basically rejected me in July, decides to text me now after no contact. He texts me asking to hang out and that he's pretty high right now. I said I have to work early in the morning which I do, and that's it for now. I want to know what that means...
I met a guy this past summer who lives in a different city. We liked each other and after parting ways he texted me all the time and we were in close contact for a while. Eventually, things became friendly, as we didn't know the next time we would see each other, but we still kept in close contact as friends. Then there was about a month where we didn't talk at all because some really difficult stuff was happening in his life and I wanted to be supportive but also give him space. Anyways, then out of the blue he says he's going to be in my city and asks me if I want to get a drink. We go out and have a great time and then he comes home with me and stays the night. Overall, it was a good time, although I did start to act slightly weird because I actually really like him and that surprised me and kind of freaked me out. He left town the next day but said that he'd be back in two weeks and would I be interested in going out then? I said yes. He then texted me a few funny things that day and I wrote back, but then I didn't hear from him all weekend. I wrote to him and asked if he had a good weekend and he responded sweetly but then the conversation kind of fizzled. It's been a few more days and he hasn't texted me and I don't want to pursue him so I'm not going to text him.
Do you think he's decided he's not into it anymore? It's just weird because after we hung out this summer, I heard from him all the time, but this time he's not initiating contacting me at all. I thought we had a great time, and since he said he wants to see me again, I figured it would be the same. Do you think that since he'll be back in town pretty soon, he just figures that there's no need to talk frequently. Or is my not hearing from him a definite signal that he's no longer really into me...? Thanks!
So there's this guy that used to come to my school but he's finished now. (I'm in my last year of school now) When he was in grade 9, he dated my bestfriend but this is long over. Anyway, we became really really close just as friends when he was in grade 11, but there was nothing between us because he had a girlfriend and I was seeing this other guy but we were always really, really flirty and got along really well!! Also, when I was seeing this other guy and things would go wrong, he would always be there for me telling me I don't deserve what's happening and that any guy would be lucky to have me and he's not the type of person to say this sort of stuff. Anyway, when he was close to finishing grade 12, he told me he used to have a crush on me earlier in the year and was confused about how he felt for me the year before but he never thought I'd feel the same so he never acted on it and I admitted that I felt the same. This never changed anything and we'd still talk a lot and every now and again, we'd speak about how we used to like each other. Last year, close to Christmas, we both went to the same party and we were getting along real well and having fun. We then went to our friend groups and sat and he texted me saying "Come outside to talk?" but I didn't feel comfortable to do so, considering my bestfriend was there - not that she cares because has a new boyfriend but it just didn't feel right. So I didn't. But he kept asking and hinting to go and talk and each time, I didn't even though I really wanted to. In time, I realised he was annoyed. That night, I called him after the party and we spoke and he said he wanted to tell me that he likes me, but was now too annoyed at the fact that I blew him off. Then things became really rough and I tried talking to him for a while but it didn't work like before. So I left it. We'd speak as friends, normally, every couple of months or so and see each other at gatherings and flirt and speak a bit but nothing would follow through. The other day we saw each other and it felt different. We looked at each other a lot but we didn't get a chance to speak. He messaged me saying "Thanks for saying hi" and I told him I wanted to but it felt weird. We spoke for many days on end after that and soon after, we spoke on the phone. He told me he had obvious feelings for me still and didn't know how to act on them but regrets that he didn't follow through with anything before and I agreed that I felt the same way. He also told me that he wants things to work out after I finish school because that's when it'd be least complicated. He asked me to come to this party on the weekend, so we could talk about "us"?????? I do like him and if things keep going, I would date him.
P.S He's never dirty with me or initiates ANYTHING sexual so he can't be using me.
P.P.S My bestfriend doesn't mind and is encourages whatever I'd like to do (she's a gem), so please no hateful comments about that
Does he like me or am I just someone he can fall back on?? Because he said he has feelings for me after all these months where we'd barely spoke? WHAT'S GOING ON?
So I went to a party on Saturday night and ended up hooking up with this guy (hooking up=making out), while we were all drinking. I was with him all night, about 2 hours, and I actually really enjoyed him and had a lot of fun. He was really sweet and respectful for a hookup. He kept making statements regarding the future, we talked about going on a date and he kept asking when we were going to make that happen, he asked for my number and when things would happen, for example me walking into the other room while he was talking to a friend to look for my friend, he would come to find me and say jokingly: are you trying to just leave? Because if you were I guess that would be it for us and I wouldn't be able to see you again. A little while later, he wanted to give me his number so I could text him because "he's a bad texter" and I told him I would get it when he texted me! Eventually he somehow got my phone and put his number in there and was all there! Now you can text me. And another example, was when I was waiting for my friend to get picked up to go back home it was about 30 minutes of just waiting. He kept saying he wanted to dance with me and i kept saying I didn't feel comfortable leaving her alone and he even offered to come with me to walk her back home but we ended up just waiting. When he mentioned again that he wanted to go back in to dance with me, I stepped back and said, I'm sorry, I know this is kind of boring, but seriously, if you want you can totally go back in there and find another girl to dance with, it's really not a big deal. Because I didn't want him to think I was a girl that was gonna expect more from a hookup later on and be clingy and whatnot. And instead of taking my offer, he grabbed my hands pulled me back and said "no no no no, i'm fine I just want to stay with you, I'll wait." and then he kissed me and then on the cheek. He actually kissed me on the cheek a lot and while we danced. And by the end of the night he walked me all the way home when he lived at the place the party was being held. I don't know but all this doesn't really seem like hook up behavior. He has my number and has been looking at my snapchat stories, but hasn't contacted me via call or text. What do you think he is thinking? I think I am going to reach out to him about something really no big deal, like losing a jacket or something. Help meeeee
We hooked up, Now what?
My boss has been at the company now for 5 months. During that time, he has taken a lot of time out of his schedule to train me, and due to this, he promoted me and gave me a pay rise of 25 percent.
He always says that he trusts me most out of the team, and that I'm his favourite, and he's "always a bit mean to them" - he sets me tasks that are more difficult than my job description generally says I have to do. If he is out of the office having a coffee meeting, he will phone to check in on how I'm doing, and if I am stressed he will invite me to go there and get coffee too.
Sometimes he says my boyfriend is "thick" because he works in manual labour, and says things like "he's peaked at 21, you have so much further to go". When I was filing the other day he said, "move your chubby body out of the way" - and laughed, because I'm only a size 8. He also calls me "naughty" if I do something wrong.
Is he attracted to me, or just being friendly?
Is my boss attracted to me?
Good evening girls ! hope you'll find an explanation to my problem :
in the beginning of september i sent a message to a guy i met in february : "hey, I'm in Paris now, tell me when we could see each other and talk" and he replies he hasn't finished to move in Paris and we should wait some weeks before to meet each other again. So, one week ago (one month later) I sent him a new message "what's up; I'll be glad to see you before holidays" and he didn't replay yet...
WHY ? :'(
WHY ? :'( why should i do
I've been seeing this guy for a while now on and off and for the past month or two things have been great we've had our ups and downs but we are good but the other night I stayed at his house on Friday night and we made plans to stay in on Saturday night together. He had work in morning and I left his house later with plans to come back later but in the afternoon he text me saying what time I was coming and I said 6 he told me his friend was going away for two weeks and there were grabbing a pint at the pub which I was cool with but at around 8 I text him saying what's the plan and he told me he was still with his mates having a good time and I asked if we should just cancel and he said no he wasn't staying there all night I told him I would wait and come over still if it wasn't to late which was alright. At 12 he texts me telling me he's still there and I was pissed I didn't reply I just don't get why he would make plans with me only to do that. The night day he texts me like everything is fine I was pissed which I told him and he ignored me I then went on to tell him I felt as though I wasn't a priority which he ignored aswell he then text me the following day saying what do I want him to say i apologised which he didn't he then apologised which I felt wasn't from the heart. He makes me feel as though it's my fault but he's in the wrong! I'm confused I know he loves me and everything but when he does stuff like this it really pisses me off! And I know he loves me because we have been together on and off for like a year and he's said it as well. He recently asked me to leave stuff and his house and make plans for New Years so if he didn't want to be with me we wouldn't make all these plans for the future.
But my question is why is he constantly trying to push me away I know he has his issues but I can't keep fighting for our relationship if he keeps doing this!
Please no hateful or rude comments