jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So me and this guy met 2 weeks ago. We've been hanging out on the weekends since. Yes we did sleep together the first times. But he was really sweet took me to breakfast and wanted to see me again the next night. He introduced me to all of his friends. Etc. Well he's moving to the city I'm moving to in a couple weeks so he's out of town. I haven't heard from him in two days. I really like this guy and this is his response's when I texted him. I understand he's a busy guy he's 26 and getting ready to get a new house. He's an engineer. So he may be busy.. buThe I didn't say anything back I hate it when guys send me one word texts.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Do you think he's not interested? Or just busy? When we are together he acts like he really likes me

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jessicaparks14

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So me and this guy met 2 weeks ago. We've been hanging out on the weekends since. Yes we did sleep together the first times. But he was really sweet took me to breakfast and wanted to see me again the next night. He introduced me to all of his friends. Etc. Well he's moving to the city I'm moving to in a couple weeks so he's out of town. I haven't heard from him in two days. I really like this guy and this is his response's when I texted him. I understand he's a busy guy he's 26 and getting ready to get a new house. He's an engineer. So he may be busy.. buThe I didn't say anything back I hate it when guys send me one word texts.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Do you think he's not interested? Or just busy? When we are together he acts like he really likes me

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leeleemystery

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What's the best way to get a guy to come talk to you ???

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xerot1

Smile and look at his direction.

love_you

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What does it really mean when a guy texts you saying heyyyy ;)

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cinderella_2

He wants to see you naked.

fractalpatterns

Or his friend stole his phone haha

giggleskdd

lol women complicate everything. It means hey!

leeleemystery

Depends on ur relationship with the guy, if ur just close friends its normal but if he's more of a guy u don't speak to very often it's a flirt

rj

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So yesterday was my birthday and the guy I've been seeing for the past two months didn't try to see me at all. He slept over the night before my birthday, left to go to work in the morning and then didn't contact me about doing anything or spending time with me. Prior to my birthday, he asked me what I had planned. Since it was a Monday, I told him I was probably going to take the day off from work and just buy myself a spa package since everyone was going to be at work. He then told me not to make any plans for the day (so I didn't). As the day dragged on, I hadn't heard from him so I tried to salvage what was left of the day by going to the beach alone. He had gotten some really bad news last week so I wasn't stressing over the fact that he didn't seem to have anything planned, just wanted to see him. Also, we went to dinner with my friends and my brother's birthday party over the weekend so we had pretty much celebrated my birthday anyway.

When he was done with work, I texted him and told him how awful my day was going since I was spending it alone and his response was just like "oh, that sucks." I then started texting him asking him if he was going to the gym and if I could see him but got no response. He always naps right after work before he goes to workout so I figured he fell asleep. He called me a few times an hour later and I missed the calls. When I finally called him back (20 minutes after the missed calls), he said had fallen asleep earlier and was now on his way to workout and I should "enjoy the rest of my day". I texted him to let him know I was puzzled about him not seeing me and his response was that he called me several times trying to see me and I didn't pick up.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be upset? Yes, I missed a couple calls from him in the evening but when I called back, he still didn't mention getting together. Plus, he could've texted/called during the day to arrange seeing me in the evening and he didn't. Was it unrealistic of me to expect to spend time with my boyfriend on my birthday?

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matitsrl

You have the right to be upset, I would be if I was in your position. He told you not to do plans and then he didn't even tell you he wasn't able to meet or something. I would be angry, not nice to be spending your day alone waiting for him to call you.

runforfun

You have every right to be upset! That was rude of him since he didn't think about your feelings at all and trying to make an effort. If he keeps it up I would really question of your relationship is worth it.

rj

Thanks, at least now I don't feel like I'm being crazy or unreasonable for being upset. He's usually really sweet and thoughtful. I'll get flowers for no reason sometimes, which is why I was expecting to be blown away on my birthday. Due to the news he got last week though, I completely understand if he didn't get to plan anything. I just thought that he'd at least attempt to see me and not give up and go to the gym just because he called three times and I didn't pick up.

giggleskdd

So is he your boyfriend or is he someone you're just seeing? Because if it's the latter then while you can be upset he wasn't obligated However, since you use the term boyfriend I'm going to say he sounds full of crap. He told you not to plan anything and then didn't even really call. You had to reach out to him. I say though don't wear your heart on your sleeve. If you really want to get your point across, be silent. Start being really casual with him and when he asks why tell him that you thought since he didn't see you on your birthday that you two aren't that serious. Men don't respond to words. They respond to actions. It stinks but try not to let on just yet how mad and upset you are.

jessica_3

Look, u actually didn't respond to his calls and it means he was interested in seeing you. So I don't think u should be upset with him . I'd give him a blowjob and make him forget about the whole issue ( of u wanna stay his gf of course) if not - play the offended game til he loses interest in u. Good luck in making a good decision. And remember, relationship is all about mutual respect. Not about ur ego ;)

kattyz

You can totally be upset about that!

slpyhead

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I throw tantrum on a guy that i havent met. we've been chatting online. i was expecting him to disappear yet he still text me daily. he constantly ask me out. then again. he went out with another girl he knew from online as well.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

is he really interested or just wanna get to know me?

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giggleskdd

I don't understand if he's asking you out why you haven't met. Perhaps he's trying to give you the benefit of the doubt. Nobody here can answer if he's interested because you two haven't even met. You may not be interested once you meet. I say meet him before you start analyzing his intentions. Word to the wise: throwing tantrums is not attractive. I wouldn't do it again because he may not be so understanding next time. Good luck!

leeleemystery

Just block him u don't know who the person on the other end really is ! And the fact that he did that shows a lot I would meet him face to face a few times before taking things to the next step

chloe_3

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hi everyone, the other day, I met a boy, Toby (friend with a friend of mine). We were a group of 8 girls and two boys. After one hour, it appears clearly to me he was closer to me than to the other girls. At the end of the day, my friend proposed to us to go to a nightclub the next day. We say yes, and when we arrived at the nightclub, my friend told me Toby was into me. We danced together, I have been drinking but not him. When he had to leave, I was going to catch up my friend but he held me back by the waist, and kissed me. After that, he disappeared...
Few days later, I added him on Facebook, and now we've just started to talk friendly about the nightclub and music (but not the kiss).

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Now I'm lost, I really want to see him again but I don't know if he just wanted to hook up with me... It seems bizarre to me because he wasn't drunk at all, so yay I'm wondering about what I should do ... I don't dare to ask him about the kiss because I would be very ashamed if it was nothing important for him...

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martinmosher

From a mans perspective, he is into you, but unsure if you are into him. Looking for affirmation

elizabethbennett

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I talked to this guy on and off for more than a year now. We had sex; and he stopped any contact for about 3 months. After that he started FB-talk to me again. He said how he misses me, even loves me. I did not believe that. Last month he wrote me how beautiful I am on my profile picture, but when I replied to him, he did not bother to answer. One month later I was first one to contact him. He replied right away asking how I am. I responded in casual way while he said " I wish I could come to kiss you." (he lives in another state) Then he said how much he misses me and kissing me. I flirted back and asked if he misses anything else. He replied he misses my smile and my cuddles. After that I was just happy to hear from him again asking some other questions while apologizing for asking that many in funny way. His response was...ask all you want, I love to talk to you...Then he asked about my job. I wrote him about it and asked about his vacation. And he did not write back at all.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I somehow get back to him? Ask why he did not respond? I feel so silly. I don't even know why am I so surprised! He did the same thing this whole time I know him. He would take his time to reply once he talked to me like on daily basis and I was getting used to it. What to do? Should I start conversation even though he did not reply? Why do I even want to talk to him knowing that this is what he does? I feel so foolish.

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chloe_3

Hello, sad story for you ! If you really want to see him again, talk to him, if he doesn't reply, just stop to think about him. He doesn't seem like a reasonable and nice guy you know... You have to wonder how long you can wait for this guy, does he worth it ?

ary

If he liked talking to you so much, he would have initiated contact and wouldn't have left you hanging so many times. I'd stop waiting around for this one.

giggleskdd

If this man really missed you he would come see you. Women have to learn not to get caught up in what someone says. People can tell you anything. If he doesn't act like it (and from what you describe it doesn't sound like he does) I would say he's just being a sweet talker and move on. Don't bother getting back to someone who couldn't get back to you. Good luck!

thatsconfusing

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Okay so I kind of reconnected with this guy I knew a while back. He was really cool and normal at first, but then he started asking me weird questions. Questions about sex in general, like sexual positions and telling me to describe them. And stuff like if I shave and if I've ever gone skinny dipping and just weird random, kinda personal stuff like that. And then the next morning after asking all this stuff and being weird, he'll be normal in the morning and say sorry, but then he'll just do it again. I've called him out and asked him why he does it and he says he doesn't know and just likes to get to know people on a more personal level. I think it's just weird and I want to tell him to stop but I want to know why he's doing it first. Along with saying sorry he always tells me not to tell anyone about it. He's just really weird, but he's kind of innocent and a virgin. He told me to send him nudes too, but I told him no cause I'm not about that. I just need help understanding what exactly he's doing or what his intentions are.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Why does he keep asking all this sexual stuff and then saying sorry afterwards and not to tell anyone?

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thatsconfusing

Oh yeah, and I'm friends with a girl went to high school with him, that's kind of how I got to talking to him again, through her. She told me he did the same thing to her even though they never really dated and were just friends.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

He sounds like he has issues. Usually, when they ask you not to tell anyone, it's dodgy, girlie. Stop talking to him, he could sexually assault you in person. Like seriously, don't talk to him anymore.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

If he cant control his behavior, steer clear.

andreaashley182

That's not okay. He's taking advantage of you in an unhealthy way. You don't have to confront him if your not comfortable with that but definitely keep your distance

herresponse

He sounds like a psycho! You should stop talking to him. Seriously.

thatsconfusing

Okay, thanks for the advice. :)

kt909

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I went with this guy two weeks ago, and we really hit it off. He is actually an old match from tinder, and this is the first time we met. We matched in November, long story, we kept talking causally until now. He invited me to go out with his friends last weekend, and I said yes. I asked if I could bring a few friends and he said that was cool. Unfortunately, I had no choice but to bail on him at the last minute. I felt awful to do it, hoping I wouldn't look like a flake. So I promised him I'd make it up to him, after explaining the situation, staying as classy as I could. He said it was alright, and we'll figure something else out. So a told him to have a good night, and he said "will do:)" the next day I texted him, asking how his night out was. He said it was tons of fun and I missed out. He put a silly face, so I guess this is not hostile. He seemed okay with it, so I suppose nothing changed. Haven't heard from him yet to schedule anything, but I only messaged him yesterday.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Does this sound promising? Most guys would not be okay with a girl bailing on them at the last minute, but it's very unlike me. Like I said, I had little choice.

Should I wait for him to text me to follow up? :) what do you think? :)

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xerot1

if he used a emote than it should be ok. I think u should follow up on it though since you said you will make it up.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

It took him 8 months to ask you out the first time, and you had to bail. You will probably have to ask him out, unless you want to wait another 8 months.

kt909

It didn't take him eight months to ask me out. There were other reasons why we couldn't meet up.

kt909

Okay people I texted him... Wish me luck!

sammi55

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I'm a college student and I started casually hooking up with a guy last semester. It was nothing more than hooking up, although he would randomly text me during the week just to talk and invited me out with his friends a few times. Right before we left for summer, things went bad, and to avoid a long story, I'll just say I made the situation very weird. I had started to develop feelings for him, so it was really bothering me that we were going to leave off on an awkward note. So about a week into summer I texted him basically saying I wish it didn't end the way it did, I hope there's no hard feelings in the future, and to have a good summer. I was giving him a perfect opportunity to say goodbye and end it, but he continued to text me in the beginning of the summer. Then I started to hear from him less, so I texted him a couple of times. I realized that maybe he had moved on and I should just let this go, so I stopped texting him. Then, a month later, he texts me again.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Believe me, I know he's probably not interested, and that's not what I'm asking. I just want opinions on why he wouldn't take the perfect opportunity I gave him to say "yeah have a good summer, see you around," and would continue text over summer.

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steph_143

He probably doesn't know what he wants.

giggleskdd

Guys don't burn bridges. If you all were hooking up in the past why would he throw that opportunity away for future hookups? Don't read into texting at all. I text people out of boredom all the time. If you have feelings for him I think it's a mistake to continue to talk to him. In the end you're the one who will get hurt. Good luck!

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Because it takes no effort for him to text. He could be sitting on top of the porcelain bowl, he could be waiting for a friend who's late, he could be lying in bed with his ONS, he could be on a date that's boring, he could in a long meeting. Don't wonder why he texts. It's not a match because he does not want the same thing you do. Let it go.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He is leaving his options open for more hookups in the fall.

herresponse

Sounds to me like you were hoping for another chance with him, referring to what you texted him "I wish it didn't end the way it did, I hope there's no hard feelings in the future, and to have a good summer" you are still showing a bit of interest and he saw that, so he wrote back. Figure out what you want. Don't waste your time and his.

matitsrl

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We met on Tinder, we used to talk every single day on whatsapp for about a month (he was always the one starting the conversations). All of a sudden we are not talking as much as we used to. He has never invited me out, I mean, we don't know each other in person. One day I suggested we should meet and drink something, I knew that day he was busy and as I thought, he said he couldn't meet that day but we will another day, but nothing has happened. I don`t want to be pathetic and ask him out again, but I feel like I like him and maybe I`m losing the opportunity to meet someone great.
Today I talked to him and after a while I said he had deleted me because we haven`t talked in a while, he answered: ¨haha no, not at all¨, then I said: ¨I though you got bored of this¨ and he hasn't reply since then.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I forget about him and delete him from my contacts?

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rxbfan04

If you've never met him, I don't really see the point in attempting to turn this into something. You've made your intentions known and now he has made his. If he really were as great as you think he is, he would have asked you out by now, because great guys do that. There are plenty of other guys out there who are willing to put in the effort so don't waste your time on this guy.

matitsrl

Unfortunately you are right, thanks :)

giggleskdd

You said you want to meet someone great. Keep looking because he doesn't sound so great. I understand you may like him but without having spent anytime with him I think you like the idea of him. He's not putting for any effort and I'm sure you want someone who is going to show you how much they like you. You can do much better. Good luck!

giggleskdd

*forth any effort

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Yeah, you should delete him. So many guys like to waste other people's time by texting non-stop and not asking them out. What's the point? Don't read too much to how frequent he texts you. Read into his actions - does he ask you out? If he does not, put him on the dump pile. It's dead easy to text anyone these days. I've said it many times -- He could be on taking a dump, he could be waiting for a friend who is late, he could be in a very boring family gathering. And no one is that busy not to be able to see you, but still has time to text. It's BS.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

He is wasting your time. Move on.

herresponse

The "I thought you were bored of this" was already answered by the "haha. Not at all" so you did not have to ask him again. If you see potential in the guy and don't want to lose the chance in knowing. Ask him out again, if he is worth a second try. If not, forget about him. Don't waste your time or his.

rj

I agree with everyone here. He's putting in minimal effort so just cut you losses and move on.

clueless_6

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Known each other for over a year but he's never shown any interest even as friends. Lately we've seen each other lots more because of mutual friends get togethers.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I gave him a lift home- it was on my way and he sent me this text- is he asking me out? Or just being friendly?

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lexi_a

I think he's just being friendly

sammi55

It seems like he's definitely a nice guy, but it's hard to say if he's into you or is just generally a nice guy.

kattyz

It's really hard to tell if he actually likes you or he's just being friendly

steph_143

He could be getting an interest for you since he wants to go out some time. But then again some guys mess us girls up making us think something when really they're just being friendly so keep talking to him and see what happens

giggleskdd

It seems he's just being friendly.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Without more info, it just seems like he was attempting to be nice to use you for free rides. In my opinion, if he meant it, he would have just offered the petrol money in person, and not text to say he forgot. It just set the stage to make him look thoughtful. Also, that last bit about "going out some time" then not asking, but just saying he will see you on Saturday sounds pretty lame to me. Like dude, just ask if you are interested. Gee. I may not be right, but be careful if you like him!

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Talking about asking you out and actually asking you out are two different things. Dont get excited untill he does the latter.

herresponse

No. He's just being nice unless he's really shy. But that's doubtful reading from the context of the texts. But what's interesting is that you stay he didn't want to be more than friends or even friends. So why are you interested in him? 🐸☕️

greentea0502

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Not that long ago, i posted a question about whether a guy is in to me or not since he texts me everyday for couple weeks. And yesterday, we had a movie date and he asked me out. So it all went good. (The answers i got were that he wasn't in to me.. so i was devastated. haha)

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Do i text him first? I also want to ask him how long he's liked me for and why he likes me and stuff. Is that too weird to ask on the second day we're dating?

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lexi_a

I think you should let him text you first and once you' start texting lightly bring up some questions that you have been wondering. Don't bombard him with all the questions at once

rxbfan04

I would slow your roll a little bit. He just asked you out (i'm presuming he specifically asked you to be his girlfriend) so it's clear he likes you. I'm not so sure it really matters why. I also don't think it matters too much about how long he has liked you, as now you guys are together so you've gotten what you want. Just enjoy the time you guys spend together and don't worry about all of that other stuff.

steph_143

I say don't text him first, try to let him text you first but if he doesn't for the whole day then you can text him first the next day and see what's up. Then wait a little to ask him your questions. Congrats by the way :)

tee_2 TOP COMMENTER

You can text him whenever you want, I don't see why can't you. And those questions you want to ask him will eventually come up in a conversation, so just enjoy the moments with him for now.

lilliekins TOP COMMENTER

Do not ask those questions! Not after 1 date!

sophiesmith999

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Me and this lad met at a party mouths ago and we got very drunk and got off that night. We have seen each other since but never spoke again. The other day my friend had a party and he came with his friends during the party he kept stroking my hair and told me i was a 12 out of 10 he then had a play fight with me and we were wrestling on the floor and he was kicking and touching me. However after we flirted all night he told me he has a girlfriend he has just recently started seeing and he stated telling me about their sex life !!

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I am so so confused Does he like me or sounds interested. ??

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giggleskdd

I'm going to go with no. He told you about his girlfriend and their sex life. If he were interested why would he tell you those things. Just because a guy flirts with you doesn't mean he likes you. I'm sure you will find someone without a girlfriend and who will be really interested. Don't settle. Good luck!

sammi55

He was probably just tying to look good in front of his friends, but if he was interested he definitely wouldn't have brought up his girlfriend.

steph_143

He is a total flirt! Ugh he has no respect for his girlfriend if he is flirting with you so I say no, he doesn't like you, he's just a flirt and I feel bad for his girlfriend.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Really? Woman, this guy has disaster written all over him. 1. He has a gf, and he was touching you and saying "sweet things" and flirting all night with you. 2. He told you about his sex life. No gentlemen will do this -- kiss and tell. He is just after sex and sees women as conquests. Stay far, far away from him. Nothing to be confused about.

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