This is not a text. It is e-mail. But I hope the same "rules" apply.
We dated four years ago and we are at a point where we can chat with each other just fine. We only talk maybe every couple of years though. He sent me an e-mail last week saying we should have a chat sometime. And now...
Me: What happened with that chat you mentioned in your last e-mail? :)
Him: I thought you were avoiding me! I asked you when you were available and you didn’t reply
Me: Did you? Oh sorry, I thought you had just say lest have a chat and I then nothing...haha. Phone or want to catch up and see if we have aged at all?
Him: I have certainly aged. :) Maybe a phone chat so my partner doesn’t have to rest uneasy.
Never mention of a girlfriend before and he has always been cagey about the topic.
I don't want to say what I am thinking or ask a question as any of these things may make people's answers biased. Just feel free to say what you see here...thanks!
We have known each other for awhile and were even friends for a while in high school. He joined the ARMY and we drifted apart. He says he like me as more than friends, but then he says he doesn't. He goes back and forth. I'm a little confused. We have talked about dating and he says he wouldn't date until he gets out of the Army. But even then he says he isn't sure if he ever wants to date. It's always this back and forth game. I'm getting pretty confused. We talk like the picture below all the time. He always wants to call me and hear my voice and if I'm sad he always wants to make me happy. I feel like he likes me more than a friend, but is afraid that I may hurt him like his last girlfriend.
Does he like me as more than friends or not? How can you tell without asking them? I've asked him and he says yes and then kinda. I need a more indirect route to kind of figure out if he does. Any ideas? Any advice?
I dated a guy for 2 months and did completely the wrong thing. I looked at his phone messages (I know - I hate myself for it). Being honest, I told him and said I was so sorry and never done that before (and I haven't).
I sent him a couple of texts (I have never sent the first text before) and he responded saying "we need a break and see how we go" and I asked it was a permanent break and he said "not permanent!!!"
I sent two other messages to him - stupidly and he didn't respond.
It was his birthday 2 days later so I sent a message "happy birthday, have a fabulous day". His response: "thanks, I'll see you soon".
I definitely am not contacting him again and I am fine with that. I am missing him very badly :( I think we have broken up permanently - I hate myself for what I did but I don't understand why he would say that he will see me again. Why cant he just have said that it's over :( Not what I want to hear but at least I'm not in limbo. BTW we are both late 30s (so not teenagers or anything).
Soo i met a guy on Tinder and he asked me for a date. He told me he was going to France for a year and i was okay cause i didn't expect to get attached to him so fast. So i accepted the invite. When we finally met was all amazing and he told me he will stay in touch and send me pics from there. Honestly, at the moment i didn't believe him but few seconds later we say goodbye from the date he texted me! I texted back(of course) and we keep talking to eachother until now(almost 3 months later). He also send me pics and asked me to go to france.
I really want to know if when he come back we'll have something, but i fear that he may be scared when i ask him about our possible future. It's really complicated cause i know that i can't ask him anything cause we have nothing except for only date. And sometimes i think he olny talk to me because hes a foreing and hes alone at europe (he told me that french girls doesnt give a fuck about him). Always when he longs for text me back i think that im being a pain in the ass. I also think about stop send messages to him and keep illuding myself with a "tinder guy" but i cant avoid. Everytime we talk i get excited cause hes so cute and nice and we have a loooot in common. If you read this until here thank you and im sorry for my bad english but ist no my native language :)
I met this guy in the summer while I was interning. We clicked immediately and constantly hung out (and obvi hooked up) but it wasn't only sex. We actually spent all our free time together. We acted like we were in a serious relationship even though we weren't. And he told me I was what he wanted in a wife. Before I left I realized that I fell for him. So I told him, he told me that since I was going back to my city... he wasn't sure when we'd see each other again. in other words, after summer our fling would end. After I left, when I texted him he always replies back in an instant. And says he misses me too and all. But it ended up I was always the one to hit him up and there never was a convo going or he didn't reply. We basically stopped talking except when he sends snapchat selfies which used to be like once a day but now its once a week. but one day I told him I was coming up to his city to visit and we should hangout, he told me he'd skip his classes those days to spend time with me. (I proceeded to go crazy the following day and told him I didn't want to see him when I visit because I still liked him, and the following day I told him id want to see him, etc) He's never been the first to text me but he texted me "Hi baby, miss ya" and then snapchatted me a few days later just saying "miss ya" I know I went crazy and texted/snapped him too much in the beginning. but is he just hitting me up so that he'll have someone for those days?
Is he just looking to hookup when I visit his city?
I'm been seeing this guy he is 47 years old and I'm 37 , we been dating over a month , we hang out a lot at least one day during the week and the whole weekend pretty much , we are Intimate and chemistry is there , is just hard for me to read him , one of the things is that he already introduce me to his brother and his sister in law, and another weekend we went out with his best buddy's from his back home town , some days he texted and he is kind of sweet , other times is just what's up( something I hate ) lol but I'm no sure what we are ? Should I ask him about us? Should I wait maybe another month to see if he will ask me to be his girlfriend , I don't know if because he knows I like him , he acts like that sometimes or is just me been dramatic . :/ what should i do ?
Here`s the deal. Met this guy, had fun for two weeks- teenagers style falling for each other. He is in the army, so he left (not in a war zone). The first two weeks after he left, the texts were very cute and lovely, but in the last week they became distant and cold, therefor mine became distant and cold. I got annoyed one day because of it and sent a text:
Me: "Hey, SO you are a very nice guy and it was amazing spending time with you, who knows, maybe we`ll even bump into each other one day"
Him: "Lol, that`s the plan. Don`t go actin all weird on me"
Me: "I`m not acting weird at all, just failing miserably at not thinking about you"
Him: "I know the feeling"
Then a few more, kind of distant text ... and now it`s been 3 days no texts, no nothing, even though he`s been online multiple times since...
Should I text him? Or should I just give up?
So whenever I see this guy called Jack we've been friends for a year there's like extreme sexual tension, we've never acted on it because we both were dating eachothers bestfriends but now there out of the picture we've been even more flirty. He always asks to meet up but falls through on plans.
Like he'll call me in the day and say let's do something tonight ill call you back in 5, then he never calls back or he calls like at 8 just to talk but then will call me another day? I'm just lost at what he thinks of me?
We met in college, six years ago, and I had the biggest crush on him.
We kept in touch over the years, flirted mildly at best, and didn't see one another again for five years (I left school about a year after I met him).
When we met up, on New Years Eve, things got a little bit out of hand (he was in a long distance relationship close to ending, but it hadn't technically ended yet. I wasn't aware, or at least I don't remember discussing it). We kissed and cuddled for most of the night, he dropped me off, and then I didn't hear from him for seven months.
We're talking again, now, and he and I spent a weekend together a couple of weeks back. He's still talking to me consistently, calls me boo, and tells me he misses me, but I'm worried that if I allow myself to get invested beyond being friends he's just going to bail again in spite of his current actions.
Am I setting myself up to be hurt again, or am I being too cautious?
The text messages from today:
Him: How've you been sexy
^First time he's texted me "sexy" over text
Me: Been really busy, I'm tired
Him: Me too.. Please tell me you have a night off this week
Me: I might be free sometime this weekend. What's been happening with you?
Him: How about friday? And just had a really hectic last few days, I need some time to relax. Preferably with you
Me: Friday could work
Him: I'll also fix that thing you told me about last time, I can do it shirtless if you want? lol
I've been seeing this guy for over 5 months. It started out as a one night stand, and right the next day he said he wanted to see me again. So every week, he'd want to see me.
Over two weekends ago, we planned our 2nd sleepover. However this time, it didn't go well. He suddenly acted really rude to me. Basically, he wanted to be treated like a King, yet there's no label. I didn't let it happen and put him in his place. It was a bad date (and the worst one). I wasn't sure if I'd ever hear from him again.
The week after that, I got a call from him. I didn't pick up. He didn't leave a voicemail or a text, so I didn't get back to him. Then a week later the texted me the above. What do you guys think?
We met through a coworker four years ago. He was dating her at the time, so I thought nothing of him. Two years later, he ran into me at my job as a waitress. ..And he happened to be with his son and another girl who's now an ex. He followed that random meeting up with a friend request on Facebook around three months later. Two more years passed, and he posted an extra ticket on Facebook that I contacted him about buying. He said he wasn't looking to sell it and that he was looking for a date. He also admitted to liking me since he met me, but couldn't do anything about it because of having a significant other. We've been seeing each other since then.
Do I need to tear down some walls I've built from previous men telling me lies to get something? He said he was "strongly falling". Would a guy say it and not mean that for sex...or is that a bit too deep for that? His feelings are reciprocated on my part, so I'd hate to let myself get hurt really bad just because I was love blind and I didn't see it.
we had been seeing each other for a few weeks and would get drinks or just hang at his place. we can talk about pretty much anything and he cooks me meals when i come over. i told him from the beginnning i wasnt looking for just sex. after a few hangouts... we kissed and fooled around with oral sex. i didn't get off and was nervous because it was our first time doing stuff. The ne xt day he texted me " i dont think we should ever have sex and he said we were sexually incompatible. but he loved the coversations and spending time with me so it would be awesome if we were friends. The next time we hung out we talked for hours.. watched a movie.. he showed me all the pics on his fb... and he made me dinner.. and then things escalated into oral sex.. making out and we wre about to go all the way but his condom broke so we left it at that. the next morning when he dropped me off at work... he said keep in touch.
is he into me or is he trying to tell me off?
We have been officially in a committed relationship for four months now but have know each other since middle school.
The texts before these read as follows...
Him: I'll tell you like this
Him: I love you like
Me: like what?
Does he really love me and I'm just trippin?
So, i met this guy this summer and he's my stepbrother's friend. He texts me everyday and I see him once a week. He broke with his ex 3months ago. He tells me a lot about her because she wants him back but he definitely doesn't want her back. He tells me every time but he still talks to her and sees her because she misses him and he wants to be respectful and honest with her.
I really like him and I hear him everyday. If I go out with my friends he comes and meets them and stays with us the whole night even though he doesn't know them. He drives me home and takes care of me. But never did something the two of us. Always in a group. We then talk a lot and only us.
I don't know if he's ready, and if he likes me for more than a friend...
I posted something similar earlier, but I received a response from him, so I just wanted to update a bit.
Met this guy on Match dating site. He's 36 I'm 26. We went out on 4 dates so far all initiated by him. However I suggested a location/activity for date 2 bc he told me to think of something i'd like to do.
Date 4 our last date (Saturday night) was a horror movie at his place. We both discovered we liked horror movies. I ended up spending the night but we did not have sex nor did pants come off. We did some heavy making out, cuddling, heavy 2nd base action. Dry h*mping. (all very "hs activity" according to my friend).
He said he will be leaving on a trip this Friday for 2.5-3 weeks both business and then pleasure ( He told me this date 1). He said he wanted to see me before he left and suggested we do something "low sky" like a walk in the park near his place Wednesday or Thursday. I told him that sounded good. But we didn't nail down a day. He drove me home the next day and we kissed goodbye. I thanked him for a nice night and for driving me back and told him to have a good day. I asked "so wednesday?" And again he said yeah, wed or thurs.
I texted him a few hours after he dropped me off the above and he took 8 hours to respond...
He told me (date 2) he's not very into Texting or social media apps (only has a FB). His responses are usually pretty formal sometimes a bit flirty. He seems to text mostly to make plans.
Should I be concerned about this lag time in response?
Also, should I text tonight saying something like "Hope your week has been going well! Excited for my (insert hobby) tonight. Would tomorrow or Thursday work better for you to hang out?" OR should I just wait till Wednesday AM to text, OR just wait for him to contact me?
This will be date 5. I just don't want him to feel like he's doing all the leg work as he has been the one to suggest each date, pick me up/drop me off, and pay. I want to strike a balance to show I"m interested and not just waiting for fun.