foreveralone_jk

NOW I'M WONDERING...

How do you forget someone, in a positive perspective.? I have a guy friend that well is more than just dear to me.. And I won't be in contact with him for a long time, and he won't get out of my every thought. He thinks of us as just friends, even if at one point we were inseparable. When he leaves, how shall I forget about him (at least for a little.! My mind needs to take a break from him.!) yet still be able to think of fond memories we've shared together, every once and a while.? Should I be looking at other guys so that I'm not so hung up on him if it's not going to go anywhere with him.?

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sarah5

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I've been seeing this guy for a month.. He keeps saying he doesn't want me to send pictures or be with any other guys.. So this is kinda our exclusivity chat....

Me: so you want me to yourself huh? Only if the same rule is applies to you... Xx
Him: Yes !!!! Haha .. :) xx
Me: sooo... I guess that means we're exclusive? Xx
Him: exclusive as in :P .. Xx
Me: Erm... Being together.. Not seeing anyone else :P xx
Him: time will only tell ;) xx
Me: well if you don't want me to see anyone then it has to be the same for you... So that"s basically being exclusive with each other right? Nothing changes, just know for sure where we stand... :P xx
Him: yh indeed hahahaha .. Okay night then xxxx"

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What does he mean? He was the one saying he doesn't want me to see anyone else...

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gitreel TOP COMMENTER

U should never have important talks esp about exclusivity via chat!! Then u wouldnt b wondering. Now ull jus need to wait and discuss over fone or in person. Please, I hope u learned ur lesson.

inspired12

He dodged it immediately when you said exclusive. Id bring it up in person because if you feel unsure you should be able to communicate with one another about concerns. Otherwise you'll get no where.

amydesigns

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I've been dating a guy for almost six months, He's not much of a texter but when we're together he makes me really happy the problem is im always wondering if he's going to leave me because there are tons of beautiful girls out there and i know him I know he likes other girls when they walk dwn net to him and he watches porn because he likes big boobs and butts (something i dont really have)

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I just want to know if I should talk to him about it or maybe if someone has some advice so i can stop being so insecure about myself that could be great. Its just.. for the first time in years im feeling like im falling in love for real but all of this thoughts are ruining it, i think about it everyday when we are not together

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foreveralone_jk

If he makes you happy, and he really likes you for you, don't think so negatively (: most if not all guys have a type of girl they've always liked, but if he likes your personality, enjoys hanging out with you, and his attention is on you when he's with you, you don't have to have a booty to keep him satisfied.

whateva_2

He must be a black dude

elise1

I am 32 and I have to say, ALL the men I have ever met have enjoyed porn. I can honestly say I enjoy it myself and it has NOTHING to do with a comparison of the man I am with at the time. It's the same for men--just a quick fix to get them off. PLEASE do not be threatened by it or feel insecure unless your man actually prefers porn over having sex with you or he actually says things to make you feel insecure about your body. I too feel your pain, the man I have been dating for a few months is a HORRIBLE texter, but in person he makes me feel like a queen. In the beginning he texted me just enouigh to get me but that has died down now. He still texts every now and then and asks to see me, but I know the frustration of wondering why he doesn't text more. I struggle with what to do in regards to that myself. But sweethart, please listen to me when I say not to feel threatened by the porn.

rosestone21

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I've been going out with this guy since October 2013. Two months after we started dating I asked him about us and he said he didnt want a relationship right now he just wanted to see where things go. We've been together since then, no fights, no problems, we're exclusive, i know his family, his friends and he knows mine. We started to get intimate on march and since then we've been having great sex. It feels like we're on a relationship so I've been acting like a gf. I cook for him, we cuddle and watch movies, etc etc but I have a little problem... Im a really horny girl and everytime we're alone i always make a move just to turn him on, I need your advice because im guessing deep inside me, turning him on makes me feel like Im being a good gf but i dont want it to be all about sex and that he gets bored of that.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Its my first real boyfriend I dont know how to act! Does anyone has any advice on how to keep the love and passion light up without it turning into a blowjob all the time?

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soccerpixie

HERE'S THE DEAL...

My best friend's bf just broke up with her, but he told her he still likes her, he just isn't ready for a relationship. They are still talking and have been texting, but just as friends. My friend still really likes this guy, and it's obvious he still likes her. They had been dating for about 2 months.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Why would a guy do this?

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foreveralone_jk

Maybe he doesn't want to feel tied down to anyone. He does like her but maybe he's not totally committed to the though of calling her his girlfriend yet.

foreveralone_jk

Thought*

skyblue_2

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I have a male friend I have known for close to 10 years we saw each other at a party an hooked up mostly becz I was drunk.After the incident we continued talking an laughed off what happened.If anything we have become extremely close to a point his called me the one an his best friend.But after I moved else where for my tertiary studies we continued talking an started meantioning even presuing a relationship.But due to distance we didn't think it would workout so I decided to move on an I'm currently in a relationship.When my friend foundout he wasn't exactly thrilled about my decision an also moved on.We still remain talking an he jokes about me wanting something more out of him and him being the one for me even though he keeps bragging that his happy in the relationship his in now because he doesn't have to share her with anyone

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is it possible that maybe my friend still has feelings for me regardless of his contious comments stating that his moved on an happy an y does he ignore texts that I send him stating that his fallen for me as a joke?

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gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Get over him. He has a gf. He doesnt want anything further with u so dont entertain those thoughts.

foreveralone_jk

Hmm, well depends, are you happy in your relationship.? Would you travel back to see your friend once and a while.? He keeps mentioning that he's happy because he wants you not to worry about him and he's trying to show he's okay without you, even if he really isn't. The texting thing is hard, so sometimes pursue what he's saying as if it weren't a joke like, "do you really feel that way.?" Or "why do you want me to fall for you so bad (; " with honest curiosity..

molly5

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I always seem to say and do the most embarrassing things in front of this guy at the wrong time. I ask a lot of questions and probably get on his nerve. I really feel embarrassed afterwards. lately I have been told that I am complicated.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

has anyone else experienced this. and if im so complicated why is he still around ?

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clairebear84

If someone likes you they will like you whatever.Dont ever try to change.....the right guy will like you for you and all your little quirks :)

eatsomecandy

Everyone gets a little goofy sometimes in front of their crush. Laugh it off, be genuine.

bicyclist234

I feel the same way! Everyone says don't worry about it though. Maybe he is weird too!

foreveralone_jk

Ah just try to be relaxed around him. Be yourself, but try not to be overly yourself, as if you were on a stage (if you get what I'm saying). And hey maybe he likes complicated, it's a lot better than plain and boring (:

angelinaw

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hi, anyone been through this? I haven't 'dated' for awhile but am now relearning stuff. What does it mean when he and you have been on dates, then, he, the rare texter, texts you to see how you are but doesn't make plans? You reply. He texts back. Then, that's that for that conversation until the future.... when he does it again? What is this if you are not friends? Is this an "I need attention" thing or subtle booty call thing? (NB, I did not do booty with him).

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Why do some guys text you to see how you are (when you have always just dated and not been friends beforehand) and then not follow through on making plans? Obviously, I know he isnt' boyfriend material but I am just very curious about why some guys do this? Thanks!

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clairebear84

You sure it's love after only 3 weeks???!

clairebear84

Sorry it commented under the wrong problem ha ha :/

angelinaw

Ok thanks. Haha. It's not love at all. I am trying to understand various male behaviours. Haha!

eatsomecandy

Maybe it's your turn to propose something to do. These days, the dating thing isn't 100% on the guy to come up with things to do. Pitch something fun yet inexpensive like go for a walk or go to an art gallery opening or something

foreveralone_jk

maybe it's because you cross his mind sometimes and he doesn't hesitate to ask how you are; not looking for an entire conversation, just checking in. I think it's sweet that he does that, and I agree than maybe proposing walking somewhere or having a chat over maybe coffee or something would be nice in return.? Just friendly stuff.

2009 TOP COMMENTER

Some guys will make a certain amount of effort and then wait and see if you reciprocate ie. they might arrange the first few dates and make it obvious that they still want to get to know you (the texts etc) yet wait for you to arrange the next date.. It's just to see if you are interested too or if you're just going along with it because you like being pursued.

rosestone21

I think he wants you to know he's there if you're interested and then you should propose some plan...

elise1

please let me know when you find out; I had several wonderful dates with a man, he was clearly interested, but they died down dramatically. He still asks to see me but texting went from every day to maybe 3 days a week. he responds if I text him, but i prefer the man to always take the lead. Good luck to you, but I have to say he is interested atleast.

kjaybryant

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I was with this guy for 3 weeks and everything was going great until I lied about something and I talked to my ex. I love this guy and I have told him that I don't want my ex. But after that we broke up and I'm trying to get his trust back and trying to get him to fall back in love with me.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

How can I get his trust back and get him to fall back in love with me?

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clairebear84

You sure it's love after only 3 weeks?!?!?

eatsomecandy

Put yourself in his place and if he did what you did, what would it take?

kjaybryant

I don't know what it would take. I have never been in this situation before.

rosestone21

I dont think that a relationship of three weeks has love in it but if you think so then go back to basis start sating again from zero no lies

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Trust can be earned, but u cant make anyone fall in love with u. Get real....

cassell15

NOW I'M WONDERING...

So I started texting my ex who I am still in love with and he just broke up with his gf and I told him how I felt about him and all this stuff and he told me he felt the same way idk if I should believe him or not should I ?????

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gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

The pros outweigh the cons.

cassell15

What do you mean by that

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

U admitted u dont no if u should believe him...doesnt that speak volumes to u???

angelinaw

If he treats you like a princess and does all the running after you and wants to go back out again, then, most likely, yes. But be cautious, he might also be on the rebound after his break up though.

foreveralone_jk

Sounds like he missed you and you must have treated him very well, so much that he wishes you to return to him. I do agree with angelinaw to be slightly cautious the first time you guys meet after the long absence though, he could just be lonely.

rosestone21

Did he broke up with her? because otherwise maybe he's just feeling alone and you should be careful

johanna_2

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I met this guy on Tinder, he great. We've been in maybe 8 dates and have been hanging out a little over a month. He calls me "babe" and is very affectionate but I can see that he is still on tinder, daily. Does this mean he's not really that into me? Should I assume he's dating other people?

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gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

Honestly, you should just ask him. 8 dates is enough for me to ask the guy what he's thinking about our relationship. Don't accuse him of anything, but say something like: "Hey so we've been seeing each other a while now. I just want you to know I'm not seeing anyone else and I'm wondering if we're on the same page."

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

If ur not bf gf of course u both have rights to date other ppl. Obviously 8 dates hes interested...but hes a free man, and so r u.

honestly

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I made out with my ex boyfriend..and he told me we would hang out Friday. Well I realized I had already made plans with the girls for that night so I called to cancel and he got upset. Then I texted him to see if he wanted to hang out another day,and he told me he'd text me after work but hasn't replied to any of my texts. Is he genuinely angry or is it safe to say I should just drop the situation and move on?

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bigsliceoflemon

If he is still angry at you for your genuine mistake then he's pretty pathetic and sounds like hard work! I would move on! He may just be busy and hasn't gotten back to you though, don't text him anymore and if he doesn't reply in a day then just forget him. His loss for being so petty!!

gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

Sounds like he could be an ex for a reason.

gitreel TOP COMMENTER

Seriously, youll let him not responding to texts be the deciding factor? How shallow....

angelinaw

Dropping and moving on seems like a good idea. You did try and rearrange and he got all weird. Glad you stuck to your plans. Shows you are confident.

foreveralone_jk

You can do better than a guy who gets flustered over rain-checks. He has to accept you have your own life too. It also sounds like he just wanted attention

elise1

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Hey hey all, Happy Easter!! :))
I'm the lady who posted lately--man was becoming distant after I acted all emotional (meaning he all but disappeared on me). He then, this last Friday, told me when I ASKED point blank "hey, I like you, what's going on" that "I do like you but I have a problem. I have become closer to Christ and don't want to have sex anymore". I asked "does that mean you want me to just leave you alone?" and he said "no". He for the first time in MONTHS actually called me that night, and we had a very brief convo about nonsense. He invited me up the next day to see his new house and I did go yesterday. The thing is, we always have an AMAZING time when we are actually together, it is the texting/communicating when we are apart that has always been a struggle.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I've known from day 1 of dating him that he was a "weird" texter,meaning he is very short about it, does not text often, hours can lapse between replies, but yet gets hurt if I don't reach out to him. Last night we had an amazing day together-8 hours, he was affectionate, complimentary, took me out to a fancy dinner, hung out with his friends, etc. As I was leaving I decided to lay it all on the table and say I was confused. He said "how so" and I said "by you". and I procedded to give him examples of how we have barely communicated and it doesn't feel like he wants to see me. I asked "have you lost interest in me" and he said "no". Then he went on to say I guess that is just something I am bad at (communication) and need to get better at. I told him "Well,it just makes a girl feel like you really don't care". He went on to say he is really bad about it lately because spring practice has started (he is a college football coach and recruiter) and also because of the issue. I asked him "what issue" and he said he was referring to the fact that for several weeks now he has been thinking he no longer wants to have sex. Then he said "But we talked that out (via text) and that's good". I assured him I meant what I said, that he is way more important to me than sex. We are both early 30s and I would much rather have a man close to God that treats me well over a man who just wants sex all the time. He thanked me for understanding and told me he'd "step it up" with the communication and get better.
That being said, time will tell, but at the end of the day, maybe I just need to relax myself. If the man treats me so well in person, does texting every day really matter that much?

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angelinaw

From what you say his life seems busy and he has a lot of stuff going on that he has to deal with on a continual basis. I think he definitely likes you as a person. It's what you said - only time will tell if he can give you what you want. Good luck! Don't drive yourself crazy over it though. It the lack of attention is too painful move on. At least in the meantime, you are lucky to know someone who is polite, you find interesting, doesn't lie to you or try to use you for sex.

clairebear84

This doesn't make sense at all

foreveralone_jk

Seems very complicated to me, but in all he sounds like a really great guy. And hey, if it doesn't work out the way you hoped (in a relationship) he's fun to be around, why not keep him as a close friend.?

elise1

Yes, I guess it is complicated, I just would have hated to post the entire story again. Short of it: met great guy, he treated me like a princess (even though as mentioned, from Day 1 was not a "good texter'), I pushed him away, he got tired of it, disappeared on me, he came back, communication has been much less frequent (though he has asked to see me on 5 occassions since we started talking about 3 weeks ago-with only 2 occassions resulting in actually getting to meet up due to schedules), and now he pulls the "I can't have sex card" on me. Which is FINE I knew from date one he is very religious, I can respect that. He was still very touchy and affectionate with me yesterday so I know he is still physically attracted to me. The only issue I have is I am hurt that he texts me so infrequently. He admitted thatt he is "bad" about it and spring practice at work makes it harder for him. But, as mentioned above, said he would "get better" at it.

tishaperez

HERE'S THE DEAL...

was telling my boss that i really wanted to help- but instead said a joke

NOW I'M WONDERING...

his reply was "that's fine. let's talk tmorrow."

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whatagirlwants

so what are you wondering?

paradoxical

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I used to like this dude but I told him i didn't want a relationship. Well we became really close friends and IDK i think a lot of lines were blurred because basically we spent too much time together skyping and hanging out and texting.

Anyway we haven't talked frequently for the past 4 months... I tried to ask him whats wrong but he keeps blowing me off and not answering me... tried to be friends again and I asked whether wanted to hang out but he always says maybe etc...

Yesterday I got super drunk at a party with some other group of friends. He tweeted me so in my drunken stupor I just called him because i thought it would be fun. And i just asked him why don't we talk anymore and i missed talking to him...

Anyway he eventually told me that he just wanted me to be happy without me seeing him as a relationship partner cos i didn't want to date.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Does he still like me? AND if i wanted to date is that option even open for me?
I'm just sort of curious lol it's been so long.

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angelinaw

I think there was a breakdown here that can't be fixed. Sounds like it is best to move on and meet someone new that you really like and vice versa. Sounds too stressful.

gunner43 TOP COMMENTER

Maybe he is dating someone else.

foreveralone_jk

He's just playing it safe, not breaking his heart, or yours at the same time. Talk to him about your feelings and ask him how he feels ( most of your questions will be answered by doing this) Don't ask him if he likes you if you don't plan to have a relationship with him, that's just teasing.

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