So I keep running into guys who flirt heavily. I flirt back. I've been playing coed flag football and have met a bunch of guys. Two guys seemed really interested in me. They are always talking to me. Two guy always high five me, touch me when they can, talk during the games and after the games. So I decided to get the phone numbers from the two guys. Guy One texted back an hour later with a smiley face and an exclamation and said Hey. I tried texting him to get a conversation going, but he gives short answers back like good! or just or short sentence. I can't get the conversation going. So I just said something back to what he said, but didn't ask a question and then nothing happened. The other guy (Guy 2) when he left the football field he turned back to me and said hey text me ok. So I texted him and he said hey as well with and exclamation then I waited maybe 20 minutes then texted back. I heard nothing back. I didn't text the first day I got the numbers because I was busy that night So I texted them both the next day. They both seemed excited to talk and happy I asked for the number then it's like nothing. My one friend said just ignore them and move on. If either were interested they would ask me something or try to engage with me to get to know me. I don't know this seems to happen a lot with guys that they seem interested, but they don't take it further. I even get guys from other teams hitting on me all the time where their buddies say stop fraternizing with the enemy or instead of tagging me they hug me and I joke about it with them, but they don't ask for my number or try to engage further. I feel like I'm always stuck asking guys for their numbers, but then nothing happens from there.
What am I doing wrong? Am I not sending out strong enough vibes? Am I misreading these guys? How do I get the guys to take more initiative in asking for my number or trying to get to know me once I have their number and we start texting?
Long story. I was seeing my best friends brother for a few months (she set us up), and it was going well but he decided he wasn't over his ex and so they got back together. He would still call me, text me and try and see me even when they got back together. Every now and then he would tell me how unhappy he was and he only got back with her to give it one more go otherwise he would always wonder. He used tell me how much he wanted to be with me, how I made him happy etc. But then the next day he would suddenly get amnesia! Anyway after many months of this he finally said they'd broke up and he wanted us to start seeing eachother again. I told him I was apprehensive but he wanted to prove to me that it was over and he wanted to start with me again. Well from being lovely one minute to a few days later he started acting like a d*ck all the time, barely spoke to me, it became awkward and all he wanted was one thing...sex. He just treated me like sh*t! Then one night, we were both out separately with friends, I ended up back at his and we just got into a massive row. He was nasty and all I tried to do was calm him down because he was so angry. Anyway it was all 'you're fcking this, fcking that, fck off' sort of stuff. I'd never seen this side to him. Since then we hadn't spoken, that was 3 weeks ago. But I saw a pic of him and his 'ex' together at a gig and found out they're back on. So no contact from him...until I received the attached whatsapp from him a few days ago.
My question is, is why has he contacted me now? I don't understand his message....he was never sure what I really wanted?! He knew I liked him otherwise I wouldn't have hung around for so long! And is the message more initiating contact? Or putting his mind at rest and ending things on a better note rather then bitter? I wouldn't go back there anyway but this message has been bugging me! And then he responds to my response as 'I'm alright'....what's the point??
So I have heard this when messaging guys before and I know other people who have heard it too, but what does it mean if you let a guy know you're irritated or upset with him about something and he replies with "I'll leave you alone if you want"?
Generally, are they trying to be nice by offering space or are they saying that to try and get out of the conversation?
So, my brother's best friend and I decided to start being friends with benefits after having a late night cuddling with each other. We have been friends for almost 3 years and friends with benefits for almost 3 months. We don't hook up every weekend, only 3 times in the matter of 3 months. However, we do sext a lot. Lately I have noticed he hasn't been responding to my snap chats, but I know he has been talking to other people (ladies) instead of responding to me.
Is it possible he has lost interest in being friends with benefits with me? Or am I over thinking it?
OK so I started graduate school a few months ago. I met this guy, he's a couple years older than me and also in my department. I went to one of his house parties (which are always pretty tame but really fun) and a group of us decided to go out to a bar/club. Before I knew it him and I were making out on the dance floor for almost 2 solid hours (so much fun, it felt like nobody else existed) and since then we've been texting/flirting/hooking up for about a month. When we are together he's really cute i.e. holds my hand, buys drinks, gives me all of his attention even when we are in a large group of our friends. However he does not seem to be a big texter. He always replies when I text him and will carry on a conversation but he rarely initiates them.
I decided I wanted to see if he wanted to take things a little further so I texted him and said that I'd like to do something (just us, no friends or parties involved), my reasons being that I had been having a lot of fun with him, that I liked him, and that I wanted to get to know him better. He responded with "Yea that sounds good to me. I will say that the next 3 weeks are going to be crazy for me so if I go MIA, only coming out on select nights, don't take it the wrong way!"
I don't think he's making up the part about being super busy. We are both grad students in biomedical engineering...things are bound to get nuts. But in the back of my mind I'm wondering if he said it just to give him an excuse to blow me off? Or is he genuinely making sure I don't get offended?
I realize I probably am reading way too far into this. I really like this guy, which naturally is making me overthink everything that happens between us. Ugh. Help me.
Met this guy a little over a year ago. We were immediately attracted to one another and had what I thought was going to be my first one night stand (I was visiting his city three hours away). However, he kept calling and texting after that. I ignored him for awhile, but then we ended up talking quite a lot and hooked up several times when I was in his city for work.
About five months ago, I realized I was developing feelings for him and asked him not to contact me anymore. I had asked him this before and he didn't really listen, so this time I told him I really meant it. He didn't contact me for five months, until last week when he send a text asking how I was doing. As it happened, I was in his city at the time he texted, but I didn't let him know. The next day he texted and I said I was on my way home, which he was unhappy about.
I sent him a flirty text yesterday (see? I can't control myself when we start talking again) and told him I wanted a picture of him. He was pretty serious with me, and was clearly not happy that I hadn't told him I was there.
I'm a little surprised he was upset I didn't tell him I was there... as we hadn't talked in months. I knew if I told him, he would talk me into jumping into bed. I'm going to end up getting hurt if that happens because I still have feelings for him. Is there any chance I can turn this into a relationship? Or should I just leave it where it is and not respond to him anymore?
So me and this guy matched on tinder a few weeks ago. He was super into texting me and everything until Friday, when we finally met up (the length was due to busy schedules). When we actually met up it was fun and comfortable and when I left he kissed me on the cheek and made it obvious that he wanted us to meet again. After Friday, his texts have gotten short and boring. In this one he sends me a message asking me what's up...but as you can see he doesn't text with much detail afterward.
Is he into me? Like he's making the effort to text me, but it's not like it used to be before the meet up. Did something go wrong on our meet up? But if that's the case, then why is he still making the effort to text me?
Update and not sure what to do.
Recap: I am moving 400 miles away from home next month. Joined a dating site on Sept 13 and advertised myself in that city so I could meet people prior to moving. I will be in that city every other weekend til my move. Sept 22 Rob emailed me; put actual effort into conversating. Asked me out via email 2 days later. Had first date Sept 28 when I was in town. Went well, conversation flowed, he said to let him know the next time I was in town as he would like to take me on one of the boat dinner cruises on Lake Michigan. Also said to let him know if I ever needed a pickup from the airport he would be glad to do so. Very next day he texted to make sure I had made it home ok. We had short sporadic texting for a few days but mostly job related (he wants a new career and was interested in my work and I had offered to help him by putting in a word) .
5 days and no word from him I shot him a text on October 8. He asked when I would be in town again, I told him, and he offered to pick me up from the airport. I declined because I already had a shuttle arranged. He did NOT ask to see me for a date. At that point, I said screw it, if he’s into me, he will let me know. I threw myself back onto the dating site (no luck, mostly just losers want a quick lay).
And now THIS: Last night, 10 days after we last spoke, this is what I get:
Him: Hey how’s it going stranger?
Me: Good! Standing in line with my niece to do XYZ. How are you?
Him: Nice sounds fun! I’m good. My boys are staying the night with me tonight and I’m just relaxing with them.
Me: Awesome, I’m sure you’ve had a great day then.
Him: Yeah, good day for sure. Have fun yourself! When are you back in Chicago?
Me: I MAY be back next weekend but I’m debating doing XYZ in Florida. So, if not this weekend, I will be back on the 28th for the whole week.
Him: Cool, keep me posted!
Me: Will do. Enjoy the rest of your night! My niece and I are about to go in now.
Him: Awesome! Enjoy. :)
#1. Interested or not?
#2. What is implied by the "hey stranger"? It had been 10 days since we had spoken, but I just assumed since he made no effort to text in those days that I just didn't make that much of an impression on him.
#3. Maybe just the fact that I currently live 400 miles away is making him not pursue me/talk to me more often??
#4. Does it seem like he wants me to initiate contact more or??
ANY thoughts welcome!! I am torn between feeling like no one else he is meeting from the dating site is panning out and *that* is why he got back in touch --OR-- he has just been waiting for me to come back to town and was expecting me to text him.
I met him at a school retreat last year in may and we got to know each other a little. He constantly told me that I was funny even though my family and half of my friends think otherwise. At the camp, we were all going to the camp fire and he sat next to me. We talked and laughed and listened to the counselors speeches. I noticed whenever the group started to laugh, we would naturally look at each other. Later on, scary story telling began to be told and I told my friends and him and that I get scared easily. So the stories started and he put his arm around me and pulled me in. Whenever the story got scarier, he would pull me in tighter. But at the end of the night, nothing happened. He kind of just walked back to his cabin. When we came back to school, I was talking to my friends about this trampoline place and he said that we should go sometime. So he gave me his number and told me to text him so he can have my number and then when I wanted to go in summer. In summer, my friends and I were going to go so I texted him and he couldn't go because he was hanging out with a girl named Arianna. They're not dating. It wasn't until after that did I realize that I actually had feelings for him. We texted over summer and a little bit this year in school but mostly school related topics. I think he likes me as a friend but I want to be more than just friends. This the most recent text conversation that we've had.
Does he like me just as a friend?
So i really like this guy. We have been talking for months now and meet occasionly. last week my phone broke and he called me a day later saying he was worried and if i was fine since i hadnt been on whatsapp. He picked me up from a friends place and drove me home. He said he missed me and we kissed. He keeps calling me sweetheart.
So now im wondering if he actually likes me and wants a serious relationship
I do love my boyfriend with all of my heart. But we see eachother only on weekends, one day of the weekend at that, so it's a tough relationship already. On top of that, I barely get attention from him. We barely talk anymore and I'm feeling very abandoned. I've recently talked to an old guy friend and I'm falling for him, only because my boyfriend and I are so distant right now. This guy gives me attention and truly cares for me, which is the opposite of how I'm feeling with my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend but I can't feel shoved to the side anymore.
Advice please? Thank you!
Me and this guy had history together but for some particular reasons we couldnt be together..its not really important right now as its lets say a new beginning if anything
Im just trying to think if we can be together or not...let me tell u a bit of texting we did and please help me figure ouy something
Well now we will have to work together and he will be my video director for my music video
The day before yesterday he came back from holidays and texted me guess who is back
I said oh nice
He said did u cry when i was gone ?
I said yes cause u missed my birthday
I said ur 21 now arent u
I said yes forever 21
He said I bought an awesome camera for ur video
I said sounds great x
He said almost as great as me kissing u ?
I said yes
Next day he texted at 11pm R u awake ?
and the rest of the conversation u can see on the screenshot
After he asked me if i was awake yesterday i added him on snapchat but he never added me back and he didnt watch my story
Look guys im really trying to figure out why he said nooooo and why he didnt add me on snapchat
Tell me ur thoughts please
This is tricky or is it clear of something..i just cant seem to understand and im pretty sure that he wont answer that question for me ...i guess next he texts will be hi how r u or other things but i doubt he will answer why he said nooo
Please tell me what possibly can that mean
Thank you so much
meet this boy during the summer though mutual friends - we snapchatted for a bit but i found i was always starting the conversations so i left it - anyway 6 weeks later he is now popping up to me trying to talk to me normally-- small talk such as hows work going tbh boring convos
anyway last night he send me a snapchatt saying my boobs where amazing after he saw my insta pic he was also saying he loved them and i am blessed ect we where flirting all night mainly talking about my boobs and how i was teasing him posting pictures like that - it was so so random considering he has never spoke like that before ?
just a bit confused why he only has started taking to me now after weeks of not replying to me or trying to talk to me ???????????????????????????????????????