I've been talking to a guy for 3 months. It started out as sex but we recently admitted that we both have feelings for each other. Or so I thought.
He made plans with me for Friday night. Said he had a family dinner to go to and would text me when he was done. We made these plans on Wednesday. Didn't hear from him on Thursday, and the first time he contacts me Friday is at 10 to tell me he's still stuck at dinner, which I promptly ignored.
I was so disappointed. I just wish he'd let me know sooner? I felt sort of stood up. Should I just let it go and be accommodating, or should I get the hell out of there seeing as he clearly doesn't like me like he said he did?
Okay, I've had this crush for a while. We are church friends and he's my dream guy. I finally mustered up the courage to text him. I asked him 'hey what time is the Christmas Eve service?' And he messaged back '6:30-7:30' I said 'kk thanks' and he said 'Np Shan' but he only says SHAN once in a blue moon. Maybe only twice has he ever done it.
Does it sound like he could be into me, should I try to keep the conversation going? Say nothing back? Or send a ☺?
About a month ago, I met a guy online. We chat every day plus he already called me several times. He is very handsome and can carry a normal conversation for hours. However, after one week of talking, he started to joke in a sexual way. Two weeks later, he mentioned that he was playing with himself. I told him I did not like that and he said that he will never mention that again. He said that he has a very high drive and hormones sometimes get over his thoughts. He never asked me for any revealing pictures, never was vulgar.
But...Is it normal? Do guys always have to mention something sexual? Or talk about genitals? He does not sound as a player. He does not overly compliments me, does not call me sugary names as guys did before, still, I can't stop wonder, if his need talking about doing himself, is normal. He said that he feels very comfortable with me and finds talking about it as something casual. He is almost 31 years old. I am also surprised over his keeping in touch every day and calling. When I don't reply for a longer time, he writes more or sends sad faces. As much as I am attracted to him, or fantasy of him, I find some of his behavior strange. Why such a good looking guy has no girl? He said he does not get much chance where he lives and does not want to sleep around.
Anyway, is it normal when guy wants to tell you that he plays with himself while texting to you?
Hi! A guy I met a week ago and have been talking to since slept together two nights ago. The next morning we spent time together for around an hour (he asked what my plans were for the day both that morning and the night before) and then I said I had to go so he hugged me and said he'll see me late. I haven't texted/called him and vice versa. He's a cool guy and even if he's not interested in that way, he'd still be a fun guy to have as a friend.
I'm not sure what I should do? Should I text him? if so what should I say? And guys, how would you react to a one night stand texting you?
So a couple of years ago I was texting the guy I like and he asked if I wanted to play a question game I said sure and he asked me a question and then answered then I asked him if he liked me he goes no sorry. But this year I'll post a picture on Instagram and he will like it sometimes and the picture is of me so I don't know if he's trying to be nice or not. There is this dance coming up and I want to go with him but I don't want him say no!?!
So what do u guys think?
This guy and I met on okc about a month ago. The first date was pretty low key. We talked at a bar for a while and went to a show together. We were both pretty tipsy by the time the show started and somehow we just started making out. Then on the way back, we made out again in his car. the chemistry was great - I don't think that I've ever had such great physical chemistry with someone right away. Anyways, sometime during the next week, he texted for another date. He ended up canceling it in the morning because he got sick. I didn't really care and sent him a text to see how he was doing a couple days later. He said he was much better and would like to see me. so we grabbed dinner and had a great conversation which surprisingly intellectual. I really appreciated his thoughts. Anyways, he drove me home and we made out again in the car with some touching. I texted him afterwards and thanked him for the ride and the good time. He texted me back right away and had since been in daily touch with me. I had a couple of finals during that week so I didn't have time to see him. He checked on me a few times and offered to bring me food the night before the exam. I really appreciated his sweet offer and told him that he should stop by to say hi since he was 10 min away from where I was. He came and we hung out a bit. a lot of kissing and making out, finally things got a little heated and he was about to turn off the light. I told him that I wasn't ready to sleep with him yet because I get emotionally attached easily with sex and I wasn't afraid of getting hurt. He was nice about it and said that he understands and I should always be honest with him. The night went on well and he kissed me goodbye a couple of times and told me to let him know if I wanted to hang out over the weekend. There was a party at my school on that weekend - so I texted him later and asked him if he wanted to come over. He sounded a little hesitant. Then I got a little worried because I realized that he could have mistakenly thought that I was asking him to hang out with people in my life. I just played along and canceled a few days later. We ended up going to a movie; he was just very affectionate as usual. lots of touching my hair, kissing my forehead and hand, and hand holding. Anyways, ever since that night, he started to cool down. I had a couple of exams after that weekend. he texted me on the Tuesday to check to see how things went and wished me good luck on the next few things that I had. I liked that he remembered what was going on in my life so I thanked him. I contacted him on Wed and told him that I was done with my test and I was happy. All I got was "woohoo". so I thought maybe he was busy with work. so I asked him how's work. he told me that he was having a very long day. I offered to visit him and bring him food/drink. He declined nicely and said that he just needed to go home and collapse. I just told him to not worry and get rested. That was 2 days ago; I still haven't heard anything from him, which pisses me off. He acted like he was into me for like the past two weeks; and this week I only got a couple of texts from him with minimal content. He's just been not responsive. I don't plan on contacting him unless he reaches out to me and show some genuine interest in seeing me.
At this point I don't know what I should do. I could just let it go and forget about him. I could reach out to him one more time if I don't hear from him for a couple more days to give it a last try. or I can just confront him and ask him if he'd prefer us not to talk. This guy really seemed like a nice and genuinely guy. I liked the things that he's passionate about and his confidence - but I guess that doesn't him a considerate guy. Anyways, any input would be appreciated.
I've been talking to this guy and yesterday he didn't text me back affter he texted me first and said good morning and i responded. and then today during school he texted me and now we are texting again.
Does this mean anything?
SoI went on this date with a guy I met online, I'm 20, he's 25, a bit over a month ago. It goes great, we're there four hours, but the next day in response to my text he says it won't work out because I'm too young and in a different place in his life.
This weekend, however, I get a long text from him saying he's been thinking about our date and he was an idiot for letting me get away and it's probably too late, but he would love to take me out. I agree, saying I was taken aback the last time, but I'm willing to give it a try because I can see he's thought a lot about it.
Monday we have drinks, it goes great, he finally kisses me. He asks me to hang out on Tuesday with his friends at a trivia night at a bar or the next day at a work function. I say I feel its too early for a work function, but I'd be happy to meet his friends and hang out.
So tuesday we hang out, it's a bit weird because I don't know his friends and it's obviously a couples night. At the end, he says "You're welcome to stay over". I say I'd go to his apartment and decide if I want to stay over. We make out a bit, then I say I think I'll go home because I don't want to give him the wrong impression. He walks me to my subway stop, and kisses me a bunch and tells me he'll see me in January because he's away for the next two weeks seeing his family. I say you will, but only if I hear from you while you're away.
The next morning he texts me to see if I got home, and I say I did and wanted to clear up any misunderstanding that I wasn't feeling it, and that I liked how it was going so wanted to take it slow. He said he completely understood and it's good with him. We texted a bit more, and I said I wish we could've hung out more before he went and all he said was "Yeah me too! But I'm busy both nights :(" I said no worries.
That was Wednesday night. I haven't heard from him. Should I expect to hear from him? Is he not interested? Why would he invite me to meet his friends? Should I wait till he comes back (he's in another country) to see, even though it's two weeks. I have other options in terms of dating, but like to be respectful and focus on one guy at a time.
I was working in a distant city this summer where I met a guy. The rest of the summer we spent alot of time together, at the end we were furniture shopping for his new apartment that I visited everyday. I thought it just started as hooking up with a summer fling. Before I went back home, I told him that even though I thought this was just a hookup I had feelings for him now. He told me he never saw me as just a hookup but because I lived 12 hrs away theres no point. After I left we kept in touch (text and snapchat) even it seemed more from my side. Then two months later I went back to his city. I lied to him and said that I was there a day earlier (I know I shouldn't have but I didn't want to seem so despo to see him). He got really mad that I didn't see him as soon as I got to the city and only spent one night with me. The next day he was really mad and rude to me over text when I asked him when we were meeting up because he told me we were later. He said very rudely that we weren't seeing each other and have a nice flight. The next day, bc I knew he was acting out since he thought I didnt see him as soon as I came. I told him the truth. He didn't reply all day even though I texted him so many times. The next day I told him to just acknowledge what I said because I was trying to let him go. He finally texted back saying we should probably let everything go. After a few weeks of no contact, I texted him saying I liked his fb prof pic. we had a conversation and he was like "I don't want to say thanks until I talk to you for a bit." then we started snapchatting regularly (his are mostly shirtless) and have convos once in a while on text but I would be the one to text first even though replies within 2 minutes of the text sent. He currently is visiting family in another country. Yesterday he messaged me on fb (he still always calls me baby) and we had a constant conversation for 4 hours. and in it he was reminiscing about the times we were together and how we should do couples workouts but overall it was a fun convo. Its like he forgot the whole drama and "I think we should let go" thing didn't even happen.
Did he just talk to me because he's really bored? I know we both have hooked up with other people since, but he's the first guy ive ever loved so Im not over him. I've hooked up with someone else just as a distraction. What's going on? If he said we should've let go why does he snapchat me and talk to me on fb for 4 hours? Also, this is the first time in a long time he's messaged me first. Usually he just snaps me but replies instantly if I text him.
Same guy I hadn't heard from since Sunday but in good terms just felt like sending him a a message. We had been texting for a week or so and have met but not gone on a date. Felt as if the texting was going nowhere and maybe he did too so I sent him this to ask if I would see him at a game.
Into me or not based on his response? Will move in if I don't hear from him or see him. Should I have texted back to his last response or just wait to see what happens?
So I've met this guy on Tinder. I just liked his profile as it seemed he likes travelling as much as I do. We texted for a bit and decided to meet each other. On our first date we went to a pub where we had a nice conversation. After that he brought me to my bus stop and waited until my bus came. We didn't kiss each other which I found really good as it seemed like he's not one of these jerks. Then I haven't seen him for 2 weeks as I was on holiday, but we texted every day!!! I'm always so glad to hear from him!
On our second date we went to the same pub again..but he was late..when I remeber right he didn't even apologise..on our third date we were supposed to meet at 1.30 but didn't say where we'd meet. So I texted him the day before, but didn't get an answer until 3pm the next day...he overslept...I was kind of pissed as I haven't planned anything else, but he asked if we could meet at 4 and in the end I said yes. I arrived and had to wait 40!! minutes. Is that possible? He seems to be interested, but then I had to wait this long and when I remember right there wasn't an apology either.. but as soon as I see him I forget about everything...I also kissed him the first time on our third date and we had a long chat about the fact that girls should make the first move.
We are still texting every day, but I can see that he's been online on Whatsapp, but hasn't replied. It can't be that he's been busy with work because he's also been online on Facebook and Tinder (I don't use Tinder anymore, deleted it, but downloaded it again to see, if he's still online). I am really worried that he is still looking for other girls..
The last time I've seen him, I asked him if he's seeing other girls and he said "no", but as I've told you he is still on Tinder..
So do you know why guys are still online on Tinder if they seem to be interested in a girl? He even asked what my parents would say if they knew I'd had a boyfriend. I just don't get it why they don't respond when they online on whatsapp but feel like going on Tinder. Can anyone help?
I met this guy through the same client we work for, not really noticed him as I am always busy. Basically we had a function and we sort of chatted about work and nothing else, never gave him any signals and I never saw any to be honest. Then later that night he sent me a message asking if we can message, I agreed thinking nothing about it and just a friend from work sort of thing. Then he began texting me which was extremely forward and full on asking me loads of questions (age thing came up as I am 8 years older than him and I am a single Mom with a 16 year old daughter) and then told me he really liked me and thought I was sexy (thought I was nice at work meeting we had back in April) and that I turned him on. I was extremely shy and said I don't do this sort of thing as I am a face to face person. But I spoke to a few of my more modern friends about this and they said this is the new way of dating and give it a go. Then he started with the sexting thing, and I said told him I don't do this especially with pictures etc. and that I prefer to meet up for a drink, but he kept putting me off however he wanted me to come stay at his house overnight and I said I can't do that. So we just can’t seem to get it together. Over the last month we have been chatting but every time I try to arrange something after work (he is literally 10 minutes away from my office) he keeps saying he is busy, but then later that night he wants to sext. The recent text I received from him was that he was falling for me. I said how is this possible when we have not met, and our only communication and sex is done through text. I must admit I have tried the sexting thing and sent some saucy pictures against what I thought was wrong, but I have to say it was liberating as it was really hot and I have never done anything like this before?, it was good and wow! But now I am getting bored as I want to meet and he seems to be busy. So I gave him three days’ notice to meet, he said he will let me know, I have not heard from since asking him, I too have not messaged him to ask what happened as the ball was in his court, and I think it was simply rude not to even reply. So I tried to justify his reasoning for not meeting, 1)maybe it’s Christmas and he is waiting for the new year? 2)he has a GF. 3) Is he obsessed with sexting and he is chatting to loads of other women, and it’s his buzz or 4) he just some sexting freak!!!
My question is do I just block the guy and stop wasting my time? Why did he tell me he loves me without actually knowing me? and why the hell won't he meet?
I broke up with my bf of 3 months. We were doing great together until the last day. One night I questioned his love for me. He began patient and after a few answered questions I told him I still did not believe he loved me because he hadn't shown me that he did. He had no motivation and was one of those I will kill myself if you leave type of boyfriends that are extremely attached and wanted me around all the time but he didn't really take care of me. So he called me an asshole after that and I explained that I was only telling him what I thought and he then said well then just tell me if its over. I was pretty worked up by then and said I wish I didn't have to but yes its over. So he kept trying to work me up by saying I was hurting him and that I never cared and that he didn't want to see me anymore and to never come crawling back to him. I ignored him for a day and the next day I sent him a final message on Facebook saying I was sorry that the breakup hurt. I told him I wished him a great life and a great future. That I wasn't mad nor did I hate him but that we both wanted different things in life. Then I deleted him on Facebook and he blocked me. He is 18 and I am 20. I know for a fact that his friends wanted me. Not meaning to sound mean but I am highly desired by men and I know it but I don't usually reciprocate. I know he is at the immature age and to be honest I really like him. I miss him and we had a great thing going on. He is an angry person and I did not see the love in our relationship he claimed to have. I could tell he was very emotionally attached and that he wanted to do things right but he had a tough childhood and couldn't get past that. I don't know if I made the right choice or if I even want him back but I miss him terribly. After the break up we were Facebook friends for a few days. When he talked about it on his wall he would say my girl left me and how he had tried to keep us together.
I guess my biggest question is what went wrong? Were we just not ready for each other? And is it possible we can be together in the future? I decided to post after reading many of your articles. Thank you.
Started talking to this guy I met online last year. We texted almost everyday. He was very nice and we had a lot in common. He always wanted to meet up but I would always blow him off. (Totally my fault, nerves got the best of me) We continued to text for months until he got fed up and stopped texting me, which I understand. I reopened my account this year in which he messaged me and we resumed texting. It seemed like he was still interested in me but this time around I have been initiating conversations and wanting to meet up but he doesn't seem to want to. Which I get because I never met up with him last year. We've had deep conversations and I always got the vibe that he was into me and I seem to like him. But now, he'll go days without texting me, not respond my text or when he does he says "hey babe" and I reply but then he doesn't reply back. Seems like all of a sudden he lost interest in me.
Not sure what to do now. Should I just stop texting him in general and block him? Should I continue to text him and push to meet up ? or should I just let it be and wait until he'll eventually texts me?
my and I broke up about 9 months ago. I have been having a hard time getting over it but We have virtually had no contact. this morning out of nowhere he text me asking me to go out on Sunday for lunch?
I agreed and I'm not going in with any notion of getting back together. But I'm wondering if I should even go through with it. I miss him so much and I never stopped missing him. I just setting Myself up for huge heartbreak? any advice as to what I should talk about with him?