oriansky

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I'm been talking with this guy for over a 3 weeks , finally we meet and was great night , took me to a nice restaurant we laughed , we talked he was really romantic and sweet. During the date he told me how beautiful I am , how smart and classy .. He help me with my jacket , walked me to my car and gave me a kiss .. When he got home texted me that he miss me already and he likes me a lot .
He is been texting me and calling , he is the owner of different restaurants around , and he need to go to one of them on Friday, he is asking me if I will like to go with him and we can can stay overnight ... He said baby think about it

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What should I do ? Tell him that I will see him when he gets back ? Should I go ? One thing he is 41 and I'm 37 grow ups , I'm afraid if I go we ending up sleeping together and because is so soon will broke the chasing he needs to do .. I will have to answer to him later ..

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bluesdetoi

How far away is it? You can say you'd gladly accompany him but that you won't stay overnight because it's too early for you, and you two don't know each other well enough. If it's further away and you don't have a chance of coming back the same night, I would probably decline. He will respect you much more if you have respect for yourself.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

He's coming on too strongly, babe. How can one person like you a lot through just meeting once and three weeks of texting? Be logical. Say you cannot make it, but would like to see him again soon for dinner. See if his words matches his actions and if he will make plans to see you since he likes you that much. If he doesn't then you will know what he is after. Happy Thanksgiving, btw. :)

oriansky

Happy thanksgiving and thank you so much you both are right and I will follow you advice ;)

ttpw

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I'm a study abroad student in Japan. One of the guy's I've met here is super nice, to the point where I've felt amazed by how sweet he is. I feel a bit attracted to him and I'd like to get to know him better. He always responds to my messages but doesn't really initiate conversations, and most of this social interaction is taking place in my second language (Japanese) so it's kinda hard to tell where he's at, and now next week we're going to eat out somewhere. Recently he mentioned it's okay to invite other people if I wanted to. I thought this was going to be like a date-type of thing, but maybe it's more of a casual invite meant to turn into a group type of thing? Or is he shy about it being like a date? It's not necessarily terrible for me to take it slow in terms of dating abroad/not date abroad at all, but I was pretty excited.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

What do you guys think?

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bluesdetoi

Maybe he doesn't know if you're into him and suggested you bring people to make you more comfortable? You should go and have fun. Don't initate conversation all the time out of fear that he won't text you, let him text you first, he'll like the chase if he likes you.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

I used to travel to Tokyo a lot for work. Japanese guys will take the initiative to ask you out even if they are shy. They actively pursue Japanese women, so unless he is insecure with the language barrier since they are very nationalistic people, then he should be the one making a move. If you are sending him clear signals you are interested in dating, then he will make his move. I got to tell you though, it's hard to read the Japanese with their lack of emotions.

ttpw

Thanks for your comments, I'm not sure if he's made a move or not, but he's the one who suggested going to eat, and he didn't mention inviting other people until today when we were picking out what day to meet up. Basically "if there's people you want to invite, invite them" is what he said.

callie

HERE'S THE DEAL...

He didn't really address my concern about us just being fwb so regardless of his feelings I still feel very insecure about the situation. I don't know what to think. Time to move on??

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NOW I'M WONDERING...

Time to move on?

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bluesdetoi

If you dont want to be a friend with benefits, then dont! Cut him off entirely, if he likes you genuinely he will miss you and he will want to pursue you in spite of. You've said your piece in a nice way and you don't seem resentful, the only thing now is to keep your distance, don't text him and make him wonder what you're up to. Have fun and live your life, don't let him see that you're bothered. If he still doesn't initiate contact, then he never liked you and you're better off!

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

Yes time to move on.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

You're right. he sounded like he was being polite without any commitment. Yes, move on, you will continue to hurt if you pursue this with false hope.

teenpower87

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Ok, so I went on a first date with this guy I kind of had a crush on, and he texted me "Ok and also I don't really want to be with anyone right now if that makes sense and if that's what you have been getting at. But we can be friends if that's okay." and I said "Totally. I have to work on fixing myself anyway."

then he said " I'm glad to be your friend."
I said "Me too. I don't have very many friends so I appreciate it, really. Thank you for your honesty."

NOW I'M WONDERING...

He's been texting me frequently still even after he said he's not interested and he was showing mild interest in me.. but I think I may have scared him off. I've tried to ask to hang out and he tells me that I need to be the one to set it up and he's acting kind of nervious around me too now.

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natalie11

I'd say move on. He would be trying harder if interested.

andreav

Believe what guys tell you. He doesn't want more and he told you,

bluesdetoi

Have more self esteem and don't blatantly just tell him you don't have many friends, it puts a lot of pressure on him to keep talking to you. He should feel like it's a privilege to talk to you, not like you're a charity case. Back off and leave him alone, let him text you and take interest in you. If he doesn't, move on, he isn't interested.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Agreed with blues. It's not his problem you don't have much friends. Go out and meet more people. And honestly, what do you expect out of this? That he will place you out of the friendzone eventually? Because you shouldn't be his friend if that's not all you want. Don't agree to be friends with the mentality that it will develop into something more. It's dishonest and manipulative, and usually never ends well. I think you should back off and meet other people, and discover who you are. Focus on yourself first.

lindageorge

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Is he not interested? Is it me?
So I've been talking to this boy I met on Instagram for almost two weeks now. We've already met in person and everything and we hit it off. One night we were talking and he asked me to send him a picture of myself and since he had asked me before, I didn't ask what kind of picture a sent him a picture of me. He ended up leaving me on read. And on the following tuesday when we planned to meet up I texted him again asking what time but my Imessage shows that my message was delivered but not read (he always sends me read recipets) and it's been two days and the message still says delivered. What do you think is up with him? Do you think he was disappointed with the picture? I don't understand. He knows what I look like, and I've sent him a picture before so why this now? I'm really confused. He's called me beautiful before as well.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Was it just an ugly picture? What's his deal?

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ryster2000

I don't know him, but it sounds like he was asking for some... *ahem* ...skin. If he was asking what it sounded like he was for, then he's not worth it. If you send him a nude, not only will it degrade you, but he won't see you as anything but a sexting booty call.

lindageorge

I don't know. He's asked for a picture of me before and I sent him one of my face so I decided to do it again. He probably did want nudes instead

mrsbillygil

Guys who want nudes won't just disappear because u dont get the msg that they were referring to a nude pic. If that's what he wanted, I think he'd make that clear instead of bailing on u because u didn't get it. In any case his behavior is weird. Are u sure he's still alive?

natalie11

I really think he wanted naughty pictures. That seems all that "most" men want now--that you meet via online dating/social networking atleast.

bluesdetoi

Sounds like a creeper who has hoping you would send him nudes or dirty pictures. Not worth your time, and you shouldn't be wondering whether he's read it or not, he's probably turned off the receipts, but in any case, go live you life and stop worrying about what some creeper thinks of you, I'm sure you're better off without him.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If you want to know what his deal is, you have to ask him yourself. That is, if he will even answer. But if you want a place to rant about him, then yes, this is it. And yes, he is irritating as hell, even more so for being a flake, but you shouldn't concern yourself with people like this. He does not matter. Move on. And block him on Instagram.

lindageorge

If he wanted naughty pictures, why didn't he just tell me instead of ingnorig me and not answering?

annastasia0207

^^ Are you actually asking why a guy didn't respond to a picture of your face with "lol I meant a nude"??? He probably realizes that most girls would find that extremely offensive. It sounds like he was seeing how down you were to what he was putting out there. A girl that was down to sleep with him would have sent him a nude, or at least something a little more provocative, the second time he asked. A guy like this doesn't even deserve to be thought about though, girl. Good on you for being respectable and not sending a guy you barely know something provocative and shame on him for even asking and then ignoring you. Move on from this guy and find a guy who respects your personality and your brain as much as your body.

lindageorge

Very interesting. So it seems that he's upset with me because I didn't send him a nude?

lindageorge

HERE'S THE DEAL...

sk what kind of picture a sent him a picture of me. He ended up leaving me on read. And on the following tuesday when we planned to meet up I texted him again asking what time but my Imessage shows that my message was delivered but not read (he always sends me read recipets) and it's been two days and the message still says delivered. What do you think is up with him? Do you think he was disappointed with the picture? I don't understand. He knows what I look like, and I've sent him a picture before so why this now? I'm really confused. He's called me beautiful before as well.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Was it just an ugly picture? What's his deal?

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tazbaz

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Okay, so I made out (multiple times) with this guy at schoolies last weekend. I thought it was great and that he was pretty cute. My friend that set us up at the festival said that on the way home he couldn't stop talking about me and then he asked her for my name and added me on Facebook. I was expecting him to send me a message or something, but nothing has come of it and its been over a week.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I try to make first contact and like his profile picture or something, or is he just not interested?

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torirule TOP COMMENTER

Just wait until he reaches out to you with a message.

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

If it has already been this long, he's not interested.

mrsbillygil

Click like on one post and nothing more. He might be shy and need some encouragement. Of course if he needs a lot of encouragement, then he's not into it. So do one tiny thing and see how it goes.

bluesdetoi

Maybe when he added you he was drunk. Sorry but drinking changes people's behaviour. If he's not contacting you while sober, shy or not, he's taking a pass. Let him.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Don't like any of his pictures. If you have to resort to that to remind him that you exist, that's quite sad. If he wasn't shy to make out with you, he wouldn't be shy to drop a message. I would delete him off Facebook if I was you. I don't know about you, but your Facebook profile has a lot of personal information that a stranger doesn't need to know -- who your family is, who your friends are, where you are located, and where you are heading/where you are. I think your generation should think twice about who to add, and what kind of information do they see. Don't be so idealistic and think people only have good intentions. At least have a restricted list if you want to add people you barely know. He knows your full name. He goes to the same school. He knows how to reach you if he wants to.

tanveerkaur

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We meet once and never after as we live in different places. We text a lot and are at the point were we told one another we like each other. When he gets drunk he will call me and be all romantic, but on normal days he never calls or message , I message him after 10 pm because it got a habit of that's when where gonna talk. He talks when I call after 10 but is kinda boring sometimes. I still like him and he says he likes me to , but I don't understand why he doesn't make an effort, I kinda told him how I felt about him not messaging and calling and he got all mad saying this is the reason he broke up with his ex and he doesn't like texting all the time and stuff. He never says anything cute or flirty unless hes drunk but I know thats just his shyness and he says he wants to meet and date and then go from there. But when hes drunk hell talk about being together in future and loving me and all.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Should I tell him how I feel or is this how it should be and I should meet him date him and hopefully hes better?

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bluesdetoi

Maybe he doesn't want the hassle of feeling obliged to act as if he is in a relationship with someone who lives far away which is understandable. Youve met once, thats nothing, dont get your hopes up.

torirule TOP COMMENTER

If he says he doesn't like texting, stop texting him. Contact him (whether it's texting or calling) less than he contacts you. So that he starts wanting to text more, call more etc. If he likes you, he'll have to call and make plans to see you.

oriansky

Is an excuse he had about he doesn't like to text or call, when I guy in into you he makes the effort , is sad that only when he is drunk he can be nice and you don't need that in your life , you need someone who will be always sweet ... He will no change .. Sorry but don't waist time with that .. Move on

leilani29

Okay, just my two cents. Stop focusing on him for a bit, these long distance semi-relationships or whatever they are can really mess with your head and trick you into believing that you like a person way more than you actually do - I know that's what happened to me. If you have started something long distance and were never in a regular relationship, you tend to emphasise on the good parts and forget the bad. You need to meet up and date, exactly how he says when he's not drunk, because you might find that you don't like him as much after spending a few days with him. You said your phone conversations are sometimes "boring", so that's the number one thing you should focus on. Just think of it this way: if he were there and available, would you still like him as much? If you could see him and talk to him face to face every day, do you think you would click and constantly have fun? Because if it's this way and it's not just the "absence" making the heart grow fonder, you should tell him that you want to communicate more. That's when you'll see his true intentions. If he likes you too, he will accept that and make an effort, if not... then he's not as involved in this as you are, and that's when you have to significantly reduce and eventually stop communication altogether.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

1. He live away and doesn't make effort to see you 2. You've only met once, there is no reason to get emotionally attached to him. 3. He doesn't make the effort to reach out. 4. He only tells you sweet things when he drunk and under the influence of alcohol. Your feelings are real, but the "relationship" isn't. Do you want a real relationship or do you want a virtual r/s? I mean, reading this made me feel sad for you. It sounds you are settling only because you think this is good enough for you, even though it is less that what you will accept. Read your story again, and tell me you think you deserve better, then stop contacting him.

lonelystar

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Alright so theres this guy i spoke to him a couple times over twitter he really wanted to hang out with me but i always curved him cause I wasnt really into him at the time but its been a few months now i hung out with him twice and im just really into him even the silence is comfortable to us well me atleast the first time we hung out we watched a movie and at the end things got intense and we made out and all that then he took me home and i got a little kiss goodnight he's told me he doesn't really like chasing girls, but he doesnt text me or anything unless its like on a saturday when he wants to hang out the first time i had asked him to hangout but yea okay, but the second time he just cae over and got me we cruised around then went back to his place we just watched tv and chilled then we started kissing again. I stopped and said i was tired then a few ninutes later he's like youre not really easy are you i said no not really he said oh well from your tweets it would seem otherwise. Does this mean he was just trying to hook up with me? His friends have told me he's not a player ik they wouldnt lie to me because ive known the for long he's also told me himself that he's only had sex with one girl which was 2 years ago idk if he's lying or not Im just waiting to see if he'll ask me to hang this weekend if he does should i have sex with him?

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g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

So, he said he thought you were easy, and your only "dates" have involved watching tv and making out? Prince Charming he is not.

lonelystar

They werent really dates if you think about it we were just hanging out

mrsbillygil

No dont have sex w him!! He thought that you were easy from your twitter and that's why he wanted to hang out. To get in your pants. Dont do it

lonelystar

I forgot to add he was a bit drunk infact and i wouldnt realky blame him cause the things i retweet and whatever would make one who didnt know me think im easy

bluesdetoi

Hes playing you and wants to have sex, thats all.

torirule TOP COMMENTER

no don't have sex with him, unless you just feel like having a one night stand. he sounds sleazy how he said he thought you'd be easy judging by your tweets. Also when a guy says 'I don't like chasing girls' or 'I like girls that make the first move' that usually means they are players/man whores.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Girl, what is wrong with you? He asked you out from twitter, thinking you are easy, even though you say you are not, and you are asking us if you should have sex with him? Sure, sleep with him if you want to feel empty after he used you. Read your story again, then look at the facts. You're smarter than that. Have the courage to admit it when a guy is trash. Don't settle if this is not what you want. Be good, and safeguard yourself.

christmaslightz

HERE'S THE DEAL...

So I had this thing with this guy. It's been a month after no contact. I'm not sure if he has a gf now. I'm not sure how he's acting. He responded ridiculously fast and did use my name in the texts, I'm not sure if that means anything. He used to say sweet dreams [my name] when we were together , but in this text he says goodnight [my name]. I'm not sure what it all means!

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is he just being nice or does he actually want to talk?

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nataliejolie

He's just being polite. It sems he's only acknowledged your messages and replied, but isn't that interested in carrying on conversation. I wouldn't look too much into it, as it likely won't go much further.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Things are only awkward when you make it awkward. Low confidence isn't attractive. Don't text anymore, he doesn't sound keen.

christmaslightz

I feel like I'm overcompensating because his complaint was that I came on "too strong" before we drifted apart. Idk

bluesdetoi

It looks like you're still coming on too strong, writing two texts about being awkward. You should probably just steer clear and forget about him, he's not interested. Next time maybe wait for the guy to show he's interested, make him work for your attention instead of just giving it out.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Agree with bluesdetoi and jhops. Texting him like this is def coming on too strong . He doesn't want to talk about anything. He was just trying to be nice. But I don't blame you too much. I know the holidays can make people nostalgic about their exes, but you are just going to have to really let him go. And when you date again like bluesdetoi said, let the guy do the texting and the calling and he asking out. When you don't hide things, the guy may feel like you are coming on strong. Besides, the best way to see if a guy is into you is to sit back and let him do the calling and the work. Buy a dating book (good ones: the rules, not your mother's rules, he's just not that into you, and Steve Harvey

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Steve Harvey's act like a lady think like a man). All these books have the same theme, don't chase after men and date a lot so that you don't become to desperate for any one guy and don't give your body to anyone that hasn't earned it and made you his official gf. All the same themes on dating confidently.

torirule TOP COMMENTER

He doesn't want to talk, he avoided it. And yes you are coming on too strong as he said and as the other commenters have said. Just try to learn from it and do differently next time.

mrsbillygil

Agree w the others. U should prob never ever text this guy again. Seems pretty clear he doesn't want to talk to u, sorry to say. And whatever you have to get off your chest will just annoy him so id just let it go.

truebeliever

HERE'S THE DEAL...

New guy. We met in high school over five years ago. We got in touch again from a mutual friend and it was bumpy at first and then we got close, but I think we got too close that he doesn't wanna hang out. When we hang out its all lovey dovey, but other than that it looks like he doesn't make an effort to hang. I think I'm just looking for a confirmation.

Dating Question

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Is he into me?

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sophisticated

I know it's hard but I think you should take a step back and make him miss you in a sense... Especially if things are only just starting, you don't want to be overbearing. Maybe he doesn't want a relationship?

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

No he's not

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

If the guy is not asking you out, he is not that into you and you asking him out will not change that fact. That's why you shouldn't even bother asking him out. If he hasn't asked you then he is not interested. And when a guy really likes you their is zero confusion. They ask or beg for your number and they try hard to spend time with you and they ask you out. It's only confusing when the guy is really not interested.

mrsbillygil

Not into u

nataliejolie

100% agree with preferphonecalls.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Yeah, it sucks to hear but he didn't reply till you texted with "yes?", then he said I'll see twice. Have a little more self-respect, you were begging him to "hang". Also, when someone doesn't reply the first time, don't double text. He got the message all right. He just doesn't want to reply, in which you should just back off.

bluesdetoi

No no no, stop overwhelming him with texts, what if you were on the receiving end of this? Would you find it attractive? My guess is no and you would think the person is being clingy. You're the woman, you have all the power in the world, just keep your mystery and let him work for it, please, don't throw yourself at him.

torirule TOP COMMENTER

the messages you wrote make you sound really needy and like you have no other friends or something. I'm not saying that's true but that's what it comes across like. Like you won't take no for an answer. That would be turn off for most guys.

monicamishra

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Do men tend to ignore texts, or text back a long time after? My crush often responds to me hours after I first text him, even though I see him online on facebook. But, when he does text back, his responses look as if he put effort into them.

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preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

No. A man that is really crazy about you will answer a text message from you, the girl he likes, in nanoseconds, unless he physically cannot access his phone. In which case he will answer and apologize for not answering right away. And if he liked you he would be dying to spend time alone with you and he would actually ask you out on a date. This guys is just not interested in you in this way. Don't waste your thoughts and time in him. Go out wih your friends and let other guys ask you out.

mrsbillygil

It is possible that a guy might try to come off as less eager by not responding immediately. He could also be so worried about what to say back that he'll take a long time to think of something good. This is probably more the exception than the rule though.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

Don't read into how long he takes to responds unless you are making plans to meet, and he flakes. See if he asks you out instead. If he takes a long time to text, do the same back. Mirror his actions. Don't be so readily available, and don't message so much on FB, text and actually go out and have a life.

bluesdetoi

Some guys may not be super into texting, but they will then make plans to see you or call you, they will want to be in contact. If you crush is ignoring your texts, and not calling and also not making plans, then he is not interested.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Actually jhops and bluesdetoi are correct . See if he makes plans with you and mirror what he does, don't di more than he does, like jhops stated.

grace3

HERE'S THE DEAL...

I met a really nice guy online and we had a great date this evening. This is my first one since becoming sober (my sobriety being something I've stated this in my OkCupid profile) and he arranged for use to shoot at an archery range and grab a burger after. This wasn't a typical date I go on that is often clouded up by a glass or two too much wine: our conversation was genuine, we had laughs, got personal (I know you're not supposed to talk about exes but he was the one to bring it up), and overall I had a nice time and thought he was adorable.

At the end of the date we exchanged a brief peck of a kiss and as we started to go separate ways I said "So, see you soon?"

Of course, all the while I was screaming on the inside "YOU IDIOT, DON'T ASK HIM THAT HERE!"

There was a flash of hesitation and he said "yeah" and waved and ducked into his car.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

I should wait for him to text, correct? Ugh, on a scale of 1 to 10, how likely is that question a total turnoff?

And, for future reference: how do you, personally, keep from obsessing over the details after a first date? Any tried and true tricks?

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sophisticated

If I'm obsessing over the first date, I'll normally recognize what I'm doing, take a few deep breaths, and think "if its to be, it will be" Stressing and over analyzing every detail, especially when it's only the first date will do more harm then good. Personally, I don't think it matters who texts first and I don't think your question was a turnoff. "See you soon" is just a figure of speech and I don't think he read in to it...

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

It's not a turnoff, but he will ask you out again if he's interested

andreav

Don't worry too much. A guy will still initiate further contact if he liked you. Don't be so self conscious- you want a guy that likes your quirks in the long run so just have fun!

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Don't worry so much. If he liked you, he'll ask you out again and if he doesn't you didn't do anything wrong, so don't beat yourself up. You are obsessing a little too much about 1 date with 1 guy, which means you really need to keep dating and have other first, second and third dates with other guys. I mean just date, like this date, no hook ups. You are free to date until someone (that you like) asks you to be exclusive with him. And it's so great when the guy is the one bringing up "the talk" and he's the one asking for exclusivity. It's like they can sense if they don't move fast they might lose an amazing woman to some other guy. If you date others, you would feel a little more confident, because you wouldn't feel desperate or obsessed over one guy. You wouldn't have time. You would be too busy getting ready for your next date. Consequently confidence attracts men and you may actually appear even more attractive to your mr. Right. You wouldn't put up with bad behavior like guys asking you out at the last minute or showing up late or ignoring you or anything, Because you would know that there are other fish In the sea, because you are dating the other fish. And if one guy doesn't like you, so what, his loss, there's other guys that are wise enough to not let you go, that you would be dating, so you wouldn't care. Date others. Trust me. It's the secret to finding Mr. Right.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

When I began just dating a lot instead of fixating on one guy at a time I started feeling like I was as hit as Beyoncé or jlo. It made dating fun and I was more critical of guys that were not rich for me. You'll go on a lot of bad dates but also on a lot of nice dates. When I met my fiancée I was dating others. I think the day of our first date I has a date earlier that afternoon and a date with another guy the next day. He asked me to be his girl friend by our fourth date and I really liked him so I stopped dating others. And he says he feels like he is going to marry the most popular girl in high school. We are well lasthigh school, bu he says that it's just the feeling he has.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

When I began just dating a lot instead of fixating on one guy at a time I started feeling like I was as hit as Beyoncé or jlo. It made dating fun and I was more critical of guys that were not rich for me. You'll go on a lot of bad dates but also on a lot of nice dates. When I met my fiancée I was dating others. I think the day of our first date I has a date earlier that afternoon and a date with another guy the next day. He asked me to be his girl friend by our fourth date and I really liked him so I stopped dating others. And he says he feels like he is going to marry the most popular girl in high school. We are well lasthigh school, bu he says that it's just the feeling he has.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

*we are well past high school ..... Auto correct. My point: try dating a lot, it might help you feel more confident in the dating world

jhops TOP COMMENTER

If the guy doesn't fancy you, everything can be a turn off, but if he likes you, almost nothing can be wrong. I think you should be a little more confident of yourself. And maybe try what PPC is saying. Good luck and let us know if he reaches out. :)

bluesdetoi

Its not a turn off but definitely don't text him or ask him out on a second date, thats his job. Just go about your life, and although we all tend to obsess if we are into someone, it wont help you at all. Good luck!

torirule TOP COMMENTER

It would not be a turn off if he likes you and wants to see you again, but it would have been better to just end it with 'thanks, I had a really good time'. Then let the guy text or call you to find out if he can see you again. If you're doing online dating, try dating several guys so that you don't obsess too much over one guy or one date that happened.

samanthaa

HERE'S THE DEAL...

We had a one night stand about a month ago. He was a mutual friend of someone on my Uni course. So after sex, he talked about going on dates and how he likes me. We met up briefly two days after where I returned his jacket, and being sober, he hinted about going on dates. Due to the fact that I am on placement in a hospital 2 hours away, I am only back every weekend. We texted and he asked about my plans on the weekend for two weeks straight, but I was always busy with other stuff. It's now been a week since we last texted, and I just texted him a general text saying sorry that I was unable to catch up with him the other week. He has been online on fb but have not actually replied back to me via text.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

So I am just wondering what is he playing at? Have I left it a little too late? It the whole thing a bad timing? Was he actually interested? P.s. The weird thing is that we actually met a year ago on a night out and he was the one who brought it up. I had no idea until he mentioned it because who would actually remember a stranger from a year ago?!

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samanthaa

He would be texting back straight away when we first start texting..

g_love12 TOP COMMENTER

He probably just sick of trying to schedule something with you.

nataliejolie

I agree with the above. Perhaps someone else has captured his interest in the time that you kept decling his invitations.

jhops TOP COMMENTER

You know what we say about guys being too busy is BS? It's the same with them. If a girl they keep asking out is always too busy to find time for a quick meal/coffee, then it's not wrong for them to assume the girl isn't keen. If you like him, don't play too hard to get. No one is that busy.

bluesdetoi

If he texts back there is a chance that he is still interested. I would also say if all youre interested in is a fwb then have sex by all means, but if you think you might be interested in someone further than that, then don't sleep with them until you are in a relationship, sex confuses things for women.

preferphonecalls TOP COMMENTER

Yep, agree with bluesdetoi, avoid sex until there is an real commitment from the guy, that is if you are looking for a relationship. And he may have thought you were not interested after asking you out twice with no results

torirule TOP COMMENTER

if a guy you like asks you out on a date and you are genuinely too busy you should still try to lock down the date for the future when you're free. did he ask you out for a specific thing like dinner? if you are busy all week just tell the guy 'next week I have more time' so he knows your keen. He might be feeling rejected if you just say you're too busy.

annelore

HERE'S THE DEAL...

Conoci a un chico en otro psis cerca del mio.el me dio alojamiento en su casa cuando llegue a su ciudad de vacaciones. Enseguida tuvimos onda, aunque el me advirtio que nunca tuvo pareja estable porque le gustaba la libertad. Yo disfrute el momento junto a el porque era muy cariñoso pero no expresaba bada con palabras. Es de una personslidad muy timida y extremadamente reservado y callado. No dice cosas lindas a una mujer.pero e s muy tierno en caricias y miradas. Yo volvi a mi pais sin decirnos nada con la idea de que tal vez no volveria a verlo. Sin embargo comence a escribirle de vez en cuando para no perder contacto. A escribirle como smiga, sin hablar de lo que paso entre nosotros y sin pedir o preguntar nada. Con el tiempo el respondia con cortesia mis mensajes, pero el por iniciativa propua no escribía. Un dia aburrida de contactarne x wassap decidi escribirle cartas, cartas de correo comun( lapiz y papel)._esas cartas nunca hablaron de smor, ni de un nosotros, solo queria resaltar sus virtudes y de lo bien que el me hizo sentir cuando estuve con el aquella vez. Logre que el tuviera mas contacto conmigo cada vez, hasta logre comunicarme via skype bastantes veces. Para rwdumir un dia lque viniera a visitarme y el accedio y vino a mi pais. Cuando nos volvimos a ver,fue hermoso, pasamos 15 dias maravillosos, pero ninguno de los dos expresaba con palabras nada de lo que sentiamos. Solo reoetismos que estavamos viviendo el momento y nada mas, sin promesas ni compromisos. Ahora se fue y quedamos en que yo lo visitaria en el verano. A veces me escribe wsap pero gustaríascueto, como siemore lo ha sido. A veces pasan dias y no escribe. Sus mensajes son xortos y no tienen emocion.no se que sentira y me gustaeia saber porque no expresa nada.

NOW I'M WONDERING...

Despues de que saque pasaje para volverlo a ver no me escribe y cuando yo lo hago no me responde. Estara asustado? Que sentira?

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